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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hello all. I have a slight dilemma.This guy and I have been "hanging out" for a little over 3 years,(we have known each other closer to five).We have been having sex regularly(at least once a week,on mutual days off) for half of the 3 year "hanging out" period.Whenever we go out to dinner,movies,etc-he pays.He opens and closes doors for me,we eat off each other's plates and drink behind each other.He buys me gifts on special occassions(i.e. christmas,birthday,Mother's Day).We've even went on a out-of-state trip together last year(we reside in va,went cross-country to San Francisco).We've an "understanding" that if we were to sleep with anyone else,we'd let the other know.And to his credit whenever I ask him a question,he's always been straight up with me.....So finally,here's my question..Does it seem like this man will ever commit to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010): Thanks for the replies ladies,I appreciate it!
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (6 February 2010):
 He doesnt feel that he has to commit because he has everything he wants already. You are between 36 and 40 and that tells me this man,if he's your age,he already has been married or either way he experienced much in his life,therefore he doesnt feel the need to commit himself. Do you want to commit? If yes...there are some major steps you need to take.First and foremost,you need to show him you're a grown woman that knows what she wants.Let him know you want to have a relationship.If he says no,ask him why.If what he says dont leave you satisfied,just nod your head and pretend this conversation never took place.Act normal and do what you normally would.Second step...even if it hurts you,you need to stop spending as much time with him as you used to.This will shake his world! He will realise that if he doesnt commit himself to you,you will eventually stop seeing him!Then he will understand that you're not worth losing.And he'll commit. Good luck! Let me know what happens!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010): He is content with the way things are...it's hard to say if he would run if you push, but one thing is for sure, he won't like it.
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