How do I ask this girl out at work?
Q. How do I ask this girl out at work? I'm a male nurse who works in a hospital, and there's this really cute medical resident who floats around the other units that I've been crushing hard on for like 4 months. She's rarely on my unit however,...
A. 5 June 2013: Good gosh man, have some confidence in yourself - she will see it and like it. What I would do is since everything is so busy - Id say quickly - "Hey crazy day today. Why dont we grab a drink after work?"
If you want to find her alone for a se... (read in full...)
How to help my boyfriend to grow up?
Q. My boyfriend is 29, I’m 26 and we’re been together for 2 years now and living together for 6 months. We have our disagreements and concerns or mostly I do, so recently I’ve talked with him about our life together and how he sees everything. He said ...
A. 5 June 2013: By "growing up" of course you mean "Seeing the future as I see it."
He is who he is. If how he sees the future is not compatible with how you do, then you have a decision to make. But trust me, you wont change who he is. Doesnt happen.... (read in full...)
Confused here, do I ask her out or not?
Q. so I really like this girl but its not happening as we both want to stay friends plus she likes someone else, however this girl and I have been texting for over a week or 2 and things have been flirty and i think shes starting to like me as i know ...
A. 5 June 2013: He who hesitates.....
You need to go for it. Tell her simply, "Ok, this has gone on long enough. We should be going out, we both know it, so lets do it." Or something along those lines. Say it confidently, almost presumptively. You will kno... (read in full...)
She said that I am too emotional, so is she playing hard to get or is she not interested in me?
Q. I am asking a girl out,she happens to have had a fling with a friend ones but am inlove with her.I tried late last year and then stopped cause she kept complaining that I was too emotional but its just because am inlove with her.Can you express love ...
A. 5 June 2013: Ive said this here many times - a (straight) woman wants a man, not another woman. Be kind and attentive, but dont shower a woman with "I love you's" too early. Know what you want, be assertive and confident to the point of arrogant. Then buy a ... (read in full...)
My husband is a great dad except for his yelling!
Q. My husband is a great dad but if he has to ask my son and daughter to do somethng--ie clean up their rooms or take a shower more than twice, he starts yelling at them. My son is 10 and is really affected by that. he just starts crying and has told ...
A. 4 June 2013: Sorry, tough love here, but perhaps you should tell your 10 year old to do things when he's first told so then daddy wont have to yell at him. I was raised in a household that you were told once, yelled at a second time, and smacked if it to... (read in full...)
I like a guy but I've slept with his friend in the past, before I knew him. I've been honest and told him but what do I do now?
Q. Hi everyone! So I have a bit of a situation on my hands and could really use some help and advice with this. So, for the past year I was living and working in France and recently came home a couple of weeks ago. While I was out there, ...
A. 4 June 2013: Sorry, but you need to move on. I know no guy who would seriously date a girl that one of his friends slept with, especially a one night stand. To quote a friend in college - "Im not dating Ted's locker room high five."
He told you he's not long... (read in full...)
I found out that the woman I've been dating isn't a virgin as she hinted before!
Q. Background: im an atheist, also a virgin, I dont usually find virginity something necessary in a partner, but I do find it quite beautiful and special. Most of the feelings Ive built up for her in this time stem from the fact I belived (one time I ...
A. 4 June 2013: You have every right to value virginity in a SO. You also have every right to expect the truth be told to you about it.
Lies of any type always have a way of being uncovered. That she lied to you about something so obviously important to you m... (read in full...)
I am at the verge of begging him to take me back. Please help me!
Q. Dear Cupid My ex-bf broke up with me a month ago. I havent contacted him from the day he broke up with me as he said he's gonna block me in facebook, his phone, messagenger... Long story short, even after a month i miss him terribly, i kne...
A. 4 June 2013: You need to go out and start dating others again. You will quickly realize how not-all-that-special he is........ (read in full...)
I need advice on how to keep this going, and how do I develop a serious relationship?
Q. Okay, so I am like, really confused. I'm going into the 9th grade, which will make me a freshman and my boyfriend a sophomore. This is the second time that we've dated, the last time it was for 5 days shy of 2 months and I had no idea what I did ...
A. 4 June 2013: You are in 9th grade, are quite a few years short of being able to even recognize "a serious relationship," never mind being in one.
You are young and have a lot of maturing to do. A big part of that is going through many new relation... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's new boss is too flirtatious...what should he do?
Q. My boyfriend of one year recently started a new job. He is an extremely friendly and social person, just as a part of his personality. He told me a week into the job that he was getting vibes from his boss that she might be interested in him. She ...
A. 4 June 2013: Its very easy to set boundaries at work if that's what you're true goal is.... (read in full...)
Advice on getting him out of my head needed!
Q. So I have liked this guy for 9 months now and I can't seem to get him. ut of my head. He has a girlfriend or did last time I knew, she said how she was moving back to where she's from. And i'm not sure if he's going with her or not. He lives in on...
A. 4 June 2013: Date someone else. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells his friends and family everything...we have no privacy!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly a year. We are very happy but seem to disagree on matters of privacy in our relationship. For instance, when we first had sex, he told a lot of his friends. I didn't think much of that, and okayed that ...
A. 4 June 2013: I have always told my significant others - NEVER do your dirty laundry out in public. Once the problem passes, the information is still out there and persists. If you have a problem, then work it out between you. If you cant work it out, then move ... (read in full...)
My ex is sleeping with my coworker! How do I get him to go away?
Q. So long story short my ex boyfriend broke up with me . He left me for some other girl but he keeps co,ing to my job first with his new girlfriend and then he's dating another girl who works at my job from another department. Idk why he keeps coming ...
A. 4 June 2013: You two are broken up. As long as he isnt directly harassing you he can do whatever he wants. Move on.... (read in full...)
I'm not having sex till I get married. Why do so many friends criticise me for this?
Q. I'm a girl, at university and I've decided I'm not having sex till I get married. I'm Christian, but that's actually not the reason why - I'm really liberal and fully in support of gay marriage/pro-choice etc. It's because sex means a lot to me ...
A. 1 June 2013: 1 - Congrats to you for holding steady to your beliefs. You likely will make the man you marry very happy.
2 - In my experience, those who criticize you for waiting for the right person often have the motivation of jealousy.
No one has th... (read in full...)
I am unsure how to help my online girlfriend with her sexual needs
Q. This will probably sound odd at first, but please bear with me. So for the past eight months, I have been dating this girl in MA online, and for the most part, everything has been going fine. We have our ups and downs, but we love oneanother deepl...
A. 31 May 2013: I have a spoiler for you -
There is no such thing as an "online girlfriend."
The person you are speaking to could be a 75 year old man, or an AI program in a computer. You cannot fall in love with that. Human beings are just not designed to ... (read in full...)
Younger boyfriend isn't sure about us because I have experienced things he hasn't
Q. My boyfriend is eleven years younger than me. Im 37 and he's 26, he's never had kids, had a long term relationship or lived w anyone. I, on the other hand, have been married, have 2 kids from 2 different fathers. He tells me he feels like its ...
A. 31 May 2013: Given your life experience and age differences, odds are against it working out long term. I'm going to be blunt - I don't know a single guy in their late 20's (with anything on the ball) who would stay long-term with a woman approaching 40 w... (read in full...)
The light switch relationship--now she's pregnant with someone else's baby and I don't want kids!
Q. ok so. i got this on again off again relationship for about the last couple years. shes 20 im 23. seems every time we have a drink together we end up in the sack together. shes always telling me im the sweetest guy she knows. and stuff like that. i ...
A. 31 May 2013: Coward? Are you kidding me? I think you spelling "smart" wrong.
You are in your early 20s and have your whole life ahead of you. Dont waste it raising another mans kid. She was the one who thought itd be a great idea to get pregnant by some ... (read in full...)
My remarks were intended to build her up but she's told me they were inappropriate
Q. I'll try to make this fairly quick. I've always been the kind of guy who's really tactful and good with words. I've always prided myself on knowing what to say and having good social skills. But lately, my girlfriend has been making me feel pretty ...
A. 31 May 2013: Dude - seriously - you will never be able to say the right thing with this one. Ive seen it before, and it will not get better. Run, dont walk, RUN away...... (read in full...)
Are most young guys in relationships really committed to their girlfriends nowadays?
Q. Quite a few close male friends I know in relationships don't actually seem to care about their girlfriends all that much. Or they do, but they see her as a temporary thing, and merely a girl of convenience for sex and companionship rather than ...
A. 31 May 2013: Life all comes down to picking your best option. As a young man, there are a lot of them....... (read in full...)
How to cope with moving in with a SO.
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, I made the grave mistake of moving in with my boyfriend. In my defence, he seemed like a solid, responsible guy, and he is! He currently carries most of our financial burden. Since he is working, and I am looking for a job so...
A. 31 May 2013: Sorry - nothing to do with the 19th Century. If one person (of either sex) is making all the money, then the other person (of either sex) had better be doing all of the work around the house. A relationship is a two way street.
My brother ... (read in full...)
When he doesn't want me, he throws me away. When he does want me, he expects me to go flying to him!
Q. I broke up with my ex last month because he drifted apart. He's white and I'm Asian. He studies abroad now. He never contacted me so I asked him for closure. He didn't say anything either. I was pissed because I don't even deserve a closure after ...
A. 31 May 2013: What behavior you want to reinforce is completely up to you.... (read in full...)
I want this older man but his wife is fighting tooth and nail to keep him!
Q. hi i just want to know what you all think i should do about this situation. im 23 and i met a guy at work, we have been talking alot, and he watches me when i work, i work in the office on the second floor and he works at the desk on the first floor ...
A. 31 May 2013: Besides the fact that he is married with no current plans of divorce, and that he is far too old for you, this sounds like a great idea.
I am 45 and own my own company. I dress in suits everyday and have many young woman who work for me. I also a... (read in full...)
How can I get my bad temper in check, and make it clear that I love him so much?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am with the love of my life and I never want to loose him. He is my everything. I feel like I will loose him because of my anger. I have bad anger and a short fuse. I love him to much to every loose him and if I do I may just go craz...
A. 30 May 2013: I had a gf once who had a crazy jealous streak - with emphasis on both the crazy and the jealous. As good as it was when it was good, I couldnt take the BS. I warned her several times that she had to cool it or I was history. She didnt, so I was ... (read in full...)
Was it a one night stand or does he have other plans?
Q. So I went home to my sister's wedding and I met this guy, he is Danish, anyway, we end up getting so drunk and we spent all the wedding day together, to make things short I went back to his hotel room and we had sex. I was actually the one that ...
A. 30 May 2013: I for one am surprised that he called, which is very atypical for a man after a one night stand. I would be even more surprised if it lasted more than a month........ (read in full...)
How do I show her that I won't listen to my friend's advice anymore and convince her to give me a second chance?
Q. hi i'm 16 year old boy and I i've been such an idiot..... I liked this girl and when I eventually asked her out she said that she wasn't sure if she liked me. then her mate says to me that she likes someone else and that she doesn't like me. the ...
A. 30 May 2013: You can show her how good of a bf you are by going out and being one to someone else.
This gal is trying to manipulate you. Move on.... (read in full...)
I have a question for men or women, whether you have cheated, or cheat, or never cheated
Q. I have a question for men or women, whether you have cheated, or cheat, or never cheated: I am not sure if I want to be in love. I mean, I enjoy being loved and to love, but it seems that every man I was with had a tendency to cheat or lie, or...
A. 30 May 2013: If you dont want to be with the person you're with, then make a break, THEN move on to someone else.
To me, there is no gray area here. If you are with someone or are married, sexual contact with another is cheating, plain and simple. Because ... (read in full...)
Is cyber sex considered cheating?
Q. Hi all, Just a question I would like to ask other users here. If you are in a loving, committed relationship with your soul mate whom you love dearly but find out they have meaningless cybersex (without masturbating) would you consider it chea...
A. 30 May 2013: Acid test for what's appropriate -
If your SO did the same exact thing, would you consider it appropriate?
Works 100% of the time....... (read in full...)
My husband always looks at other women and tells me that's normal. I can't bear it! Help?
Q. whenever i am out with my husband, he always look at other womens which i can't bear. its hurting me always. due to which i don't talk to my husband 2-3 days. but still he does the same. i spoke to him about this. he says it's normal. but i can't ...
A. 30 May 2013: Looking is completely normal. Flirting and ogling are not. It sounds like its the former, meaning the issue is with you, not him.... (read in full...)
I'm willing to do whatever it takes to get her back but I don't know where to start! Help?
Q. okay , it is been along time now but i'm back ...and i have a question ..i really need help with it because i have no idea what to do . if you hurt your friend how many time do you say i'm sorry and what do you do when she just doesn't want to ...
A. 30 May 2013: If someone is willing to completely write you off after a simple fight, my bet is its not worth the effort to try to chase them down again. I did this once in my life, and I regret every moment wasted........ (read in full...)
Suspicious email to husband--he denies he's signed up. Can I believe him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a problem. I just got married. I h ave been with my man for a long time. I was looking through his emails and came acroos a email from XXXXbook [mod note: actual site name removed, it is not facebook]. I wouldve just deleted ...
A. 30 May 2013: I receive email all the time "from" someone with my fiancee's name, but 1000% chance its spam (writing completely different than her, senders email address random string of characters, etc. Just the reality of the world we live in.... (read in full...)
I'm drawn to my girlfriend's friend
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now. We have had our ups and downs like anybody and currently we have been getting along great and having a blast together. But for the past two years now, I have not been able to stop thi...
A. 23 May 2013: Thrill of the forbidden is a very normal thing for a guy your age. I know of few men who have not at least thought of "what would it be like" relative to their gfs friend/sister whatever.
That said, you need to get your priorities clear. If you ... (read in full...)
Am I being "friendzoned"?
Q. There's this girl I really like. I've been hanging out with her for the past month and a half: I got her number, she started texting me, we've gone to the movies and to a bar afterwards and we really connected. Then, last saturday she came to my h...
A. 23 May 2013: Listen what Tranced says below. She wants a man, act like it. No woman wants a dude who asks her "Do you like me?" Woman want to be with a man who EXPECT women to like them.
... (read in full...)
I don't know if I've had an orgasm. What does it feel like?
Q. Hey, I'm just going to get right down to what I want to ask. I just recently lost my virginity and before any of you very nice agony aunts ask if I used protection and all that. I did, that was the first thing I made sure we had, it was a whim, bu...
A. 23 May 2013: Im not a woman, but my first guess here is if you have to ask, it didnt happen....... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish? My BF wants me to wait and travel with me - I want to travel next year, with or without him.
Q. Sometimes my boyfriend’s family make me feel swamped. They talk business all the time. My boyfriend and I both attended high school together and University together though he is one year ahead of me. The plan is to finish our studies and do some ...
A. 23 May 2013: Dunno, if I were in your shoes instead of worrying about vacations Id be thrilled that I had someone who was so hard working and industrious at such a young age. Its not like he's not traveling because he out partying and drinking with his friends... (read in full...)
Could my decision hurt me in any way and what do you think of FWB?
Q. Hi. Im 18 young and single. I am getting ready to graduate from high school and will be heading off to college shortly. I have done extremely well and am graduating with a 3.9 gpa. I figure with the year coming to a close why not have some fun. So ...
A. 23 May 2013: If you continue, odds are you will develop feelings for him, he will not develop feelings for you, and you will be hurt, but you will have some fun along the way. You need to decide if thats worth it for you.... (read in full...)
He wants to get married and have children and I'm not sure yet. Do I stay and have kids or do I let him go?
Q. I have been together with a guy for two years. We live together and for the most part, things are fine. We come from different cultures and are quite different as people, but we get on well in many respects. I'm happy enough with him but he doesn't ...
A. 23 May 2013: Who you decide to have children with is without close second the single most important decision in your life, which is why Im consistently so flabbergasted why so many take such a cavalier view of it. If you are not 1000% sure, dont. Its not a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend pointed out a larger girl to me and said if I ever got that fat he would dump me!
Q. I am 27 and have been with my boyfriend for just under 4 years. At the weekend we were on a night out and he pointed out a woman on the dancefloor who was probably a UK size 14/16 and he told me if I ever get as fat as that he will dump me! Now this ...
A. 23 May 2013: If he started stealing, taking drugs and hitting on other women - would you dump him? When you started dating, you presented him with a package of who you are, just as he did to you. If you willingly change those things, then I think he has the... (read in full...)
How do I teach my partner to apologise and show him it isnt a sign of weakness?
Q. My partner doesn't know how to sincerely apologise. He can do something wrong but he will never say sorry, let alone mean it. He will most likely get angry with me and find something to blame me for and turn it all around. My question is, how...
A. 22 May 2013: Im going to save you a lot of trouble going forward in your relationships -
Repeat after me - "No one can intrinsically change anyone."
When you are with someone and you find yourself wishing they would act another way, please repeat the above... (read in full...)
Is there any way to convince her age is just a number? I'm 18 and she is in her forties but we have the most amazing connection....
Q. Hello everyone, Thank you in advance for reading this, and for your advice is any comes to mind :) I’ll try to keep this short and to the point. I’m 18, and gay (girl). I met the most amazing woman two weeks ago, at a concert. I assumed she...
A. 22 May 2013: You cant convince her age is "just a number" because its not. There are many reasons relating to maturity, health, and life experiences that become increasingly large as the age gap widens. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is deleting messages on his phone, am I just being insecure or should I be worried?
Q. i recently caught my boyfriend of a year and 8 months texting 4 other girls and he deleted all of the messages between them but i searched words on his spotlight search and the messages came up. we broke up for about two weeks and i started back ...
A. 21 May 2013: If you are ok dating a cheater and having no trust in your relationship, I think you should stay.... (read in full...)
He told me he's not thinking of marriage yet! Am I wrong to be disappointed?
Q. Hi im with a ldr now with my boyfriend and we been 3 years knew each other via skype and call. And always visiting me here every year, despite of the distance he always make effort to see me. He lives in Slovakia and i lived in Singapore and im ...
A. 21 May 2013: On one hand, I think you should be happy he is being honest and not stringing you along.... (read in full...)
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