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Orgasms since I was six, is that unusual?

Q.   I'm male, in my 30's. And I've been able to have orgasms since I was 6. Maybe even younger. Serious. (Of course I was shooting blanks back then). Is that normal? Anyone else?...

A.   16 August 2009: wow i didn't even know that. i've had orgasms from the age of 14/15?! lol... (read in full...)

Why would she want to have sex with me with a penis that size?

Q.   Ok. I'm really embarrassed. Have been all my life. It's just i have a really small penis. Its 10cm erect, and I HATE myself because of it. I recently got my first girlfriend, and i have done 'stuff' for her, but she hasn't for me, because i keep ...

A.   14 August 2009: 4inches isn't that bad, i don't know why you're worrying so much.... (read in full...)

Apart from watching , what else could he be doing on a porn site? And what does BDSM stand for?

Q.   Why would a seemingly 'Godfearing' guy resort to using an adult dating porno website to meet women??? He is not ugly( about a 5) is EXTREMELY successful, can get almost ANY woman he wants to date him - and he goes on an awful lot of dates - driv...

A.   13 August 2009: sounds like he has (sometimes seen as strange) sexual fantasies. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM... (read in full...)

He hasn't met me yet, so why is he making assumptions?

Q.   I met this man through a dating website he lives in my city, I asked him to be friends with me so he said yes. He told me he has a disabilty his left hand has a nerve problem so its not easy for him to type and he even stopped to drive. We went all ...

A.   30 July 2009: he could mean you're angry or demanding or simply a confident person where as he's not as calm, quiet and understanding as he used to be? so it doesn't balance and he wants someone who is more like him. Its a tough question but that's my opinion.... (read in full...)

Is it possible for ex's to see each other again?

Q.   Is it possible for ex's to see eachother again? My ex boyfriend has suddenly started speaking to me regularly after nearly 2 years since we were in a relationship and he's very flirtatious and keeps trying to arrange for us to meet out and go on a ...

A.   19 July 2009: I don't know what i want really, in some senses, yes i do want to start seeing him again.. he was a lovely boyfriend, always treated me right, did everything perfect. We've always been friends before and after we went out with eachother, but just ... (read in full...)

Where to find cute bras for big chested girls?

Q.   I'm a 32DD and when your boobs are that big, bras stop being cute or pretty and turn into "over the shoulder boulder holders" lol i was just curious if some other busty girls knew of someplace to find cute bras for big chested girls??...

A.   19 July 2009: I go to BHS. There are many bras for big chested women and small chested which are nice.. I always get mine from there.... (read in full...)

How can I stop my bf from texting her?

Q.   hi, i recently found texts on my boyfriends phone from him to another girl (who doesn't have the urge to look :P) she goes to the same college as me, he was texting her like he does to me putting 'babe' and lots of kisses i could tell he was ...

A.   15 July 2009: A sneaky way of dealing with this is changing this girls number on his phone.. you could change it to one of your old mobile phone numbers, then he'll just think she isn't texting back.. not exactly the best idea but you could always give it a try.... (read in full...)

Liquid or powder foundation?

Q.   hi, i was just wondering, erm which is the best foundation to use, liquid or powder? I want to get that 'airburshed' look, i have never tried liquid before and powder has a reputation just to go orange. But is liquid foundation bad for your skin or ...

A.   31 May 2009: I use liquid and then powder over the top.. but make sure you moisterise your face first. The liquid foundation i use is Loreal-the lightest one which is perfect for my skin(i'm very pale) and i think i use Loreal face powder, again the lightest one ... (read in full...)

I found condoms in my husband's pockets and he says they were for a friend!

Q.   I Found 6 condoms in my husbands pockets and he said his friend asked him to bring it. I didn't believe him, and he was crying. could he be telling the truth?...

A.   26 May 2009: ask this friend of his! don't believe him until you have enough facts...... (read in full...)

Is there such thing as natural white teeth?

Q.   do some people have natural perfect white teeth. without them going to a dentist to get then professional done. because i saw family in photo and ordinary family not celebrity's or nothing like that.there was 5 of them there were so white and even ...

A.   22 May 2009: Maybe they just eat the right foods and drink the right drinks... nothing that can stain like coke or anything.... (read in full...)

I think my mates girlfriend fancies me!

Q.   i know this sounds big headed, but i think my mates girl fancy's me.. she's always texting me and telling me i'm cute, she always wants me around and wen im not in she beggs for me to come in, WE recently had our school prom and she was on my ar...

A.   20 May 2009: We DO have proms in uk, funnily enough!!! It sounds like she likes you but she obviously likes her boyfriend aswell so i'm not sure what you should do but to tell her to back off cos its not fair on your mate, is it?... (read in full...)

How to make your breath not smell bad?

Q.   Hey. I was wondering, is there any way other than breath mints, mouthwash, gum, and eating the right way to make you breath not smell bad? The mints I don't always have access to, and I don't have much control over what I eat. I don't have any ...

A.   18 May 2009: Just brush your teeth as often as possible..drink lots of water, wear perfume.. ... (read in full...)

How do I find out who this person is?

Q.   I'm a little scared.I got a text message out of the blue from a number i didn't recognize saying " your name is _ isn't it ? " (i left the space for my first name ) and i replied asking who it was,they didnt say who they were and then they asked ...

A.   17 May 2009: Try ringing them, but put 141 infront of the 0 or #44 of their number. That way you can simply ring them, wait for them to answer and hang up once you've found out who it is.... (read in full...)

I'm a guy. Should I shave my legs?

Q.   i am 15, 16 in a week and my legs are full of hairs i just want to know should i shave them because i am an amature footballer and i know that some footballers shave their legs? also i was woundering if i should shave them for the girl i like ...

A.   16 May 2009: i wouldnt shave them if i were you.. if they are that hairy maybe you could just trim them with scissors. that would be better.... (read in full...)

Colour, hair and personality...

Q.   Do guys prefer blonde girls to black haired girls? Do they prefer them tall or short, tomboy or girly girly type? Do they prefer a heavy girl with blond hair who is short and heavy or black haired who is short and heavy?? ...

A.   16 May 2009: It depends what sort of guy you want after you. Popular more 'perfect' sort of guys who love sport, girls, fast cars etc usually go for tall/short blondes, occasionally brunettes, and girlygirls. Skater guys with longish hair, a few pier... (read in full...)

A poll regarding virginity

Q.   I am wondering at what age most people lost their virginity? This is a really interesting subject to me and I am just curious, I googled it and it says the average age is 16, but thats seems a little old to me. It also said like only half of the ...

A.   16 May 2009: 16 sounds about right.. i lost mine when i was 16 and my sister who's 15 now would say around 10 people have lost their virginity in her grade, but by the time they start turning 16, theres around 50/60 that have. Not too many people, i guess..... (read in full...)

I think I'm in love with someone but I don't know what to do...

Q.   I am 16 and a half and in the middle of taking my GCSEs. An IT tech at my school turned 40 2 days ago. What's the problem? I think about him all the time and love being around him. He's really funny and we have similar interests. My friends...

A.   16 May 2009: I agree with mercedes 18, think about it, you're 16, he's 40. Thats 34 years difference and it certainly won't work even if he did like you back. He'd probably have to quit his job, everyone would be talking about you at school and the relationship ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my 2nd cousin...

Q.   i love my 2nd cousin.i dont know what to do i dont see him much at all and i know he feels the same we both want to have sex is it wrong i am scared the family would findout...

A.   7 April 2009: completely agree with HPC11. Don't think i can add to that either, just do what you want to do but also have respect for your family aswell. ... (read in full...)

Sleeping with my best friends brother

Q.   im sleeping with my best mates brother what shall i do? do you think that i should tell her or not !...

A.   6 April 2009: just don't lie. if she asks who you're seeing, then admit it to her, otherwise i wouldn't bother.. it's really none of her business who you sleep with, even if it is her brother.... (read in full...)

Do most guys answer the door 1/2 naked?

Q.   Hello everyone! :) I have a very quick question to ask y'all: Is it normal for guys to answer the door topless? I recently had an experience where a guy I had only met once before opened the door to me with no top on. I was a little taken aback...

A.   11 January 2009: sounds normal to me unless it was a freezing cold day, he hadnt just been in the shower and it was in the middle of the day.... (read in full...)

What kind of topics do girls like to discuss?

Q.   i have a very close female friend. We talk alot, how do i talk to her on a personal level. We talk at least once every 2days and phone conversations last 1-2hours each time. I just want to get closer to her by talking about everything. I don't know ...

A.   11 January 2009: Well i like to know gossip, so anything like friend or family problems. I also like to talk about what happened to me throughout the day. Other than that and celebrities, that's about it for me. Every girls different though.... (read in full...)

I can't figure out what women want!

Q.   ok so I am a 19 year old guy who is very frustrated. I am pretty good looking with my life in order. I have been through 6 relationships in my life. And this is basically how they have all gone: the girl and I fall in love, we love each other very ...

A.   1 January 2009: Never stop trying at any stage in a relationship. Keep things exciting. Thats all i can suggest and i wouldn't try figuring out what women want because us women don't even know 9 times out of 10.... (read in full...)

My life sucks and I'm very depressed!

Q.   Well here goes i believe my life sucks. Im 15 never ever dated or even had my first kiss,Ive asked out more then 50 girls and they all denied me,Im also very short im 5-1 so that makes life tougher,My parents disowned me,And i have no friends ...

A.   1 January 2009: Ok, your pain aside. Why don't you go out and buy some clothes and get a haircut the way you want it? Do something you really want to do, which will have a good effect on you. I've just got my tongue pierced and its given me loads of confiden... (read in full...)

Does she like me or did she just make it up?

Q.   Okay so there is this girl who I know and have known since school started (5-6 months) and I like her a lot. I think she likes me but I'm not quite sure. (probably not) But anyway the problem is that I'm a girl and so is she. I'm bi and I have ...

A.   1 January 2009: I think she does like you. If she said her sister said that then that may mean she was embarrassed about sending it and used her sister as an excuse. If this isn't the case, why would her sister come out with something like that? Sounds ... (read in full...)

Do I fake it or tell him the truth?

Q.   if my partner isnt good in the sack do i fake an orgasm or just tell him?...

A.   1 January 2009: What makes you orgasm exactly? Try being a dominatrix and tell him exactly what to do to make you orgasm unless you generally don't feel sexually attracted to him. Simple as pie.... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and want to have sex with my 14 year old cousin

Q.   Hi i am 15, and I have these really deep feelings for my 14 year cousin who i badly wanna have sex with, i did it with her once when i went to her place out of town for a week, and it was great, and it brought us closer, she didn't resist, but we ...

A.   1 January 2009: Firstly, you're both underage. Secondly, she's your COUSIN which is very immoral in any case no matter how much you like her- being best friends should be as far as you go. Thirdly, if you're parents/uncle aunt find out, your gonna have to beg f... (read in full...)

I have the sex drive of an 18 year old, my wife's is of a 75 year old! HELP!

Q.   I am a 28 year old man with a wife and 3 wonderful kids. I have a great job a very bright future and cant wait to watch my children grow. Here is the kicker.....I am pretty sure I have lost the love for my wife, and here is why: 1. Although I have ...

A.   1 January 2009: Why don't you experiment a bit, like not actually having sex, but foreplay or lots of cuddling up on the sofa and what-not. Try something new and just show you love her. I don't suggest breaking up with her, i'm sure you'll both work it out ... (read in full...)

How do you turn on a girl and get her in the mood?

Q.   what is the best way to turn on a girl and get her in the mood? im 16 and wana know how to turn girls on my age help?...

A.   1 January 2009: Agreed, foreplay always wins. ... (read in full...)

This quiet boy is so hard to read!

Q.   I had a guy in my class all term and thought he was very attractive without making any moves. Then after the last day, I described him to a friend and he seemed very convinced that he was interested all along. He sat very close to me and sometimes ...

A.   1 January 2009: I doubt things will be awkward for you hunny. I think he just sees it as general chit-chat and doesn't know you like him. Try talking to him more, he seems open to friendships if you approach him.... (read in full...)

What sort of physique do girls like in a boyfriend?

Q.   Hi, happy new year. I want to know this from girls. Girls, what sort of physique u like in ur bf? Tall, short, fat, skinny, muscular, anything. Feel free to give me ideas on wot u actually look for. Thanks. Pls. ...

A.   1 January 2009: Well i like thin guys, who don't have to have big muscles but quite strong, tall guys are nice but not really tall as im only 5'5. Sometimes, depending on what the guys attitude is like and acts like..its nice if theyre not completely thin (they ... (read in full...)

I want to wear a thong

Q.   i really want to try wearing a thong...im 22 year guy and as far as my friends go only girls wear them...im worried it wont be comfy also im not always clean down there, would this be unhealthy also do they get that smelly and what if u fart?...

A.   1 January 2009: Agreed, always keep clean whether you wear a thong or not. Please! I find thongs comfy and on holiday ive seen a few tanned men wearing man thongs so i'm sure they must've liked them aswell. Just try it out..... (read in full...)

What should an 11 year old say when his girl says she loves him?

Q.   My girlfriend just told me the other day that she loves me. I had no f***ing idea what to say. We have a date on monday, what should I do if she says it again...

A.   24 August 2008: :O a date?! 10-12?! im shocked by the age you're dating at. anyways im here to help, so do you like her alot?? noone really knows the true meaning of love, sometimes you might not know if you love someone til you're 40, 50.. any age. But... (read in full...)

I am worried this boy that seemed to like me has forgotten about me since the beginning of holidays!

Q.   I'm 15. Before summer started (beginning of july) i became very friendly with this guy. Talking every day - texting, msn... for hours and we got on soo well. Then during this summer we have been away and not contacted each other and because of this ...

A.   24 August 2008: have you seen him alot this holidays? he may have become distant due to the fact you're not like dating so he hasn't really seen you like loads and when you do start seeing eachother more often, he'll probably get closer. some guys like space,... (read in full...)

What about losing the "V card" twice?

Q.   erm, this is a request from my girlfriend, she has been told by a friend that after a sertain amount of time, you can lose your virginity after losing it once before. is this true? if it is, how long should she wait untill she can lose it a...

A.   24 August 2008: this sounds like a load of ... the only thing i can think of is maybe her hymen isnt fully broken? or your vagina becomes tight again after having sex so it may hurt. other than that.. i wouldnt believe a word. sorry. ... (read in full...)

How should I hint, ask her out, etc? I never want to lose her.

Q.   I think I am in love with the girl next door. We are both in high school, and neither one of us have had a relationship before. I know her and talk to her and our families know each other too. In fact her brother is my best friend. We've known ea...

A.   24 August 2008: do you too ever go out together, like down the road or to the park? i'd suggest, (say a day before her birthday) ask if she wants to come out, take her to the park, nice quiet spot and give her your present, let her know you like her alot and you ... (read in full...)

Did I do right with my first kiss?

Q.   Yestarday I kissed my boyfriend for the first time. As this was my first time so I dont know whether it was right or not. We had hugged each other real tight and I remember him pressing his mouth into mine. Then I kind of gave him a bite(very soft ...

A.   24 August 2008: Aww, bless you. sorry i probably sound like an old woman.. sounds like you did well, i mean you didn't like bang heads or get rejected for the kiss so well done. and the biting off the lip?! wow, im very surprised. you must feel so comfort... (read in full...)

Can my girl get pregnant even though I can't ejaculate?

Q.   Hi people, well I am a 13 year old male, and well, I had sex with my girlfriiend, three times to be exact, but in thise three times, I did not where a condom, but I know my body, since I masterbate, I know that I still can't ejaculate, could she ...

A.   24 August 2008: no no no no no! firstly you're too young to be having sex but you need advice not a lecture. secondly, wear a condom-MUST always. unless you don't care about her that much and can bare not seeing her cos believe me.. if her papa's like most,... (read in full...)

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