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The kind of advice I tend to give is practical.I put the person who asked FIRST,and morality second.I am not worried much about what society suggests,as society views are always altered by the time/area we live in. My faith in God results in Morality,but I will always consider YOUR good first,then societys.
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How do I keep my routine-hating gf entertained?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 2 years, and we've been living together for the past eleven months. Most of the time, things are great - we have fun, joke around, support one another, and respect one another. But every once in a ...
A. 9 April 2011: seems like ur the "logical,educated" type of guy. she wants u to be more adventurous. yes she feels stressed because of the 30+ pages THATS WHY SHE NEEDS A BREAK.
come on ...u guys have easyjet,german wings... flying to paris is NOTHING.
bett... (read in full...)
If he loved me, he'd spend money on me
Q. I have being in a relationship for good one year and during this year my guy has never a day giving me gift or money to take care of myself. I want to quit because he don't love me and if at all he did he would have spend for me a little. Please ...
A. 9 April 2011: Ehh? does he pay for you when u go out? like dinner? or movies?
you shouldn't expect a guy to just "give you money"
He's not your dad. Nor your Boss. Nor your pimp.... (read in full...)
Too many guys! And which one to choose?
Q. Hi everyone, I am in my first year at university, and while it is going great, I am finding all the male attention a bit overwhelming. It seems every guy I talk to is interested. Currently there are two I am potentially interested in myself, while ...
A. 9 April 2011: dont give ur number out to guys u dont really like.
give them a myspace or something.
stop texting with random guys all the time.
now ...these 2 guys....
wait will they ask u out, looks to me that u are in need of a boyfriend and rushing ... (read in full...)
I'm having loads of trouble finding an attractive, intelligent girlfriend!
Q. I need some advice on how to find a decent girlfriend. I'm a really good looking, athletic guy. I'm a combat veteran, university graduate, and have a well paying corporate job for someone my age (23.) I will be a homeowner in less than 2 year...
A. 9 April 2011: You are so intelligent yet ...emotionally immature. I am not offending you while saying this,but you really fell in the trap you set for yourself. yes you are attractive,rich,intelligent...but you cant expect a bimbo barbie to be on the same ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has been less affectionate lately... or am I over reacting?
Q. My girlfriend has been acting different lately. We used to have sex three to four times a week, now we barely do it once, she even stopped taking the pill... but what I dislike most is that I don't feel she enjoys it as much anymore (we were...
A. 3 April 2011: Hmmm,looks like you fell in the trap of "Mr Granted" your girlfriend has stopped appreciating what you do for her./she's a little annoyed you are so nice to her. i would like to say she suffers from the bad guy sydnrome ( girls like bad boys m... (read in full...)
I want to reopen the lines of communication with him, should I send him a birthday text?
Q. My bf and I split up 7 months ago after a 3 month relationship. I told him I was happy to remain friends, and a few texts went back and forth afterwards (all friendly - I never sent any begging letters, never let him know how hurt I was, etc), but ...
A. 3 April 2011: Yes. Text him. Why? because you want to. *PLUS* He's single now. ... (read in full...)
I keep drifting from my LDR. Any advice?
Q. Hey there, I would be grateful for any help regarding my issue. I'm involved with a man whom lives long distance from me. Due to the distance, we rely heavily on technology to communicate with each other. However, this has become somewhat restric...
A. 3 April 2011: hey..
my ldr was exactly like yours.I even posted a question on here.here it is.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-show-him-he-needs-to.html
You can see the state i was in.
It was over in the end.And I am glad it is.
Rig... (read in full...)
Time for this virgin to get her sexy on!
Q. I'm a 24-year-old virgin and I've just now got my first boyfriend. Got your attention yet? Good. Anyhow, he knows I'm a virgin, and so he's been a really patient guy and letting me take it slow. We've fooled around, sure, but he always stops himself ...
A. 31 March 2011: awwww im so happy for you :)
you wont appear easy to him no matter what you do. you are 24 and a virgin :)
you can ask him to buy candles :P After 1-2 days you can bring them out & ask him to light them :) He will get it.... (read in full...)
Time for this virgin to get her sexy on!
Q. I'm a 24-year-old virgin and I've just now got my first boyfriend. Got your attention yet? Good. Anyhow, he knows I'm a virgin, and so he's been a really patient guy and letting me take it slow. We've fooled around, sure, but he always stops himself ...
A. 31 March 2011: awwww im so happy for you :)
you wont appear easy to him no matter what you do. you are 24 and a virgin :)
you can ask him to buy candles :P After 1-2 days you can bring them out & ask him to light them :) He will get it.... (read in full...)
My shoes smell badlyy
Q. I'm embarrassed to ask this on a public website but at the same time, I'm thankful for the anonymity of the Internet. This isn't a relationship question, by the way, but it's REALLY bothering me. I'm not cochina (dirty), and I try to keep clea...
A. 31 March 2011: go to a doctor. get ur feet checked. u probably have an infection.but even if u dont,he will tell u what to do.
this is not something u should ignore.... (read in full...)
He won't make the first move. Should I?
Q. I like this guy so much. Sadly, he has no girl friend. A friend of mine likes him a lot though. I had heard so much about him, like he almost courted someone last year but then sadly he was rejected and the girl became the girlfriend of another guy. ...
A. 29 March 2011: it doesnt matter if he wanna get asked about his personal life. THE MATTER IS....he needs to realize you're not going to put effort in this if he keeps thinking of the other girl. WHY? Because you respect yourself. Chances are he likes ... (read in full...)
This LDR makes me feel terrible about myself, but I can't quit it. Why?
Q. Hi This is continuation of question "LDR boyfriend says its ok for him to have sex with call girls since its just "meaningless sex"" I begged my bf not to choose a call girl over me and my love, which he refused. I feel really disgusted...
A. 29 March 2011: he doesnt respect u.
cant u see it?
HE DOES NOT RESPECT YOU.
Please stop begging him.
So many couples are in an LDR, the guy never said he will go to a call girl.
he's willing to pay money to have sex
but not willing to pay money fo... (read in full...)
He won't make the first move. Should I?
Q. I like this guy so much. Sadly, he has no girl friend. A friend of mine likes him a lot though. I had heard so much about him, like he almost courted someone last year but then sadly he was rejected and the girl became the girlfriend of another guy. ...
A. 29 March 2011: no. dont make the move.
wait until he texts u.
when u meet him
ask him if he still has feelings for the other girl.
tell him u can't come second.
... (read in full...)
What should I say to my parents so they will let me be more independent?
Q. My parents are very strict . They don't allow me to have a job. I'm 16 years old and they still think that I'm a 5 year old girl. I want to work and raise money, I want to be independent, but they refuse. What shall I do? Help me to convince them ...
A. 29 March 2011: you're from tynisia and things in ur country are not going well.
i can see why they dont allow u to work. ur life can be in danger!
plus...
u will be working your entire life.
enjoy being a teenager!
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LDR GF does not reciprocate my feelings, but there is this close friend who...
Q. Hi. I've been in a LDR for about a year now. i love my gf and she loves me the same. recently i have found myself doing quite more "sweet and romantic" things more than her. its bothered me for a while and now i cant take it any more. i thought i ...
A. 29 March 2011: people have their own ways to show their significant other they love them
why do u want ur ldr gf to reciprocate the same way?
also,have u ever met her?
are u going to meet her?
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Does this make me or him the selfish one here?
Q. Does this make me or him the selfish one here? So im in a LDR and we talk everyday, miss one day and we kinda miss each other and 2 days is just hell. Anyways...I talked to him for a little while on saturday and on sunday he was a no show...did...
A. 29 March 2011: u were hypersensitive. just give it a rest. let him chase u.
dont go online for like a week. make him wonder.
he's a typical man who is being a d*ck when he knows the girl allows him to be one.
u shouldnt have left that message on msn.
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Was my long distance girl using me? Or is it something more?
Q. hey this is in regards to long distance realtiolnsihp/ romance. any help or expect advice in this area would be appreciative I posted a while ago about how i maintained my distance from my long distance lover (girl) because of fear of heartb...
A. 29 March 2011: i think u dissappointed her big time. she stated so many times she wants to meet you,but u were being difficult.
then she (so she says - it might be a lie to make u jealous) got back with her ex.
go see her as soon as possible.
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I want to show him that I too am a romantic!
Q. dear cupid, soo there's this guy that i've recently taken an interest in; a mutual friend gave him my cell phone number, he started texting me, and we just really hit it off. we've been on three dates, and they were all absolutely awesome...especi...
A. 29 March 2011: honey,let the man date u first.
its his job to be romantic with you
and its your job to appreciate his efforts.
u can be romantic with him after 10-12 dates :)
Aka a month?
Let the man chase you. That's the epitomy of being romanti... (read in full...)
Emotional connection or LUST?
Q. i have a question here............................... IAM in a LDR.... and living 2000 km away from my guy so it gets very difficult for us to see each other .......... in these 3 years we could hardly meet twice a year..... and each time we plan ...
A. 28 March 2011: not getting enough of u shows he wants u a lot and misses u a lot.
i wouldnt be worried if i were you.
if its emotional connection or lust,u will know this by all the other time you spend apart.
question is,how longer are u be in an LD... (read in full...)
Why do guys cheat? I had good reason to break up with my BF, but I still feel awful!
Q. My boyfriend of 4 yrs and I just broke up (I broke with him). I had my reasons...1) signs he was cheating 2) always hiding his phone 3)the PAST 4) my gut feeling. Anyways, I spent the night with him last night and for once he left his phone ou...
A. 27 March 2011: dont get back with him.
ur so much better than him
hes cheating cuz a) hes stupid and cant appreciate what he has! b) insecure cuz ur so much better than him (in his eyes) hence he wanna feel like a man and does so by cheating on u.
get u... (read in full...)
Girlfriend breaks up with me after I visit her in her country...and then she is warm and affectionate for the rest of my trip! What is going on with her??
Q. Hey everyone! This is kind of a follow up question to my previous question. If you need more information please read through that question. So just one week ago while visiting my long distance girlfriend she broke up with me. Considering I ...
A. 22 March 2011: You are in the Netherlands. Where does she live??
How long have you been talking? where did you meet?
give us some insight and your answers will be delivered shortly :)... (read in full...)
Should I suggest he propose before I agree to another year of LDR?
Q. My boyfriend and I will soon have been dating for 2 years. He’s got a job he loves (with a modest salary) in one city, and I am a grad student with a decent assistantship in another city 1.5 hours away. As time goes by, distance gets harder, ...
A. 21 March 2011: 1,5 hours of difference isnt that much. U shouldnt see each other only 3 weekends a month. Heck, I know a couple who lives 2.5 hours apart and see each other EVERY weekend + during the week.
You can't and shouldn't pressure a man to marry you.
Th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells me he would be happy with or without me! We're supposed to marry next year. What should I do?
Q. Please give me advice! My boyfriend who wants to marry me next year is telling me he is happy with me or without me. Why would he say something like that? Is it because he doesn't love me? I can't get the answer. Please you might have good answer ...
A. 4 March 2011: looks like ur showing him u love him WAY TOO MUCH? Ur clingy?
Either way,what he said ISN'T THE RIGHT THING TO SAY TO YOUR FUTURE WIFE.
Don't you want a man who is head over heels for ya?
I was in this store 2 months ago, and the owner gave ... (read in full...)
How do I get my model girlfriend to listen to me?
Q. hey everyone, my girlfriend is a model and shes doin nightwear stuff like dresses for party and stuff like that. and sometimes she has to do photos with guys. im a model too but i hate it when my gf is doing stuff with other male models. i only do ...
A. 4 March 2011: if u continue being insecure like this ur gonna lose her. its just her job.... (read in full...)
We don't have sex anymore.
Q. Me and my girlfriend don't have sex anymore and I don't know why I treat here great. She never has to buy things as I give her everything or do any house work and cook as I do it all i run her baths and give massages and take Her out for meals every ...
A. 1 March 2011: she has taken u for granted. ur not a man anymore,ur a slave. stop doing all that for her and she'll be interested.... (read in full...)
Should I move back to be with my overseas love, or remain with my love who's here?
Q. Alright, this story is a lot of background and not much happening now - I'll try to keep it brief. I moved to this city 4 years ago. Just before I did, I met a man (let's call him Thomas), and left him behind in the other country. We were friends...
A. 1 March 2011: Alright sweety...
Thanks for the answers :)
It looks like you trust Steve a lot.
You've been in a 2 and a half yrs LDR with Thomas.
Things have might changed.
I would say... Talk to Steve. Ask him (playfully,seriously...however you t... (read in full...)
Should I move back to be with my overseas love, or remain with my love who's here?
Q. Alright, this story is a lot of background and not much happening now - I'll try to keep it brief. I moved to this city 4 years ago. Just before I did, I met a man (let's call him Thomas), and left him behind in the other country. We were friends...
A. 26 February 2011: I read the entire question and it probably is the most serious/interesting on the site right now.
What you're going through is extremelly hard. You're caught in the middle. It's confusing,so I'll ask you a few things.
1) Will this "moving to t... (read in full...)
I'm 34 years old and feel like such a disappointment! Help!
Q. I am so baffled, depressed and confused. My parents have been married for 40 years, my younger brother has been married 15 years. I am 34 and nothing in sight....Am I disappointment? I have a Masters degree, tons of friends, and I flunk in the love ...
A. 25 February 2011: damn. u really need to read WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES.
it refers to ur exact case in the first chapter.
u will immediately realize what you did wrong.
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and her slutty drinkin buddy......
Q. This is just as much a general question as it is specific to me. So here are my thoughts. I've been seeing this girl for a couple months now. It's not long enough to be something too serious, yet it's moving fast. It's safe to say we're exclus...
A. 23 February 2011: did your girlfriend tell you what happened that night? it sounds as if you were there with her.... (read in full...)
I offended him and now I regret my behavior! What should I do?
Q. dear cupid, soo, back in december, i met this guy at school. i could pretty much tell that he was interested in me right from the start (i'm sorry if that sounded conceited; i really hope it didn't), but i never imagined myself falling for him ...
A. 22 February 2011: apologize in a casual way...say "u do realize i didnt expect u to dissappear right?".... he needs to tell u why he vanished. ur not the only one in the wrong here.... (read in full...)
My parents are so disapproving of my promise ring.
Q. On Valentine's Day, my boyfriend presented me with a promise ring. We've been together since my senior year of high school, and I will be 20 shortly. We want to get engaged and then married someday, but I want to finish my college education first. ...
A. 22 February 2011: dont worry about ur parents. some people will only respect ur actions if u stick to them. meaning? if u back down and do as they tell u,next time they'll step on you again. if ur sure about what u want,thats all that matters. tell ur parents u love ... (read in full...)
Long Distance romantic or sketchy relationship?
Q. I went to boarding school for three years. I have taken yoga out of those three years at school. The last year at this school and yoga I finally noticed this guy who has been there for three years. We never spoke if we did it was only about small ...
A. 22 February 2011: he's a coward? he didnt tell u he liked u in 3 yrs!!!
because? he fears rejection.
that time where u couldnt answer back because u passed out...(friendly advice : do not go online when ur drunk)...he thought you purposely ignored him. he got scar... (read in full...)
Am I just a booty call? Is he messing me around? Or is he genuine
Q. i met a lad at boxing a few months ago, and we've always had a bit of chemistry. recently last month he in boxed me, giving me his number, because he quit the gym. we've been texting ever since, he comes into my work at his break just to see me, ...
A. 19 February 2011: tell him you agree with him (key word : agree) that things are complicated becuz of his (ex) gf situation. Ask him straight up if he wanna date you or if he needs time. Tell him ,in the case he needs time,u will respect it but u wont be seeing him ... (read in full...)
Does she like me? Or is it all the partying we do together?
Q. I like this girl and I know she's a flirt to begin with. The only times we do hang out just us is when we're studying at the library or something. She and I text pretty often... both of us initiate conversation. We have a lot of the same friends ...
A. 16 February 2011: u will know when u hear her response .
go ahead and ask her out (after dinner)
Signs are she likes you.... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of going with a male prostitute and have started to save up.
Q. Hello I am 25 and I have had two long term relationships lasting three years each. Neither of the men wanted to have sex with me. I recently started seeing a new man and he isn't putting the moves on my but like the last two is talking about ...
A. 14 February 2011: Sounds like ur not british.Because if ur dating men of an eastern cultural background they will probably consider u such a catch and ask ur hand in marriage straight away :)
any western man would want to have sex with you after a month or so. Ther... (read in full...)
Should it bother me with how many different guys she has slept or had sex with in the past or am I just being greedy and selfish?
Q. I have a girlfriend of about 17 months now and I love her very much. She is about 2 years younger than me and grew up in the city while I grew up in a small town, two completely different settings. She was the pretty girl in high school that ...
A. 14 February 2011: if she bothered,u'd be like "damn why cant she look at the present? i am with her now...why would she care about my past?"
Question answered.... (read in full...)
Should it bother me with how many different guys she has slept or had sex with in the past or am I just being greedy and selfish?
Q. I have a girlfriend of about 17 months now and I love her very much. She is about 2 years younger than me and grew up in the city while I grew up in a small town, two completely different settings. She was the pretty girl in high school that ...
A. 14 February 2011: if she bothered,u'd be like "damn why cant she look at the present? i am with her now...why would she care about my past?"
Question answered.... (read in full...)
I don't like the way my boyfriend didn't understand how much trouble I went to for him!
Q. am I stupid to be upset about this? So yesterday my boyfriend and I celebrated our Valentines day. I spent most of my paycheck to make it happen. As well as about 4 hours of my day preparing it. I made him a romantic Italian dinner. ...
A. 14 February 2011: never ever cook a big meal for a man unless u guys are engaged or married :) read why men marry bitches she talks about Left overs and meals there. damn.
now...what can u do? 1) learn ur lesson about big meals
2) invite her b... (read in full...)
Am I gayyyyy???
Q. i have never thought i was gay, even hinted at the posobility. i have liked girls since i was young, i used to steal my moms victoria secret magazines out of the trash to "look at" hah, and used to fake eat my sister's dolls pussys. i was pretty ...
A. 12 February 2011: awwww sweety. u just need to relax. lots of foreplay before sex,and do it with someone u care about,not just to have a f*ck,otherwise ur gonna be way too worried about ur performance and eventually blow it all up.
ur not gay. be comforta... (read in full...)
Baby in June and we need some names!
Q. Me and my boyfriend are having a baby in June and we need some good names for it . I all ready thought of the names Patrick after Patrick Swayze or Morticia after Morticia Addams . But we can't decide. ...
A. 11 February 2011: guys
Michael
Johntaye
Alexander
Derrick
Derrek
Arriana
Jazmine
Marinella
Alicia
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and her male friend are too close for comfort in my eyes and I don't know how to deal with it anymore!
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half now, and just recently have been realizing the magnitude of her relationship with her male friend. He is living in North Carolina and we are in Arizona. They have been friends longer than we ...
A. 11 February 2011: hmmmm what if this michael guy lived in arizona?
would they want to date?
are they only online friends?
what's the deal?... (read in full...)
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