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41-50,
*oonbeam Spectra
writes:I secretly fancy this woman at work. Problem is I don't know if she is interested in women. I am planning to leave my job next month and also want to express my feelings to her but don't know how. She could be married or have a boyfriend. I am a woman with above average looks.What is the best thing to say? I need some encouragement :(
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 I would say to her that you've really enjoyed working with her and would like to keep in contact. Suggest meeting for a coffee and then you can use that time to find out more about her feelings.
Good luck with this :-)
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reader, ManAfterChrist  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 Well, considering you don't know if she's in a relationship at all, you must not know much about her. I know that's the point of dating... but in your position... what is the ratio of gay/straight women? It's a pretty big difference. I would consider figuring that out first before you embarrass yourself (don't take that offensively, just be real).
If you don't want to wait, just ask if she fancies women. Make sure it's clear you aren't assuming, just curious. If she says no, then just say oh okay, and walk away. Sure you might feel embarrassment, but you are leaving the job anyways so it won't last long.
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reader, hurting32  +, writes (30 April 2010):
 Create a friendship first.. get to know her.. casually invite her out on a girls night.. ask her about her life.. find out if she iseverything you think she is. You dont have to create an awkward situation.. just be a friendly woman at first.. then pursue more if the sparks there..:).. Good luck..
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