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writes:I am going out with a guy that is a few years younger than me (underage). I really care about him and every day I get emotionally closer to him. I’ve never felt this comfortable with a guy before. We have the confidence to open up to each other and talk about anything. What I enjoy the most is that we can be ourselves around each other and show our true colors...the good, the bad, the ugly. After going out with him for a week I'm having doubts whether or not we should be together. I'm starting to feel guilty because he is underage. In the back if my mind I know this should not be happening but it is really hard for us to stay away from each other. The only way to clear my coincidence is to end our relationship but I don't want to cause him any pain. Hurting him would be like hurting myself and I'm not sure if I could deal with that. I don't have any doubts that this is the guy I want to be with but he just happens to be younger than me. I'm willing to wait for him to become an adult.How do I end the relationship without hurting him. I don't want him to think that it was just a game for me. How do I tell him that we can't be together until he turns 18.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): We have been going out for a week as a couple but I've known him for three years.In the last 10 months we have gotten even closer and I think that's the reason why we feel so confortable in our own skin around each other.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (17 December 2009):
 You have been going out 1 week ? Well if you think it is wrong you better nip it in the but and end it gently and end it now.
And just how young is he?
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (17 December 2009):
 hes a guy he can handle it why do you think the females teachers that sleep with male students get 7 yrs in jail and the male teachers get 20 no one cares about guys just dont even if he tells no ones gonna care, he thanking his lucky stars your his gf just so you kno 16 is the yougest age of consent in the us but it still depends on the state if your happy and hes happy who care america is fighting two wars reforming health care and crawling out of a recesion and all the media outlets are tied up with the tiger woods fall out live your dont break this boys heart it seems like your just embarassed to have fallen for a young guy that you cant show off to your friends and hang out past ten with
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): You already know the answer to your own question. You do not mention your real age but you must be considerably older to be pointing out the difference. Developmentally he is still growing and quite young. If you care for him, I would say leave him alone. He is underage. End of story.
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reader, Kat1235  +, writes (17 December 2009):
Hey there.
You seem to really like this guy, so why end it?
You aren't doing anything wrong unless you have sex with him while he is underage.
So let the relationship develop emotionally but save the physical stuff for later.
Don't ruin something that is going well
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): Just how old is this guy?? You make him sound like he is around 16???????????
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