My girlfriend was annoyed by my FB post. Did she over-react? Was her reaction immature? I thought the post was light fun.
Q. Three days ago, I wrote on my Facebook Wall that "If you can't change the girl, change the girl!" . My girlfriend (for two years) didn't like it and called me jerk when she met me later. She is talking to me but can see some change in her at...
A. 23 April 2013: In my life, I have somehow found a way to eliminate all of the strife that seems to ubiquitously follow FB and Twitter posts.
I dont have an account for either, and I can say without fear of contradiction that my life is all the better for it.... (read in full...)
I want this to be more than just "One Night Stand". What should I do guys to make this work?
Q. Dear All So here it goes, I have a colleague at my work place that I truly am attracted to him and wouldn't mind being in a relationship with him. He lately been flirting with me sexually, his been touching my waist when he has the ...
A. 23 April 2013: The key to having it be more than a one night stand is not allowing it to become a one night stand........ (read in full...)
I feel as if I set myself up for failure. Are men just not interested in pregnant woman?
Q. So I am 3 months pregnant but I am not now with the father because things weren't working out. I did things I shouldn't have done when I was mad. I didn’t Like the person I was when I was with him. But anyway, we aren’t together, and I’m not lo...
A. 23 April 2013: Ok - tough love time.
As much as the romantic side of us hate to admit it, life, for EVERYONE, is all about choices and selecting the best of those choices available to us. Generally speaking, having children and being pregnant is not going to... (read in full...)
My controlling Aunt wants us to change the date of our wedding. How can I deal with her reaction?
Q. Recent events have upset me and dare say ruined my wedding ...Please read... My aunt (my dad’s sister) has always been a bit controlling. I remember when I was a child she'd always have tantrums and cause arguments if things didn't go her wa...
A. 23 April 2013: I didnt read past the first sentence.
YOUR wedding. End of story.... (read in full...)
Did my panicking ruin my relationship for good?
Q. Hi! My boyfriend and I broke up after two and a half years together at the end of January because of my over the top overreacting and how I handle things sometimes. It started out as a break but I panicked and it turned into a break up. I kept...
A. 20 April 2013: By texting and calling hundreds of times in one night, you only confirmed to him his reasons to break up with you....... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's past threesome never bothered me before but now it does
Q. I've been seeing this girl for about a year now. She told me about 6 months ago that she had been involved in a threesome. It'd happened about 15 years ago. It honestly didn't really bother me at all. I know girls experiment and everything and it ...
A. 18 April 2013: That would be a lot for me to handle. The truth is, the more you care about her, the more it will likely bother you. If it were me, Id cut my losses. Good luck to you.... (read in full...)
Is it possible for 34 year old man be interested in 26 year old woman? I am separated with 3 children.
Q. Ok so I'm a 26 year old single mom of three young kids. I've been seperated from my husband for a year and a half, we need to save money for a divorce. Anyways i jus met a 34 year old man about 2 weeks ago but only been talking for a week. i me...
A. 18 April 2013: I agree with what CindyCares says. 26 is fine for a 34 year old male. I know a lot of 30ish successful guys who date 20ish women. That said, I dont know a lot of 30ish successful guys who would want to deal with another mans three children. Just ... (read in full...)
Why do girls like guys with attitude? Why can't they admit they don't like swet guys?
Q. I’m in a relationship with my current girlfriend for the last 14 months. Before that, I was in relationship twice : for two years and one year respectively and I was dumped because I was too sweet and loveable boyfriend. Before entered into...
A. 18 April 2013: Once again, it is because of our evolution. In our distant past, the most likely male to provide/protect a woman were the dominant/aggressive alpha-males. Unfortunately, our society moves much faster than our evolutionary drives, so that is a ... (read in full...)
How important is it to date your type (physical preference)?
Q. How important is it to date someone your type? I've always liked guys with softer features and slender eyes, seemingly shy but with a bright smile. My first ex was exactly that and I've never been more attracted to anyone else. He was cute more...
A. 18 April 2013: For me, its extremely important. I am of Northern European decent - and I have discovered I strongly prefer ladies of South American decent. Once I dated one for the first time a decade ago, I have never went back. I am getting married to one at ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out? Or is the age difference too much?
Q. So a bit of a random question, I have moved offices at work and now am at a office closer to home. Of which is next to a bakery.. over the past few months I have been in for my lunch and have met a nice young girl, who seems nice and has a nice ...
A. 18 April 2013: Stick with the formula - 1/2 your age plus seven. So at 25, the youngest for you is 19.5.
It truly seems to work at any point during your life.... (read in full...)
I don't want to raise another child alone. I don't think this relationship will last. Should I have an abortion?
Q. Hello all, I need some major advice. I am 29 and a decent paying job. I have a 12 year old that I have raised by myself. I am currently 13 weeks pregnant and fully comitted for about 3 years. This would be his first child. His job is not that gre...
A. 18 April 2013: IMO, you need to get the order of operations correct.
1 - Commitment to you (marriage)
2 - Lifelong commitment to a child.
... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed and hurt because he got a lap dance for his birthday!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for one year now and the day before our one year anniversary he went out for his 21st birthday and went to a strip club with his friends. They also paid for him to have a private lap dance. He said nothing else happened ...
A. 21 March 2013: At the end of the day, this is complete non issue. He very likely got nothing out of it, doesnt care about her, and will with almost certainty never see her again.
If you love your bf, forget it and move on.... (read in full...)
He left, and I am desperate to know what to do
Q. So, for the past few months my husband and I have been having alot of problems. He has become very angry, to the point of verbal abuse and in his mind I am his enemy and at least every week he would blow up at me for some thing or another. Really ...
A. 21 March 2013: Lets see. Verbally abusive. Potentially physically abusive. Now he left and you dont know what to do? I think the word for that is CELEBRATE.... (read in full...)
She worshipped me and I treated her like dirt. I want to contact her. Should I try to do that?
Q. Some time ago I met a girl on a dating site and ended up hurting real bad and now she hates me. I can't very much blame her because she was always sincere with me and went out of her way to show a concern for me and interest in me. I was the exac...
A. 21 March 2013: Someone said write her a letter - and that would be my angle since its the best way for me to get my head together.
One piece of advice - you'd better make that letter about her, her feeling, how you screwed up and hurt her, and how you are sorr... (read in full...)
I cant move on.....I want him back no matter what it takes
Q. My boyfriend and I had been in a relationship since 13 months. The past three months, we had started fighting a lot. And the week before he broke up with me, I had brought up break up since he would fight on everything. But the fights never lasted ...
A. 21 March 2013: You're 16 - I know it seems like the end of the world because the emotions are so new to you. Trust me, its not. In fact, in 10 years you will regret every moment you spent wallowing over this guy. Not a guess.
Move on and forget him.... (read in full...)
How do you know if a guy likes you, or if he just wants sex?
Q. Hi to anyone who can help me figure this out. Male agony "uncles", your views are wanted the most. What I wonder is, when do you know if a guy actually likes you, or if he's just after sex? I have this kinda complecated "thing" with a friend of...
A. 21 March 2013: Very easy. If he will wait for months until you say yes, then he really likes you. Most players give up after the 3rd date - simply not worth the time and money when so many others will give it up prior to the third date.... (read in full...)
Is "no contact" really the best way to get over a breakup?
Q. Hi Everyone, I broke up with my boyfriend a couple months ago. I went "no contact" for the first 2 weeks but it was too difficult for me...I missed him so much, to the point of physical pain. Is this typical? We've been talking since then,...
A. 21 March 2013: For me, the best way to get over a breakup was to get out there immediately and get dating again. The moments of my life I squandered wallowing over a breakup was truly some of the most wasted time ever.... (read in full...)
My ex wants to get married but I cant forget about her past
Q. I was in a 5 year relationship with my ex.We have been broken up for 2 years.I ran into her at a restaurant and we began talking about getting back together.We started back dating and having fun together.After about 2 weeks she told me during our 2 ...
A. 21 March 2013: Unfortunately, the issues you have with her will likely get worse before they get better, if ever. This is just not something that goes away easily. Honestly, if I were you I would cut my losses right now. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend found out I lied and he posted naked pics of himself online to retaliate!
Q. Anyone want to give advice on whether I should stay with my bf or not? Here's my story. I hooked up with a guy a couple years ago. We still talk here and there. Current bf asks me if I ever hooked up with him. I lie and say no. A few other ...
A. 21 March 2013: Im not sure, but I think what describe is called "cutting off your nose to spite your face."... (read in full...)
I cheated with a married family friend and now feel crushed that he has ended things
Q. I made the bad decision to cheat on my husband but I don't know what makes me feel worse... The fact that I cheated or that the other guy broke it off because he doesn't want to hurt his wife. We are all very close and have been friends for years. ...
A. 21 March 2013: Whatever you are suffering from rejection, you deserve that.
Your husband needs to know. The acid test for ethics and morality is, if the roles were switched, do you think itd be right for you to know? Ie, if your husband did the same thing yo... (read in full...)
"The one"???
Q. How do you know if someone is "the One"? Just generally....
A. 21 March 2013: You typically do just know, but typically at an age greater than 21.... (read in full...)
He cheated. I told the girl, but she went back to him and he forgot about me.
Q. I Really need help with this one... So I have been doing a long distance relationship with this guy since last january of 2012 I was going to school in vegas and he lives in huntington beach 3 hour drive not bad. We actually saw eachother alot in ...
A. 21 March 2013: Ok - so this guy cheated on his gf with you, you told her, and he went back with her.
Why again do you want to be with this guy?... (read in full...)
Do guys think experienced girls are hotter?
Q. Do boys think girls are hotter when they find out that they have 'done stuff' with another boy ?...
A. 21 March 2013: Guys think girls who are experienced are easier to gain another "experience" with.
For long term prospects, absolutely not, in fact, often quite the opposite.... (read in full...)
Caught Him in the act. Now what?
Q. About 2 years ago I came home early and found my husband making out with her in my car in the driveway (we have a long country drive) He seemed devastated and vowed to go to therapy and never ever do that again. Found out at counseling it had ...
A. 21 March 2013: He is a cheater. Despite what he promises and what counselling he goes for, 99% he will not change.
If thats fine with you, stay. If not, leave. In the end, its that simple.... (read in full...)
We have grown apart in our marriage. Should I leave? Have others done it and came out ok?
Q. I am 38. I have been married for 14 years together 17. I have 3 children. I love my husband, I care for him but I'm not in love with him like I should be. I feel no attraction to him, have no desire and cannot give him affection. He is a good ...
A. 20 March 2013: The effort you want to put into leaving you should put into the relationship. A relationship is a living thing - it needs to be nurtured to live. You need to try to breathe some life back into it. Giving up is too easy.... (read in full...)
His kid saw us having sex! How do we handle this!
Q. Hey everyone, I cannot even think straight right now,my head is spinning..I'm dating my boyfriend for 3 years now,he is a divorcee and has a child..so the child visits the father on weekends but this weekend the mother called my boyfriend and said...
A. 20 March 2013: Ive dated girls before who had kids. It happens. No big deal.... (read in full...)
Is feeling unsure, after taking back a cheater, a normal response? Could he still be cheating?
Q. I have been with my fiance for almost 4 years. In the last year he asked me twice to marry him, after I said yes, he asked me 2 time to run off and get married in December last year and last month. However this month I found out he was cheating ...
A. 20 March 2013: He is a cheater, and you have that information now. Anything that happens to you now going forward is your own fault for putting yourself there.
Oh yeah, if you decide to have a child with this person, you should have your head examined. ... (read in full...)
I really like this girl. Should I try to interest her again? We broke up earlier.
Q. So I've known this girl for several years, we dated when we first met, but it didn’t work out because we were in school. We've been friends since then; we've fought and been there for each other through a lot. We hang out a lot, once I even ask...
A. 20 March 2013: Spoiler -
When a friend tells you they don't want to date you because "They're afraid of losing your friendship," that's nice person code for "I like you, but I'm not into at all sexually."
Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
My mother knew my b/f before we got together, and hates him
Q. So I've been seeing a guy for 2 months! He's quite a bit older but ages isn't my issue, he's separated from his wife but not a lot of people know and I've posted on here bout me not wanting to be slagged off at work for being a "home wrecker" even ...
A. 20 March 2013: Remember - "separated" = "still married."
Can be troublesome to start one thing before you're done w another.... (read in full...)
I want sex but my partner only wants sex when she is in the mood!
Q. It's common for women to refuse sex when they don't want to do it themselves even if their partner is desperate. Some will refuse time after time. Surely if relationships are about compromise, they should look to find a compromise on sex too, but ...
A. 20 March 2013: I used to have the same problems you are speaking of, then I got engaged to a South American woman. Problem solved.... (read in full...)
How can I forget my ex boyfriend if I still hate him?
Q. How can i forget my ex bf,if still i hate him for lying to me many times?Im trying to forgive him many times but still he deny the truth i was hurt why he did to me like this i was honest to me him,he promise many things but i know all of that is ...
A. 20 March 2013: Sageoldguy hit the nail on the head. The opposite of love is ambivalence.
... (read in full...)
How many things should you have in common?
Q. Hey guys, I'm just wondering but in a relationship, how much things should you have I'm common with? Should you "think" the same way and have every interest or hobbies the same to make it work...
A. 20 March 2013: In many ways, me and my fiancee are complete opposites. Shes Colombian and from a tropical climate. Im northern European decent from a cold climate. Shes 5 ft and 100 lbs. Im 6ft and 190 lbs. She lives for today. Im always planning the future. ... (read in full...)
How do I get someone I care about to stop smoking?
Q. I need some serious help. I feel like such a terrible person because I can't control my own emotions. Recently my friend started smoking and its crushed me, I've cried everyday since, just knowing he does it upsets me and I'd give anything in...
A. 20 March 2013: If he wants to quit, you can help him. If he doesnt want to quit, dont even bother trying. You can help someone who is trying, but you cannot "care" for someone who doesnt care already.... (read in full...)
I don't feel my boyfriend is completely open with me and I can't fully trust him. How do I get him to open up?
Q. If you are single or married to a business man please help with this concern of mine. First let me tell you all I have some trust issues that developed earlier on with how my father was with my mom. My mom trusted my dad and when he was out on h...
A. 20 March 2013: Op - no, what I am saying is when you work 14 hour days the last thing you want to do is come home and talk more about what you've been banging your head over all day. I dont think its fair to make someone do that, nor do I think its fair to spend ... (read in full...)
Is it me or him? I am sick of begging for sex. How can he be 23 and have such a low sex drive?
Q. I’m older than him. He is 23 and I am older. So if you are the kind of person who doesn’t understand the older woman, younger man relationship doesn't respond I’m looking for help and information. Not “advice” that’s not going to help me, at a...
A. 19 March 2013: I agree w SVC below. Not working IMO is sign of low testoserone. Low T means low sex drive. One thing about being a man is the need to work and provide. Its one evolutionary relic that serves us well today. I think a man who doesnt work can ... (read in full...)
What to do? I love her, I just don't want to spend the rest of my life with her. And I don't want to hurt her!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 18 months. We have had an amazing relationship, the best relationship I've ever had, but I do not feel that she is "the one". I don't truly believe there is a "one", but no matter what way I spell it out i...
A. 19 March 2013: Ive been in your situation before. I waited until she broke it off with me. I shouldnt have - I should have been the man and done it earlier. Its one of the things in life I regret.... (read in full...)
Why does he lie to me? How can I marry this man in two months?
Q. I really need help. Its no secret to my fiance that I don't trust him. I have talked to him about being honest and earning my trust back. But he continues to lie to my fsce. I give him every chance to be honest. Why does he lie to me? How can I ...
A. 19 March 2013: Oh - one more thing - cancelling and losing a deposit is FAR FAR FAR cheaper than going through a divorce.
Not wanting to lose deposit money may be one of the worst reasons Ive heard for going through with a wedding. Just think, do you think wh... (read in full...)
I don't feel my boyfriend is completely open with me and I can't fully trust him. How do I get him to open up?
Q. If you are single or married to a business man please help with this concern of mine. First let me tell you all I have some trust issues that developed earlier on with how my father was with my mom. My mom trusted my dad and when he was out on h...
A. 19 March 2013: Ok - a few things.
1 - Not that I blame you, but you have daddy issues. Whether you like it or not, that is coming into your relationships in one way or another. From what you write, it seems you have problems trusting men. Again, not that I b... (read in full...)
I never thought a long distance relationship would be so hard!
Q. Hello everyone, first of all, I really want to thank you for your time and good will to help. :) I've been in a long distance relationship for 2 months now. The last time I saw my boyfriend was a month ago. The problem is - I just miss him so much!...
A. 19 March 2013: IMO, a LDR cannot work at your age. For starters, you need to be rather financially secure so you can travel often and not worry about the expense. Next, at your age, there are just so many single people and new options arising every day, quite ... (read in full...)
Is he in love with me or am I being played
Q. About 9 month ago I met a boy, I fell for him straight away but he is no my bet friend. I told him a few months back that I liked him, to which he replied "I don't like you in that way", so I kind of learnt to see him more of a friend and see other ...
A. 19 March 2013: Make him wait for sex. That usually bears out a mans true intentions.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend Thinks oversleeping and not pitching for date is okay
Q. My boyfriend is a loving, amazing guy. He stood with me when my life was falling apart and never lets me down. Except when he makes plans. He plans fantastic dates or meetings with friends, and they're awesome indeed. IF HE SHOWS UP. I've lost co...
A. 19 March 2013: He sounds like someone who SAYS one thing and DOES another.
Never measure people by what they SAY, measure them by what they DO.
Proceed accordingly.... (read in full...)
Why does he lie to me? How can I marry this man in two months?
Q. I really need help. Its no secret to my fiance that I don't trust him. I have talked to him about being honest and earning my trust back. But he continues to lie to my fsce. I give him every chance to be honest. Why does he lie to me? How can I ...
A. 18 March 2013: No trust = no relationship.
Thing that bother you about your gf/bf always seem to get worse after marriage.
Marriage and who you marry is the single most important decision you will ever make regarding your own happiness.
Proceed accordi... (read in full...)
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