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*aronjohn
writes:The story of my life is a pretty common one but still i needed to tell someone that is objective and doesnt know me so he/she will not judge me as harsh as my friends did.I had a relationship with a girl that we go to the same university for 3 monthsNow in the summer vacation because we are from different home towns we couldnt see each other as muchSo from the 3 months our relationship lasted the 1.5 months we were apartWe tried to see each other every weekShe came twice in my town although i did not asked her to since i told her i will come and i went twice to her city and i stayed for like a week and a half the first time and one day in the second time.From mutual friends i learned that she was crazy in love with me and she had the best time of her life and i could see that in her eyes every time i kissed her.On 12th of August we had arranged to go on vacation me and her for 12 days in one of Greece islands(her fathers hometown Petra in Lesvos)Everything was goodWe talked every day for hours on the phone we texted each other every day when we were apart all was goodOn the 10th of August i went to see her in her city without telling her to surprise her.When i arrived and she show me she went crazy from joy she grabbed and kissed me without even saying hi......We had sex we went for a coffee and then i returned to my townIn two days time i would see her again because thats when we would go on vacation on 12th of AugustOn the 11th(one day b4 vacations)we talked as usual untill 11.35 pm then suddenly she stopped replying in my messages and at 2.16 am she texted me one single message saying:We have to break up i am with my ex now i dont want to lie to you i am sorryI tried to call her text her(152 calls 14 sms)but nothing she did not reply once back to meI searched and found her ex he is 35 years old and she is 19(a huge age difference if you ask me)i am 19 also he lives in an island far away both from her hometown(Patrae)and the town we go to university together(Igoumenitsa)I cant understand what she was thinking.......Any comments would help really anything i want to see what you think about my problem
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reader, Baronjohn +, writes (17 August 2010):
Baronjohn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your answers :)
btw janniepeg her ex just wants to sleep with her
i dont think a 35 years old guy really loves a 19 years old girl
he is just having fun and she is in love with him
its not about money or marriage as you said and we dont marry or stay together for life from this age here in greece not to mention she is from a rich family and i am from a richer one so money is not an issue and god no they wont marry
and i wasnt just a summer fling considering we liked each other since the end of christmas but untill june there was only flirting
i had summer flings and that wasnt one i know it but thank you anyway :)
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reader, fishy fish  +, writes (17 August 2010):
So sorry to hear that , it must have been a dreadful shock a day before the vacation!
Well it seems that your girl is emotionally overwhelmed by lots of attention around her, i mean her boyfriend ( you) loving her to bits from one end, her ex as well , i'm sure she's in a summer phase where she wants to have fun and enjoy her time without any serious link to anyone, if you ask me i personally think that what she's having with her ex won't last , it's a fun related thing , otherwise she wouldn't break up one day before your planned journey, she's a kid , still discovering attention and enjoying the thrill out of it . She'll come back to you after summer, trust me. But you should move on and be with someone who knows what she really wants and cherishes the feelings your giving her. ciao
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reader, Baronjohn +, writes (17 August 2010):
Baronjohn is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni respected her
we didnt fullfill our relationship untill 1.5 months after because she wasnt ready i respected that and i didnt touch her
i never lied to her i never cheated on her although i had the chance twice with a hot friend of mine who practicly begged me to do her
i was completely honest with her
i changed some fragments of my attitude that annoyed her(like swearing all the time and being the bully like the american football players in the movies:P)
i did a lot for this girl but she didnt treat me well
i only want her to answer two questions and i will never bother her again
since when did she started seeing her ex again(becuse this cant happen in 5 hours like it did)
and what changed in her heart for me from the 10th to the 11th
those two simple questions and its over
she hurt my egoism and thats unforgivable for me
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 For her you were a summer fling. She went back to her ex because he's older and can take care of her financially (not sure though). Maybe she is set for the rest of her life although she may be trading mental compatability for that. They must be having problems with the distance until her ex proposed to her or something like that. She hesitated because of the age gap but realized she still loves him. I don't know why your friends would judge you harshly maybe they see that you are blind and didn't see the telltale signs that she's still loves her ex. But she's the one at fault here.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (17 August 2010):
 she sounds like a girl who doesn't know what she wants.
How can she treat you so badly when you've been nothing but good to her?
Sounds to me like she doesn't deserve you. If she wants to be with her ex, fine. But he became her ex for a reason, and usually those reasons don't ever fully go away. I know you care about her, but if she doesn't 'love' you enough to treat you with the respect you treated her with, maybe you should just let her go and get over her. Find someone who you can be truly happy with, everybody deserves that, you are no exception :)
xxx
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