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| | *izz.butterflies's profile:I love knowing I can change someone's life by providing the right advice.Since I was little I was advising my friends and when I couldn't advise myself I would seek the advice of others.
The kind of advice I tend to give is practical.I put the person who asked FIRST,and morality second.I am not worried much about what society suggests,as society views are always altered by the time/area we live in. My faith in God results in Morality,but I will always consider YOUR good first,then societys.
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Do I continue to hang out with him as a friend even although it kills me?
Q. I met a guy who goes to the same school that I do while on vacation with my friends last week. We hit it off and and by the end of the week, it felt like we'd known each other for years - we could joke freely and talk seriously with each other like ...
A. 30 March 2010: I was in the same place as you,only the guy was crazy about me and he had a girlfriend. He asked me to give him sometime to settle things with her,but instead i told him we should be friends. Then I realised he enjoyed my company as a friend,and ... (read in full...)
Is my relationship REALLY over???
Q. I broke up with my bf last monday.. We have been together for 7 months. The reason why I broke up, one day I asked him about his facebook and he told me that his little bro is using his account and he doesnt want to open a fake account so he can s...
A. 30 March 2010: Meet up with him and tell him you dont wanna be his friend on facebook. (silly you,now that he will have u as a friend he will find other ways to communicate with girls!)... U should do a fake account some time later and add him or something. ... (read in full...)
Why did he start a conversation, only to ignore me half way thru it?
Q. hiya im 17 On thurs night i went to a party n got with this guy who i had been talking to for the past 6 months on and off, there being a definate spark. He wouldnt leave my side and held my hand. But was very into 'going somewhere else' ...
A. 28 March 2010: he's a playa playa and prolly is after many girls.
if he was sooo into you,he would have asked u out six months ago.
instead....he keeps it casual working his way to your drawers.
... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend keep using dating sites, when we are supposed to be serious about each other?
Q. Ugh! I'm sick and tired of trying to deal with problems. I cannot begin to tell you the feeling I have of possibly knowing that I could be sharing my girlfriend... Why say that? Because I found out that whilst I was away in HK she had gone back to...
A. 28 March 2010: The below message is ridiculous . I get tons of messages like that...So what? Its probably that this guy sends the same message to every girl he meets in ur girl's area.
25/3/10 Man 2: Wow...I love your smile! Yes you are right.. you are a sp... (read in full...)
Signs that he's gay vs. signs that he's not...
Q. Give Me your Opinion Please! Signs he IS gay: 1)He Likes Big Time Rush 2)He Listens To Nick Jonas and thinks he is "raw" 3)He Watches The Show "Glee" 4)He Flirts with me and His overall interactions with me are completely different fro...
A. 28 March 2010: He probably is on some se-gay sh!t aka secret gay behavior.
Straight dudes dont really have secret gay friends (u did mention all his friends are straight,except for 1-2 that have to come out)...
He might be gay,or just a weird/non-stereo... (read in full...)
What happens to your sex life when you get married?
Q. What happens to your sex life when you get married (or are in a long term living arrangement)? Why does the sex always wane, and the relationship become almost platonic? Is it because you're together every day? I've seen in time and again and even ...
A. 28 March 2010: All these people here advising you to suck his thingy,and do other sexual things/flirting...uhhhh. its not YOU,its him.Why should YOU try to bring your sex life back?
If anything,he should be feeling GUILTY about not giving you the good good!
... (read in full...)
How can I make my boyfriend understand that we need couple time? It is not happening when he has his friend over constantly.
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. Our relationship is great, except for his friend. "Kevin" is at our house constantly!!! My boyfriend works different shifts, but if he is home in the evening, "Kevin" is at the house when I ...
A. 26 March 2010: Get a girlfriend of urs to be around ALL THE TIME,even when he wanna have sex. Be like "honey,i didnt wanna press you about the kevin thing,so i told alicia she can come over whenever she wants"
He'll go CRAZY.
remember...
na... (read in full...)
My love life is a total ruin and I feel so empty! Advice?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm feeling awkwardly strong depressed. In the last 2 months I've been trying to watch at my life from a third person perspective. My opinion aobut it is terrible. I have no happiness moments, and those that seem to be some ate j...
A. 26 March 2010: Hello there german boy...
First of all,I would like to tell you that every person has issues. So don't feel sad about yourself.You're not alone.
Moving on to your issue...
I can totally understand you.I lived in some place for 2 years and wh... (read in full...)
My husband says he is not in to me, yet does not want a divorce or to work on it either.
Q. I have been married 24 years. About 12 years ago we started to grow apart. Intimacy became less and less. My husband's attitude towards me was that of disdain. There were in-law problems (they don't like me, I wasn't their choice). This became ...
A. 22 March 2010: You're still young,live your life and do what makes YOU happy.He doesnt want a divorce cause that would bring his world upside down.You deserve to be swept off your feet.Contact a good divorce laywer and do not have an affair.Treat yourself to a ... (read in full...)
Now I'm single is it ok to flirt with people I already know or should I stick to new people and strangers?
Q. It seems to me that when you meet someone that you would be interested in, you have a very short window to let that be known. Otherwise people get comfortable as your friend. And I've never turned a friend into a relationship, nor seen a lot of ...
A. 22 March 2010: Hrmmm I dont know if you should have a plan about this one.Just do whatever feels right at the moment.I mean you cant possibly flirt with all the ladies,otherwise you're gonna be named a player. ... (read in full...)
Which of these texts seems more natural and effective? I want to set up a first date but I'm not sure how to go about doing this
Q. Hello, So 5 days before spring break (about 15 days ago) I met this girl in my ballroom dancing class. We talked for about 15 minutes while the teacher got there, and I ended up getting her phone number. I just got back from home, and was...
A. 22 March 2010: First text is way too direct. Go with second. Ask her out after 3-4 texts.good luck... (read in full...)
Could my boyfriend possibly be gay? Or one day come out?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He is wonderful. My family loves him and I love his family in return. He is a mommys boy but I understand why. His mom is a very loving older women from italy and Im a lot like her. His dad is really funny and ...
A. 22 March 2010: I will not lie and say you're being paranoid but I will do point out something. He seems like he's metrosexual.Metrosexual men take good care of their looks and want their girl to look good too (david beckham) they are straight but kinda different ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I should be Hispanic! Help!
Q. Hey guys, I'm an agony aunt on this site, but now I'm in need of help. I studied abroad in Spain (I did a Tefl course) and I got back a few months ago... the trouble is, I fell in love with Spain and now half my heart is over there. I'd give a...
A. 21 March 2010: Oh my God.I SO understand you! I'm Greek and I lived in Greece but all my life I fantasized about america. I have american friends,my culture is american and I cant stand living in Greece anymore.I feel so sad and I just cant connect to greek ... (read in full...)
Husband walks out while we are on vacation. Should I put the effort in to stay with him?
Q. Hi, I am a 32 y/o woman who has been in a relationship for the past 6 years and I am totally confused as to whether I should leave my fiance or or not. I really need some help with this. My fiance can be quite controlling and aggresive toward...
A. 18 March 2010: Dump Dump Dump.
No,its not the sound of a trompet.
I'm actually saying DUMP this guy.
He's making you miserable.You try too much and he doesn't try hard enough.
Don't give more tha you receive.... (read in full...)
B/f is secure but I don't love him; other guy now wants me
Q. I have a boyfriend of 5 yrs whom I live with, I also have a friend that I met around the same time. I chose my boyfriend because of the stability he provides me with, but honestly I don't love him. If he did not take care of me I would not be with ...
A. 17 March 2010: see if the other guy really means he wanna be with you.
it will take some time :-) for now,appear that ur not willing to leave ur bf.... (read in full...)
Will the soreness after dry humping pass?
Q. Me and my new boyfriend were getting a bit heated a couple of days ago, and we ended up dry humping with him on top, the thing is he is quite strong and muscular and he was quite forceful and rough (one of the reasons we haven't had sex yet) but I ...
A. 17 March 2010: It will go away soon.Don't worry.... (read in full...)
We really hit it off, but now he doesn't have time to date me
Q. I went on two dates with a guy I met on a dating site 2 weeks ago (two nights in a row). We instantly hit it off and the dates were great - great chemistry, no awkwardness and he seems to be everything I am looking for in a guy :) He seemed really ...
A. 15 March 2010: Sounds that hes not willing to pay for any further dates thats why he said that.but he does want to sleep with you (thats why he invited u to his place).u declided thats why he stopped messaging you.
TA-TA!... (read in full...)
Can the messages see into the real him?
Q. So yeah,there's this guy I talked to on this website,whenever he sees me online he messages,we have discusses serious matters and we just like talking to each other period..he said it's rare to find someone intelligent like me on a website etc. We ...
A. 13 March 2010: Well its been like 4 days and he's been online, he didn't contact me. This is weird since he always does,and we engage in nice conversations. So,if his connection did cut off or something,he had 4 days to write back and say something like that. I ... (read in full...)
Can the messages see into the real him?
Q. So yeah,there's this guy I talked to on this website,whenever he sees me online he messages,we have discusses serious matters and we just like talking to each other period..he said it's rare to find someone intelligent like me on a website etc. We ...
A. 13 March 2010: Thanks for your answer,but you are missing the question here.
My question was whether i should say something about him not answering my last message or not. And he's not insecure at all.... (read in full...)
I don't understand the dating scene...how do people meet people?
Q. I am 21, not bad looking, thin - UK size 8-10 - and I am never approached by men unless they are very drunk. I came out of a LTR about 6 months ago and am finding the dating scene very hard to understand. I don't understand how people meet people ...
A. 12 March 2010: Go to a hip hop/black club. Black men are more willing to approach women.Last time I went to one,I turned down 24 men (Yes I counted them). Good luck!... (read in full...)
Was it wrong to expect to spend quality time together on his first day off in weeks?
Q. Hello. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months now and we just hit our first rough patch and I was hoping for some advice. For some background information, he's a police officer who works a very hectic schedule and works 4nights a week, including ...
A. 11 March 2010: Umm yes. You are right babygirl. The first person he should wanna see is you. He would of said "sorry man i havent seen my chick in so long,imma see you next week"...why would he prefer a male company anyway? Besides that,he already spends time with ... (read in full...)
I can't change him back to how he used to be. Any advice?
Q. i have a boyfriend hes greek, i really dont know much about greek guys. but this one is difficult to handle.we're are turning a year this month. and things havent been going well in our past. it used to be great the few months we were dating but ...
A. 11 March 2010: I'm greek and well....greek guys usually don't know what they want! In his parents mind,he's better off with a greek girl.Try learning somethings about the greek history,mythology and culture.Show him you're making an effort.you dont know how much ... (read in full...)
I feel so guilty for breaking up with him.
Q. I have just broke up with my partner 16 months, we were engaged and since the 12 months mark i have been more unhappy every month, finding faults about him I cannot live with any more. He is a lovely person with good intentions but were just not ...
A. 10 March 2010: Honey,its normal you feel this way. You did break his heart. Let some time pass.It's not easy. Let him find his own path and find yours. You need to move on with your life. At first,he might not agree to see you.It will be too painful for him.... (read in full...)
He plans this stuff, gets me to agree, then cancels. What the hell is going on?
Q. Years ago, I had a thing for my ex boss. He wouldn't date me at the time because I was 20 and he was 31. Despite the fact that there was no romance, he took me out anyway. Dinner, movies, theme parks, his house. He never touched me though- and I ...
A. 10 March 2010: Ugh this is confusing. He sounds like he's rich (goes on business trips) then acts like a low self esteem baby.What the hell? I suggest you sit down and have a serious conversation about what he wants from you. By the way,what do YOU want from him? ... (read in full...)
I have been single for so long but want to start a new relationship. How do I go about doing this?
Q. i've been a single mum now for 10 years and with the exception of a brief relationship that went sour ive been single. recently a married guy who i have a crush on admitted he likes me and he asked me if he could kiss me as much as i wanted to i ...
A. 10 March 2010: ask your married friends to introduce you to a single friend of theirs! good thing u didnt get involved with the married man.... (read in full...)
Do I believe the 4 people who told me, or my friend?
Q. ok so my question is a little complicated, as in double sided. on the one hand, i'm avoiding some friends of mine because they are either trying to get with me or trying to set me up with one of their friends....it's taken me a long time to even be ...
A. 10 March 2010: Stop calling this girl your friend because shes not.
A true friend would never betray you or your secrets.
She just uses you for company,because shes insecure to stay alone.
Get out of the situation. Rape isnt something you should be ... (read in full...)
Would guys like a 19 year old virgin. Or would the innocence drive them away?
Q. How many people like me still a virgin? I mean as far as age goes..I'm not ashamed of it but here where I live there's very few girls who remain virgins. Reason being I just haven't found the right guy yet. I also wonder do guys usually like ...
A. 10 March 2010: I lost my virginity at 19,5 and i'm 20,5 now.
I never regretted waiting for the right guy.
keep in mind though,the term right guy isnt the same to everyone.He might be your best friend,the guy who loves you,or just a guy you dated.
As fa... (read in full...)
How do we deal with such ignorance toward our relationship?
Q. So here's the situation: I am in the military, assigned to Tokyo (where I'm currently living) and I have a job where I am one of only 2 females. Most men here take up Japanese women to be their girlfriends, or brides and most look down upon those wh...
A. 10 March 2010: Who is making the ignorant comments? The american coworkers?
Are you american? Cause I can't understand why an american man calls an american woman a bitch and prefers japanese women.
You need to be more clear about this.... (read in full...)
We met while clubbing, but he won't let me club anymore!
Q. My boyfriend has told me that he doesn't want a girlfriend who wants to go clubbing and drink. We have been together for 2 years, we met at a club and for the first 6 months always went clubbing together and we went to every music festival ...
A. 10 March 2010: I'm so sorry for what you're going through.its extremely ANNOYING when someone has changed so dramatically! the guy is plain insecure. Oh he met you in a club but now dancing is for sluts? give me a break.you sound like a smart lady who has her head ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with someone that was never my boyfriend in the first place?
Q. I have been seeing the same guy for the past 6 months. We go on dates, hook up, etc. and he contacts me every single day. We are not officially dating though and honestly, i'm tired of wasting the energy into something that doesn't seem to be going ...
A. 10 March 2010: Don't ignore him.
Tell him straight you want something official.
If hes not ready for it,its better to take a break from each other.
Give us more feedback on how all this started... (read in full...)
So tired of the dating game...
Q. Single for the first time in a long time, with no single girl friends to enjoy it with. My girls all have boyfriends, why would they want to go out with me, when their boyfriends will pick them up by car (instead of with me by bus lol) and their bo...
A. 10 March 2010: Join the club homegirL! I've been single for 8 months now...
and although i do enjoy doing things for myself,sometimes i wish i was dating someone. My problem is i have specificn preferences though (i want me an african american guy and i live in g... (read in full...)
I know I'm not in love with him... should I leave him?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years and we have a 4 year old daughter together but I'm not in love with him anymore and I can't decide if I should stay or go. To everyone else we have the perfect relationship which we do but it's not what I ...
A. 10 March 2010: This is just like my friend's story. She lives in the UK,was with her husband for 7 years...no job...she wasnt in love with him anymore...we kept talking about what she can do,and I told her she can have the type of life she wants! and it happened! ... (read in full...)
What are some precautions I should take when starting a friendship with an older man?
Q. OK,So I was on the bus and I heard two guys speak about America,one was like 30ish and the other was an old man,around 70.They didn't know each other,they were just conversating.Since I have a passion for America,I kindly interrupted them and asked ...
A. 10 March 2010: Thanks for your answers once again.
I think I'll go by ignoring him,since If I call him he might have a good excuse to give me.
His behavior has turned me off anyway and I don't wanna meet him again.
Let's just hope it ends here.
I trie... (read in full...)
I don't know if I can wait 3 years...
Q. I'm 17 years old and live in the UK. I met a friend online a year ago, he lives in saudi arabia and is the same age as me. we have been in a relationship for just under a year. i love him a lot and the feelings the same, but we are not going to meet ...
A. 10 March 2010: Sorry if this sounds like a bad stereotype,however guys from the middle east are really possessive and sensitive.im not surprised you said he is very sensitive. well putting your life on hold and waisting your best years isn't something you should ... (read in full...)
What are some precautions I should take when starting a friendship with an older man?
Q. OK,So I was on the bus and I heard two guys speak about America,one was like 30ish and the other was an old man,around 70.They didn't know each other,they were just conversating.Since I have a passion for America,I kindly interrupted them and asked ...
A. 10 March 2010: I feel kinda bad because he appeared to be so nice and it's rude,plus his friend was nice. Ugh. I don't know If I should call him tommorow anymore. I mean,what will happen if he keeps calling and I keep ignoring him?
and yes you are right La... (read in full...)
He said I have issues keeping in touch!
Q. my bf has stated that i have an issue with keeping in touch. He mentioned that its hurtful when I don't call for atleast once or during acouple of days to intiate contact by phone. This has been going on since we've started dating and its been ...
A. 10 March 2010: maybe you're not that intrested in him anymore? it is possible that you've taken him for granted and expect him to do everything.
if thats not the case...well..it's been two years ...you need to show your man some affection. Men want to receive ... (read in full...)
What are some precautions I should take when starting a friendship with an older man?
Q. OK,So I was on the bus and I heard two guys speak about America,one was like 30ish and the other was an old man,around 70.They didn't know each other,they were just conversating.Since I have a passion for America,I kindly interrupted them and asked ...
A. 9 March 2010: Guys,thanks for your advice.
The guy called me on friday asking to meet up,i said i cant cause im going away on the weekend.
today,monday he called more than 10 times! wtf!!!! he's an educated man in his 70ies what the hell he calls me for??? ... (read in full...)
Depressed every after 2 weeks, I seriously want to get out of this situation...
Q. hi everyone. I know I have to forget my ex as he is not good for me. However, try as I might... i really still cannot forget this lucky asshole. Most days I am okay and I tell myself, "to hell with him, he can get lost forever". But still I have...
A. 6 March 2010: After a year,I still think of this guy...Yeah,I dated another guy I really liked after him,but no I still find myself having these episodes you have.
I think we will have to accept that some people have an impact on our life. Also,it might be... (read in full...)
Advice for online long distance relationship? What to do?
Q. Hi there.. so I'm kind of in an e-relationship with this guy who is 6 years older than me. We've been talking for 6 months. He lives in canada and I live in australia. We have a strong emotional connection (I know its the internet and all.. but it ...
A. 6 March 2010: Hey girly,what happened with your musician guy?... (read in full...)
What does he mean by hanging out?
Q. i asked my ex boyfriend if he sees us being together in the future and i meant me being his girl and he said yes hanging out. So what does that mean?...
A. 6 March 2010: Hanging out doesn't mean Dating.
What can it mean?
A) friends
B) friends that ocassionally engage in sex.
nevertheless....NO COMMITMENT.
... (read in full...)
Suspicious boyfriend may be gay.
Q. Is my boyfriend gay? He doesn't like to really do anything with me he rather hang out with the guys. We have sex maybe once a week because most of the time when he comes he tired and goes to sleep. I asked him once and he got very defensive saying ...
A. 6 March 2010: He's suspicious and GIRLISH.
Loves hanging out with your gay friend?
Hangs out witht he guys all the time?
Ringer off?
He's either cheating or He's gay. Or Bi.
He Doesnt sound like a keeper to me. DUMP.... (read in full...)
Advice for online long distance relationship? What to do?
Q. Hi there.. so I'm kind of in an e-relationship with this guy who is 6 years older than me. We've been talking for 6 months. He lives in canada and I live in australia. We have a strong emotional connection (I know its the internet and all.. but it ...
A. 6 February 2010: Even though guys appreciate the love they feel,when its online they do think its time to move on.The sad thing is the girl they meet online boosts their confidence to the point they think they can date any girl they want! in the real world! Unless ... (read in full...)
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