He told me he's not thinking of marriage yet! Am I wrong to be disappointed?
Q. Hi im with a ldr now with my boyfriend and we been 3 years knew each other via skype and call. And always visiting me here every year, despite of the distance he always make effort to see me. He lives in Slovakia and i lived in Singapore and im ...
A. 21 May 2013: On one hand, I think you should be happy he is being honest and not stringing you along.... (read in full...)
Should I confront my ex-bestfriend who is now sleeping with my soon to be ex-husband?
Q. My best friend and my husband are now lovers. She left her husband, he left me. She has two kids and we have one. She and he have discussed kicking me out of our family home and them moving in. I suspected something was going on for so long...
A. 21 May 2013: Confront her with what goal in mind? What are you looking to achieve? What information to expect to get that you dont have already?
Ill give it to you straight - they snuck around behind your back and cheated on your. He betrayed your marriage... (read in full...)
Why do I want my ex back? Why can't I accept that its over?
Q. I am 18 years of age and my ex boyfriend is 22. We have been together 2years today. We have been split up for 3 weeks tomorrow. My ex split up with me because he said he needed a break because we had been living together for a few weeks because I ...
A. 21 May 2013: The first six words of your post largely answers the question you are asking.
At your age, relationships are so novel its easy to think that they one you just had is the only one in the world and with someone you'll never find again, etc.
... (read in full...)
Are relationships at 19 inevitably pointless?
Q. I'm 19 and currently at university, and I'm quite focused on stuff like my career, my studies, developing a good personality and making long-lasting friendships as that seems to be stuff that will last me for life and actually matter. Because I...
A. 21 May 2013: When the younger men of my family come looking for my advice, I always tell them - "Girlfriends come and go and are a dime a dozen. Your education, a good job, and money, that's hard. Allocate your time accordingly."
Sure, once you get married,... (read in full...)
At the moment, I am not ready for a threesome to happen in our relationship. My Bf would like it to happen. How long into a relationship before agreeing to it?
Q. Hi, Ok I would love some fair and informative advice here on my boyfriend wanting to have a FFM threesome. We have been going out with each other for 8 months and moved in together three months ago. At the beginning of the relationship he...
A. 21 May 2013: How long into a relationship before agreeing to it? Once you're sure the relationship is over and has no future sounds about right, because after it thats what it will be anyway....... (read in full...)
Would you date someone with so many tattoos? Or would you fear it would ruin your reputation?
Q. Today while on lunch break a friend said to me, very openly and out loud, "did you see all the tattoos on that guy's face? He must have been to prison!" I quietly nodded then thought of something... I was very attracted to another friend who had m...
A. 21 May 2013: I would not have one myself, nor would I date someone who had many. I am in a business where my reputation for competence, education, expertise, and reliability are everything. For better or worse, hosting a bunch of tattoos does not help this ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 8 months is ignoring me after a fight
Q. My boyfriend of 8 months is completely ignoring me. It's been 5 days with no contact. We got into a stupid fight about him always wanting to do things on his schedule and him being inconsiderate towards me. I was trying to have a conversation but...
A. 21 May 2013: There is a segment of the male population who have a very low threshold for drama in a relationship. My very own brother is one of them. I have seen him completely cut off contact with a woman right after she starts giving him BS about anything. ... (read in full...)
Will it be weird if I'm the only one wearing a long dress?
Q. Im going to graduation soon and i bought this white long dress to wear during graduation. It looks really nice to me but all of my friend says they are going to wear knee length dresses. I want to know what are your opinions and advices and should i ...
A. 17 May 2013: Classic and classy are always in style. Go for it.... (read in full...)
My parents want me to go to the prom but I don't want to go!
Q. My class senior prom is coming up. My parents are trying to pressure me to go but I just do not want to go since none of my friends are going. My friends and I are having a pool party at one of my friends house instead (cheaper and don...
A. 17 May 2013: I did not go to my own prom - by choice. I went my junior year to a friends from another town, and that was more than enough.
I just turned 45, and I have not regretted not going for a single minute. I wanted to save the money back then, an... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of people judging us over the age difference
Q. Im 21 and my boyfriend is 62. I am falling in love with him. When we go out Im a little nervous about people staring or asking questions. How do I get over this? He is the most amazing man I have ever met. Hes so patient, kind, and understanding. He ...
A. 7 May 2013: 62 is way too old for a 21 year old. It will not work out long term. Not a guess.... (read in full...)
My crush says he's not the relationship type. How do I make him like me?
Q. so ive done it again... ive fallin in love and once again the guy dosnt want to love me... i just told him that i was crushing on him... and he knew for a while. he said hes not the relationship type of guy... and he dosnt know why.. and i can ...
A. 1 May 2013: Dont have any advice, but if you somehow find the formula for the elusive "love potion," let me know and I'll take you public. We'd make billions........ (read in full...)
Is my ex thinking of me? She broke up with me
Q. Hello, I get block phone calls, cell phone, ever since my ex broke up with me, I have not bother her , she broke my heart, but I walk away, am back with my ex before her, I think she must of look into my cell phone, when I took a shower at her ...
A. 1 May 2013: Who cares. Woman dumped you. Dont waste another moment on her and instead put your efforts into finding someone who will appreciate you.... (read in full...)
My parents want me to go to the prom but I don't want to go!
Q. My class senior prom is coming up. My parents are trying to pressure me to go but I just do not want to go since none of my friends are going. My friends and I are having a pool party at one of my friends house instead (cheaper and don...
A. 1 May 2013: I went to another girls prom when I was a junior and she was a senior - kinda as a favor bc she was a friend at the time. Another girl asked me to go to ours (like a week before) but I said no. Long story short - Im going to be 45 tomorrow, an... (read in full...)
Why the comments on my shorts this year?
Q. I live in Michigan and it is starting to warm up out here. On Saturday I wore my shorts (they are a short athletic style) and a t-shirt. I had some errands to run and some of the looks and comments I got were very strong like Hey Baby nice ass! and ...
A. 30 April 2013: Cabin fever.... (read in full...)
I intend to stay with my boyfriend no matter what. Is that the wisest decision?
Q. My long distance boyfriend who I have known for eight months has recently began to take a long time responding to any messages that I send him. I asked him yesterday of why that is, and he said that normally he is doing multiple things on his ...
A. 30 April 2013: Im going to be honest with you - at your age, "no matter what" and "unconditional love" last about six months tops.... (read in full...)
Threesome after marriage? I've been faithful in my marriage but often get the urge to revisit my sexually adventurous past!
Q. Hi Cupid, Am 29 and am married for 5 years...I should say that I have have an amazing love life so far and even before marriage I was very active. I happened to be touch too adventurous for an Indian woman and experinced many a things which wou...
A. 30 April 2013: Never have a threesome with one of the other parties being someone you have a relationship with. It will not end well.... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to be angry that he is going out to dinner alone with another woman?
Q. Is it acceptable for a man to go to dinner with a female acquaintance when he is either in a relationship or trying to "work things out" with his ex? And if you're "working things out" then does that mean you would describe yourself to othe...
A. 30 April 2013: I have a woman who works for me that runs my business when Im not there. I have lunch with her several times a week. I see nothing wrong with it at all.... (read in full...)
Should I follow my BFs advice and smarten up for work?
Q. HI guys, This isnt a relationship question per sa, but I hope you can offer me some guidance. Basically I work in an office with no dress code so I go to work in jeans and tee shirt. I am allowed to do this if I wish but some of the staff cho...
A. 30 April 2013: One of the things I lament most is the decline of dress in the last decade or so. No idea why so many are comfortable going out looking like slobs these days.
That said, if you always want to be perceived as a low level office clerk, then dre... (read in full...)
Why does someone leave a good marriage, or relationship for someone yonger?
Q. i need help understanding something. why does someone leave a good marriage, or relationship for someone yonger? and i dont mean just a few year either. im talking 20 years or more. and why would anyone want someone that much older? i have read all ...
A. 30 April 2013: Reality check. I know it sounds all warm and fuzzy for people to fall in love and stay that way forever, but thats not how life works.
Like it or not, life is about taking the best option available to you. Why does a man date a woman 20 years hi... (read in full...)
Anyone know a good way in which I can shave daily and not bleed to death and tear up my skin?
Q. Wondering if anyone else has experienced this and can give advice. I have PCOS and as a result of that I have rather bad hirsutism, lucky for me though I am red headed and my hair isn’t exactly dark but I do still have to shave. Everyday I sha...
A. 30 April 2013: My suggestion to you is learn how to use the old safety razors. When I left the marketing BS $12 per pack "multi blade" garbage and went back to old school double edge razors, my skin looks SO much better.
We have been sold a bill of goods wi... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of my mother!
Q. Ok well, this is pushing me to the limit I can't handle this any more I think there is some thing wrong with my mom. She wakes up at 330am every morning because she makes coffee right next to my room because the kitchen is next to my room, so ...
A. 30 April 2013: You're 22+ and living in her house - she can do whatever she pleases. ... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend out of my house? I'm sick of her lies and her cheating...
Q. I have been dating a girl for almost two years. She has constantly lied and told me she was not talking to guys. She talks to guys that don't help her I help her financially and emotionally, and I have taken care of her when she is sick or car ...
A. 30 April 2013: Stop the money and the problem will take care of itself.... (read in full...)
Have you ever been so in love that it makes you cry with happiness?
Q. Yes, I know it is an odd question, but have you ever been so in love, that it makes you cry with happiness? I dated and lived with a guy 25 years ago. However, because we were so young at the time and I was rather insecure too back then, ...
A. 26 April 2013: No comment other than very nice story. Im happy for you.... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 26 April 2013: I would bring it up sooner rather than later. As silly as this sounds, it will either matter, or it wont, so might as well find that out as soon as possible.
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Settling down? Or just sex?
Q. i am a seventeen year old girl who is looking to start dating a twenty two year old. i dont know what he wants in our relationship: to settle down or just sex? he often tells me how attractive he thinks i am and that seems to be all he talks about. ...
A. 26 April 2013: Tell him that you wont have sex until after you are married.
His ACTIONS (not WORDS, ACTIONS) over the next month will give you your answer with no ambiguity.... (read in full...)
Why would my friend delete me off of her Facebook and Instagram?
Q. Ok so I have been friends with this girl for most of my life and our families are also very close. We go to the same school as well but as time progressed we kind of grew apart. Even though we didn't talk as much we still kept in touch through ...
A. 26 April 2013: I can say without fear of contradiction that my life is all the better for never having a Facebook or Twitter account.
Do what you wish with that information.... (read in full...)
So many questions I never had an opportunity to ask my ex. Why can't I move on? Why can't I stop thinking of her?
Q. Why, do I keep thinking of my ex? It's been almost a year, I don't think I am missing her. I never got my last words in, never got to tell her what what I needed to say, like why did you break up with me? I keep thinking what I want to say to h...
A. 26 April 2013: Listen to SVC on this - writing it is very good advice. I have done this myself and it works.
Also, you should note that every moment I spent wallowing over this women I regret as some of the most wasted time of my life. FWIW.... (read in full...)
What he said to me made me so sick to my stomach that I didn't sleep all night. What are my options?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years we had a perfect relationship but then he got addicted to drugs. I had to become more of a mom figure to him. Then a girl friend due to everything he was getting himself into. But through it all I stuck by h...
A. 26 April 2013: You tried to help him - it didnt work. Sorry to be so blunt, but he is a loser, and you need to put as much distance between you and him before he drags you down into his crap. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Dont throw it ... (read in full...)
We are very much in love so why am I beating myself over her past?
Q. I'm 45 my girlfriend is 28,which we have been together for 2 yrs and have a son.I have only slept with 1 woman before her, my ex wife who I was with for 23 years. I have this re occurring problem which plays on my mind, she has had about 4 partners ...
A. 26 April 2013: You are beating yourself up over this BECAUSE you are very much in love. Trust me, if she was just a fling, you wouldnt care what her past was. You are experiencing something called retroactive jealousy. It is an inconvenient relic of our evo... (read in full...)
I start to feel nauseous when there's a possiblity of starting a relationship. Why does this happen?
Q. I have been writing like crazy the last couple of days trying to figure out what's happening in my head. I have had this a couple of times, but the last time, it started about two weeks ago. I met a nice girl and we really seem to connect and like...
A. 25 April 2013: Look up attachment disorder. Quite common.... (read in full...)
Does my ex boyfriend really love me, when he has a girlfriend?
Q. Does he really love me? I dated this one guy for about 6 months and then, like most relationships, if came to an end. We never really spoke after we broke up, I mean sometimes we did talk. But if I ever needed help he would always be there for me. ...
A. 25 April 2013: Sorry, but at your age there is no such thing as "really loving" someone. As you get older, you will realize that "really loving" someone has much less to do with feelings of the moment (which are the only type you have at your age) and much more ... (read in full...)
Going on holiday without my boyfriend - should I tell him the truth about where I'm going?
Q. Am i being selfish going on holiday without my boyfriend? I'm going to London for three days next week with my mum. My boyfriend doesn't even know yet! When my boyfriend gets paid, he goes to see his friends for about three days. Sometimes less, ...
A. 25 April 2013: Sure, you can go, but why lie about it??... (read in full...)
How can I get over my crushes on 2 teachers?
Q. I am sooooo shy, but, out of no where! I am suddenly attracted to older men and 2 of my male teachers!!! I've never thought of them in this way before but now just have sexual thoughts about them. It's really annoying because now I can't talk t...
A. 25 April 2013: I think the solution is to let 12 months elapse....... (read in full...)
Is it time to leave? She issued me with an ultimatum: The bachelor party or her
Q. My girlfriend(who I live with) and I have been at odds everyday for the last week. My friend has a wedding coming this weekend, and their bachelor party on Friday night. So she has made an effort to fight with me everyday. But to cut to the chase...
A. 25 April 2013: The moment you receive an ultimatum you have to leave. Its truly only the tip of the iceberg. ... (read in full...)
Which cheater is worse? I want your opinion of the women in these scenarios.
Q. i was just having a discussion with someone and i was wondering what you guys think of these 2 situations. my question is regarding the females of these situations. Scenario A: a couple (Tom and Lisa) has been together for 1.5 month. the girl,...
A. 24 April 2013: You have two moral issues here, one is fidelity, the other is honesty. I would say Lisa had a moderate breach of fidelity (1.5 months is really not that long of a "relationship"), and had no breach of honesty because she was honest about it.... (read in full...)
How to go slow without him losing interest?
Q. I've recently started talking to this guy who I've come to really like. I want to take it slow because a) I want to get to know him better before anything happens and b) I've got exams coming up so I need to focus on them more than anything. Howe...
A. 24 April 2013: If you want to make him lose interest immediately, then go fast.....
Seriously, go only as fast as you are comfortable with. If he doesnt want to wait, then he is just looking for sex or is simply not right for you at this time.... (read in full...)
We have sex but he wont consider being my boyfriend.
Q. Atfirst this guy and ibwere together,then we were forced to seperate by parents.Well,now we are allowed around eachouther and we have been sleeping together for about 2 years..i would like to have and call it a relationship,however he says he isn't ...
A. 24 April 2013: You are giving him sex w/o the need for commitment - a young mans nirvana. What incentive does he have to change a thing?... (read in full...)
How does the average couple afford children?
Q. Does anyone else worry a little that they will never be able to afford a child? I am still on the younger side so I know I have a couple of years to figure it out before my clock starts ticking, but I wonder how we will ever get there. We do okay ...
A. 24 April 2013: Kudos to you for being so responsible and diligent before having a child. Unfortunately, many people dont do this and it ends up costing the responsible people in society plenty.
Honestly, just by virtue of you asking the question tells me you a... (read in full...)
Should I stay in my marriage with 3 children? Or step out with someone who makes me happy?
Q. I have got myself in a real dilemma and could really use some advice. I have been married for fourteen years and have three of the most beautiful children a woman could ask for but I never really loved my husband and got married for all the wrong ...
A. 24 April 2013: For one, you need to stop cheating. For two, IMO if you decide to have not one, not two, but yes three children with a man you claim you dont love, you have lost your ability to choose another man just because you think you love him more.
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Why am I now not attracted to my boyfriend of five years!?
Q. So I love this guy we have been through thick and thin together. He's everything I dream of and the best Bf I've ever had in bed. We moved in togther about two years ago. Been dating since we were 16 and we are both 21 now. We have experienc...
A. 24 April 2013: Because you were 16 when you met and a lot of changing/growing up occurs between 16 and 21.
Of course he's the "best bf you've ever had." Who else could you have dated when you've been steady from 16 to 21?... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was annoyed by my FB post. Did she over-react? Was her reaction immature? I thought the post was light fun.
Q. Three days ago, I wrote on my Facebook Wall that "If you can't change the girl, change the girl!" . My girlfriend (for two years) didn't like it and called me jerk when she met me later. She is talking to me but can see some change in her at...
A. 23 April 2013: In my life, I have somehow found a way to eliminate all of the strife that seems to ubiquitously follow FB and Twitter posts.
I dont have an account for either, and I can say without fear of contradiction that my life is all the better for it.... (read in full...)
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