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Advice for online long distance relationship? What to do?
Q. Hi there.. so I'm kind of in an e-relationship with this guy who is 6 years older than me. We've been talking for 6 months. He lives in canada and I live in australia. We have a strong emotional connection (I know its the internet and all.. but it ...
A. 6 March 2010: Hey girly,what happened with your musician guy?... (read in full...)
Suspicious boyfriend may be gay.
Q. Is my boyfriend gay? He doesn't like to really do anything with me he rather hang out with the guys. We have sex maybe once a week because most of the time when he comes he tired and goes to sleep. I asked him once and he got very defensive saying ...
A. 6 March 2010: He's suspicious and GIRLISH.
Loves hanging out with your gay friend?
Hangs out witht he guys all the time?
Ringer off?
He's either cheating or He's gay. Or Bi.
He Doesnt sound like a keeper to me. DUMP.... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but want to find my old teacher to see if I still have strong feelings for him
Q. wow man am i happy to find this , its funny finding that there are people who feel the same way about some teachers that i do,. in high school i thought it was wierd and sure i joked around with my friends about getting teachers but we never took it ...
A. 6 March 2010: Maybe you were so into him cause it was an illegal stereotype that triguered you.(student - teacher)
Going to see him isnt a bad idea...be friendly and suggest catching up for a coffee.
I am almost sure that he will treat you like a friend an... (read in full...)
Military ruined the perfect relationship.
Q. I just broke up with the woman of my dreams, and I desperately want her back. Now to understand this problem,you need to understand the nature of my enlistment, and the circumstances of me meeting up with this wonderfull girl. I come from a f...
A. 6 March 2010: Wow...what a story.I've had a LDR (long distance relationship) and I started feeling the same way as you.Everytime we talked,the more distanct it felt.Well this is a tough one because you guys have different lives.She's a student,you work for the ... (read in full...)
I can't believe that no one remembers my birthday
Q. So I'll be 45 in two days. My kids are grown, and I've been dating this guy for 2 years. He has 3 kids; 13, 15, 21. I am currently staying with him until I close on my house (he wanted me to live with him, but the house is too small and I just ...
A. 6 March 2010: Poor thing...you said you were driving to see him for a year,you bought a place close to his etc? Honey,what cant you see??? YOu are the one who does all the effort !!! Its about time that changed,dont you think? I think this man enjoys your ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he make his move???
Q. I don't know whether its in my head, does he see me as a friend or more? I'm going crazy! If you look at my previous post he didnt end his online message with a x you'll get the jist of it. http://www.dea...
A. 5 March 2010: The email you sent him was a wrong move,you showed him you were in a hurry for yall to start something.Like the other reader said,keep your options open,laugh and flirt with him and make him go crazy thinking WHY DOESNT SHE WANT COMMITMENT?WHY ... (read in full...)
What actually is a rebound? Am I his rebound?
Q. Hi Guys, I'm confused re 'rebound'. I've been dating this guy for about 6 weeks and I'm wondering if I am his rebound? What is the proper definition of a rebound? He was with his ex properly for 5 years then that last couple of years they were ...
A. 5 March 2010: He complains to YOU about HER? He also said she needs to lose weight? and talked about money? Wow. This guy is a jerk.A nice guy would never accuse his ex to his current girlfriend,especially when he's known her for 6 weeks only and he still talks ... (read in full...)
I can't look at my boyfriend when I give him a blow job!
Q. I can't seem to look at my boyfriend while I'm giving him head! Like he looks at me when he's giving me oral and I find it sexy but I feel wierd if I look at him like we have been dating two years and I have never looked at him when I give him head. ...
A. 5 March 2010: how can you give head without looking at him? I have given head to one guy and I kept seeing him to see his reaction. As for my ex,I never gave him head...I liked him a lot but I found his penis disgusting for some reason. Maybe you're not... (read in full...)
I can't believe that no one remembers my birthday
Q. So I'll be 45 in two days. My kids are grown, and I've been dating this guy for 2 years. He has 3 kids; 13, 15, 21. I am currently staying with him until I close on my house (he wanted me to live with him, but the house is too small and I just ...
A. 5 March 2010: DO post on your FB that your going on a cruise but DO NOT SAY "that everyone forgot"...No! dont let him think NOBODY REMEMBER YOU! this will make you look insecure.Just dont answer his calls and when you finally do,be like "oh im sorry...i was ... (read in full...)
Why are black women seen as unattractive and the least or not desired mate???
Q. I am a black woman and I feel that I am not attractive because of my skin color. I have statistics behind me proving this point. 70% of black women are single. How the hell is this happening? Really? We aren't desirable in any way? Really? Not even ...
A. 6 February 2010: I am white and I prefer black men,however when I ask my white guy friends if they'd ever date a black woman,the answer is negative.Yes they'd love to sleep with one but not be with one.The reason?They fear black women are too exotic,too ... (read in full...)
I can't dance at clubs and bars, but I want to
Q. When I go out to bars and clubs I am shy. I want to be able to go out on the dance floor and dance with confidence. I am so nervous though that I am stiff as a board, literally can't move. When I am at home alone I can dance while listening to ...
A. 6 February 2010: Do start going to clubs in other towns like another reader said.
People know me as the "dancing queen" or the "club queen". This is because I maintain a healthy attitude at the club while I still do my thing.I never get tipsy or drunk.Th... (read in full...)
He is going clubbing in Greece and I'm scared he will cheat on me
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and i feel like we're good at the moment. There's just one problem- he's turning 18 soon (he's a year older than me) and going on holiday to a clubbing island in Greece with all his mates. I'm very worried ...
A. 6 February 2010: I live in Greece lol tell me where he's going to so I can keep an eye on him! JK!
Well,it depends on where he's going to. If it's Mykonos..thats the craziest island,full of parties,drunk girls and gay peeps! He will probably be too drunk to do an... (read in full...)
Can a long distance relationship really survive six years, only seeing each other twice a year?
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend coming up on four years, he is in an apprenticeship and I am studying at university. We see each other twice each year, typically spending a month or so together each visit, and then fly ...
A. 6 February 2010: He's probably happy and comfortable in this LDR. Sounds funny? I knew a guy who was with his girlfriend for 3 years and they were in a LDR.They saw each other twice a year,just like you.He ended the relationship because she was too jealous.He was ... (read in full...)
Advice for online long distance relationship? What to do?
Q. Hi there.. so I'm kind of in an e-relationship with this guy who is 6 years older than me. We've been talking for 6 months. He lives in canada and I live in australia. We have a strong emotional connection (I know its the internet and all.. but it ...
A. 6 February 2010: Even though guys appreciate the love they feel,when its online they do think its time to move on.The sad thing is the girl they meet online boosts their confidence to the point they think they can date any girl they want! in the real world! Unless ... (read in full...)
He wines and dines me and is very attentive, but will he ever commit?
Q. Hello all. I have a slight dilemma.This guy and I have been "hanging out" for a little over 3 years,(we have known each other closer to five).We have been having sex regularly(at least once a week,on mutual days off) for half of the 3 year "hanging ...
A. 6 February 2010: He doesnt feel that he has to commit because he has everything he wants already. You are between 36 and 40 and that tells me this man,if he's your age,he already has been married or either way he experienced much in his life,therefore he doesnt feel ... (read in full...)
Will this really work or are we just kidding ourselves?
Q. I am engaged to a guy that I have been with for four years now. We have always got along, but I am scared that we aren't asking all the questions we need to ask before marriage because we are afraid our answers wont match up. The situation is we ...
A. 6 February 2010: Sorry sweety,it won't work.You guys have too many differences to work on.He sounds like my ex.My parents loved him but yeah,he wasn't the best match for me. I think you are used to the whole thing because you've spent 4 years with this guy and of ... (read in full...)
I'm only happy when I am chatting to him online, but I feel guilty because he has a girlfriend!
Q. i fall in love with a guy. but he has gf now. we met on the website. It’s happy time when I chatting with him.I don’t know why sometimes my feeling of guilt for his gf is so strong. I know I must be wrong for his gh. But I don’t wanna leave hi...
A. 6 February 2010: Umm,does this guy live in your country or in another country? The best way to get a boyfriend who has a girlfriend is to pretend that the girlfriend doesn't exist. Don't be asking questions about his girlfriend.This way,he will focus on you,not... (read in full...)
How can I make the distance between us disappear?
Q. I have been with my partner now for 2 and a half years. We recentley moved in togeather. Now I love him very much, however he can not tell me he loves me or even how he feels about me. We hardly talk and if we do it is always me making the ...
A. 6 February 2010: Plan a weekend for both of you.get away from the city and the everyday problems. While you go away,have fun,lots of sex,and discuss the distance gap.... (read in full...)
We live together and tonight he said sex is a meaningless act
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. Recently it's like he's lost all interest in being intimate with me. Just tonight actually he told me that he thinks sex is a meaningless act! How could you possibly think that it's ...
A. 6 February 2010: Ask yourself some simple questions : Did he initiate sex in the past? Did he enjoy having sex with you? Did he care about sex,aka did he suggest new positions etc? If he never liked sex(oh yes,some men are this way!) ,then he just did... (read in full...)
We met online and out of the blue he asked me a question I didnt want to answer
Q. I've met this guy online,we have engaged in nice conversations so far via messaging and we talked a few times on skype.The last time we talked he randomly asked me If I thought of him.I didn't know what to say.Of course I had thought about him but I ...
A. 2 February 2010: Haha,thank you guys! I actually think you're right,I could of said yes,because now that I beat around the bush so much he can tell i was nervous aka intrested! Thnx again.... (read in full...)
What does he think of me now?
Q. Ok I heard this, that words Dont hurt but we all can say that thay do. I been told things that are not always nice all my life. But thats not whats bugging me. I have a friend that a guy and I also have a friend thats a woman I didnt think she ...
A. 2 February 2010: She's probably insecure and wants to gain popularity by talking bad about other people. People will believe her because they know she's close to you. As much as this might hurt you, CONFRONT HER. Ask her if she wants you as a friend if she says yes ... (read in full...)
How do I approach the first guy to tell him I've met someone else?
Q. I met someone about a month, saw him probably 3/4 times and text him a couple of times a week. Last time I saw him we were in a group and he pretty much ignored me all night then left without saying anything to me or anyone else. Because of that a ...
A. 2 February 2010: Tell him to mind his own business and confront him about not talking to you when you were in the group. Good luck!... (read in full...)
I need my man to be sexy AND have brains!
Q. Hey people.. I recently met a guy ..we have chemistry, but the thing is he's not that educated aka we cant talk about philosophy, literature etc. Sex-wise I'm attracted to him but then again I dont know if I could be satisfied with a sexual re...
A. 9 November 2009: Thanks to all of you guys... Yes I do plan on moving to the states,initially to get my masters and then settle down. I am not just sexually attracted to him. I have fun when I'm with him.We crack jokes,he makes me laugh (humor is imporant to me a... (read in full...)
I need my man to be sexy AND have brains!
Q. Hey people.. I recently met a guy ..we have chemistry, but the thing is he's not that educated aka we cant talk about philosophy, literature etc. Sex-wise I'm attracted to him but then again I dont know if I could be satisfied with a sexual re...
A. 8 November 2009: @ daniel
I am guessing you're white. White guys are perfectly ok.
I am not talking about race.It's about nationality. I am from Greece and greek guys just don't do it for me.... (read in full...)
I need my man to be sexy AND have brains!
Q. Hey people.. I recently met a guy ..we have chemistry, but the thing is he's not that educated aka we cant talk about philosophy, literature etc. Sex-wise I'm attracted to him but then again I dont know if I could be satisfied with a sexual re...
A. 8 November 2009: BTW :
I wrote this at 4 am so it seems a tad immature. I do have options but the problem is I'm very picky. So losing this guy will be kind of stupid...i mean let's be real here. When you're not sexually attracted to someone (and you will onl... (read in full...)
He's sending mixed signals - does he like me or not?
Q. ok here it goes..... i like this guy in uni, we met offically just over a week ago but i liked him before then.. whats been happening is there is some major flirting and chatting when we are sober, and when i was drunk i propa came on to him but he...
A. 8 November 2009: he probably likes u but suffers from the MMS (modern men syndrome) which is the syndrom where guys these days are too scared to take initiative. I suggest you become a little smart with him. Jokingly say "so you never told me what that kiss was ... (read in full...)
I'm the smotherer!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven months now and I think that whole honey moon phase is coming to a crashing halt. And well, I don't like it but I'm going to get used to it because I want to be with this guy and that's just how ...
A. 19 September 2009: How do you get distant? Hrmmm...
Talk to him and tell him you think of giving up the texts. Say there are times that ur busy and u cant answer so its better if you guys stop it for a while. Dont mention calling.
If he does call you,youre good. ... (read in full...)
How do I show him he needs to work for our relationship?
Q. WHAT CAN I DO BOUT THIS**LONG ONE**? I'm in a long distance relationship with a really nice dude. When we are face to face we get along extremelly well.Now that we're apart from each other we communicate through IM,email,text,calls. A few weeks ag...
A. 19 September 2009: Thanks to all of you for the responses.
To Tisha...
I always try to have fun time with him and I dont expect us to have long conversations about our feelings.I do expect us to keep getting to know each other even though we're at distance.
Th... (read in full...)
I'm aroused before sex, but not during it! How does this make sense?
Q. hi I have been with my boyfriend 1 year and 5 months every time he touch me or said something to me I get horny but when I'm having sex with him I don't get horny at all what does that mean? do that mean I don't love him because I feel like I love ...
A. 18 September 2009: Ask him to be more aggressive when it comes to sex. Try different positions.Dirty talk helps too.
If the situation doesnt improve,consult a doctor.
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I'm the smotherer!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven months now and I think that whole honey moon phase is coming to a crashing halt. And well, I don't like it but I'm going to get used to it because I want to be with this guy and that's just how ...
A. 18 September 2009: Sweetheart,yes you are clingy. He's in college and having a clingy girlfriend is the last thing a guy wants! Stop confronting him all the time,and yes, get distant with him. See how he will react. If he cares,he'll eventually do something... (read in full...)
How do I show him he needs to work for our relationship?
Q. WHAT CAN I DO BOUT THIS**LONG ONE**? I'm in a long distance relationship with a really nice dude. When we are face to face we get along extremelly well.Now that we're apart from each other we communicate through IM,email,text,calls. A few weeks ag...
A. 18 September 2009: What I'd want...
I would want us to talk more online,and have a deeper connection (just like we used to have in real life).. Even one hous is good. I mean if I dont talk to my boyfriend for an hour everyday then how is this supposed to work?
... (read in full...)
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