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writes:Hi i'm a 15 year old girl and i am addicted to porn!i dont know what to do! everytime i am alone or someone is downstairs i always turn to porn! i always masturbate while doing it. i am really afraid that i will grow up to be one of those bad nasty people and i dont want to be. i dont have any urges to have sex and i am fine with staying a virgin until i am married. (im actually afraid of having sex cuz i hear its painful the first time). i am grossed out by myself and when i am done, i feel so guilty. Everyone online says there is nothing wrong with masturbation, but then why do i feel so guilty afterwards!!! someone please help me!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): You are not hurting yourself or any-one else. Later, you will discover some-thing else. Then some-thing else again. You may be thinking you are doing this too often, like an obsession, but every-one plays a lot with their new toy or new fad. Really, only be concerned if you or some-one else is hurting ones-self or another person. And stop worrying. There's so much of the stuff out there, you are definately not the only one. Just make sure you lock that door, you don't want to be embarrassed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): you heard its painful first time? so what? that is what they felt,(whoever told you).a quick history lesson.my first time there was no pain,just pleasure.and many other women experience no pain thier first times.
so the lesson is dont be scared and dont compare.because what they felt,may not be what you feel.and if you use a dildo to masturbate then the answer is on a plate.
and you shouldnt feel guilty over it,its natural.and watching porn is normal too.especially masturbating to it.i should know...
dont feel bad about what you do okay!you will only get yourself depressed.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (14 August 2009):
 "i am really afraid that i will grow up to be one of those bad nasty people and i dont want to be."
whats that supposed to mean Who are the bad nasty people,and what do they do.
well i think thats a misguided thing to say but your a child and have been taught many conflicting things throughout your life regarding this subject im sure.
I dont see where you have a problem you cant get an std or get pregnant from watching porn and masturbating.
Is your school work social life or job suffering from your porn watching habits, just because you watch it alot does not mean your an addict it could just mean you have the extra time.
Your only problem seems to be your guilt stemmng from it my theory on that is most people feel guilty when they do something wrong or when they do something they wouldnt want anyone to kno there doing, since porn is for adults and you kno your not supposed to be watching it and im sure you wouldnt want your parents to catch you masterbating to it thats why you feel guilty.
Your parents kno you masturbate they where 15 if you have the computer acess to whatch porn thats there fault not yours your the kid if they dont want you to watch it they should have better censor ship unless they have specifically told you not to watch it and put you on an honor system but most porn sites work on an honor system warning you not to enter if your not of age.
I think at 15 if you want to watch it go ahead i dont feel porn affects peoples sexual morals accept for the actual participants for instance would consider two guys with one girl at the same time sexually immoral but it doesnt mean the person watching is going out to do that.
Our society is so contradictive about sex mostly for religious reasons I beleive God condones sex he even says so in the Bible go fourth and multiply and theres only one way for humans to do that at the time. We live n a world where women go all but nude wear skintight clothing there bodies plastered on every billboard and advertised in numerous commercials yet men are not supposed to lust and be consumed by something that consumes the world we live in.
Reproduction s a difficult messy process time consuming and physicaly demanding especially on a woman it really doesn't seem worth while if you where to think about it so where instilled with natural urges to make sure life goes on. The powerful chemicals n sexual stimulation are like no other and ensure you will want to return again and again.
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reader, Fatherly Advice + ♥, writes (14 August 2009):
 I hesitate to jump in to this because I'm afraid of getting beat up for my opinion. Addiction is doing something that you don't want to do, because you have to. You are self compelled.
If you feel that you are addicted and you want to stop, there is help. Most addiction recovery programs are similar to AA and use a 12 step program. Nothing to be afraid of, you have already admitted to strangers that you believe you have a problem, and you are willing to do something about it. Talk to a counselor about getting into an addiction recovery group. At your age you may need to talk to your parent as well. Most people can not overcome an addiction (even a porn addiction) by them selves. Your life is yours, you can choose to make the changes that you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): I agree with the folks who have already written - it's natural to look at porn especailly at your age - it's all new and thrilling. Over time it will simmer down, and you'll develop. Quit worrying, and in time make the switch from pron to sex education. There's some great (free) material out there - try the podcast "sex is fun" on itunes. There's PLENTY of education material on that podcast! And it's fun and entertaining as well...
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reader, Jolin  +, writes (14 August 2009):
 everybody does it, girl :)
someday you will get bored of it..so just relax! i was addicted too before :D
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reader, dragionz  +, writes (14 August 2009):
 Just like Renee okc said you will grow out of it.. i used to be addicted to porn as well but then it just got boring and i was like "ehh I've basically already seen it all" although i will admit i do watch it every now and again when i have trouble ejaculating...so yeah don't worry you'll grow out of the addictiveness
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (14 August 2009):
Honey you feel guilty because we are raised to believe anything with sex in it is wrong. Everyone does it don't worry about it but if you feel you may do something to someone then you should try to find a male figure that you trust to talk
too. I think most would prefer you did this than going out sleeping with any and everyone you have to be responsible when it comes to sex. Eventually you will get tired of jacking off all the time and grow out of it. You may also want to start to participate in some other activities so you can doing something with all that pent up energy instead of staying home wacking off all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): Dont feel so bad, your only human. Besides, its safer than sex anyway
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