What happened in Vegas didn't stay in Vegas!
Q. my wife and i have been together for almost 3 years and have been married almost 1 year. we have had our fair share of bumps and bruises. 2 months ago, i broke a promise to her by going to a strip club with my friends on my birthday. i have been ...
A. 6 January 2014: God knows I don't blame you. Id probably do the same. BTW - I don't know why you even brought up the strip club. In terms of severity, its like comparing J-walking to genocide.
If I were you, Id do everything you could know to document her admi... (read in full...)
What happened in Vegas didn't stay in Vegas!
Q. my wife and i have been together for almost 3 years and have been married almost 1 year. we have had our fair share of bumps and bruises. 2 months ago, i broke a promise to her by going to a strip club with my friends on my birthday. i have been ...
A. 3 January 2014: The only thing honorable here is that she told you.
If it were me, Id say I respect your honesty, and then drive to my lawyers to start divorce proceedings.
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Our sexual interests are completely opposite. Can I satisfy my needs elsewhere?
Q. I am happily engaged to an amazing man; we are getting married this coming October. He is my best friend, and an incredible person. I love him so much, and the thought of him being hurt is just too much for me to bear. However, when it comes to...
A. 3 January 2014: Different interests do not justify moral transgressions.
Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
I been burned being the nice guy again!
Q. Hi, just wondering ladies, what you think this means, been seeing some one for about two months, I thought every thing was going great, went out on her birthday, had a great time, then two days later had surgery on my leg, didn't hear from her for ...
A. 3 January 2014: When a girl says either:
1) She hates her father or
2) When she's psycho about an ex
Run, don't walk. Do not pass Go, do not collect $200. Run.... (read in full...)
Do I go with the guy that everyone approves of or the one I want?
Q. I currently have 2 b.f's both a year older than me.I think I should stop cheating and settle for the best...The problem is I love them both soooo much but I don't know which one is the one! well first guy #1 is sweet,funny and makes me feel good...
A. 3 January 2014: Since you're cheating, neither.
You need to tell both of them what you are doing. It looks like you are not ready for a committed relationship yet so until you are you should probably stay single.
Last, I would hesitate to take advice from... (read in full...)
I shouldn't have asked to see pictures of my boyfriend's ex
Q. Why am I so angry at him? Is not his fault is it? So I asked my boyfriend about his ex and he told me everything about her and he asked if I wanted to see a picture of her and I said yeah sure but I bet she's not prettier than me and he said...
A. 3 January 2014: You got what you asked for. Deal with it.... (read in full...)
How can I be myself when I have no confidence?
Q. I am a 36 year old man. I Have no confidence when it comes to chatting to ladies. People always tell me to just be myself but that seems to me like i am not good enough. Any advice would be very appreciated. ...
A. 3 January 2014: All I can tell you is whatever the reason is for your lack of self confidence, you need to get it fixed right quick if you want any chance w the ladies.
Men are visual creatures, we're typically most attracted to physical appearance. Women ar... (read in full...)
Why are women so judgemental about guys who want to or have experimented with other guys?
Q. Why is it seen as such a HUGE deal BY WOMEN if a guy wants to experiment with another guy? Girls can already agree that that most, if not many guys LIE and CHEAT, is it so hard to believe that they can fuse those two together and TRY, just TRY an...
A. 3 January 2014: I think other men will be even more judgemental than women, at least straight men.... (read in full...)
Why do men think that lasting forever is better?
Q. This is a question mainly for the men out there. Why do you think that lasting hours while having sex is what women want? I've noticed this with all 5 men I've been with - they seem to think that lasting for ages makes them some sort of love God or ...
A. 3 January 2014: Oh how I wish for the 5 minute quickie.
Sex typically takes me 30min to an hour. Always has, I think it always will. My brother, the same thing. To be honest, I often wish for it to be much quicker myself.... (read in full...)
What problems could happen if we did become older parents
Q. Me and my husband both want children; we're young professionals, aged 29 and 32, and we've been married for 2 years now. We're middle-class, own a Citroen and a Lexus, and our own house, and are fairly wealthy by local standards. I'm Italian-English ...
A. 3 January 2014: I waited until I was 45 to get married for the first time. (Last year.) We're now ready to have kids.
I wouldn't have been ready for either five years ago.
All in its own time.... (read in full...)
I asked her out and she said "we'll see".what do I do now?
Q. I like this girl that works at my local convenience store. The Monday before last (23rd) I asked her if she wanted to go and see the local pantomime, expecting her to say no, but instead she said yes, but she's have to see about her shifts. S...
A. 3 January 2014: Are you kidding me? Any women who ever answered me like that after me asking her out wouldn't get a second thought.
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Why is it more acceptable for women to use sex toys than it is for men?
Q. just a tought. why is it totally acceptable for girls the use of vibrators / stimulators and when it comes to males, the use of them makes you be seen as a perv, weirdo, looser... etc, etc... im in a ldr and we see each other every 3 months. My gf ...
A. 30 December 2013: Because evolution has dictated as men we should be able to get our sexual satisfaction from women. The converse is less true for women.... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have an affair when your single?
Q. Is it OK to have an affair with someone when I am single? I don't know the girls boyfriend but I know they have been together for over 3 years. She has been really coming on to me recently and I know something could happen if I initiate it. ...
A. 30 December 2013: You would be making a moral transgression, but nowhere near as severe as the girlfriend. She has a moral obligation to him far greater than yours.... (read in full...)
I would like to know where my boyfriend is during the day, and night, 24/7.
Q. Hi all, I would like to know if its too much for me to ask my bf about his whereabouts. By asking about his whereabouts I mean just asking him his plans for the day and what he'd be doing, not the crazy gf sort of asking every hour. Personally I ...
A. 29 December 2013: You calling "lack of trust" "courtesy." One of my ex's called it "transparency."
Its all the same, you either trust him or you don't. If you don't, you don't have a relationship.
I warned my ex multiple times to cut the crap. She didn't, so ... (read in full...)
Why is it that nice guys don't finish at all?
Q. Why is it that it used to be that nice guys finished last. But it seems like now nice guys don't finish last, they don't finish at all, and are prevented to do so? I'm really just looking for girls answers....
A. 26 December 2013: Please don't look for answers here from women. Many, even unknowingly, will tell you one thing about this, while all the while doing the complete opposite. If the answer you are looking for is "why," then its simple - our social evolution has no... (read in full...)
I'd like our relationship to be more focussed on respect
Q. Hey I'm in need of some advice. I'm in a relationship with someone of 22 and I'm 17, the age gap isn't the issue. I feel like a sexual object sometimes and its really concerning me. We haven't been officially together for much over a month and are ...
A. 26 December 2013: Don't fool yourself, its the age difference. 17-22 is typically worlds apart when it comes to maturing. One age is high school, the other is post college. Night and day.... (read in full...)
My friend gets out of prison in 7 weeks and wants me in his life
Q. Help! I am very very confused I have a friend and he's in prison. He has been there for me in the past and I consider him a very good friend and a special person although he has done some major wrong things in his life. We have given each other su...
A. 26 December 2013: "Could have his choice of women." Good grief. Maybe his choice of desperate women. No woman with anything to offer a guy is going to want to date a guy right out of jail. Sorry I had to say that, but just too obvious. Next, imagine you we... (read in full...)
Is he just in this for the sex?
Q. Hey guys. So I met this guy Mark a while ago via my next door neighbor Andrea (we were hanging out once and she invited him). The night I met him we were really into each other and I ended up going home with him. My neighbor made him promise ...
A. 26 December 2013: Generally speaking, if you sleep with a guy the first day you meet him, at best you will be a short term booty call. Be thankful that he had enough character to tell you so. As far as a relationship with him, you have a better chance of winnin... (read in full...)
What's the perfect formula for when to have sex?
Q. Does it matter when u have sex with a man will he think less of u if u give it up too early or too late? What's the perfect formula if there is one? I am a quote in quite "pretty girl and highly educated". I've never had a tough time getting dates ...
A. 25 December 2013: Female anon below offers sage advice.
I have lost count on how many times I have heard a woman say "I wish I never." That goes for both sleeping with a guy as well as doing it for the first time. Conversely, I have NEVER heard the opposite... (read in full...)
I can't get over my wife's sordid sexual past
Q. I am dealing with some issues with my wife's sexual past, I dont know how many she was with but I know it was between 15 and 25. She lied about being with my friend when I asked her about a month after we started dating. She later told me they were ...
A. 25 December 2013: To the first poster, RJ only happens when you love someone so much......
To the OP, if you had complete information, I would say this is on you because you knew. You didn't, and worse you were lied to.
As another poster said, there is general... (read in full...)
Is it better for me to forgive my ex or hate him?
Q. I was with my ex for 4 years(including 2 years LDR). We're in different countries. We planned to meet after he graduated from graduate school and while we're dating, he gave me commitment and talked about getting married. He dumped me 6 months ago, ...
A. 25 December 2013: Forgiveness is the greatest gift you can give yourself....... (read in full...)
Why do girls seem to prefer, and date, the guys who are cocky, arrogant, stubborn jock types?
Q. Why oh why do girls prefer the cocky, arrogant, stubborn jock types? Is it because they assume their children together will be born with a lightning bolt in their hands? Girls have done pretty skewed ways of finding guys thinking that they are bett...
A. 25 December 2013: Basically because our biological evolution has not kept up with our social evolution.
If I had a nickel for every woman who said they wanted just "a nice guy," right before they went home with the biggest a-hole in the bar......... (read in full...)
I worry my hearing aids may put men off!
Q. I need help please! For about six years now I've been deaf in both ears due to otosclerosis - a genetic condition where the bones in the ears stop moving. The way that this works is that I'm not completely deaf, but certain tones and pitches are ...
A. 23 December 2013: Men are attracted to many parts of a womans body. For the overwhelming majority, inner ears are not one of them....
You should be fine....
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Every girl needs a bad boy...... right?
Q. Okay so i need help, theres this boy who i like and he likes me too but people including my friends tell me that he's not a nice person and that he will ruin everything for me such as see other girls. However, when i talk to him i never see that ...
A. 23 December 2013: Women who seek to date bad boys typically get exactly what they are looking for....... (read in full...)
What do women in particular think of a guy who's 30 and never had a girlfriend?
Q. Anyway, I want to hear some opinions. Guys are welcome to comment, but I think that girls may be able to offer me some valuable insight as to what exactly my problem is, and whether or not anything can be done about it. I've always been rath...
A. 22 December 2013: A woman would think you are either the biggest Mr Niceguy, or the biggest Mr Player, most likely the former.
In either case, kiss of death for dating....... (read in full...)
Would you romantically date a co worker even if it was against employer policy?
Q. I work at a school where most of the teachers are female and many are single. As a single male I'm attracted to a few of them but I never show interest or do or say anything to alert them to my interest. 1 of these teachers has invited me to her h...
A. 22 December 2013: Very easy to end up dating someone from work since you spend so much time there. That said, its almost always a bad decision.... (read in full...)
I cheated on him, once. Yet I can't picture my life without him. What do I do about my guilt?
Q. I'm about to get married to my bf of 5 years I do love him very much and I am very happy that we are going to get married, but I am having second doubts about getting married, because I am guilty of cheating on him once in the past, while we were ...
A. 22 December 2013: Marriage is the single most important decision anyone could make, other than who to have children with, which is hopefully ultimately the same decision. That said, most mistakes in this decision come down to two reasons - the first is ignoring the ... (read in full...)
I can't help feeling something happened, but she says it didn't!
Q. I have been married for a little over 6 years. We have had our share of problems but nothing major then about 2 years ago we just stopped having sex . My wife claimed that she just wasn't in the mood, this went on for about a year and a half. I was ...
A. 22 December 2013: If I had to bet, Im sorry to say Id bet on the side of an affair, and it wouldn't be a small amount........ (read in full...)
Flakey girls and the men who fall for them!
Q. Just got back from going out, and my situation off that bat is I'm 27/m, never had a g/f, date, kissed, held hands, had sex, etc... And I don't want to be left out. So I'm approached by a girl who seemed at the time to be into me, got her something ...
A. 22 December 2013: For one, stop buying women drinks until they seem interested. The very act of buying a woman a drink early almost instantly labels you as a "nice guy." Yeah yeah, I know. Every woman wants a nice guy, all the way up to the moment when they leave ... (read in full...)
Is he exaggerating or could a 15 year old really mean it?
Q. How serious is a fifteen year old boy when he says he would marry you in a heartbeat and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you? We are really close friends so he knows what I am truly like and all my flaws and I don't know whether he ...
A. 3 December 2013: What it means is he has not the slightest idea of what it is he speaks of.
At his age, "forever" is around 3 days, a week tops........ (read in full...)
Wife admitted she used to be a prostitute! Should I cut my losses and leave?
Q. My wife and I have been married now for 23 years. When we began dating I realized she was probably more worldly than I was used to going out with. However , I was starting to fall for her, and at 27 I wasn't meeting anyone that came close to her . ...
A. 3 December 2013: I don't know what to say here other than this should be a paradigm example of why it is necessary to chose you mate predicated upon COMPLETE information........ (read in full...)
Men: how often do you think about having sex?
Q. Men of all ages - roughly how often do you think about having sex? And who with? Your partner/girlfriend/wife, that random hot person who walked past you on the street? Do you ever feel guilty if you think about having sex with someone who isn'...
A. 3 December 2013: Im 45, and still think about it all the time. I was married 6 months ago for the first time, and while it crosses my mind with others from time to time, I wouldn't dare even consider actually doing it with anyone else.
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I recently found a bunch on naked pictures of my wife's privates on her phone!
Q. Hello everyone, i need your help...i recently found a bunch on naked pictures of my wifes privates on her phone. we have been married for 9 years and she has never done anything like this. i checked the dates on the pics and they have been take...
A. 20 November 2013: I would be a boatload that something is going on that you would definitely not approve of....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied and cheated for over a year and got another woman pregnant. Should I dump him?
Q. Should I dump my boyfriend he has fathered a child with another woman and lied and deceived me for nearly a year he was having sex with both ov us but I had no idea he was cheating neither did the other girl know about me. He told me cause I caught ...
A. 20 November 2013: I keep burning my hand every time I touch the hot stove. Should I keep doing it? Please help me........ (read in full...)
I have a second chance with my ex but its on harsh terms- should I go for it?
Q. Hey all Its day 4 post breakup here, i havent started 'no contact' we are still talking every night all night (i know this is not the way to go) Our split was down to distance..5 years in an LDR with neither of us willing to give up our jobs ...
A. 18 November 2013: LDRS have six months to become non-LDRS, or they become non-Rs. Just a reality.
As far as the money, obtaining money is hard. Obtaining girlfriends is easy. Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
Why is divorce a problem for a liar cheater wife?
Q. My wife started cheating on me around the year 2000. I confronted her and she was extremely sorry, so she made me believe. A few years later she was cheating again and after all the wasted effort I put into salvaging our marriage I knew it was over. ...
A. 18 November 2013: If I were you, I would record and document EVERYTHING. Don't let her know you are doing this. You will thank me once you get to court....... (read in full...)
Sleeping with my ex-teacher who wants to leave his wife.
Q. I'm a 20 year old girl from the UK and 5 years ago met a new teacher at school. He was 28 at the time (now 32). I was in my final year and he was new in the last few months. We got very close etc. and to cut a long story short, after my 16th ...
A. 18 November 2013: My global advice regarding people applies here.
NEVER listen to what people SAY, ALWAYS watch what they DO.....
Proceed accordingly...... (read in full...)
What advice would you give to your 20 year old self
Q. What advice would you give to your 20 year old self? Financial, relationship and just general life information you wish you had known. My biggest fear is wasting my life, I think about this daily. I constantly feel like I should be doing/...
A. 18 November 2013: What a great question to ask. Im on the other side of the spectrum so to speak. For me, I have always lived for the future, and have always planned out everything I have done. I just got married over the summer (at age 45) to the right women.... (read in full...)
Is it ok if I want to know everything about my girlfriend? Before proposing?
Q. Im planning to propose to my girlfriend soon, is it ok in wanting to know everything about her and her past? she is the one i want to spend yhe rest if my life. however i suspect theres something shady she doesnt want to talk about and im afraid if ...
A. 12 November 2013: Who you marry is bar none the most important decision of your life, and making any decision on incomplete information is a formula for disaster. You have every right, and IMO an obligation to know everything you need to know BEFOREHAND. Dare I say ... (read in full...)
My ex partner expects everything from me ....
Q. I can't take this, me and my ex have a baby together. He won't move out of my house I met someone new and we were hanging out one thing lead to another. Now my ex is telling me he has rights and he will make my life extremely difficult if I d...
A. 5 September 2013: Not to be captain obvious here, but are not these issues things that need to be sorted out BEFORE having children? How someone can lock themselves forever to another human being without doing the imperative due diligence first never ceases to amaze ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has cheated on me several times. Is it acceptable for me to have an affair of my own to show her that there are consequences to her behaviour?
Q. My 28yo GF has been with me for 5 years. This is the best relationship either of us have ever had. Its not perfect but we enjoy each other and we are good for each other most of the time. My GF openly says she used to be a huge cheater. Then...
A. 2 September 2013: 1 - She is a cheater. She will remain a cheater. Ergo, she will cheat on you again.
2 - With #1 above in mind, you are an absolute fool if you stay more than another minute with her.
3 - Cheating on her will not change her behavior, it wil... (read in full...)
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