He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 16 March 2011: That's good. Time heals all wounds eventually.... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 24 August 2010: Honestly I wouldn't confront him cause if you really stop and think about it this is a waste of time it's not going to sink in with him. Write him a letter that you DONT send and tell him everything you want to say. Get it all off your chest and ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 14 July 2010: You're welcome go forth and be happy. May the force be with you :-)... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 31 May 2010: See if I was you're mother I'd be mighty worried about you right now because if your experiencing all that you can not be acting normally. Most mothers will fight tooth and nail to help their kids when there is something wrong with them so I still ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 30 May 2010: I'm starting to wonder if you actually like wallowing in misery since you don't seem keen to follow any of the suggestions put to you by any posters. Your replies are starting to sound pretty whinny and whingey. Come on dude pull your head in and ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 26 May 2010: Exactly my point go to the doctor and ask them to refer you to a therapist. Tell your parents you are depressed and you don't really know why. (there are hundreds of people in this situation) You need to be able to talk to someone who is not ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 26 May 2010: So lie to your parents. Make up something that is wrong with you that they wont want to verfiy like a discharge from your penis or a urinary infection. Then tell the doctor you have had to lie to your parents and he will have to help you. You ... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 25 May 2010: Doctors can't discuss their sessions with anyone else even your parents so they need not find out why you are visiting the doctor.... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 6 May 2010: Again I repeat keep away from him. He's confused and it's making him unsure how to react. May I suggest you make friends with some girls. Unlike males (not meaning to male bash here) we like to talk. We like to analyse situations from every ... (read in full...)
I secretly fancy this woman at work...
Q. I secretly fancy this woman at work. Problem is I don't know if she is interested in women. I am planning to leave my job next month and also want to express my feelings to her but don't know how. She could be married or have a boyfriend. I am a ...
A. 1 May 2010: I would say to her that you've really enjoyed working with her and would like to keep in contact. Suggest meeting for a coffee and then you can use that time to find out more about her feelings.
Good luck with this :-)... (read in full...)
A 26-year old man is beginning to fall for me after his fight with an ex; how can I solve this?
Q. Hey, I know this may sound weird, but i'll give it a shot: My best friend's boyfriend's brother is almost 26 years old. He recently found out that his girlfriend had an affair with his brother, and was freaking out. Since my bff, her bf and i always ...
A. 1 May 2010: Cut all contact with him for a while.... (read in full...)
I'm very upset that boyfriend spent money he didn't have to buy a gun!
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 8 months just recently went on holiday with a little money he saved up. He wanted to do something nice for me and both of us don't have much money at the moment as we are unemployed, so I thought it was a kind gesture. Whil...
A. 1 May 2010: I bet you've spent money on things in the past that he's shaken his head over. Most men don't understand the female passion for shoes and clothes but us girls love it.
My husband is a hunter and whilst I agree with you in the sense that it's dest... (read in full...)
How do I tell my friend to lay off?
Q. Heyy, I've gotta question regarding my one of my friends. Im at college and i've recently been considering leaving because of it, even though it sounds a bit stupid. I've known him for nearly two years, and since that time his just started to upset ...
A. 1 May 2010: Politely you could say: "Do you realise how much you hurt my feeling when you say stuff like (example of something he's said)? Please cut it out it's not how friends should treat one another"
If politely doesn't work: "Mate feck off and leav... (read in full...)
Why does this guy always contact me just when I'm getting over him?
Q. Ok so back in November, I met a guy online. We talked for a while and really hit it off. We decided to meet up, and we ended up fooling around, no sex or anything though. But we ended up having sex the second time we met up. We continued to see each ...
A. 1 May 2010: He is playing games! He's treating you like a toy he can play with when it suits him. Block his number from your phone and get number id on your phone so you can ignore his calls. He doesn't deserve your love.... (read in full...)
I don't mind if my husband watches porn but he lies to me about it!
Q. i have a problem,i think.my husband loves porn and so do i but i dont tell him that.my problem is when he watches it he lies to me about it,and i have told him several times that i dont care just dont lie to me about it ya know.and another thing is ...
A. 1 May 2010: Go and rent a porno and put it on after tea and watch it together. It will hopfully make him realise that you are cool about the whole situation. I would also issue an ultimation. Lie about watching porn again and there's no sex!
Don't feel inse... (read in full...)
I told her she'd have to wait 8 years for us to be together!
Q. I am a 18years old guy in a relationship with a girl of 21years for over a year now. I really do love her,and she does love me,not for my money[which i dont have] or anything. Her parents are in support but i dont know if we can be together in ...
A. 1 May 2010: Of course. I didn't get married till I was 28 and my husband was 32. We had our first child when I was 29 the next when I was 31 and the third when I was 33. They are all healthy and flourishing.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he could never marry me because I hate my own mother.
Q. My mother does not support me in anything. I'm in my 3rd semester in college working on a crimal justice bachelors degree. Shouldn't I parent be proud? I guess they should but she isn't. She calls me "worthless" and worst things. So I have tried to ...
A. 29 April 2010: Your boyfriend sounds like a bit of a jerk to me. If he really cared for you he would be supporting you in not wanting to have anything to do with your mother and trying to draw you into his own family for love and support. I want you to read the ... (read in full...)
Am I being too nit picky? Should I try to reconcile?
Q. I am 23 years old and my ex-boyfriend, whom I broke up with yesterday, is 26. I am considering calling him to reconcile/talk and am not sure if this is a good idea. My boyfriend is a wonderful man-- tender, very physically affectionate (borderline ...
A. 29 April 2010: Yes to be honest you are being a little picky. Good relationships need quite a bit of give and take to work. In your list of his faults the only thing that could be a potential problem is the pot smoking. As for the rest of it he doesn't need you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has issues with my nude modelling.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months and were friends prior to that for approximately 2 years. When we first met, I was a fine art model. I posed nude for photographers and artists. This wasn't a problem until he started to care ...
A. 29 April 2010: A big clap for him for going to therapy to try and sort this out in his head. That shows he's not a complete neanderthal. I think you should completely ignore it. If you pussy foot round him and feel sorry for him you are just feeding his ... (read in full...)
I want to wait until marriage for sex, how can I resist temptation?
Q. I'm 22, and I finally have a boyfriend, and just lost my first kiss about a year ago. I have always said I'd wait till marriage before sex, but I keep getting tempted. I moved in with him because I had no where else to go. Which is really not help...
A. 29 April 2010: I really admire you for this aim and value and I can totally understand how hard it's becoming for you. Does your BF know you want to wait until marriage? What does he think? If you are both committed to this then you both need to take ... (read in full...)
I get so nervous and queasy around this guy...?
Q. I honestly don’t know what the matter with me is. Never in my life have I ever been this nervous and uncomfortable around a guy. I’ve been out on a few dates with him and they went fine. No sparks or fireworks or even instant chemistry. But lots and ...
A. 29 April 2010: This is chemistry! This guy is effecting you in a way you haven't felt before. I used to blush whenever my husband (then my boyfriend) came into the room. Chemistry does funny things to our bodies. Enjoy your relationship the butterflies will go ... (read in full...)
Where and how can I fit in to this womans life?
Q. I am currently in an on/off relationship with a girl who is a single mum. While I care for this woman and enjoy her company I'm scared of commiting as I can't see things working out long term. Her little boy is a really good kid and I don't see any ...
A. 29 April 2010: You don't have to be the child's father. He already has one of those. If you like his company you just need to enjoy hanging out with him and answer his many questions and queries as best you can. Just be a mate to him that's all a stepdad ever ... (read in full...)
I am not valued, should I leave and how will I cope alone?
Q. Hi...i need help here...i met this guy about 2 years back--and i really do love him but lately hes begun making excuses to meet or get intimate--though whenever am in trouble he helps...but if i ask my close friends even they will--i want a guy to ...
A. 29 April 2010: This is a relationship of convenience for him. He's not taking it as seriously as you. If a man I was in love with said: "he does not ever want to marry me as he does not want a divorce from his wife—he says he wants to be a free bird and will ... (read in full...)
We are madly in love, but due to his Mother hating me, he has not contacted me for days
Q. I have asked this question a few times on here, but as the situation keeps updating, I feel the need to re-issue it. To cut a long story short, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. His mother hates me, but refuses to explain ...
A. 29 April 2010: Both him and his mother are giving you the run around. I'm so sorry but this guy is never going to stop being a Mummy's boy and she has the apron strings pulled so tight he has no opportunity to see what's happening to him. He's become such a yes ... (read in full...)
Please Help, Father has nothing to do with our son!
Q. Me and the ex were together 1 year and half, we were living together and everything was great. Then I found out I was pregnant in feb 2008. Things were still fine he was super excited about the baby but as soon as our son was born in October 2008 ...
A. 28 April 2010: Yes good point. Do you have evidence of the holes in walls and abuse towards you or witnesses to this behaviour? You would waltz through the door of sole custody if so.
Very best of luck to you I know you will be alright!... (read in full...)
At my wit's end with my girlfriend and these arguments!
Q. Hi, I feel like I am at my wits end with my girlfriend and need your help/ advice/ opinions. We got engaged 15 months ago and seem to argue abit (which I know is normal) the thing is when we argue, I am the type of person that wants to sort it...
A. 28 April 2010: Oh dear aren't us girls horrible sulky little brats. Your GF sounds like a very head strong person who is used to getting her own way. (Many of us are like this) It really worries me though that she is saying things like "It's alright for you, ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend, marriage and family
Q. MOD NOTE: 2 posts combined....Hi, I am 26 and my boyfriend is 31. We've been together 10 months now. I'm very keen to marry him and he would also like to be married. We have some issues in terms of religious and cultural differences. A m...
A. 28 April 2010: Question number 1: No I don't think it's important for families to get along it's only important that the married couple get along. Surely the fact that you have a degree and a professional job shows his family that you are a cut above the rest of ... (read in full...)
Please Help, Father has nothing to do with our son!
Q. Me and the ex were together 1 year and half, we were living together and everything was great. Then I found out I was pregnant in feb 2008. Things were still fine he was super excited about the baby but as soon as our son was born in October 2008 ...
A. 28 April 2010: I'm not sure how you go about getting him to sign his rights off but my two cents worth to you is this: You have done the right thing. This man can be no decent sort of role model to your son and no support to you. Well done to you for standing ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I love him?
Q. I am 13 years old 14 on thursday I think i love this man who has turned 17 so theres 3 years apart should I tell him i love him or is it too much age gap. We have the same intrests i am just too scared to ask. What should i do?...
A. 28 April 2010: It's a funny old thing how as you get older age gaps don't matter so much. At my age 3 years is nothing but at your age it's quite a lot. When I was your age a 17 year old would not have even looked at a 13-14 year old in fact they'd even struggle ... (read in full...)
I've tried all sorts of things but keep ejaculating before the main event.
Q. I've been dating a beautiful girl for two months, everything had been going really well, we seem to want the same out of life and enjoy most of the same things, but we've'tried' to have sex twice three times and it was a disaster each and ...
A. 28 April 2010: Yes this has happened to me with a boyfriend. And I understand what you mean by awkward silences. I didn't want to say the wrong thing so said nothing. He was mortified so said nothing. What worked really well for us was me making him cum with a ... (read in full...)
He likes this girl and wants me to like her too, but I love him!
Q. I attended a university where i met this guy at a little party and I fell in love immediately. That same night he dropped me home. Then he started comin over regularly. We palyed together laughed told stories about our past together. It was jus fun. ...
A. 26 April 2010: Unfortunately he sees you as a friend only and you see him as a lover. If you can't reconcile this in your mind it probably will end up going sour. I once had a friendhship like that only I was the one who wanted to be friends and he wanted ... (read in full...)
I masturbated because my husband never wants sex! Is this bad?
Q. So one day my husband was at work and i wanted to have sex so bad and we hadnt had sex for 3 weeks and he never wants to so i masturbated and it wasnt as bad as i thought. My husband would be mad. so am i in the wrong for doing that? Do you think ...
A. 24 April 2010: I think you should talk to him about your sex life and find out why he's not that interested. Otherwise it will make you start to feel miserable about yourself.
I don't think there's anything wrong with masturbation and neither does my husband... (read in full...)
I just had a horrible "first time", or what should have been. I'm too hurt to move on, what do I do?
Q. "Wow, hun...You're so much smaller than my ex...I'm sorry." That's what she told me when we were just about to...yeah Then she got up, apologized, and left quietly. I felt so terrible after, I actually cried lol. We don't see each other anymore. ...
A. 24 April 2010: What a complete bitch. Even though she hurt you thank god she's gone cause she wouldn't have made you happy!
Personally I don't think size matters. It's actions that count more. The right one wont care about size.
Good luck dude and don't wa... (read in full...)
Best friend becomes boyfriend of the girl I like, what to do?
Q. Hello, so I have a problem with two friends of mine. Currently I have just started my second semester in college and everything is going fine. While in college I have spent most of my time with these two other friends, one girl and one guy. We are ...
A. 24 April 2010: Oooo dangerous teritory. No matter what happens here someone gets hurt. I would look around if I were you and try to find someone else to love because this situation could get explosive. There will be someone else with less complications and then ... (read in full...)
Do I have a committment problem with guys who like me?
Q. Well everytime a dude likes me i just think of him as a friend (or even a best friend), then he gets over me, and that's when i start to like him and not beeing able to get him out of my head .. it happened to me 4 times, i dnt wanna go to the next ...
A. 24 April 2010: Ask the next one to be with you.... (read in full...)
Worried about my boyfriend's suspicious behaviour
Q. Hey im about 2 months pregnant wit my bf's baby that we planned on having. We are both really excited. Or so i thought.... The past couple weeks he's been acting suspicious. He doesnt come over, doesnt call, doesnt txt, missing Dr appointments. ...
A. 24 April 2010: Yes he wants you to break up with him. I suspect he's realised what he's got himself into and doesn't want to be there but doesn't have the guts to come out and say it!
Sorry... (read in full...)
Can use of the pill make me skip my period?
Q. Hi - I've just been given microgynon 30 by my doctor and was told I could start taking it straight away... (I'm on day 8 of my cycle). The only thing is that I'm off on holiday in 3 weeks and don't want a my period to come while I'm away... can i ...
A. 24 April 2010: Yes you just skip the sugar pills (usually they are the biggest ones in the packet) and your period will not come.... (read in full...)
Our mothers had an argument and now she ignores me.
Q. I have posted a question a few weeks ago about a distant cousin of mine,which I am interested in(not as much today).She is my age,and is the daughter of my much older cousin,so this would make her my first cousin once removed. Anyways her mom and ...
A. 24 April 2010: I don't think what you have done makes you look foolish and controlling on the contrary her not replying makes her seem childish.
No I wouldn't bother trying to contact her anymore. You've extended the olive branch and she hasn't taken it so forg... (read in full...)
Will she come back to me and ever get over her fear of marriage?
Q. Let me tell u in short story. I am in relation with this girl from 1.5yrs. Its long distance relationship. Well we never had fight. We both are loyal to each other. Trust each other very much. Our parents have no prob in our marriage. Everything was ...
A. 24 April 2010: You say you can wait for her and I'm afraid that's the only thing you can do.... (read in full...)
Issues with my boyfriend, pregnant with his baby, upset by his actions!
Q. I'm in quite a serious dilemma... I met this guy and fell pregnant the second time we slept together. The good news is that we've both stepped up to the plate and decided to embrace our situation. The only problem is, i'm battling to accept is ...
A. 24 April 2010: I'm so sorry doll but I think this guy is a drop kick! Do you really want to live like this for the rest of your life? Do you want your child to grow up in a house where her father takes drugs and doesn't really respect her mother? If you don't ... (read in full...)
Why don't I feel the same love and desire for my boyfriend, and how do I get back to where it was before?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. We have been very happy, i love spending time with him and he always makes me feel better. He is so nice and he is really the only guy who would really understand and put up with me. He is ...
A. 24 April 2010: This is completely normal. If that buring lust have to be with each other constantly feeling carried on forever you would die of exhaustion. Relationships get to the stage where you feel completely comfortable around each other. If you are still ... (read in full...)
I want her back so badly but her friends and family are standing in the way of us being together
Q. please help me for god's sake....i am going crazy and dont believe i am writing this....long story short,she was my soulmate...we were together for 2 years and were committed...we hanged out at many places and had become most important part of life ...
A. 24 April 2010: Oh dear I don't know where to start. Firstly relationships like these rarely work because the pressure of all the friends and relatives mean the relationship begins on such a strained note there can be no easy place to fall.
Secondly you're 23 why ... (read in full...)
He's been a great friend; can we make it something more?
Q. My friend lee tells me he loves me, he says he adores me, he even sent me a poem of his feelings towards me. i really like him, just recieving a text from him makes me so happy! the thing is we have both had a rough couple of years, my best friend ...
A. 24 April 2010: Ask Lee out.... (read in full...)
Help in getting over ex....
Q. I have been in love with the same guy for 5 years now, he has been constantly on my mind. We dated on and off for a while, but it never worked out because our personalities clashed (but we always remained friends and never stopped speaking). It got ...
A. 24 April 2010: I feel like the vicar of dibley when she was trying to get Alice and Hugo together. Oh would you just bloody kiss already :-)
Seriously though you both love each other and love can usually conquer all. Lots of people clash in their rela... (read in full...)
Is he gay or not?
Q. There is this guy in our circle of friends. We grew up in the same city and we know a lot of the same people in our city. We get along great. We have the same humor and we are always laughing. Our circle of friends is pretty close. So this guy, it'...
A. 24 April 2010: If I were you I would tell him you really like him and ask him if he would be interested in a relationship with you. Then you will have an answer to whether you should invest any more time thinking about him as a potential mate.
A lot of men are ... (read in full...)
Is there a family connection?
Q. hey this is confusing but here goes,my bfs cousin is my mothers uncles son...so what does that make my bf? im not really good on family relations ...
A. 24 April 2010: It makes you both extremely distantly related and means you have nothing to worry about.... (read in full...)
Should I have a talk with my ex?
Q. Alright, we've been talking for 2 weeks and it's been pretty good and a few times she bought up the past...The past she bought up was way to special. It was how we use to fall asleep together. Im like wooww..but yeah It got my interest back with ...
A. 24 April 2010: I think you need to say to your ex that you are confused about where you stand with her which is why you invited someone else to the prom. Ask her where she sees the two of you going and tell her you hate the hanging on and need some direction.... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 20 April 2010: Just back off from him completely and let him come back to you in his own time. Like it or not he feels uncomfortable now and he needs to deal with that in his own time and in his own way. You just need to carry on as per usual and wait ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend simply will not satisfy me in bed.
Q. Hi, I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We have been reasonably happy except for in one regard: sex. He always wants a blowjob, but he never wants to go down on me or even manually stimulate me. He has only gone down on me 3-4 times ...
A. 20 April 2010: Mmm he's quite a selfish sounding individual isn't he!!! Personally I would refuse to have sex with him again until he shapes up in the bedroom. And yes if he keeps not coming to the party I think it is the death of your relationship. You will ... (read in full...)
I text like there's no tomorrow, and my parents get really mad!
Q. So I've gone over my texting limit before, and my parents always get REALLY mad. I think last month I went over by 100 (not even) this time I went over by like 1,600. :( Is there a way to fix this issue?! I don't even wanna know how much it's gonna ...
A. 20 April 2010: Sorry sweetie but if I was your Parents I would swap your phone for a prepaid one that you have to pay for. Why don't you offer that as a solution?... (read in full...)
He's straight and I'm gay. How can I stop falling in love with him?
Q. I'm gay and I love one of my best friends and I told them a couple of months ago. They made it clear that they aren't, but they said that they respected the fact that I'm gay. I feel awkward when ever I pass him in the halls at school and I tryed to ...
A. 20 April 2010: Sorry mate but your thinking is a little off here. You have no right to be angry at him. He said straight out at the beginning that he was not attracted to you and was straight. You need to put yourself in his shoes and realise that whether you ... (read in full...)
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