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writes:Me and my boyfriend of 8 months just recently went on holiday with a little money he saved up. He wanted to do something nice for me and both of us don't have much money at the moment as we are unemployed, so I thought it was a kind gesture.Whilst we were on holiday, he bought a gun. It's only an air rifle and it is legal in our area, but the thing that bothers me is that it was £70, and we were tight on money and he would rather spend £70 on a gun than save up with me for something for us, as well as the fact that this gun is used to kill game birds and rabbits! I can't help but have a changed opinion on him now, knowing that he impulse buys on ridiculous things that kill innocent animals! I have expressed my views to him, saying its dangerous as he doesn't really know how to use it, he just wants it to shoot things when he pleases, but he says I'm being irrational :/I really don't know what to do about this, he shot a bird right infront of me last week and it made me feel sick, and he wants me to enjoy this 'sport' with him, but I find it disgusting.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 My empathies to you .He is acting like a small kid and I bet he has been wishing for that air gun for a very long time.I am afraid, he has no monetary sense and don't seem to worry about money.
The timing was wrong and he should have being more careful with the money ,seeing that you are both presently unemployed and money is hard to come by.
He should have exercise financial prudence and should have seek your opinions first.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 You're not married, and I assume you're living together? If he's holding up his end of the bargain and paying his half of the bills, he can get whatever he wants.
Joint saving is something married people do, and unmarried people are under absolutely no obligation to consider.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 I bet you've spent money on things in the past that he's shaken his head over. Most men don't understand the female passion for shoes and clothes but us girls love it.
My husband is a hunter and whilst I agree with you in the sense that it's destressing watching and thinking about innocent animals being killed this is a much more humane way for them to die than being poisoned or trapped. When an animal is shot they know nothing about it, death is instant. When they are trapped or poisoned the death is slow and painful.
Incidently we eat everything my husband shoots and this is a big money saver. Might work for you too?
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reader, goowes +, writes (1 May 2010):
 He had already spent his money on you right? It was his money to spend on a gun yes? It probably made him very happy, don't mess with his joy, you want him happy and he will let you spend regardless in the future without freaking too. Calmly mention the bills and he'll probably think to himself that he'd sell it if needed. It not then, make sure you earn enough money to support yourself and he can eat the gun for dinner.
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