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writes:I HAVE A BOYFRIEND BUT HE IS ALWAYS ATTRACTED TO OTHER GIRLS.WE HAVE BEING TOGETHER FOR 8 YEARS AND HE BEATS ME UP.AND WHEN I LEAVE HIM N GO OUT TO STAY WITH MY COUSINS HE CALLS ME UP AND BEGS FOR FORGIVENESS.WHAT SHOULD I DO?I LOVE HIM SO MUCH SO I CANT SEE HIM PLEA LIKE THAT AND I ALWAYS FORGIVE HIM.PLEASE TELL ME SHOULD I WALK OUT OF THE RELATION OR SHOULD I CONTINIEUE WITH HIM????
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (17 August 2010):
Next time you move out, make it a one way trip. Hitting a woman is like hitting his own mother, it just wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): Hi
You can't see him plee you say..
But he can see you hurt when he hits you..
LEAVE or live seperate and ween yourself off him untill he can nolonger control you.
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reader, aela  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 A lot of people will judge you and say things like, "How can you love a person like that who beats you?" Don't feel bad for the fact that you love him but understand that just because you still love him doesn't mean you are suppose to stay. You can still love him and want what is best for both of you. You are just afraid of the pain that is in front of you and instead of staying in a healthy relationship you are just avoiding pain.
In ANY relationship you should always question your Health physically and emotionally, and in this situation your partner is damaging both of them. He is toxic to you. Even though this is hard for you, take baby steps if that's all you can do, but focus on YOU and start moving away from him. He needs to get help and until he figures out what he is so angry about (something from his past ususally)nothing will ever change.
Good Luck.
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reader, natmarie  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 You HAVE to leave him for your own sanity and saftey. PLEASE leave him. He is not a man - he is a boy. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do this for yourself. it will be ths single best thing you have ever done for yourself, I promise. if I ever met him I would kick his f******g ass.
Have you got somewhere to go, somewhere to hide from this nasty guy:? Have you thought about reporting him to the police? he could end up killing you .. think about that...
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reader, fishy fish +, writes (17 August 2010):
OK so let me get this straight, not only he cheats on you but he also beats you?!? and you've been putting up with this for how long again ? 8 years?
Does everything i just stated above ring a bell sweety? So sorry for being harsh but come on woman, this guy is BAD NEWS, you've been so used to his bad behavior that it became a habit to you, a man DOES not use his physical strength to beat a woman this is the lowest thing to do plus he's unfaithful to you ! Ofcourse leave him and don't look back , i don't care how attached you are , cause from where i'm looking at it you seem like the sweet faithful loving women who are wasting themselves for the sake of abusive men!
plz get out of this relationship asap and don't bother to look back, you're better off without a cheater and abuser! G.luck.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (17 August 2010):
 Honey, this is very simple. A real man does not beat women, at all. Doesn't matter if it's your wife, girlfriend, sister, it's just not right.
He's violent and abusive. You may love him, but if he doesn't respect you enough to stop beating you up, he doesn't deserve the love you give him.
How have you put up with this for eight years?
I'm sorry, you probably don't want to hear this, but you have to get out of there. Who knows what eight years of beating has already done to your body? Break up, move out, change your phone number, anything. Also, get some professional help, you may not have realised how this lifestyle has affected you mentally, but it's probably had an impact on your self esteem and ability to trust men. Get him out of your life! For eight years he's been saying he's sorry, he loves you, he'll never do it again. He's lying to you and he doesn't deserve you. You deserve happiness, leave him, move on and find it!
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): Wow were im from hitting a women is not funny, you should leave this coward, Do you really see yourself being with this man for ever, allways being beaten, He begs for forgiveness because noone else would put up with him. you surly dont decerve this. when you leave it will be hard. but eventuly you will find someone that will treat you with respect and decentcy you deserve. and will raise a child with you,instead of a fist. i would leave him nobody desives this, man or woman. hope you do the right thing and leave this bully. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): GET OUT OF IT! GET THE POLICE INVOLVED! You can't carry on like that! No matter how hard he begs and falls to his knees apologising you need to be strong and say NO. What part of you loves a man like this? Change your phone number and go back to your cousins house you are not safe at your own house!
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