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I love knowing I can change someone's life by providing the right advice.Since I was little I was advising my friends and when I couldn't advise myself I would seek the advice of others.

The kind of advice I tend to give is practical.I put the person who asked FIRST,and morality second.I am not worried much about what society suggests,as society views are always altered by the time/area we live in. My faith in God results in Morality,but I will always consider YOUR good first,then societys.

Thanks for reading this Have fun & God Bless

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My girlfriend and her male friend are too close for comfort in my eyes and I don't know how to deal with it anymore!

Q.   I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half now, and just recently have been realizing the magnitude of her relationship with her male friend. He is living in North Carolina and we are in Arizona. They have been friends longer than we ...

A.   11 February 2011: hmmmm what if this michael guy lived in arizona? would they want to date? are they only online friends? what's the deal?... (read in full...)

I'm in love with him, but I made a mistake. What should I do?

Q.   Help! I'm in love with a guy who has told me to leave him alone about 4 weeks ago which now I admit I was wrong, but I made a mistake. One: this guy who we've been close for 2 years told me in November that finally him and his gf broke up and sinc...

A.   11 February 2011: hes playing u sweety. he never really left her. move on.... (read in full...)

Girls, when you were 14 how would you want a guy to ask you out because I really don't know how to do this?

Q.   First some Backround. There's this girl who is everything any guy could ask for. she is the smartest person in my school(and thats saying something) she is drop dead gorgeous, she is the funniest girl I know. She is also so nice and has a great ...

A.   30 January 2011: time u asked a girl out. she is such a nice girl so she expects the guy to make the move,AS HE IS SUPPOSED TO! so go ahead. call her to see how shes doing and proceed to ask if she'd like to meet ya for lunch or dinner after the projec... (read in full...)

I am always the girl next door

Q.   I am always the girl next door. I have had two long term relationships and with both men, it was about them loving my personality. It was never because I am sexy, or hot its because men feel comfortable in my presence. I want men to really feel ...

A.   30 January 2011: so what is it...you wanna look like megan foxx and have men drooling...? dont you know they will just see u as a sex object? men can find sex everywhere.what they CANNOT FIND is a woman they can talk to. Now,if you wanna be more attractive ... (read in full...)

I am in love with two guys but don't know how to resolve the situation

Q.   Well my dilemma is, I think I'm in love with two people. I was going out with a a guy for two years and we were going through a really rough patch, but i was still really in love with him, but he dumped me. I was so hurt I didn't talk to him agai...

A.   3 January 2011: ummmm.....meet with ur bestfriend guy and see what's up. Go for a simple coffee.he might be in love with his new girlfriend.also,are u sure ur in love with ur boyfriend?is he in love with u?... (read in full...)

If guys don't approach you or notice you, are you unattractive?

Q.   I'm 21, never dated. But I've been wondering if the reason why guys rarely approach me is because I'm not attractive. Or reject me all the time because I'm not good looking. I've been rejected a total of 23 times. Its gotten to the point I've ...

A.   3 January 2011: you can send me a link to your picture in my inbox if you don't wanna post it on here but since you want us to decide on whether your attractive we need to see a picture :) and then we can proceed . ... (read in full...)

Why does everyone have to say "Keep your legs closed" since I'm a virgin?

Q.   Okay, so im a virgin. When I first meet people, sadly, that's one of the first things they ask me. I usedto be honest and tell them I was a virgin, but its like once I tell them, their impression of me changes. Either they'll be like, "Your ...

A.   3 January 2011: first of all, you will lose your virginity when YOU want to and when YOU feel its right. now people always get hyped up when they meet a girl who is older than 17 and still a virgin.its something rare nowadays. i lost mine at 19 and remember ... (read in full...)

Should we go back to a committed relationship?

Q.   I'm now in an open long-distance relationship with this guy. We used to be in a close distance committed relationship for 7 months but after he moved to Asia for a new job, he admitted that he felt too hard to stay committed as he felt like a kid in ...

A.   29 December 2010: why u wanna put labels on it? since he cares for u and shows it,let it be. wait for the 2 years time frame - in the meantime date other guys- and see if it works out. good luck. ... (read in full...)

My Inconstant friend has hurt my trust in her. Can I trust her again?

Q.   Last night I got a text from my best friend. She asked if i wanted to go to the mall on Thursday. i said sure, and then i got another text from her today at 1 pm. She had said that she couldn't go because her ride bailed, and i told her it was fine. ...

A.   29 December 2010: meet her in person ask her straight up whats going on. dont be afraid to sound assertive.... (read in full...)

I don't feel like I get a fair return in relationships

Q.   Why do I feel this? Let's say everyday I come home from work. I have to cook, clean, and keep my child quiet and inactive. At night I relieve my man (not saying that I don't enjoy sex, I actually very much do.) My man just pretends to help out with ...

A.   29 December 2010: stop giving him sex until he acts right. hello? men don't respond to words. they respect to lack of attention... (read in full...)

I'm in a psychological mess and can't seem to get back up for good

Q.   Merry Christmas! It's bad that I am posting my question at this time of the year,but I've always gotten great advice from this site. I live with my sister in the city.We're both students at college.We had a rocky relationship when we lived...

A.   29 December 2010: Thanks guys :) ... (read in full...)

Would this be a weird way to have our reunion?

Q.   A rather odd situation but here goes. When studying abroad for a few weeks a while ago I met a girl on one of the courses. Nothing much happened then but since I came back some months ago we have stayed in touch, talked a lot etc. long story sh...

A.   25 December 2010: GO FOR IT! IT SOUNDS FUN AND SPONTANEOUS! DON'T GO FOR THE SAFE ROUTE. HINT,DON'T TELL.... (read in full...)

How do I get through this? He called to tell me to forget him.

Q.   I traveled from my country to another one, for a job, leaving my parents, my friends and everything. I met a guy that i loved so much. I liked the new country. Because of him and we spent a lot of happy times and great moments. But I found out,...

A.   25 December 2010: just move on. he's bad for you. Do yourself a favor and avoid all this drama. You can find a much better guy. Just make sure next time he's not in any relationship!... (read in full...)

He didn't get me anything for Christmas! Does that mean he's not into me?

Q.   My boyfriend didn't get me anything for Christmas. We've only been dating a month. He is visiting family overseas right now so I sent him a present. He knew I was giving him something but still didn't get me anything. Should I take this to mean ...

A.   25 December 2010: one time i was dating this guy. Then I went overseas to see my family.We spoke on msn and he told me "ur present is here waiting for you"....So I felt i should get him something as well. Since we werent dating for a long period I got him two books. ... (read in full...)

How do I find out if he thinks of me as a sister or more?

Q.   I am in love with 22 year old , and i am 16. our families are best friends, and we talk ocassionally. our families are so close that i call his parents mom and dad. we have been on a vacation together, because our families went together. but we ...

A.   15 December 2010: why try to get with him? its possible you guys wont have a relationship becuz yall live far from each other. secondly....your families are very good friends what if u jeopardize their friendship?? My parents are friends with a couple who has 2... (read in full...)

I'm really tired of waiting to be dating!

Q.   There's a weird pattern that's been happening over the last couple years involving my lovelife... First of, it's practically been non-existant. However, I'm called the smartest of all my friends understand emotions, how relationships wo...

A.   12 December 2010: first of all u need to realize its the GUY who makes the first move,so u have no right to complain. if u were a girl,and u were waiting for a guy to ask her out then i could understand. basically u answered ur own question. Ur TOO friendly... (read in full...)

I don't think it's healthy I spend all my time with him!

Q.   OK, bit of a complicated one folks. My BF and I are in a long distance relationship. I'm in Ireland and he's currently in Canada so it's quite a long distance. We see each other roughly every 3 months, for anywhere from 2-6 weeks at a time. we...

A.   11 December 2010: dont die over this. next time ur physically together just tell him straight how u want things to be.try to reach a compromise with him. dont discuss it over the internet.... (read in full...)

Its going to be long distance for us and I don't want to deal with all the miserable feelings!

Q.   I am 19 years old and my ex-boyfriend is 20. Let me give you our background. We had been dating for a 1 1/2 years when he decided to go into the Marines. I was and still am happy for him! He left for bootcamp and we stayed together. Bootcamp...

A.   6 December 2010: dont tell him about the other guys. realize dating a marine guy is very difficult. u need to be serious about it. u need to sit down with him and discusss how much time hes going to be with u and how much time u will be apart. my par... (read in full...)

Should I put a 6 month plan in place to be with her? Or leave her?

Q.   Hi guys, some advice please, thankyou. Iam 27 (maybe a little old for writing on here) and started dating a girl 4 months ago. We new each other briefly from college years ago and met up randomly in a different town. We dated and quickly like...

A.   6 December 2010: u should watch the Drew barrymore movie .... "going the distance". it will really help. ... (read in full...)

We are on date 6 plus having sex, I think he might be using me?

Q.   I have been seeing a guy for a month. We met on the internet, he's been to my flat, i've been to his. We have been sleeping together every time we meet up. We have also been going 'out'. dinner, cinema, art gallery, etc We have lots in co...

A.   4 December 2010: if u dont want having the feeling of being used,dont have sex with a guy so soon again. ur obviously not ready for that kind of relationship. deep down u still need to feel the love. "whatever you built,that's what you'll get". an old phrase y... (read in full...)

Should I attempt to find this person? I have a strong desire to reconcile with her for what I did

Q.   Twenty five years ago I had a brief affair (I was married at the time) with another woman that I cared for deeply. I was in the army and left for Germany without telling her I was leaving. (doing what I thought was the 'right' thing by my wife at ...

A.   1 December 2010: do it. :)... (read in full...)

In a working relationship, have a major crush on another girl.

Q.   I've been dating this great girl for almost 6 months now. However, I've now met someone who I'm pretty sure would be a better match for me in many ways. I have a major crush on her. I don't have any particular issues with my current girlfrie...

A.   1 December 2010: Breaking up with anyone who hasn't done something seriously wrong in the relationship just seems so cruel in my mind. breaking up isn't an act to punish something like infidelity. some relationship end because someone new comes,or because... (read in full...)

In a working relationship, have a major crush on another girl.

Q.   I've been dating this great girl for almost 6 months now. However, I've now met someone who I'm pretty sure would be a better match for me in many ways. I have a major crush on her. I don't have any particular issues with my current girlfrie...

A.   29 November 2010: do what ur heart desires.u only live once. get to know the other girl on a friendly basis,before u decide to dump ur girlfriend.... (read in full...)

We have just started dating, what should I get him for Christmas?

Q.   i've just started seeing a boy who i really like. we aren't very serious at the moment but he's been talking to my friends about what to get me for christmas.. i have no idea what to get for him! any ideas? i want it to be something personal but i'm ...

A.   25 November 2010: dont get him something personal.ur only at the initial stages of dating. if u get him something personal now what will u get him when u guys gonna been dating for years? get my point? get him something christmas-related. a small christmas tree (i ... (read in full...)

Is it too much to say 'love ya' in a text before we have gone on our first date?

Q.   Theres a girl I like. Were suposed to go to a game together in a few days in what I'm assuming is our first date. My question is whether its alright to text her somethin like 'happy thanksgivin ...

A.   25 November 2010: dont say love ya ur gonna look very easy. ... (read in full...)

Confused over online friend.

Q.   (sorry if this is long but I really need to explain everything because I need the help a lot) I'm looking for advice on something that's been the centre of my attention for quite a few months now. I met a female friend through MSN in April/May ...

A.   24 November 2010: if u do have a relationship,how often will u be able to see her? thats what u need to focus on. all the other stuff is B.S... (read in full...)

Should I call it quits? It's like we aren't even in a relationship!

Q.   About a month ago i met this guy and we clicked right away we would have long phone conversations every night he would text me and keep in touch all the time. He asked me out but i told him i wanted to wait until we got to know each other more ...

A.   22 November 2010: 1) U said u didnt respond positively to his asking out because u wanted to get to know him first. U GET TO KNOW SOMEONE BY "GOING OUT" WITH THEM WHICH MEANS INDULDING IN ACTIVITIES TOGETHER. 2) He got bored with the same ol' conversa... (read in full...)

Is there anything memorable I can give him for his 21st birthday?

Q.   Oh Dear! My boyfriend lost his favourite ring that he bought in America a year ago, and for his 21st birthday in two days, I bought him a similar one. He just called me all excited, saying he'd just found it in a pocket of one of his pairs of pants...

A.   22 November 2010: no need for teddy bears or i love u sings. the ring was more than enough. now u can buy some liquor,just to keep the mood light. buying that same ring was you going out of your way ...and he gotta appreciate it.... (read in full...)

My husband is old school!

Q.   My husband is from "the old scjhool", who beleives giving a male (a kid)co-worker a ride home (because his car broke down), is a breech of trust and that, I, as a married woman, should not be "driving around town with men in my car". First ...

A.   16 November 2010: quit-echo told u exactly what u should do :)... (read in full...)

How should a single guy's bedroom look?

Q.   Women, if you were at the house of a guy you liked and peeked in his bedroom, what would make a better impression on you: if it looked as though he entertained females there occasionally (candles, incense sticks, queen-size bed, tiny bottle of ...

A.   16 November 2010: MUSTs 1) queen size bed . NO SINGLES. 2) two pillows on the bed :) 3) Little lamp by the bed - girls often put stuff next to the bed so its good to have some light there. Now,do not have any candles there - she'll think you are a "secude... (read in full...)

Why is it so hard to meet a decent honest man?

Q.   Why is it so hard to meet a decent honest man? My last relationship ended nearly three years ago. We were together for 11 years - most of which was very good and we broke up simply because we had grown apart. I made the decision to move back to my ...

A.   13 November 2010: Jmtmj is sooooooooo right. he couldnt be any more righter. I am currently visiting my parents in my hometown,and at this moment im writing you,i just got home from the club.i couldnt stand it there anymore.full of "copy cats" (every man looked t... (read in full...)

Why is it so hard to meet a decent honest man?

Q.   Why is it so hard to meet a decent honest man? My last relationship ended nearly three years ago. We were together for 11 years - most of which was very good and we broke up simply because we had grown apart. I made the decision to move back to my ...

A.   13 November 2010: Jmtmj is sooooooooo right. he couldnt be any more righter. I am currently visiting my parents in my hometown,and at this moment im writing you,i just got home from the club.i couldnt stand it there anymore.full of "copy cats" (every man looked t... (read in full...)

Why is it so hard to meet a decent honest man?

Q.   Why is it so hard to meet a decent honest man? My last relationship ended nearly three years ago. We were together for 11 years - most of which was very good and we broke up simply because we had grown apart. I made the decision to move back to my ...

A.   13 November 2010: Jmtmj is sooooooooo right. he couldnt be any more righter. I am currently visiting my parents in my hometown,and at this moment im writing you,i just got home from the club.i couldnt stand it there anymore.full of "copy cats" (every man looked t... (read in full...)

He's nice but he's also a pimp!

Q.   i have been single for 4 yrs because i have been burnt and didnt want to get involved. a few weeks ago i was at gym and this guy came over to me and we started talking. there was instant chemistry and i felt really free and happy with him we meet in ...

A.   12 November 2010: he wants to make you work for him. stay away from him... (read in full...)

Friend needs a fresh start but I hate to lose her

Q.   I hope someone can help with advice with this situation, it takes a bit of explaining, but here goes. My best friend and sister-in-law came to stay with us last week to tell us some news and sort her life out. She has three young children under t...

A.   8 November 2010: Poor woman!! Let her go...she needs to find herself and her family is CRUEL. keep in contact via skype. Talk to her often. Book your tickets early enough to go see her in Canada :) You can make it work. God bless all of you... (read in full...)

Is there any hope for us to grow closer emotionally in this marriage?

Q.   I have been married for 15 years. We have 4 children (youngest is 5). We have a 'solid' relationship and my husband is a generally decent man. He has a stressful, high-responsibility job and is very well-respected in his field. In my opinion he is a ...

A.   8 November 2010: how about u take a vacation,just u and him? another setting could be what u needed.... (read in full...)

Are we dating/getting to know each other or are we just hooking up?

Q.   Are we dating/getting to know each other or are we just hooking up? - known each other for four weeks - he's always followed up on everything he planned or said - he pays for everything (even though I offer and sometimes we split) - he never ...

A.   8 November 2010: ur not a fan of the grey area yet u sleep with a guy so soon? Sounds contradictory to me. Also,every relationship is different...right now you are dating.if u are visiting museums together and he's paying for u ur dating. hooking up means having... (read in full...)

I want to show that I'm interested, but not a creepy stalker

Q.   Hi guys. Just need some advice about something that is slightly confused me. Last weekend I met this really sexy lady at a club where I work as a bouncer. The story was that This woman was outside the club with her friend (woman.) looking to grab ...

A.   8 November 2010: thats why its better to CALL or leave VOICE MAIL.... (read in full...)

Dad thinks he's a lackluster boyfriend because he dosen't put me on a pedestal. Is he?

Q.   Hello all. I've been with my guy almost 2 years, and things have been pretty smooth. No arguments, though some disagreements. He's my 1st guy, I'm his 4th girl. "Jack" is a nice guy to everyone he meets. Guys or girls, he would give them the sh...

A.   6 November 2010: its not about how your dad views ur relationship.yes he can be right because these little special treatments usually indicate that a guy is into you..however a lot of people are different and ur guy might be different. the real question is... AR... (read in full...)

I am feeling completely lost. Love, sex, all of it is a maddening mystery to me

Q.   I am feeling completely lost. Love, sex, all of it is a maddening mystery to me. I'm in first year university, I've been here for a little over two months, and, contrary to many of my old hopes and dreams, it feels a lot like high school. I'm ...

A.   5 November 2010: read articles online on how to 'woo' women. buy books :) watch videos (they have flirt strategies etc) what did u think sweety?one day ur gonna go to college and click with a girl immediately? it doesnt happen that way. not having a gf..EVER sho... (read in full...)

I'm scared shes only acting close to me because of him. I don't know what to do, but I cant get her out of my mind!

Q.   I fell in love for the first time with a girl that lived down the street from me, we were together for 3 1/2 years then things fell apart. we didn't talk to each other for almost 6 years, she got a new boy friend, i got a new girl friend, but i ...

A.   5 November 2010: dont push her just cause u used to date some time ago. be cool,positive,and dont act like two love birds. be a man about it.if shes still with the other guy,respect her relationship. if shes not with him...dont make her feel uncomfortable. t... (read in full...)

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