Why does he lie to me? How can I marry this man in two months?
Q. I really need help. Its no secret to my fiance that I don't trust him. I have talked to him about being honest and earning my trust back. But he continues to lie to my fsce. I give him every chance to be honest. Why does he lie to me? How can I ...
A. 19 March 2013: Oh - one more thing - cancelling and losing a deposit is FAR FAR FAR cheaper than going through a divorce.
Not wanting to lose deposit money may be one of the worst reasons Ive heard for going through with a wedding. Just think, do you think wh... (read in full...)
My boyfriend Thinks oversleeping and not pitching for date is okay
Q. My boyfriend is a loving, amazing guy. He stood with me when my life was falling apart and never lets me down. Except when he makes plans. He plans fantastic dates or meetings with friends, and they're awesome indeed. IF HE SHOWS UP. I've lost co...
A. 19 March 2013: He sounds like someone who SAYS one thing and DOES another.
Never measure people by what they SAY, measure them by what they DO.
Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
What is the difference between loving and being in love?
Q. I am curious to have others view on this. What is the difference between loving someone and being IN love with someone? ...
A. 19 March 2013: If you have to ask, it cannot be explained to you.... (read in full...)
Wwhat do you call it when a man goes from one woman to another woman within six weeks?
Q. I wonder what do you call it when a man goes from one woman to another woman within six weeks? But at first he would constantly call her then he quit calling her now he is back calling her. Could he be in love with this woman? Has he already forgo...
A. 19 March 2013: A man moving to another woman six weeks after a breakup?
I think there is a psycho-technical word for that. Its NORMAL.... (read in full...)
I want to have an open marriage but don't know how to discuss it with my husband
Q. I know I will probably hear a lot comments like just leave him, and find someone else. But that's not why I m telling you my story. The thing is that I am more and more think about having an open kind of relationship with my husband. I know ...
A. 19 March 2013: Open marriage = no marriage.
Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
Swept off my feet to be dropped on my butt
Q. Am I insane? I met a guy on match.com. We messaged eachother at the same time. He was stationed in afghanistan and would be home in two months. He was in special forces (i won't say what but it is pretty badass). we exchanged texts and emails d...
A. 19 March 2013: You got played by a player. He wanted sex, you gave it to him, so he had no need to stick around any longer. Pretty much sums it up.... (read in full...)
What is it about a short man that women find so disgusting?
Q. I have been rejected by a few girls and have lost heart. My track record keeps me from trying as I have no reason to believe I will succeed. I have been aware that women do not find short men attractive and recently i have been following "expos...
A. 19 March 2013: Its not they find short men "disgusting," its that height/physical size/strength go along with the ability to protect, provide, and hunt, which many women find attractive since it harkens back to our early evolution.
That said, sometimes when the... (read in full...)
How do I make him regret leaving me?
Q. my boyfrnd left me for no having sex i am a muslim and my religion doesnt allows sex before marriage what should i say to him so that he remebers it all his lifee and regrets wat he did with mee after promising soo man times that he wont leave me or ...
A. 19 March 2013: Just like you cannot force someone to love you, you cannot force someone to regret leaving you.
Stop trying to live for emotional vengence and live your life. He left you, there was a reason for it. Move on an be happy.... (read in full...)
Need self-confidence to lose weight
Q. Hello friends my question isn't really a relationship question but how can I lose weight? I feel very depressed about my weight but I can't seem to lose any weight I have tried many methods but nothing seems to work. I feel like in stuck in a rut. ...
A. 18 March 2013: I think you have the cause and effect backwards. Losing weight often boosts self confidence. Self confidence doesnt let you lose weight, self discipline does. ... (read in full...)
Should I sue my US wife for defamation from Pakistan?
Q. 8 Months ago, I got married to a US citizen in Pakistan. While Spouse visa petition was in final stage. We picked up a fight and now she wants divorce. If she doesn't come to Pakistan and I don't go to US, me and my family will face embarrassing ...
A. 18 March 2013: The course of action you speak of will only result in costing you a bunch of money in attornies fees.... (read in full...)
What is the appeal of threesomes?
Q. My girlfriend of over a year (who I am very close to) suggested that we have a threesome and I declined immediately. We have wonderful sexual experience together. The thought of another guy even touching and kissing her in the bedroom physically ...
A. 18 March 2013: I have never seen a threesome in a committed relationship result in anything good.
Proceed accordigly.... (read in full...)
I need to protect my child from the stranger that is her father. Advice?
Q. Had a one night stand with complete stranger five years ago. That night resulted in a baby. I informed the guy i was pregnant but he cut all contact with me. Now i knew his name, address, where he worked and stuff about his life because there was a ...
A. 18 March 2013: He has every right to know he has a daughter, and your daughter has every right to know her father. Stop trying to play God. You made a decision to have a one night stand, now you need to live with the consequences.... (read in full...)
Why does he lie to me? How can I marry this man in two months?
Q. I really need help. Its no secret to my fiance that I don't trust him. I have talked to him about being honest and earning my trust back. But he continues to lie to my fsce. I give him every chance to be honest. Why does he lie to me? How can I ...
A. 18 March 2013: No trust = no relationship.
Thing that bother you about your gf/bf always seem to get worse after marriage.
Marriage and who you marry is the single most important decision you will ever make regarding your own happiness.
Proceed accordi... (read in full...)
Spends his money on gifts for himself before my Birthday and then he is broke
Q. I know it is wrong to have expectations of one's spouse. I am a big believer in the philosophy that our expectations determine our own happiness. I am trying to work on myself when it comes to this concept and even my therapist agrees with me that ...
A. 18 March 2013: It sounds like you have a problem. I dont care how little money you make, at age 30-35, no one should be "broke." It sounds like you are with a spender. Nothing spells doom like marrying a spender, esp if you are a saver.... (read in full...)
Are these double standards? My LDR likes it when I send a sexy video but he is refusing to send one back!?
Q. My boyfriend has double standards. We're in an LDR (it's relatively new - coming up to 3 months) and whenever he's horny, I will send him a picture sometimes, not every time and the pics are not fully nude, but something sexy and I have sent a s...
A. 12 March 2013: Sending explicit photos to a LDR after only three months would be filed under "Bad Decisions."
Dont do it.... (read in full...)
broke up with my boyfriend but he is still acting like one.
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years about a month ago. He was jealous, controlling, he was lazy and lives with his mother. I was young at the start of the relationship so I was spoon fed everything he told me. I was young and silly so I flashed ...
A. 12 March 2013: If you are so put off by his behavior, then why do you insist in putting yourself in his company by being "friends?" Any suffering you do at his hands is now 100% your own fault.
... (read in full...)
People say we are too young to know what love is!
Q. i hate it when people say that you cant be inlove at my age, when the things is i know how very much i am. I have know my present boyfriend scince i was 5 and he thought i was a princess(he told me) and i really liked him, as time when on an we mo...
A. 12 March 2013: Its not a put down - you just dont have the life experiences or the emotional maturity to know what real committed unconditional love is. When you are 30, you will look back and laugh at yourself for thinking this way. Not a guess.... (read in full...)
I just want to find a girl for myself. Is this not possible?
Q. I have been trying to find someone to be with for the last six years and sadly it has never worked out. I have tried dating several females during this time but it never seems to go right,I caught the first girl cheating on me with four other ...
A. 12 March 2013: Ok - tough love time.
For starters, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself. - - "Sadly this has always been my luck"
- "is sadly getting to the point that I am thinking of just giving up all together"
- "the very least doesnt think I a... (read in full...)
I gave my ex another chance and he cheated on me again! I don't know how to get through this
Q. I know what everyone will say while reading this, but please, please, pleasssse keep an open mind... Basically last year me and (my now ex-boyfriend) broke up as he cheated on me with a girl that we both knew, apparently it was only a kiss. Any...
A. 12 March 2013: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
My Gf over-reacts. How can I calm things down? And how to get her to give ME attention, she starts to lose perspective?
Q. So I want to know how to deal with my girlfriend when she overreacts to the little things I say or do. Usually she's in a good mood but every now and then, she gets pretty irritable and is bothered by the most trivial of things, and when this hap...
A. 12 March 2013: Cerberus is right about this - NEVER reinforce bad behavior. My brother has taken this concept perhaps to the extreme - eg once his gf started harassing him bc he didnt call her for a single 24 hour period. His response - he hung up on her and ... (read in full...)
My own GF won't give me a blowjob and I feel she's not really in to me.
Q. Hi, I know this is a touchy subject when it comes to women. I've read previous questions about this issue and I've witnessed how the female answerers pounce on the male poster as if he was asking something so vile and disgusting. Let me start b...
A. 12 March 2013: I have a simple rule. No BJs, no dating. To each their own...... (read in full...)
Due to get married in May but how can I trust my fiancé?
Q. Im going crazy. I dont know what to do anymore. I have been with my fiance for seven mostly great years. But the past few months, I have found out a few things. He was texting some girl he met at a job he was doing and called her beautiful. An...
A. 12 March 2013: I am also getting married in June, and I have been with my fiancee for multiple years, and are in your same age range. Hence, I can associate to your situation. With that, I think I need some more color on what you say. I can see a situation ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says four is too many guys to have been intimate with. He broke up with me
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday. Few hours later we decided to make it a short break of 2 days or so just to take some time off. The reason why that happened? I told him that I have been intimate with four guys before we met(We are in a ...
A. 12 March 2013: It looks like he is a sufferer of RJ. Kudos to him for being honest and forthright with you. Many men have issues with a womans sexual past, specifically when they make an emotional investment in her. Whatever the number for each guy may be, four ... (read in full...)
Did my Ex really care about me?
Q. I was in a relationship for 8months we lived together and everything. We split up about a month ago three days later he was seeing somebody else. When people ask him about me he say that we were just friends and that he was just renting a room from ...
A. 9 March 2013: I can think of no purer waste of time and energy than wondering whan an ex thinks of you.... (read in full...)
I complain about getting guys that aren't interested in me, then I get a good guy and I feel so overwhelmed by it!
Q. Hey, I REALLY need advice right now. :( The situation is: I live in a residential college, with 2 of my exs (just really bad coincidence) and a new ex, who treated me less than brilliantly, and my boyfriend. So my boyfriend is a guy that had b...
A. 8 March 2013: Many girls, especially your age, whether they admit/realize it or not, are typically attracted to as^hol^s. You will complain about the guy who gives you attention and is good to you, yet you will continue to stick by the guy who repeatedly trea... (read in full...)
Am I important to him or is my money?
Q. My bf and i have been saving money for the weekends we spend together so at 1st he used it for buying a dog...but i didnt complain. so now i lost it by mistake because he made me hold it when i did not want to. so now he is so mad at me for ...
A. 7 March 2013: At your age, money is way more important then boys/girls. In fact, thats the case at almost any age. Finding a bf/gf = very easy. Making money = very hard.... (read in full...)
How do I stay away from this married man???
Q. Hello. I am involved in an emotional affair with a married guy. We haven't had sex or anything like that. But the attraction and chemistry between us is strong. We work together and used to speak more but recently because of the chemistry he has...
A. 6 March 2013: How do you stay away? Hmmm, lets see -
1) You dont call him
2) You dont take calls from him
3) You dont text or email him
4) You dont take texts or emails from him
5) You dont contact him on social media
6) You dont take contact... (read in full...)
My fiance masturbates every morning and I just found out. What should I do?
Q. we don't have sex alot, and i would like to but he always says no. but this morning i walked in on him masturbating and saw he does it every morning. He says he loves it when we have sex, but yet he still does this every morning... im really hurt ...
A. 6 March 2013: His sex drive is obviously larger than yours, so to satisfy it he does it himself vs the alternative of doing it with other women.
Not sure what the problem is here save perhaps sexual incompatibility.... (read in full...)
My wife cheated and I want to keep our family together but how do I get over the images in my head?
Q. Hello. I write to you today because I recently found out that my lovely wife, best friend, and mother of my 3 lovely children has had an ongoing sexual relationship for the last 10 years. I found emails from the two of them on her laptop and they ...
A. 6 March 2013: One more thing - this has been said before, but this is 100% your wifes fault. The other party had not a single shred of loyalty or commitment to you, and owed you nothing. Newsflash - he was just trying to use someone as a slampiece, and your ... (read in full...)
She says she can tell lies about other guys as she is not my wife!
Q. i have been dating since 2 years. my girlfriend wants us to be engaged and then married. i have found her to be on dating sites many times and text messenging guys on different phone numbers. she always told lies about it, but now said that it is ...
A. 6 March 2013: So she is basically giving you an ultimatum that if you dont marry her, she is going to continue to solicit other men.
Why again do you think its a good idea to marry her?... (read in full...)
My wife cheated and I want to keep our family together but how do I get over the images in my head?
Q. Hello. I write to you today because I recently found out that my lovely wife, best friend, and mother of my 3 lovely children has had an ongoing sexual relationship for the last 10 years. I found emails from the two of them on her laptop and they ...
A. 6 March 2013: Sorry my man, but you need some tough love here. This was not a one time thing that she came clean about on her own, this was a woman who willingly subverted you in the most caustic way possible FOR TEN YEARS, and only admitted it as such after yo... (read in full...)
Would you marry a guy who never went to college?
Q. Currently less than 40% of men will graduate from college, that's 140 women with college degrees for ever 100 men with a degree. at best its expected to get worse, on top of that jobs traditionally held predominantly by men are evaporating at an ...
A. 6 March 2013: Disclaimer - I am college educated and have four college degrees.
That said, the costs of college are increasing to the point where people are figuring out its just not worth it. I would caution you, there is a big difference between going to... (read in full...)
What does this staring married man want from me?
Q. There is this married guy at the gym, now if he is happily married he really should not be interested in me or constantly staring at me. I try ignoring him it just does not work. I refuse to change gyms. What does he want from me?...
A. 6 March 2013: Are you really this bothered by someone "looking" at you? I suggest you focus more on your workout and less on who is checking you out and you'd probably be better off....... (read in full...)
Have you ever regretted your first time?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles. Have you ever regretted your 'first time'? I'm a 17, soon to be 18, year old dude that is thinking about losing his virginity. When I hit puberty i never virginity or sex in particular was ever going to be a concern...
A. 6 March 2013: In all of my life, Ive never once heard a woman say "I wish I didnt wait so long to lose it." I have lost count on how many times Ive heard "I wish I waited longer/for the right person."
For men, its a bit different as our evolutionary relics c... (read in full...)
IS this modeling agency on the up and up? They asked me do do some rather risque things?
Q. hi, im really stuck! i need help. i have been contacted by a modeling agency asking if im interested in modeling. i am and i always have been i would love to be a model. The only thing is she told me i had to do my audition on skype on a web cam in ...
A. 6 March 2013: No reputable modeling agency would contact you and then ask you to "audition" by Skype.
Not a guess.... (read in full...)
I made a mistake by cheating and boyfriend met someone. How do I get him back?
Q. Hi all. Two years ago today I was dumped by my ex. We both did things to each other. I accept I made him insecure by constantly flirting with attractive guys when we went out, and by flirting on dating sites (which he always found out about). I did ...
A. 5 March 2013: Yes - we HAVE told you what to do. LEAVE HIM ALONE. Many others have repeated it here yet you still cannot accept that.
Again, LEAVE HIM ALONE. That is clear, concise, and contains no ambiguity.
Not sure what else you need, but I can tell y... (read in full...)
All my boyfriend does is sleep, and I'm getting upset?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. I'm a senior and he's a college freshman. We spend time together, but most of that time is spent sleeping. For example, we'll be skyping at 10pm usually, but he'll go to bed around 11-12...
A. 4 March 2013: I survived on less than 6 hours of sleep per night from college all the way until I was about 40. His sleeping is not normal. I wonder if he is a pot smoker, because those are the only people I see sleep as much as you describe.... (read in full...)
It is ok for a single childless woman to date a man with kids?
Q. Hi. My question is: is there ever anything good about a single childless woman who doesn't plan to have kids having a relationship with a divorced guy with kids? Or is it always just bad? I've read a lot about the negatives, does anyone know if ...
A. 3 March 2013: Of course its ok, but I warn you about the following - how ever many kids he has, add one to that number- that is the number you come in. Further, living with someone elses children typically has all of the downsides of parenting (costs, time, ... (read in full...)
My crazy ex claimed she was pregnant the day after we broke up!
Q. Hello, I feel like I'm falling apart and desperately need some help and advice from others to help me piece everything together in my own head. So about 2 months ago I was introduced to a girl through a mutual friend who thought we might be good...
A. 3 March 2013: Since claiming pregnancy is a very ex-psycho thing to do after a breakup, I would be very skeptical. Even if it turns out she really is (unlikely), I would demand a DNA test. ... (read in full...)
Everybody knew about my boyfriend's pregnant girlfriend but me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years and I just recently found out that not only has he been cheating on me for years but the girl is now pregnant. The reason I found out was because a friend of the family told me. When I asked him ...
A. 3 March 2013: You need to be jumping for joy for how thankful you are because you have this knowledge about him BEFORE you ever married him. Thank your personal God you know and move on.... (read in full...)
Will my married lover leave his wife? Or just keep me holding on to hopelessness?
Q. I have fallen in love with a married man. He has not divorced her. Our relationship has been 3 yrs. I want to end the relationship but things keep getting better between us. She was in an accident last year and still in recovery. I am unsure i...
A. 3 March 2013: He will not leave her.
Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
I made a mistake by cheating and boyfriend met someone. How do I get him back?
Q. Hi all. Two years ago today I was dumped by my ex. We both did things to each other. I accept I made him insecure by constantly flirting with attractive guys when we went out, and by flirting on dating sites (which he always found out about). I did ...
A. 3 March 2013: You need to leave him alone. Of all my relationships, only one girl I dated cheated on me - although she never had the courage to admit it, but I knew it with 100% certainty. Of all my relationships, she is the one I think about least and would ... (read in full...)
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