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writes:So I love this guy we have been through thick and thin together. He's everything I dream of and the best Bf I've ever had in bed. We moved in togther about two years ago. Been dating since we were 16 and we are both 21 now. We have experienced dating other people and no one else would ever do. But now even though I love him, I hate having sex with him even though he's sexy as hell. I get irritated just by him touching me or kissing me and I just can't get rid of the feeling. It's been like this for a year now. And it bothers me. Because I'm a highly passionate an sexual person.... I just get scared now when I picture our sex life ten years from now. I can seriously count how many times we have had sex in past year on two hands... And I member when we would constantly go at it. I need advice!! Why do I feel like this? and is there somthing I can do ????
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 April 2013):
 what you want at 16 is not what you want at 21...
and what you want at 21 may not be what you want at 25 and surely won't be what you want at 30....
as we grow we mature, we change.
if when you look at him, you don't want to kiss him or hug him or as I say "love on him" then sadly it's time to move on... and while you two can pretend to be friends after you end the romance... that won't last forever either...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2013): Hey I had the same issue with my boyfriend, and honestly the problem was in myself. As much as I had loved him, there was something always as the back of my mind, that wouldnt go away. One day I got tired of it, and I told him straight up. Ever since then we've been great our sex life as well as our relationship has been great. So I recomend you to sit down and talk to him about your relationship, maybe somethings missing, something that was there before isnt there anymore. Hope everything works out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2013): You have to ask yourself after five great years by your own omission you cant stand him? What the hell? What happened that you are not telling us? This doesn't make a lot of sense. Are you projecting your failures or misgivings upon him? Or are you developing bi feelings? This can happen. Why are you worried about how sex will be in ten years? It sounds he might not be doing something to give you the full intimate and sexual experience now. Have you tried to come up to the plate and help correct something you are unhappy with or have you mentally written your boyfriend off? If that is the case let him go because my girlfriend read your story and said she knows at least ten of her close friends who would just kill to get their hands on your boyfriend. Go ahead on the journey of trying to find what ever you seem to be craving. Just maybe you will learn a valuable life lesson here. In the meantime rest assured that your soon to be x boyfriend is going to be in bed with a woman who will just adore him and not be some cold fish who has had it all and threw it away because excuse me she is so passionate. Give me a break here. Really? What ever.......
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (24 April 2013):
While you love this man are you in love with him .This is a question you might ask yourself because sometimes THE MAGIC fades.This is a difficult situation to be in and one you would need to think about in a indept way.Because there is the future to think about.Best Wishes. Nora B.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (24 April 2013):
Because you were 16 when you met and a lot of changing/growing up occurs between 16 and 21.
Of course he's the "best bf you've ever had." Who else could you have dated when you've been steady from 16 to 21?
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