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writes:Does he really love me? I dated this one guy for about 6 months and then, like most relationships, if came to an end. We never really spoke after we broke up, I mean sometimes we did talk. But if I ever needed help he would always be there for me. I still love him and care for him. A couple of weeks ago he started dating this girl, so I assumed he was over me (I wasn't over him). Then today he started texting me saying "I love you" and "I want you back"!! He even told me that he loves me more than his girlfriend! I don't know if he's telling the truth! Does he really love me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2013): He might still be into you babe, but the reality is that he is probably using you as a backup plan. Maybe he knows that you still like him so he will know that you will fall for anything he says. He's just using you and he's a player! Get over him babe!! If he truly loved you he wouldn't have another girlfriend and he would be back with you!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (25 April 2013):
 NO honey he does not really love you.
Not speaking after you break up is NORMAL, it’s what is supposed to happen… being friends with an ex is what folks pretend to do to make it easier to break up.
He does not love you, and if he’s still with his “girlfriend” then he’s a liar and a cheater and he is bad news.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (25 April 2013):
Sorry, but at your age there is no such thing as "really loving" someone. As you get older, you will realize that "really loving" someone has much less to do with feelings of the moment (which are the only type you have at your age) and much more to do with long term commitment, understanding, compromise, and unconditional love.
Ask yourself this - God forbid if this guy was in a disfiguring accident and where he couldnt walk, use his hands, see, go to the bathroom by himself, and looked nothing like his past self - would you without hesitation decide to stick with him for the rest of his life? Feeding him, changing his diapers, cleaning the pus from his wounds, etc? Sorry to be so graphic, but when someone chooses to do that without hesitation, THAT is REAL love. My guess is its very different than what you think you are feeling right now. Even if you think you could do that, there is no question that feeling would be fleeting in about a month....
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reader, YouWish +, writes (25 April 2013):
 Don't believe a word of it until he breaks up with his girlfriend. A couple of cheap texts mean nothing without action behind it, because he could merely be looking for sex on the side, or he could be trying to get back at his girlfriend for some fight.
Respond by saying "Texts aren't enough. If you love me, you'll break up with your girlfriend and then tell me this in person."
Most importantly, and I mean this, DO NOT let him so much as hold your hand or touch you if he hasn't FIRST broken up with his girlfriend. Do not be the ex he cheated on his girlfriend with, because that's degrading and he would be using you. He cannot hedge his bets. He needs to be SINGLE before you can get back together with him in any way, shape, or form.
Tell him you're interested in him still, but nothing will ever happen unless he properly breaks up with her. That's the right way to do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2013): "Does he really love me?"
No, he wants to get into your pants. Apparently new girlfriend wouldn't put out for him so now he's come crawling back hoping you will.
Don't believe a word any horny teenage guy says to you, guys will say anything to get you into bed with them, most often "I love you."
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reader, loony10 +, writes (25 April 2013):
i feel bad for you. doesn't this make you wonder if while you guys were together, he was telling other girls that he loved them too. you can't trust him. it depends on the reason you guys broke up too.
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