Should I send Valentines cards to the 2 girls that I like?
Q. I am becoming more confident in asking girls out, but I'm not sure about these, so I need some advice: The girl who does my massage has a great personality and is very sexy. I have had feelings for her for a while now, and when I go and see her w...
A. 14 February 2013: iAmHere - And Im telling you the odds that she is really "dating" someone are very much contingent upon the way he presented himself and went about it. If she is really engaged or in a long term relationship and very happy, then fine. But if s... (read in full...)
Should I send Valentines cards to the 2 girls that I like?
Q. I am becoming more confident in asking girls out, but I'm not sure about these, so I need some advice: The girl who does my massage has a great personality and is very sexy. I have had feelings for her for a while now, and when I go and see her w...
A. 14 February 2013: Yep - answer does not surprise me in the least. Don't tell me - her answer was some variation of "Awwwww. That's so sweet.....but I have a boyfriend." If I had a nickle for every time I heard that early on. When I was Mr Niceguy, seemed like ... (read in full...)
Gf says she'd date her ex if we broke up. How would you react if a partner said this? Unsettled? Insecure?
Q. If you were having general conversation, and your boyfriend or girlfriend admitted that they'd consider dating some of their ex's again, hypothetically, if you two broke up, would that alarm you or bother you? My gf admitted that if we broke up...
A. 12 February 2013: For one, talking of ex's in a relationship is seldom a good idea. I think this is an example of why...... (read in full...)
How will I ever find a nice guy to date with all this crap that people are led to believe from advertising?
Q. Sorry if this seems like a rant, but honestly, I'm just so upset/angry. I'm not exactly the biggest fan of men, just because I'm friends with men, so I hear all of the "Oh, my girlfriend is hot.. OMG that girl over there would so get it!" constan...
A. 12 February 2013: Good Lord. Please stop whining because you cannot find a man. You are insulting and offensive to the good guys on this board who have to read this.... (read in full...)
Should I send Valentines cards to the 2 girls that I like?
Q. I am becoming more confident in asking girls out, but I'm not sure about these, so I need some advice: The girl who does my massage has a great personality and is very sexy. I have had feelings for her for a while now, and when I go and see her w...
A. 12 February 2013: punchwolf - Yeah yeah - women don't like arrogant guys - it wouldn't work for me - I've heard those lines a million times from ladies mouths - right before they go home with the biggest a-hole in the bar. Regarding this fact, what woman SAY a... (read in full...)
I'm starting to think I have more feelings for my girlfriends daughter than for my girlfriend!
Q. I am a 26 yr old man currently dating a 43 yr old that has a 18 yr old daughter and 2 younger boys I am finding a hard time not becoming attracted to her now she is of age me and her mom have been together for a few years now what should I do I am ...
A. 11 February 2013: This is exactly why I caution women about dating a man who is significantly younger than them. You are 26, she is 43. In 7 years, she'll be 50, and you'll be 33 and entering your prime career years. At 33, a man can easily date a woman 25, or ... (read in full...)
He's married. We're strongly attracted. I even told his wife nothing was 'going on'. I want to have sex with him, should I?
Q. Hi...this is my first time seeking advice through the internet. I'm almost 20 years old. I applied for a job at a restaurant and I got the job and the general manager is 37. During the interview we made deeply eye contact and then once he...
A. 11 February 2013: Having an affair with your boss, who is almost twice your age, who is also married.
I mean, what could possibly go wrong?... (read in full...)
Should I send Valentines cards to the 2 girls that I like?
Q. I am becoming more confident in asking girls out, but I'm not sure about these, so I need some advice: The girl who does my massage has a great personality and is very sexy. I have had feelings for her for a while now, and when I go and see her w...
A. 11 February 2013: Unless you are already dating them, DO NOT send Valentines day cards to them! It will only give you the "nice guy" label, if you dont have it already.
If you want to be known as the "nice guy," then send cards and flowers to women you arent al... (read in full...)
Online dating -- I'm an idiot...
Q. I met a man online, I haven't dated for a while by choice...but we seemed to have a lot in common. I spoke to him via the site for a while and then we moved on to phone and text and we texted back and forth all day everyday. We agreed to meet and ...
A. 11 February 2013: OP wrote - "Hmm I feel like I should add to this I'm not promiscuous in fact this has turned out to be my only one night stand, and the point about men not wanting to have a relationship with someone who slept with them on a first date is a complete ... (read in full...)
How can I ever learn to trust guys again? And find a Genuine guy? My last Bf was a liar and a cheat.
Q. My most recent ex boyfriend was a liar and a cheater. He was super good looking and charming so I always fell for whatever he said and couldn't tell what was really going on. I am only just now starting to see what really happened. It's b...
A. 11 February 2013: If you take out the pain of the cheater on your future bfs, you simply wont have many long term future bfs.
It happened to me - and I left. Not saying what happened to you was fair, but its not the fault of anyone who comes after him. Dont pun... (read in full...)
Can anyone please explain to me how it's possible to be too sweet?
Q. Can anyone please explain to me how it's possible to be too sweet? Last weekend when I went out with a girl I've known a few years, we got a little drunk and totally unexpected she kissed me, I've liked this girl since the moment I met her but be...
A. 11 February 2013: Esp at your age, many women are attracted to the "bad boy" type. Does that mean you have to ride motorcycles and get tattoos? No, but it does mean you have to act confident to the point of being arrogant. Please do not listen to any woman on this ... (read in full...)
Family won't let me see him since he was arrested
Q. hi everyone.. . well, just to start off this weekend has been ery hectic in a very emotional way. You see, there is this boy that I have been talking to since the begining of the school year ( since august), and we have gone more attached I would...
A. 11 February 2013: You are in that 16-24 year old age range which for some reason a lot of females seem to temporarily lose half of their IQ points. The guy just got arrested - he is clearly trouble. Whats the disconnect here? Your aunt is clearly outside of the ... (read in full...)
Online dating -- I'm an idiot...
Q. I met a man online, I haven't dated for a while by choice...but we seemed to have a lot in common. I spoke to him via the site for a while and then we moved on to phone and text and we texted back and forth all day everyday. We agreed to meet and ...
A. 11 February 2013: A tough lesson. I personally dont know any guy who would be willing to make an emotional investment in a woman who slept with him on the first date. Most of us simply arent wired that way.
Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
Do you think it's my place to tell a woman whom I do know that her husband is cheating on her?
Q. Recently, I've developed an unusual hobby of seeing how many married men in the area I live are cheating on their wives. I have always been a really great snoop and considered being a private investigator at one point. There is a site I found which ...
A. 11 February 2013: You need to be playing a less dangerous game. I dont think you realize the risks you are taking for very little reward....... (read in full...)
I shared intimate pics with a woman on FaceBook, and now her boyfriend says he'll post them on the Internet. Worried sick ... what can I do?
Q. Hello I recently found a group on fb called [name removed by mod]. I thought it would be a bit of fun and added a girl I thought I liked the look of from the page. Without prompting she started telling me all kinds of sexual things and was as...
A. 11 February 2013: Read what iAmHere wrote below. If it doesnt sink in, read it again until it does....... (read in full...)
What do men like to hear from their women during sex?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm just looking for a few personal opinions on what men would like most from their women during sex, i.e. what do you like to hear, what do you want her to do, etc. Any tips are appreciated! Thank you!...
A. 11 February 2013: I dont need my woman to SAY anything, in terms of actual words. For me, nothing turns me on more than watching her have one of those extended 90 second orgasms........ (read in full...)
Is it healthy to be turned on by a girl because she did porn or sleeps with men for money?
Q. hi, i was talking to a friend of mine and he was saying how he was interested in this girl, and said that she once performed in a few adult videos and still does some escort work. Its a little beyond my stuff I'm used to so i was pretty surprised...
A. 11 February 2013: I would caution you to distinguish between "turned on by" and "capable of being in a relationship with."
Being turned on by a porn star is one thing. Making an emotional investment in her is quite another.... (read in full...)
Did cancelling once mean I missed my chance?
Q. I've been texting back and forth with this guy for ages and he hasn't asked me out more than one time, which I had to reschedule and eventually cancel at extremely short notice when my sat nav wasn't finding our meeting place. I probably should have ...
A. 11 February 2013: I personally wouldn't ask a girl out again after she cancelled the first time without a damn good reason. ... (read in full...)
Are my own actions becoming part of the problem in our relationship? I don't want to lose him. What should I do?
Q. I have so many trust issue, that it is going into my relationship with the person I am in love with. I really want to marry this man, but i find my self pushing him away from me. I have been hurt so much in my life and i have hurt him. i think he...
A. 11 February 2013: I once dated a woman who was cheated on by her husband. Our romance was intense but extremely volatile. She had serious trust issues, much much more than I was ever used to, and it wore on me quickly. I told her if it didnt stop, I would leave. ... (read in full...)
Was this just harmless flirting with my friend's sister, or is there something more?
Q. So I’ve never had the issue of being attracted to good friends little sisters until this weekend. She is 24, about as tall as me, she is really cool in all senses, and amazingly beautiful. It was my good friend for work, at his birthday party a...
A. 11 February 2013: Dude, you do need a better command of the obvious. This girl couldnt be anymore obvious.
If you like her, Id say go for it, but if your friend is a good friend I would say make sure you clear it with him first. Gfs are a dime a dozen, good fri... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity to him, but now it seems he's ready to move on. Do you think he is breaking up with me?
Q. My boyfriend and dated for two and half months. I loved him and thought he loved me and I lost my virginity to him the second month and three weeks later he sends me a message saying he hasn't been feeling hisself lately and that he is overwhelmed ...
A. 11 February 2013: At your age, please remember this for the rest of your life - for men, sex DOES NOT equal love. Not even close.
Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
Desperate - wife found a pic and says she is leaving
Q. My wife and I have had a very close relationship - and we have both been known to get a little freaky regarding sex. We both use porn (me more than her), but she has never had any issues w/it at all. I recently created a "locked" folder on my pho...
A. 10 February 2013: I do think its a bit funny that many of the women here who think its abhorrent that you have a locked file with only photos in it in the same breath think a "woman past is her own business."
As long as you werent cheating with this women, you comm... (read in full...)
What would be the negatives about having a first child when aged 35?
Q. I am turning 21 this year and the thought of having children anytime soon within the next 5 years sounds really unappealing to me. A lot of my high school friends are getting married and having children already. I just want to be free and single a...
A. 10 February 2013: I am 44. I am getting married for the first time this June and plan to have my first child shortly after. The advantages for me - 1 - Waiting until I was more mature allowed me to wait to find just the right partner. 2 - Waiting allowed ... (read in full...)
I'm really disappointed in myself. How can I motivate myself?
Q. So lately i have been feeling like a nobody. I dont have a job, i dropped out of school back in 2008, havent been able to get my g.e.d and have been a house wife ever since my son was born in 2009. Ive had two jobs between 2009 thru now but didnt ...
A. 7 February 2013: Ok, tough love time.
Everything you have posted screams to me of outright laziness. "I had two jobs but didnt stay long." "I wake up and forget about looking for a job." You know, I get up at 530AM every day so Im in the office by 645AM, a... (read in full...)
He's an older married man and the chemistry between the two of us is elecric. How can I get over this strong attraction?
Q. Hello all I am separated. He is married. We work together. There is this crazy, undeniable electricity between us. Just hit us both out of the blue. We have known each other for a year in the workplace. It is at the point where when we look at each...
A. 7 February 2013: This is what you do. You dont do anything inappropriate. See how easy?... (read in full...)
My parents aren't giving me the freedom I deserve
Q. Hi I'm 21 yrs old and I'm having some trouble issues with my family,especially my father.I'm the tybe of guy who doesn't have many friend maybe 2 or 3 friends(guys)and I think my parents cause this to me.I barely go out and have fun with friends ...
A. 7 February 2013: If you move out on your own and are completely self-supporting you likely can do whatever you want. If you are still living under their roof however....... (read in full...)
I work full time. Don't want to settle down. Do want a nice Gf. So where can I meet such a girl?
Q. I'm 20 years old, haven't gone to university, instead I work. Most girls who are my age or a little younger are either at uni or going to uni in a few months. I'm not looking to settle down and no matter what happens with girls I'm still focu...
A. 7 February 2013: Depends what you mean by "nice" GF. If you mean conservative and traditional, chances are you wont find her in a bar. You may do better at church groups and the like.... (read in full...)
Are relationships that exist with absolutely NO violence towards one another?
Q. Aunts and Uncles... Have any of you (honest answers please) had a physical fight with your current spouse? I just want to know if there are relationships that exist with absolutely NO violence towards one another. Again, please be honest. Th...
A. 6 February 2013: I have been with my fiancee for 5 years. I cannot for the life of me even conceive of a situation where I would lay one finger on her in a violent manner, and I have a bad temper.... (read in full...)
What should I do if my boyfriend asks for sex?
Q. Dear cupid, am 16 and a virgin i love my b/f very much but what should i do if he ask for sex?...
A. 6 February 2013: You should say no until you are ready.... (read in full...)
He re-arranged my furniture because his kids wanted it that way! They were guests, surely they should have left it alone?
Q. Please help. I have stayed over at boyfriends place before, when his two kids of 9 and 7 were visiting as well. (They live with their mum.) There were no real problems. He had some time off to look after them when they had a couple of days off ...
A. 6 February 2013: Add up the number of children he has. Now add one to it. At best, that is the place in his life that you will always have. If that is not absolutely fine with you, dont date someone with children.... (read in full...)
Did I do something wrong? This girl looked so irritated when I looked at her
Q. I was walking down the hall at school and a girl was coming my way. At first i didn't notice her because I was looking down when I was walking, then I looked up and saw her looking at me and when I started looking back she looked away, like she didn...
A. 6 February 2013: Dude - I dont know how else to say it, but you need to get some confidence. ... (read in full...)
What's a sweet way to ask a girl out on a date? And should I wait until Valentines day?
Q. I been meeting this girl, I do like her and I know she likes me to. Any sweet ideas on asking her out? Nothing over the top, I want to keep it simple. Valentines day is also coming up, I'm not sure if a girl would like to be asked out before...
A. 6 February 2013: Listen to mouse. Do NOT try to be sweet and cutesy with flowers or Valentines day or anything like that. That will end up in no date and wasted money. You want to date this woman - be a man about it. Go and ask her out. If she has another ... (read in full...)
We only have sex once a day when we used to have sex 6 times a day! Are we on different pages sexually?
Q. Cupids, my boyfriend and i dont have sex as often as we used to. We used to have crazy wild sex and passionate sex at minum 6 times a day. Yes we were horny teens then but we arent much older. He is 20 and i am 21. Could our age have effects on why ...
A. 6 February 2013: I am and have been one horny SOB in my life. That said, six times a day is a lot, even for me, even at age 18. You need some energy for life as well.... (read in full...)
What should I do? Call it quits until he gets his stuff together or tough it out a little longer?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we have been together for 2 months. I've known him 9 months before actually making it official. Anyways at this time he's currently jobless and Car less . He has been applying for any kinda of job yet nothing has come up. He ...
A. 1 February 2013: People are unemployed for extended periods for a reason. He may be a nice guy, but financially he's a loser. Decide what you want.... (read in full...)
Is he sticking around for sex or he genuinely likes me?
Q. Met this guy online. First date was at his house, and yes ended up making out in his bed but no sex. Second time i was drunk and lonely. He texted and ask if i want to go over to "cuddle". again i agreed, and i ended up at his house. No sex as ...
A. 1 February 2013: Im going to give you a spoiler. You are nothing more to him than an high-five to his friends. Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
Anyone have a boyfriend who was so satisfied he gave up porn?
Q. Are there any women here whose boyfriend's stopped watching porn because they felt they didn't need it anymore because they were satisfied fully? My ex claimed he would of stopped anyway if I hadn't of told him to stop....
A. 1 February 2013: The problem with this line of though is linking satisfaction with you with porn use. This is the same mistake woman make regarding this issue over and over.
If he's using it daily, he has an addiction. Has nothing to do with you.... (read in full...)
Who could care and have feelings for 3 year affair?
Q. Is it easy for a man to have a 3yr sex fling with a woman and care nothing for her? My husband has been sleeping with this hoe for 3yrs.I know its only sex. She now has feelings for him but he cares nothing for her. She can't get that through her ...
A. 1 February 2013: Most men can use a woman just for sex almost indefinitely. We have sex and love almost completely separate. Most women dont.... (read in full...)
Married four years and she does not want to work. I'm ready to walk. What would you advise?
Q. Hi I have a question we been Married four years. Before that she was working. Now she feels she doesn't have to work. I talk to her about getting a job. She won’t do it, and I'm tired of doing it all. He is no help. Instead she wants me to do a lot...
A. 1 February 2013: She is a leach. Get out while you still can and thank your personal God that you realized it early.... (read in full...)
What is the time frame in moving on from a broken heart?
Q. How long it takes to move on from a broken heart in a relationship when you plan to stay single for some time (atleast a year or more) . A relationship which wasn't always perfect but it had its good sides! and how to make it easy to move on?...
A. 1 February 2013: 15 min. Sorry, make that 5 min.
As I look back on my life, some of the only time I have regretted was wallowing over a break up. Its pure wasted time, and every women that I wallowed over I ended up being ultimately overjoyed she was gone.
... (read in full...)
My husband says he doesn't watch porn or masturbate ever. Is this possible?
Q. All I ever read on this site is how men use porn. If a guy says he isn't using porn then he is lying. I read a post just the other day for a woman who wanted a man who didn't cheat, watch porn, look at other women, etc. It got tons of replies all ...
A. 1 February 2013: Honestly, it sounds like you're looking for a problem where none exists....... (read in full...)
I married at 20. Now I've fallen for a colleague. He has a Gf. Is my colleague playing mind games with me?
Q. Hi all. I 30 years old and I am madly in love with my colleague and we are having an affair. When we met it was a moment where I took one look at him and felt electric heart-pounding it felt like I knew him already. We hit it off immediately but ...
A. 1 February 2013: First - nothing "just happens." That is the biggest cop-out going. YOU have CHOSEN it to happen. Second, you are in a committed relationship. You need to come clean with your husband and let HIM decide if he still wants to be with you. If not, ... (read in full...)
How can people have sex with the same person and not get bored?
Q. I am still a virgin so I have no knowledge of such things, but it seems to me that If I had sex with the same girl all the time then things would get very boring, kind of like watching the same movie over and over and over again. Assuming that ...
A. 1 February 2013: I dont have an answer that would make much sense to most 16 year old males. I know it didnt make much sense to me at that age.
It took me until I was 44 to be certain I didnt have to wander anymore. ... (read in full...)
Are we moving to fast?
Q. I've been dating a guy for 3 months and the beginning was rough but things have turned out great. I spend the night at his house almost everyday, he takes me to work some days at 7 am, I've net his mother 3 times. He has even joke about how ...
A. 1 February 2013: Yes, you are moving to fast, esp at your age.... (read in full...)
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