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writes:I was with my boyfriend for close to four years. We lived together and planned on marrying. A month ago I went on a trip for a week, when I returned my bf and I talked and decided that we both needed some time to make sure we still wanted the same things. He never moved out and we never really stopped dating. Last week we decided that we couldn't live without each other and we were going to work it out. After reaching this decision I recieved a text from a friend letting me know that while I was on my trip my bf slept with my best friend. (Mind you we were still together at this point)He addmitted to the afair. I kicked him out of the house and I will never speak to my friend again. I am so hurt by all of this. Has anyone experienced this? Any advice for easing the pain. I loved him I wanted to marry him. How could they do this to me? I am so hurt.
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reader, Miss C  + ♥, writes (27 March 2007):
 I am so sorry to hear about what happened. This situation can occur alot so don't feel like your alone. The only thing I can propose is to keep busy by going out and having fun with your other friends. It will take time to gain the ability to trust again but don't let this affect a relationship with any future partners. Everyone is different and just becasue it happened before, doesn't mean it will happen again. Cheaters are low lifes and as for this so called best friend of yours, she isn't worth your friendship because a true friend would be able to resist the tempation to destroy such a valuable thing you both have. Don't let these people ruin your life because you still have the rest of your life and you shouldn't let it end because of past experiences. Go out, have fun, take up a hobby and trust me time will help you to move on from this! I send my deepest regards. Good luck!
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reader, Patient1 +, writes (27 March 2007):
 That's one of the most devistating things to go through. Not only have you lost your boyfriend, but also your best friend. One thing you have to bare in mind is that it's not your fault. It's going to be hard to get over and to ever trust anyone ever again. But what you have to realize is that he is obviously not your soul mate, if he was, he would have never done something like that to you. And your ex-best friend, well, she's obviously not a TRUE friend, because a true friend will resist temptation for the consideration of your feelings. Years ago, my best friends boyfriend tried to kiss me, and though it was very tempting, I stopped him and told my friend. That's what friends do. She left him and met the man of her dreams who she is married to today, and she and I are still best friends. Try not to let this interfere with any future relationships that you may encounter, everybody is different. Use it as a learning experience and try your best not to let it drag you down. With every ending comes a new begining, and it's what you make of it. I wish you the best of luck and I hope that God helps to ease your pain.
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reader, Reebe + ♥, writes (27 March 2007):
 Unfortunatly there seems like there was cracks in your relationship before you went away. He obviously thought he could get away with it, or he didn't care enough to stop it, incase he was found out.
Your hurt and it's red raw right now, the only thing you can do is go through the process, day by day things will get easier until you realise you don't miss him so much and you feel ready to move on.
Keep busy and make sure you spend time with your friends and remember time does heal eventually.
Keep smiling and good luck!
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