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| | *izz.butterflies's profile:I love knowing I can change someone's life by providing the right advice.Since I was little I was advising my friends and when I couldn't advise myself I would seek the advice of others.
The kind of advice I tend to give is practical.I put the person who asked FIRST,and morality second.I am not worried much about what society suggests,as society views are always altered by the time/area we live in. My faith in God results in Morality,but I will always consider YOUR good first,then societys.
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Why do other people feel the need to comment on me liking this boy? How do I stop them?
Q. ok, so , i'm ''dating'' lol this guy in my school who i talk on fb everyday and he's really cute, really really sweet, who i've got like EVERYTHING in common with. And which i can now admit i really really like , but he's 15...and i'm almost 17 , ...
A. 29 May 2011: tell them "its going very well with Y. How is it going with you and Maria?"
theyre gonna be like "huh? what"
then be like "Uh huh. I see" laugh and leave.
this will make them feel stupid and next time they'll think twice about making a com... (read in full...)
What's up with this girl?? does she like me?
Q. Long story short. I met this girl with whom I'm befriended —if you could say that, actually I got the chance of meeting her through a friend of mine who's her friend too, now we 'all' hang out together— who's 'shy', like me. Before we were official...
A. 25 May 2011: shes trying to make ya jealous to see whats happening with u!
do what i said. STOP BEING SCARED. stop asking "what if".... (read in full...)
He lied about his age...Turns out he is 18!
Q. Hmmm so the guy I am dating is away for a month,visiting his family....and today I found out he lied to me about his age. he's a professional soccer player so I looked up his name and found his age. How we met : We were on the same bus on our...
A. 22 May 2011: Well same here I guess. I like his body :)
Any other suggestions?
... (read in full...)
He lied about his age...Turns out he is 18!
Q. Hmmm so the guy I am dating is away for a month,visiting his family....and today I found out he lied to me about his age. he's a professional soccer player so I looked up his name and found his age. How we met : We were on the same bus on our...
A. 22 May 2011: He's not the love of my life. He's not the only one on my mind either. Of course I am not going to let this one pass . I will address it & downgrade him to a "friends with benefits" until someone better comes my way.
I showed him respect,... (read in full...)
He lied about his age...Turns out he is 18!
Q. Hmmm so the guy I am dating is away for a month,visiting his family....and today I found out he lied to me about his age. he's a professional soccer player so I looked up his name and found his age. How we met : We were on the same bus on our...
A. 22 May 2011: Thanks for your answer, Chigirl. If you noticed,at the end of my post I suggest telling him that I can just hang out with him,but there will be no trust.
I am attracted to him and looking forward to having a nice time.
We just began dating eac... (read in full...)
What's up with this girl?? does she like me?
Q. Long story short. I met this girl with whom I'm befriended —if you could say that, actually I got the chance of meeting her through a friend of mine who's her friend too, now we 'all' hang out together— who's 'shy', like me. Before we were official...
A. 22 May 2011: Are you seriously asking if she likes you????
THIS GIRL IS IN LOVE WITH YOU.
she wishes you were over your scared feelings and finally would act on them!!!
What do you have to lose? why dont you ask her out on a date? Tell her you wanna... (read in full...)
He lied about his age...Turns out he is 18!
Q. Hmmm so the guy I am dating is away for a month,visiting his family....and today I found out he lied to me about his age. he's a professional soccer player so I looked up his name and found his age. How we met : We were on the same bus on our...
A. 22 May 2011: Thanks to all of you who answered.
My Thoughts on your input :
If you're worried what your friends and family might think of your dating an 18 year old, I urge you to try and put that our of your mind
- I'm not worried about this. It's... (read in full...)
The ball's in his court now... right?
Q. So I met this guy at a party a couple weeks ago and he was a true gentlemen... he asked for my number... he arranged a coffee date around a week later and it went extremely well. We hit it off and had a lot in common so the date carried on from the ...
A. 20 May 2011: yeah u shouldnt have been tipsy or bring matt. i mean this guy was trying to create a romantic situation,and u just brought ur friend like it didnt really matter. Hmmm.
The online message was not a good idea either. You should have consulted de... (read in full...)
How can I shake off this good girl image?
Q. Hi :) If anyone could help that would be lovely. Basically I have a problem that I've managed to create a good-girl image of myself and i want to get rid of it. I'm quite shy and not very outgoing around people I don't know very well, but im ...
A. 18 May 2011: Girl, when I was your age i was also seen as a goody goody. I was always getting exceptional marks in school, i never plucked my eyebrows (and Lord,they were thick!) and my oufits weren't the greatest. Also,I was a prude. (Someone nicknamed me "sexy ... (read in full...)
Girl I am dating asked me if I want to see sex tape of her and a guy from college, and says her ex-bf liked to watch it! What do I make of this???
Q. Aunts, can you please give me some perspective of this please. I have been dating this girl for like 3 months. she is gorgeous, 26, very sweet. I know she has a number of bfs in the past and she's experienced with guys. But i dont let that intimid...
A. 12 May 2011: You are different people.
what girl would make a sex tape for money??? She could get a job like another user suggested.
lets say ur willing to get past this...the fact she showed this to her ex is DISGUSTING.
and the fact that she can... (read in full...)
I pay for most of our outings. He fails to make me feel special. How can I get him to be more attentive?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. As we have gotten older, he has had increasing financial responsibilities. I have much less financial responsibilities and I understand this so I usually pay for going out, dinner, trips, etc. I fe...
A. 10 May 2011: stop paying for things,if he asks why just say u wanna save money for a diploma or whatever. see how he acts then. but i gotta say,uve been pretty patient. i would of dumped him. if u didnt realize it,u were actually beggining him .not a good look.... (read in full...)
Stunningly beautiful girl, 28, never had a relationship: red flag??
Q. Dear Aunts: I met this girl who seems real nice, sweet and down-to-earth from Europe (Poland). She seems to like me, flirts a hell of a lot, and I been thinking of asking her out. She is stunning, does some modeling, is here on a work visa. On...
A. 9 May 2011: she's trying to get a visa by lying to you that she never had a boyfriend.this is what european women often do (i am from europe). especially polish and russian girls. ur an average guy with a steady job,at the right age to get married. thats what ... (read in full...)
If he isn't happy then I am not happy either...
Q. hi everyone :) i am 16 years old and i am with this guy for a year now and 3 months. he is almost 19 and i am crazyyyy in love with him. i just cant describe how much i like him, i adore him, and he is my whole life since we've been together...
A. 8 May 2011: You are just a little girl in his eyes. he can manipulate you. you said YES to whatever he asked you to do. you never stood your ground and said NO. yet he never introduced you to his friends. HE IS THE MASTER OF HIS LIFE. YOU ARE NOT THE MASTER OF ... (read in full...)
Do you think he is for real, or just like every other guy in a club?
Q. Say I'm stereotyping or being stupid. But i met this guy in a club really briefly and gave him my number (I was drunk so i didn't care at the time). Thing is we have been texting each other a lot since then! And although i can't base him on text...
A. 7 May 2011: if classy girls go to clubs to dance and have a good time, guys can do the same. do not overflirt with him. take things slow. stop texting so much , wait for him to ask you out. if u wanna help him a bit suggest going to this movie u wanna watch (at ... (read in full...)
BF's father won't let me stay over in my boyfriend's room. I think it is unfair.
Q. I need a little advice. You see my boyfriends parents have confused me a little. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is going to be 20 at the end of the year, were moving out soon. We have been going out for almost 2 years and in all of that time i have nev...
A. 7 May 2011: its very simple. they dont want u guys having sex. they dont wanna be dealing with the possibility of a pregnancy.
yeah his sister might be bisexual,so what,she can't get pregnant by her bff.
... (read in full...)
Texting is ruining our relationship
Q. Dear cupid ,ive just broke up with my boyfriend of two years, because these past few months have been rocky and im not getting enough attention in our relationship.he spends no quality time and i feel neglected because all we do is text.we havent ...
A. 30 April 2011: move on. unless u want a TEXTING relationship.
u cant push someone to give u what u want.
they either do,or not.
this guy texts u for sex?U know thats disrespectful.
And what do u do? u text back.
Find a guy who wont treat u like this... (read in full...)
Not sure whether I am right or wrong in this situation...
Q. I feel really upset right now and don't know whether I am justified in feeling this way. Yesterday (for the royal wedding) my boyfriend and I (been together 15 months) got invited to my cousin's bbq. Meanwhile he also got an invite to attend...
A. 30 April 2011: no. u didnt overreact. he acted very childish in fact. yes he had a good time at garys,but disregarded the fact that u didn't.
Tell him next time u agree that u will go to such events separetely since u didnt have fun at garys,although u tried ur... (read in full...)
I am always hard around my fiance and it's starting to turn her off
Q. Is it normal for me to just be constantly hard around my fiance. we been dating for 4 years...and we lost our virginity to each other. She is very very beautiful and when i was younger, im 19 now i dont remember being so hard around her, ever since ...
A. 28 April 2011: she should be happy there are still men with working d*cks like urs!! And the fact u got a high sex drive while u are still respectful! ... (read in full...)
Sometimes my boyfriend just makes me feel so invisible..
Q. I love my boyfriend dearly.. but sometimes he just makes me feel so invisible. Like he'll invite me over every day we are able to see one another just about, but almost every time I visit him he will just completely ignore me for hours playing his ...
A. 25 April 2011: omg i just told u what to do but u still dont get it??? Men do not respond to words. It's like ur FORCING him to spend time with you...don't u get it that he has taken u for granted??? he doesnt treat u well and what do u do? U STAY RIGHT THERE... (read in full...)
Sometimes my boyfriend just makes me feel so invisible..
Q. I love my boyfriend dearly.. but sometimes he just makes me feel so invisible. Like he'll invite me over every day we are able to see one another just about, but almost every time I visit him he will just completely ignore me for hours playing his ...
A. 25 April 2011: ugh if ur bf wants to play xbox simply say "hun,i see ur busy playing ur games,i'll go get my hair done" and leave his house.
next time ur on the phone ask him if he plans on playin xbox if u come over.if he says yes just dont go.
HE MISTREATS ... (read in full...)
We want the real thing but are afraid of the consequences!
Q. hi all. I have a weerd question. Me and my girlfriend love each other. pleas don't think this is weerd but we both love each other thats certain. Sex is not the problem. we are comfertable alot with each other. half naked aswell. My question is...
A. 20 April 2011: wear a condom and ask ur girlfriend to go to the gyno and take the contraceptive pill.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to talk to a guy everyday that you just met?
Q. I just met this guy two weeks ago via an online dating site and he seems like a good catch. We share a lot of the same interests and characteristics, and we plan on meeting for the first time this week. Hence the question above, we communicate ...
A. 20 April 2011: u shouldnt be talking for countless hours with a STRANGER.
u guys should meet asap.
despite that...
a woman shouldnt seem so available as u do right now, talking to him everyday for hours.
break the routine,make him miss u. if u do... (read in full...)
For the girls: What is the best approach for a guy who wants to dance with you in a club?
Q. Hey everyone. i really need some tips about how to get a girl dancing with you in a club? that would be cool if all the girls in DEARCUPID would answer this question since i guess they would know better what works with them :D im kinda a good loo...
A. 20 April 2011: a really good conversation should be different everytime.
what do i mean?
u cant say the same things to different girls.
U need to check the environment youre in.what is happening? Is the girl wearing anything specific? Does she have ... (read in full...)
Am I making him wait too long?
Q. Ok so here's the deal, i just started dating this guy officially on March 26. He's 22 and I'm 19. He's had sex five times while i am still a virgin. As of late he's been bringing up sex more and more often. I'm not waiting until marriage, but i am ...
A. 18 April 2011: a month and hes already frustrated?
how long have u been dating since u started dating officially on march 26?
I make my dates wait longer than a month and none of them had the audacity to complain or get frustrated.
its how u carry ursel... (read in full...)
Can chemistry grow with time?
Q. Hello I have been 'seeing' this lovely guy. He is caring, considerate, kind and all the things you could wish for in a guy. He calls and texts everyday. The only problem is I feel no chemistry with him. I should do as he is so lovely. I enjoy hi...
A. 17 April 2011: i think u cant feel chemistry with him because he makes himself way too available for you. thats kinda what im going through right now.i have so much fun with my date,but he calls and texts almost everyday,as if we are already a couple.this makes me ... (read in full...)
What's the best, most successful way to meet new friends?
Q. My social life is a mess. For weeks now I've been posting messages on facebook asking if anybody wants to join me for a drink somewhere. I never get any responses. I don't know if it's just that everyone is busy or if I'm just not a very popular ...
A. 16 April 2011: ** www.couchsurfing.org... (read in full...)
What's the best, most successful way to meet new friends?
Q. My social life is a mess. For weeks now I've been posting messages on facebook asking if anybody wants to join me for a drink somewhere. I never get any responses. I don't know if it's just that everyone is busy or if I'm just not a very popular ...
A. 16 April 2011: go to www.couchsurfing.com
its a nice website, with a lively community.
Sign up
Find ur town on the map
join a group
they have regular meetings....this is how a lot of foreign people in my town meet others :) They attend a meeting, so... (read in full...)
Friend invited herself to join me on a trip and I can't stand to spend that much time with her!
Q. Frendship question: we ve been friends for a few years now. We ve met when we were adults with husbands and kids. We are the same age, but complitely different personalities. Frankly i never met anyone like my girlfriend: loud, extremely bubbly, ...
A. 16 April 2011: how can u call her ur friend and not be honest with her?
ur acting as if ur 15 yrs old and ur a married woman in ur 30ies. why dont u tell her the truth? Tell her straight you dont plan on partying every night etc. I feel sorry for this woman be... (read in full...)
How's my diet schedule?
Q. I would just like your guy's opinion on my diet and schedule an tell me if im doin anything wrong or what i can do better or things like that.I wanna lose weight basically(Im not fat just not at a healthy weight for my height :/ 150 and maybe like ...
A. 14 April 2011: going vegan wont solve the problem.
4 slices of pizza is too much.
1-2 is good.
meat is an important part of diet. u should eat turkey breast and chicken breast.
also,u cant eat the same things everyday.
a good breakfast should be cere... (read in full...)
Help ! I want him back! Please help decode post breakup conversation.
Q. I actually was the one who initiated the breakup, although you couldn't tell from this convo lol, and he said he agreed we weren't right for each other and that he was glad it was mutual and amicable. So this is about 2 weeks later. We work t...
A. 12 April 2011: hey,np :)
well u came off as immature. american idol..really? LOL.
u acted like a little girl basically. u should have told him in a calm manner that u didnt like what u saw. then he would have explained.the key is to express what u want with fi... (read in full...)
Does chemistry fade? My LDR did not feel the same when we met this time.
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship. I havn't seen him for so long. Got to his place last night, and things felt so awkward. I don't know why but I feel I want to keep distance, I don't want to get emotionally attached to him again, as I have to go ...
A. 12 April 2011: OP, this is the beggining of the end.
I have been there,done that.
Some years ago I would choose romantic love over a good relationship in person. I would choose PASSION over spending time doing fun things with a nice guy.
Now I don't any... (read in full...)
What do you think of this guy? How do we go back to having original, striking conversations?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been on four dates with this one guy. He is a gentleman, makes me laugh uncontrollably and I am attracted to him. On our first date,we had a nice conversation,about the concentration camps in Germany, other political matters...
A. 12 April 2011: 1) ??.
2) We are not meeting "too much". If you read my post carefully, He met me on Saturday because he said something inappropriate over the phone and wanted to solve it and not let it get bigger. The date on Sunday was already set.
We see ea... (read in full...)
Help ! I want him back! Please help decode post breakup conversation.
Q. I actually was the one who initiated the breakup, although you couldn't tell from this convo lol, and he said he agreed we weren't right for each other and that he was glad it was mutual and amicable. So this is about 2 weeks later. We work t...
A. 12 April 2011: why did u guys even break up??
he seems to really care about u.
u sound as if u dont trust him.
u should have never sent the pics.
tell us the reason u decided to call it off...?... (read in full...)
What do you think of this guy? How do we go back to having original, striking conversations?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been on four dates with this one guy. He is a gentleman, makes me laugh uncontrollably and I am attracted to him. On our first date,we had a nice conversation,about the concentration camps in Germany, other political matters...
A. 12 April 2011: thank you for your answer .
we somehow need to get back to normal,lol.
Also,I'm going to go away for 2 weeks (Easter Break)...He has mentioned he goes on MSN to talk to his friends home,but hasnt asked for mine. I think it would be a good ... (read in full...)
Should I just forget him, or do you think my hoping won't be in vain?
Q. It's been a year and a half since my ex and I broke up, and I'm still not over him. He was my first everything, first real boyfriend, first guy I had sex with, first love. The only reason we broke up was because he moved away to a different country. ...
A. 11 April 2011: well i know for a fact cypriots marry their first,true love :)
I am guessing he went to college in the UK and you're in Cyprus?
Well i am sure once you go there everything will be back to normal.... (read in full...)
Passion returns after 25 years. We're both married. How do I handle it?
Q. Do I say something? I'm 40 years old. I'm divorced. I have 2 awesome kids, and despite being single, I am relatively happy. When I was young and dumb (15) I fell for the 'love of my life' hard. I was consumed with her. I had seriously intens...
A. 11 April 2011: yes. do tell her. women leave their marriages for LOVE. Men usually don't but thats another subject. Yes it is bad to ruin a marriage but it takes two to do so. if she doesnt wanna leave her husband then she won't.if she does,she will.
u dont kno... (read in full...)
He walks all over me. I want him to respect me. How do I do it?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have low self esteem. My boyfriend senses this so he feels that things are super "safe" with me because I will never leave him. So sometimes he enjoys driving me up the wall and rarely apologizes anymore. Most days he's sweet but some...
A. 11 April 2011: please please please get why men love bitches and why men marry bitches.
they show u how NOT to be a doormat.
do everything on ur list too.
... (read in full...)
I threw myself at him, Did he lose respect for me? Is there a chance of turning this around?
Q. dated this guy I work w/ for a while, it was steady, intense and consistent. Then I pulled away bc he wasn't spending enough time w/ me. I had hoped he would try to work it out w/ me, but he didn't..he just let me go. I mean, canceled our weekend ...
A. 11 April 2011: Uuugh ur sending mixed signals.u want him or not?
lemme answer this for u.
U want him IF he respects u.
guess what.
he doesnt.
hes the type that would break ur heart.
he hadd the chance of dating u,but blew it off.
stop send... (read in full...)
I have a very spoiled boyfriend who criticizes how my parents raise me
Q. I have noticed a pattern in my boyfriend's behavior, and I've found out that he is very spoiled. He has no respect for conserving money, and his parents encourage it. For instance, when we are at my house, my air conditioner is set to au...
A. 10 April 2011: ur such a nice girl. in fact, TOO NICE.
u guys have different values. it cant work.
ur boyfriend will not start appreciating money unless he has zero for a year.
and i dont care what he does but i do care that he critisizes u. thats tota... (read in full...)
A Greek mythological name for my daughter?
Q. I am 7 months pregnant with a little girl and im having a really hard time finding a name for her since i dont like traditional names much im looking for unique names does anyone have any suggestions. I love greek mythology and dark beautiful names ...
A. 9 April 2011: ANDROMACHE
Greek name composed of the elements andros "of a man/warrior" and mache "battle," hence "man/warrior battle." In mythology, this is the name of the kidnapped wife of Hektor.
ARTEMIS (??teµ??): Greek name derived from the word artémes... (read in full...)
How do I keep my routine-hating gf entertained?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 2 years, and we've been living together for the past eleven months. Most of the time, things are great - we have fun, joke around, support one another, and respect one another. But every once in a ...
A. 9 April 2011: seems like ur the "logical,educated" type of guy. she wants u to be more adventurous. yes she feels stressed because of the 30+ pages THATS WHY SHE NEEDS A BREAK.
come on ...u guys have easyjet,german wings... flying to paris is NOTHING.
bett... (read in full...)
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