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writes:im asking on behalf of a mate simply cos i dunno the answer to his problem.he is an 18 year old male with a beard. he believes he cannot attract gals simply cos of the beard. he doesnt want to shave the beard off cos its against his religious beliefs. its not even that big to be honest. he gets treated like sh*t by gals i've witnessed it myself and i think its harsh and feel sorry for him cos he's a good guy and a brilliant mate.What can i say to him to make him feel better? i say the usual "your better than them and can do better forget them" but he's self confidence and self esteem is so low. Desperate help needed from all women!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your advice guys. But genuinly he is a nice guy and i'll admit his confidence is now low because he's been knocked back and abused by so many women in the area in which he lives. He seriously has no problems; down to earth funny sensitive and stuff like that. My gf said he's a nice guy and he should try going for girls a bit further afield so thats the advice i passed on to him as well as your advice. cheers guys!
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reader, CarrieMagdelene  +, writes (22 January 2007):
 Facial hair can be TOTALLY sexy. ;) Depending on his religion and color, that could be what's turning them off. Sadly, in the world we live in today, not all races and beliefs are tolerated. A Muslem named Sayid walking down the street with a sexy beard and deep blackish-brown eyes would probably not be treated the same as a blonde-haired, blue-eyed American man. I hate that about society. He needs to find an understanding woman who is open minded and respective, not bias, racist, and just plain rude. :)
Just my opinion...Beards rock. They remind a girl, hey, I'm with a man, not a prepubescent boy. -Carrie
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reader, cd206 +, writes (22 January 2007):
 It seems a little odd to be honest. If a guy is really as nice and special as you say then I don't think something like a small beard would put me off him. Are you sure that's his problem? The reason I ask is that he must have pretty low self confidence if he's been treated that badly and maybe that's got a lot more to do with why girls turn him down than his beard. I can't think of any girls I know (although I am certain they exist) who would be shallow enough not to date someone that great just because they have a beard. Just something to think about.
CD
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reader, electronica +, writes (22 January 2007):
 Hello there,
The problem here is not ur friend's beard!
As a female, I can assure you that some girls even think of a man with a beard as more "macho"!
The main problem I think is his self esteem and level of confidence as he tries to approach a girl. Girls don't like guys who have no "confidence".
I think what you should tell your mate is that next time, he
should be cooler and let the girls know there is an interresting someone behind that beard.
Bottom line is: Let him work on his character first! Why not practice in front of a mirror every now and then!
Good luck to you too in life,
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reader, Reebe +, writes (22 January 2007):
 All i can say if he met some one from the same religion then they are bound to understand. Also if they liked him his beard wouldn't be an issue, You don't say how ong his beard is maybe he can trim it a little, some women finds beards very attractive.
I think he seems a sensituve guy and it's more how he feels about himself rather than his beard, I bet he treats his gf's really well and they take advantage of that. He will meet someone who won't and loves him for who he is. Like most of us in this world he has to wait for the right one to some along. Try and do activities together to boost his self worth like playing football or do somethings together that you know he's good at. If he's a good mate then do your best to try and make him feel better about hims self!
Good Luck!
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