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reader, Serpico  +, writes (30 April 2013):
Never have a threesome with one of the other parties being someone you have a relationship with. It will not end well.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 April 2013):
 OP, Asking questions is a tried and true method of guiding folks... helping them to figure it out themselves is the hallmark of a good therapist.
No one can tell you what to do only help you figure out what you are willing to risk and lose to get what you want and/or need.
Life is about choices and you have to decide which is more important to you, your marriage and your husband or your WANTS that are NOT needs and can be ignored in order to be an adult and keep the vows you made 5 years ago.
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reader, starfish_2511  +, writes (30 April 2013):
starfish_2511 is verified as being by the original poster of the question @ Trisha,Am married for over 5 years now. When i married him..he was my perfect man and still is if i were not to ponder over my sexual escapades. All i see is you asking me questions about my wits, rather than guiding me ...I wouldn't have posted my question here if this is what i had to hear
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (29 April 2013):
 More specifically, if you are sexually adventurous, how did you come to choose this non-adventurous man to be your husband? Is this an arranged marriage? If you are a modern, sexually liberated woman, why would you agree to such an outdated tradition?
I'm asking why you put yourself into your own position, if you knew you were an adventurous woman who would get bored with vanilla type sex? Aren't you in charge of your own life?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (29 April 2013):
So why did you get married?
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reader, starfish_2511 +, writes (29 April 2013):
starfish_2511 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI almost did on one occasion and I got a weird look from him and that was the end of me sharing things with him. Although modern in many aspects he is still way far in such topics and doesn't really open up for such conversations.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (29 April 2013):
Have you discussed your urges with your husband?
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reader, starfish_2511 +, writes (28 April 2013):
starfish_2511 is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ Trisha1... Please red my question again...I mentioned that my urge just seems to come back strongly
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 April 2013):
I was in an open marriage. It did not survive being open and I strongly STRONGLY urge those folks who are not in open relationships who want to try it to reconsider it.
I would not encourage you to open your marriage bed to other people.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (24 April 2013):
 Hi, you can go ahead and do what you like but be prepared to lose your husband, indians are still relatively conservative and this may not sit well with your husband. Also remember if you introduce your husband to other woman, then also be prepared that he just might take a fancy to the third person in the bed.
There are lots of marriages that have been destroyed by the introduction of a third person into teh marriage. You need to ask yourself, is this adventure worth risking your marriage?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2013): You are who you are, and you desire what you'll always desire. Go for it and let him know. If he doesn't like it then he's the wrong man and not worth being with you, and you should move on.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 April 2013):
Why did you get married if you feel so sexually oppressed by being faithful?
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reader, Tashauk  +, writes (23 April 2013):
Don't do it is what you shouldn't do ! :)
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