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writes:ok I'm a 14 year old girl and just like every other teen we all fall in love eventually right? well me and my boy friend started dating close to 6 months ago, but the thing is that I'm not allowed to have a bf till I'm 15. when we first started dating I didn't know a single thing about him! I only knew his name ( we met through a friend). during our relationship we started knowing each other realy well and I started falling in love with him. to both of us it seemed like each day I started loving him even more nd I still feel that way! we know everything about each other like what our fav movie is and where we want to live when we grow up. Well like 2 weeks ago my parents found out and I was so scared as to what they where going to say! Me and my dad started talking and he told me that I had to break up with him, I told him I wasn't going to do that because he isn't like any other boy. he respects me is really sweet and funny and I'm beyond positive he won't cheat on me because his mom once cheated on his dad and that got him really sad. well my dad was all like well if he really loves you he can wait until your 15 and then you guys can start dating again. I told him I would do that but just to give me till we go back to school because I wanted to tell him this face to face and he agreed. That night I still told my bf what happened and he told me that he would wait :) but I'm not sure how to deal with this (my parents) I still want to go to the movies and the mall and we can do this as best friends but I want to do it without my parents being suspicious? i hate keeping stiff behind my parents back especially my dad. so please you guys I really need your help! if any one has a single clue as to what I can do please tell me!!! thanks peace and love 3
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reader, Marmite  +, writes (9 August 2010):
 I'm from Britain so find this strange. Personally i think that if this guy makes you happy you should be with him now. I would face up to your Dad and tell him you want to be with this guy because it makes you happy. As your father he should want that for you. This is my approach and i appreciate a lot of people don't want to be that blunt but that's my honest opinion for you. However you know this situation best so if you think thats right do it, but you should make your choice as to what makes you happiest. I can completely understand you not taking this advice but i hope its of some use to you. Good luck x
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reader, jrunlucky +, writes (8 August 2010):
 it is somewhat common for parents in america (and i guess in other places too) to have a set plan for their daughters. there are two real good reasons parents do that- 1: they dont want their daughter to end up doing things at an inappropriate age. and 2: because they dont want their little girl to be with a guy they dont know. you are their precious angel and he's (metaphorically) a demon.
in fact you are lucky that they are letting you date at 15 and not 16 or older. I'm 17 and my parents are still very iffy about me going out with the guy i've been with for at most four years and he too has been very loyal to me and has waited and gone through 2 years of dates with my parents in tow.
the best thing you can do is wait it out and let them see you in the light of a child for a little while longer. after all your growing up and things will only get even more hectic. and by the way- your dad is right "if he really loves you he'll wait" this is the boys test. this is his and your first hurtle.
as to hanging out with him at the mall as a friend i think it should be okay as long as your straight to the point with your parents. i think it is a good idea to hang out just as friends for a bit as well. it will help you get to know him a lot better and see if your compatible in other ways.
(just dont get sexually active. trust me please at your age it is not a good idea.)
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (8 August 2010):
 Hey :)
Well, it's good that your Dad listened to you. I would've said exactly the same thing, if he loved you he'd wait and he does love you, so he is waiting.
If you still want to see him and do things like go to the movies why not do it as a group (you said you both had a mutual friend at first) so begin there. That way you can still be friends and your parents shouldn't mind.
I'd talk to them first and say you still plan to be friends, and if you're going to hang out together it will be in a group, and therefore it's not a date. Your parents are only trying to look out for you, you can't fault them for that.
It's going to be tough hanging in there until you're 15. But if you make your parents suspicious, or feel like they're being lied to, they're not going to trust your boyfriend too much when you reach 15 anyway. Play by their rules and see him as a friend in a group. The longer you're apart, the happier you'll be to finally be together :)
hope this helped
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