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writes:Ok well, this is pushing me to the limit I can't handle this any more I think there is some thing wrong with my mom. She wakes up at 330am every morning because she makes coffee right next to my room because the kitchen is next to my room, so anyways she wakes up at 330am says she has to go to work bla bla bla. I thank she is doing or is on some type of drug or she is cheating on us because she has been really been freaking me out and I don't know what to do because this is effecting my sleep and my dad is been yelling at me ect for just waking up in saying this is wrong I don't thank this is right it just makes me really mad that she is doing this in letting my dad yell at me for saying some thing about this and I got to deal with this for the next 2weeks I don't thank there is any thing I can do any advise well help thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 May 2013):
 So there's a law against disturbing the peace or what it's called. But I doubt that making oneself a cup of coffee in one's own kitchen at any time generates a volume of decibels enough to qualify as such an offence. Why don't you ask the cops :) Sure, go ahead , call them. Say " Come at once, my mom is breaking the law by initiating noisy coffeemaking nocturnal activities " . I'd be curious to hear what they say.
As for you being concerned about Mom's health ( of which there's no trace whatsoever in your original post ), ..that would be nice, if it weren't for the fact that apparently you are such a resourceless,hapless type that you can't get yourself a pair of earplugs or a set of noise abating headphones, ...or find yourself another place to sleep if nothing will do. So,I think that your mom will have a level of competence and resourcefulness superior to yours. In other words, you mind your business and let her mind hers ! She knows what she can handle and anyway at het age she does not need sleeping 8 hours, the older you get the less sleep you need.
Anyway, -and that's not clear from your post ) : since she HAS to get up at 3 because she goes to work,- if you want her to sleep more you'd have to convince her to go to bed sooner, not to wake up later, right ?
So it seems you think she is not going to work but somewhere else . Based on what ? Again, how can you possibly, living in the same house, not know if your mother works and where ?
Actually, there is a simple way to find out. Why don't you just get your butt out of your warm cozy bed at 3 am too for once, and offer to drive her to work, or to ride the bus ( or whatever transportations she uses ) with her just for company ?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 May 2013):
 Wow. Are you always so angry op? There is no law so that you can sleep. There is a noise ordinance in most places but that’s about it. So maybe you are confused by this. You btw did NOT say you were concerned about your mom. Let me recap what you said:
This is pushing me to the limit (no concern here)
I can’t handle this anymore (no concern here)
I think there is something wrong with my mom (this could be concern if it was properly fleshed out but you immediately launch into:
She wakes up at 3:30 am every morning because she makes coffee right next to my room (no concern here)
You continue on saying you think she’s doing drugs or cheating on “us” “she has been really been freaking me out and I don't know what to do because this is effecting my sleep” (note the focus is on YOUR sleep being affected NOT her wellbeing.) DO YOU SEE how you made it about you and not her?
You go on to say that your dad is yelling at you and you do not think this is right. So your dad yelling at you is not right… AGAIN it’s all about YOU OP. YOUR dad yelling at YOU not your mom being sick.
You continue with “I don't thank (sic) this is right it just makes me really mad that she is doing this in letting my dad yell at me for saying some thing about this and I got to deal with this for the next 2weeks I don't thank (sic) there is any thing I can do any advise well help thanks.”
SO in your original post I see many complaints about YOUR not sleeping and YOU being yelled at and YOU thinking it’s not right… but one BRIEF comment as an aside about your concern for your mom doing drugs or “cheating on us”. NOTHING about her heath.
All of a sudden SEVEN strangers call YOU on the carpet about your complaining and magically it’s about your concerns for your mother’s health. I’m sorry OP I call BS and backpedaling.
So now you want to talk about your mother’s health and your concern for her sleep. Many of us function just fine on 4-6 hours of sleep per night. Studies have shown that breaking up your sleep is just as effective as getting 8 hours. Studies have also shown that getting 4-6 is normal for some people. Also as we AGE most of us need less sleep. I regularly get less than 6 and function fine.
If you are concerned about your mother’s health have you told her this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou people are fing dicks do you understand that there is a law so that you can sleep! I said I was Concerned about my mom I have no problem that she wakes up for work at 3 in the morning, it Concerned me that she was not getting her sleep. That she needs, I'm sry but 4 to 5 hrs a night is not a lot of sleep for a human being and that why she has to be some place every day just bothers me because that is just saying I don't care.
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reader, khot  +, writes (1 May 2013):
 Wats wrong with yo mum making coffee really? Wat makes noise e cattle or wat? Doesn't she own tht kitchen? Appreciate your mother n say how much you love her and how thankful you are she is still alife n stop having silly complaints. How mny hours does e noise last? I'm sure its minutes
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reader, Serpico +, writes (30 April 2013):
You're 22+ and living in her house - she can do whatever she pleases.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (30 April 2013):
Unless there are more details that you have omitted, there's nothing to be freaked out about, in fact maybe it's your mother that should be freaked out by a son who wants to send her off to work in the middle of the night without even a cup of coffee inside her stomach. Why should your mom be on drugs, because she goes to work early, or because she likes coffe... ? You say " she SAYS she goes to work blah blah ", what does it mean, do you think she is going somewhere else instead ? You are her son and you live in the same house, how can you not know where she works, doing what and with which schedule ?...Anyway, your problem has an easy solution. If earplugs are not enough, get yourself online ( for less than 20 USD ) a set of noise abating headphones, like those used by construction workers and keep them on when you sleep. It works like a charm.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (30 April 2013):
 If you really are in the age group 22-25 my best advice is to get out on your own, that way your mom can't wake you up at 3:30 am.
I too have to get up once at night, for me it's habit. An I do not take any drugs or cheat either, only thing I take in pill form are vitamins.
Do you jump to the conclusion that she cheats because she gets up early? Because THAT part makes no sense.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 April 2013):
I wake up most mornings at 3:30 and I’m not cheating on anyone. It’s a joyful function of being a middle aged woman sadly.
You say she is doing or is on something? She is cheating ON US? Who is this US you speak of? If you are mad at your mom for waking up and your dad is defending your mom then the person with the problem is YOU.
Tisha has good advice… earplugs or white noise machine although if the smell of the coffee is what’s waking you, move your room if you can.
Why is it only 2 weeks you have to deal with it.. if it’s two weeks and you know mom gets up and makes coffee at 3:30 adjust your sleep so 3:30 is not too early to wake up it’s only 2 weeks.
If it's their house, then it's their rules...
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (30 April 2013):
 Invest in a really good set of earplugs, you can buy a temporary pair at the drugstore.
If there is another room to move into for the next 2 weeks, go there, or sleep on the couch. You could always move to a hotel or motel or a friend's couch or spare bedroom.
Is this her house or yours? If it's hers, then you need to accommodate to her schedule, not vice versa. Complaining about her hours to her or your dad makes you sound like a selfish whiner. If she has to get up at 330 am to go to work, feel sorry for her, instead of being angry with her. Have some compassion.
Has it occurred to you that this might be a ploy to help you leave the nest?
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