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writes:Everybody is against him (Save for friends who support me), yet i love himby everybody i mean my familythey dont like him because he has a baby mamaHowever we love each other.its depressing sometimes..i have been telling them that its just a fling,so they have been easy on me... however i know its getting very serious...so i don't know how many relationships have survived without family supportplus there is never a guarantee that if i leave him, and date a single guy, his going to make me the happiest gal...so do you think that people that take risks, are better than those who play safe, with all these life rules? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2013): At your age, your odds of meeting men who have already had kids greatly increases and will continue to increase as you get older. So he has kids? Big deal. You are well in your 30's so you are no spring chicken.
Is he responsible? Is he a good dad? Does he make you happy? Do you think he would be a good husband and provider?
I mean if you answered yes to all the questions then you have nothing to worry about. Go be happy.
As for your family, if they have suspicions about him and low expectations of him, you both need to prove them wrong. That's all you can do. Let them see for themselves that he is the great guy that you know he is. The truth always comes out. So if he is in fact mr. perfect, it will all come to light for everyone to see in due time.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (11 March 2013):
 You just have to do what makes you happy and hope for the best. If he is the one you want to be with, you are an adult now and should be with him. Someone having a kid isn't necessarily a deal breaker.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 March 2013):
 why having a baby mama makes him not single ?... Is he still living with the baby mama, still involved with her even occasionally ?...
If he's not, and his baby mama is safely in his past since tears and they only have contact concerning their child, then he is like a divorced guy, and I don't think that nowadays a family would be against a man on principle JUST because he is a divorced dad. Are you sure there's nothing else to motivate your family's opposition ?
Yes, tons of relationship have survived without family support, - but, if a family withdraws their support, generally there's a reason at least worth discussing...
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reader, oldbag +, writes (11 March 2013):
 hi
Your an adult in love, he makes you very happy, I don't see a risk.
No it's not great your folks don't approve,maybe they saw you in a different situation,can see his obligations to his child/children being a problem in future.Only time will tell, if he loves you,treats you well and makes you happy,they will come round.Your friends like him,thats a good sign.
Just go with the flow there are no guarantees with any relationship. Your both happy so enjoy it.Make sure you are aware of his obligations, and you know how they affect you.
Good Luck
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