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30-35,
*ichelle M
writes:i have a problem,i think.my husband loves porn and so do i but i dont tell him that.my problem is when he watches it he lies to me about it,and i have told him several times that i dont care just dont lie to me about it ya know.and another thing is when he watches it,it kinda makes me feel insecure like my body isnt good enough for him.what should i do?how should i approach him with these problems.help me please
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reader, RyanS  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Okay, let me give you a reverse example.
My girl talks about how well endowed Rocco is, but I don't feel bad about it. I know I am not competing with Rocco and I am not a porn star who can make it for 60 minutes like they are walking in a park! Does Rocco bother me, no way.
I only ask my girl one question: are you satisfied with me, and she says yes very much. That's all I need to know.
And if you reverse it back, all you need to know clearly is if you are satisfying your guy in bed. Ask it regularly. He will know you care about it and it will keep the couple good.
Don't feel insecure. You are a real woman that he can enjoy. He knows that. Porn is just an image and can never compete with you. Only a real woman can compete with you.
Next step for you: ask him today that you want to learn something new to please him in bed and ask for what you can do. very few girls ever ask this question. your guy will love you for it. trust me.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 May 2010):
 Yeah, don't feel insecure about porn stars. They don't exist in nature, and most women aren't obligated to stuff themselves with silicone and shave themselves to look like 11-year old girls. Most of those porn stars are NOT having fun.
With a lot of guys, it's the "Madonna-whore" complex. They love and cherish their wives and the mother of their kids, but on the side, they have this dirty little secret with video hookers to fulfill fantasies that would make normal women cringe in disgust.
The lies are because they like the thrill of being secretive. Good luck!
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 Go and rent a porno and put it on after tea and watch it together. It will hopfully make him realise that you are cool about the whole situation. I would also issue an ultimation. Lie about watching porn again and there's no sex!
Don't feel insecure about your body there are only 10% of women in the world that have bodies like the porn stars and models the rest of us are normal curvy women. Most men love curves.
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reader, cnith +, writes (1 May 2010):
 Find some porn you DO like and show it to him. That gets him to thinking it's not a bad thing with you. You saying you don't care can mean (to a guy) that you're actually pissed but won't tell him.
If you do like porn, why not watch it together?
And if he watches it, then lies about watching it, why does it bother you?
And btw, I'm sure he's picked up how uncomfortable you get when he DOES watch porn because of your insecurities. That could be why he doesnt tell you. He doesnt want to make you upset.
Trust me. If he wanted a porn star, he would have gone for one and married HER. He likes you just fine. They're fantasies. Like the george clooneys and brad pitts of many women out there. :)
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reader, goowes +, writes (1 May 2010):
 I went through that and I reversed it I got nude men magazines (hard to find), you think you are insecure well watch him!!
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