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*am jar
writes:First I'm gay and I don't want any annoying advice on it, I get enough of it already. I'm meeting and going camping with him soon and he wants to play some sex games and I want to look like I know what I'm doing (even though I don't 0_0) any advice please? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): The great thing about sex is it isn't like a bike ... you learn how to ride once .... it changes and evolves . So don't worry about saying ...hey haven't done this before or 'I'm enjoying this ... but not sure where to go next ' lovers like to teach their partner things and the idea of being the only person you have done something with will probably please your boyfriend. The advise you got already about only doing what you are comfortable with is ..... golden. Sometimes we want to please are partners so can be coerced into something we aren't ready for which does not make it the enjoyable experience we desire. Also whilst people often rate others as a good lover based on technique or skill or looks... I think for the most part people ARE good lovers when they are doing something they enjoy and feel good doing which in turn is often enjoyable and feels good for the other person too. In other words if you pretend to be experienced or to get pleasure from something but actually feel awkward or uncomfortable or dislike doing it... your partner will sense it and you both will enjoy it less.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 hey - first of all love the spiffy opener!!!
second of all, you need to be comfortable with whatever your doing or you wont enjoy yourself!! let him know that you dont have to most experience in this area and to lead you through - he'll probably be really turned on by the fact that your new to it!! just be safe and stop if you feel uncomfortable. also be careful not to damage yourself on any tree trunks or rocks!!
why not look it up on the net too and see if anything jumps out at you? bring your own ideas to the table too.
enjoy your trip!! let me know how it all goes x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 January 2009):
Whether you are gay or not, you are still below the age of consent.
Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with and use condoms.
Other than that you just have to relax and enjoy yourself. Let him take the lead.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Jmo  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 Hey, not knowing what you're doing can be fun and exiting, a new experience. If you're too caught up in acting like you "know what you're doing" you'll be too nervous and self-conscious to enjoy it. Don't worry about it, or make up some sex games of your own.
-Jmo
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reader, jam jar +, writes (29 January 2009):
jam jar is verified as being by the original poster of the question I meant to say I'm meeting up wiv my boyfriend and going camping with him soon.
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