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I love knowing I can change someone's life by providing the right advice.Since I was little I was advising my friends and when I couldn't advise myself I would seek the advice of others.

The kind of advice I tend to give is practical.I put the person who asked FIRST,and morality second.I am not worried much about what society suggests,as society views are always altered by the time/area we live in. My faith in God results in Morality,but I will always consider YOUR good first,then societys.

Thanks for reading this Have fun & God Bless

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Why won't my partner use my name?

Q.   Hi there, I have a very unusual problem with my partner of 7 years. He will never use my name, not my first name of even a pet name. If he wants me and I'm not in the room, he will shout 'are you there'. I mentioned this to him early on in our ...

A.   11 October 2010: maybe he doesnt like your name. when i didnt like my exes name,i always used pet names or made up a name for him however when i liked a guys name i kept saying it and worrying about not saying it too MUCH. ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid that entering a relationship would be the wrong choice.

Q.   Alright, so, after coming back on campus this summer after a semester abroad a guy, *James, who I was always just an acquaintance with me started hitting on me at work; we work for different departments at my school but we saw each other all of the ...

A.   3 October 2010: James :-) its obvious. u like him he likes u. dont think of the future and an LDR. dont put more stress on urself. enjoy ur time with james good luck... (read in full...)

What could possibly have been going through his head??

Q.   I've been good friends with this guy for the last two years since working with him on a political campaign. We're now in college together, and he says he considers me to be one of his very best friends. He'd often tell me about the fact that he was ...

A.   3 October 2010: he seems weird and very troubled. dont help him have sex.he will probably stalk u or get hurt and tell everyone.avoid him.... (read in full...)

Does breast feeding mess up your breasts?

Q.   Hey well i heard that breast feeding messes up your nipples like makes them not soft any more and stuff and that they wont go back to normal is that true?...

A.   3 October 2010: i read all the answers and i dont like that mine is the only negative one but here it goes. my uncle's best friend brest fed both her kids and she told me she regretted it. her babies bit her breasts badly and she ended up having bruises and going ... (read in full...)

Old feelings surfaced again -- how long before I should contact her?

Q.   Hi, I recently bumped into an old school friend and we had a nice chat, at the end of the evening after the skittles match i asked for her tel No, which was great. Speaking to a friend he said she was on her own, so the next evening i phone...

A.   3 October 2010: dont let her know how u feel.if anything,the woman told you she got out of a long term relationship. she doesnt want anyone telling her how she feels.keep things casual. u knew her before so it would be easier that u suggest something laid-back e.g ... (read in full...)

I am not attracted to my skinny boyfriend with his beer gut!

Q.   Me and my fiancee just made 2 years we have a 6 month old son, i am 19 and he is 24 and we plan to get married next year. Here is my dilemma im in love with him but not physically attracted to him. I like my guys muscular at least somewhat, he is ...

A.   3 October 2010: u are only 19,and u act like ur 30+! if this guy doesnt satisfy u now,think of how uts gonna get in the future. ur screwed.....honestly u need to do something about it asap. have a guy talk to him about how he can get cut up (toned up) at the gym or ... (read in full...)

I have scared off my LDR boyfriend

Q.   i feel i have scard my man away, we are in a LDR been with each other over a year and half now, well commited see each other best we can when we can, he has texted me every t break and dinner break while at work, and spoke to me every night on msn ...

A.   3 October 2010: read why men love bitches and why men marry bitches. keeping a man interested isnt hard work.actually its less work. these 2 books changed my life. and yeah i agree on u on not waiting forever for him to open up and tell u what he thinks. thats why ... (read in full...)

I have scared off my LDR boyfriend

Q.   i feel i have scard my man away, we are in a LDR been with each other over a year and half now, well commited see each other best we can when we can, he has texted me every t break and dinner break while at work, and spoke to me every night on msn ...

A.   2 October 2010: you're welcome :-) The thing is,I know you didnt say anything else because he already gave you no answer to what you already said. however,he should feel that you VALUE your feelings so he should eventually tell you what he thinks. Just wait for him ... (read in full...)

I have scared off my LDR boyfriend

Q.   i feel i have scard my man away, we are in a LDR been with each other over a year and half now, well commited see each other best we can when we can, he has texted me every t break and dinner break while at work, and spoke to me every night on msn ...

A.   2 October 2010: it was stupid of you telling him on msn since you guys seee each other in real life.u should have waited till u met him again.....hes probably taken aback now. stop trying to contact him.let him talk to you and tell him u know he saw what u wrote so ... (read in full...)

How to know if you're gay, bi, bi-curious, confused or straight?

Q.   Hi I'm a 21 years old male I'm here for help with some issues that I'm trying to deal with but don't know so please take your time to read my story and help me or give me some advice. This is me, a straight male who had never been or slept ...

A.   29 September 2010: maybe you are fighting with temptation. u should not sleep on the same bed with someone of the same sex you are attracted to.... (read in full...)

I'm baffled why he didn't want to have sex with me...

Q.   Okay, I'm looking for a male perspective really, but women feel free to answer too. I'm 21 and out clubbing every weekend, my eldest brother too does exactly the same and we regularly end the night together. He always brings his best mate out wi...

A.   29 September 2010: U should be happy that he respected your brother and you and didnt try to have sex with you right there! why dont you wanna take a chance to ge to know this dude? he seems nice. you will more likely destroy everything if u seem overly eager to sleep ... (read in full...)

I want a steady boyfriend and excitement on the side!

Q.   I'm 14 and I have one of those boyfriends that everyone says is a 'great guy'. And he is. He's generous, good-looking, absolutely adores me and has never betrayed my trust and I don't think ever wants to. I lost my virginity to him at 13 and we've ...

A.   12 September 2010: you're too young to get into such a mess.perhaps u should watch the movie FOURTEEN. very helpful. u need to realize school is way more important at this time and relationships will not get u anywhere. its cool if u wanna have a very close guy friend ... (read in full...)

I don't want to be alone, but there's no spark in this relationship

Q.   I think I should break-up with my boyfriend, but im terrified of being single! We've been together since christmas and he had apparently really liked me for quite a while before that.....i had just come out of a bad relationship and was just loo...

A.   9 September 2010: being with someone just for the sake of it is dumb. i feel like i want a man too,and there is someone who is almost perfect,i just dont have that spark with him! so im not gonna jump into this,know what im saying? u were good but now the ... (read in full...)

I'm shorter than her!

Q.   Im in love with a girl. But Im shorter than her. By alot. How can I bridge the height gap?...

A.   9 September 2010: ur still in ur teens,when i was ur age,all my guy friends were shorter than me and now theyre all taller.by the age of 16 u will be taller than her.so stick around buddy.... (read in full...)

Can we be falling for each other so quickly?

Q.   I met this guy when I was 14 and we had a lovely summer romance. I'm now 30 and we met on facebook.. We talked for a while and finally met last week.. It was so perfect. He was lovely, there was no awkwardness.. It just felt right. We both felt the ...

A.   8 September 2010: go on a date but dont sound like u want a relationship right now.keep ur options open :-) dont talk bout communicating while hes in the states.he has ur number,he can call u. and when u talk on facebook,dont act like ur already his fiance. be fun ... (read in full...)

Empty nest syndrome???

Q.   Dear Cupid and Agony Aunts, I am 25yrs old, male, Italian, and still living at home. In the Italian household my parents and many families that are Latin/ European have strict families and moving out on your own is TABOO.. and something tha...

A.   8 September 2010: u shouldnt feel responsible for ur parents misery.ur dad sounds more sensible,so try talking to him. discuess the situation between them and kindly tell them that there will be a time when u leave home,and u don't wanna see them in such a state.if ... (read in full...)

Saying goodbye...

Q.   Hi, please help... I met a guy in America and had to come back to the UK because my visa ran out, i met a guy there who was lovely, charming, generous and funny. He swept me off my feet and i've never felt so much like a lady. We didn't say too m...

A.   8 September 2010: this is a tough one. the thing is u dont know this guy in his daily life.maybe he swept u off ur feet because he wanted to do everythin he could to make u happy knowin ur goin soon. u should not run away from ur feelings. instead of askin him how he ... (read in full...)

Is it very hard to divorce and start a new life at 50?

Q.   Is it very hard to divorce and start a new life at 50? I feel this relationship is ended, even there was 26 years invested. But I'm a strong believer, marriage without sex, is a sin. I feel, if there is no medical cause, and your husband dont look ...

A.   8 September 2010: talk to him about it.if he doesnt understand,start going to the gym,care for ur apperance.if he doesnt notice it ...time to move on and holla at some hottie out there who will appreciate you and want to bone ya!... (read in full...)

In-lust, in-like, in-love?? You tell me!

Q.   I'm not sure what to make of my feelings. Am i just in-lust, in-like, or in-love? what does it all mean? There is this guy that for the past 4 months or so we've hung out on and off, with a group and alone. It started off really slow, then event...

A.   8 September 2010: ur acting like how i don't want women to be acting. ARE U SERIOUS? thats all im going to ask u. U even tryna see if ur in love or in lust? what about him? He sent u "where u takin me to dinner" instead of him being the one to initiate it.and he ... (read in full...)

Trying to look older

Q.   How to make myself look older? I'm 19 and I guess I look my age or less. I probably look 20 or 21 if I wear make up or maybe even my age some people say. However, I would like to look older maybe 23 or something. My boyfriend is 34 and its weird...

A.   8 September 2010: live according to ur age. dress accordin to ur age.there will be a time where u wont be able to wear a short skirt or anythin like that. im sure this guy likes u. no need to change urself for him. ... (read in full...)

I don't see him committing! Do I walk away?

Q.   I'm pushing 30 and I feel like my life has been one giant lack of progress. I have no idea how I got into such a massive rut. If I could wish myself into the perfect life... Relationship: A loving man who wants to share his life with me....

A.   8 September 2010: go have dinner with him,and talk about how you want to start a family soon.give him some time and ask him to answer you soon because you dont see this relationship moving forward and you know what you want.make sure,like i said,to do this in a ... (read in full...)

Turned on a dime..

Q.   I live on the east coast. I've met the girl of my dreams in San Francisco about 36 months ago and she, in turn, met who she called the "guy she was going to grow old with." Two issues: she's still in a divorce and nasty custody battle with her ex. ...

A.   8 September 2010: first of all im sorry ur going through this. i hate to say this but maybe she used u all this time for comfort and consollation,a way to get away from her hurtful marriage?how can you be sure she hasnt used you,and now that she is in a differen... (read in full...)

Should I put him out AGAIN?

Q.   I have been dating the same guy for almost 10 years. The first 2 years were pretty good, but I guess I always felt like he thought I wasn't good enough for him. He lost his job 2 years into the relationship and then he asked me to move in with ...

A.   8 September 2010: he seems to be suffering from a severe mental disease he needs to see an expert. ur kids shouldnt be witnessing all that.if u want to be with him ok,dont live with him though.... (read in full...)

Is he thinking of impregnating me?

Q.   My boyfriend confuses me again and again...I am 20 and he is 36. We've been dating more than half a year. When it comes to sex, we use the pull-out method. From the first, he stated that he wanted no kids. I shrugged it off since I'm young and ...

A.   8 September 2010: take the pill and dont rely on him... (read in full...)

Playing hard to get--how do you do that?

Q.   theres this guy i have a little crush on and i know the key to a guys heart is to be yourself.. but how are some ways to play a little hard to get? you know keep him guessing... ...

A.   7 September 2010: the whole of point in PLAYING HARD TO GET is play hard to get AFTER you get the guy to notice you and take you out. It just means maintaining a healthy lifestyle,not being very attached to him at the early stages of the relationship.not cook for him ... (read in full...)

Good man, but not in love...what do I do?

Q.   ok, so I'm 36 so in theory should be old enough to know what I want. But, I'm wracked with self-doubt and indecision. I have a 6 year relationship with a good (if dull) man. We are engaged and have one lovely gorgeous daughter. But I don't love ...

A.   6 September 2010: maybe u're having depression. go to counceling with him... (read in full...)

Is it normal that this turns me on?

Q.   I've been seeing a guy for several months now on the DL; we're just friends with benefits and have agreed that there's no strings attached. I'm 19 and he's 34. Well, today is my birthday and last night I went by his place for some fun and end...

A.   6 September 2010: where did u meet this man? And I see nothing wrong with you being with him,i think she already suspects something is going on since she saw you there and probably heard you as well.just ignore her and make sure she doesnt get to tape yall,oth... (read in full...)

Boyfriend seems distant - am I overreacting?

Q.   My boyfriend and I met online and started dating 3 months ago. We'd text all day, skype, and end the night with a phone call. I recently went to visit him for the first time and we absolutely adored each other, and we discussed the possibility of me ...

A.   6 September 2010: you only met him ONCE and you were willing to live with his parents? that screamt DESPERATE right there. Your man is too young to commit anyway. And you are not in a position for something like that. You did the right thing. Focus on your ... (read in full...)

Is he brushing me off?

Q.   So I really need some help! I've been with my boyfriend for a little more then a year and a half he says he really cares about me/loves me a lot n other people seem to see it to. The problem is I really have trust issues and he just started college. ...

A.   6 September 2010: he has taken u for granted. he does his own thing while u believe u do too but really? college and work aren't hobbies! u wait like a lovestruck puppy to see him everytime,and u make urself available.i know im harsh but when i hear stories like ... (read in full...)

Love or lifestyle?

Q.   I can't get over my ex of 8 years who I split up with two years ago. I met him at University and adore him but he has no ambition. He has lots of potential but doesn't know how to apply it. I tried helping him but in the end there didn't seem to ...

A.   6 September 2010: this is one of the most difficult questions,no wonder it has received 0 answers. I was dating a guy that is just like your guy # 2. he called everyday,took me out and payed everytime,popped champagne on the beach and cooked for me but UMMM ....If it ... (read in full...)

I'm using the toilet too often!

Q.   hi im really annoyed because i need to use the toilet anthing up 20 times a day, wat can i do please i need help!!!...

A.   6 September 2010: u might have diabetes. go take a blood test.... (read in full...)

What is it is he trying to say?

Q.   I am 18 years old. I babysit and tutor arounnd the neighbourhood. There's this one family that I usually babysit. I would usually take care of their five year old daughter and tutor their 15 year old son. After some time, I got to know them better ...

A.   6 September 2010: he tries to sleep with you? he fancies you? do you like him? how long will he stay?... (read in full...)

Girlfriend broke up with me because I was best man in a friends wedding!

Q.   Girlfriend wants to end us and is really upset and mad at me. From the start we have got on like house on fire. 1 year down the line she says im a selfish, lying, twofaced person. I have stopped seeing my friends and moved into her house, it ta...

A.   5 September 2010: Don;t let a girl tell u what to do. u seem to have the NICE GUY SYNDROME. Thank God 10 times that she dumped you. She's probably doing it as a trick. FORGET HER. She's a control freak and you will be unhappy with her. She's very insecure and mean. U ... (read in full...)

Stressed by peoples' reaction to our inter-racial relationship

Q.   Hey everyone, some insight on this please....? I'm black and my boyfriend is Hispanic. He looks extremely Caucasian though without a tan. Anyway we have that difference and a 15yr age gap, he looks 28 :p. Grocery shopping today, we ran into friends ...

A.   5 September 2010: be proud of your interracial relationship. watch "something new" with saana lethan it really helps :-) He seems to be a very sweet guy. dont let the negativity get to you. Good luck :-)... (read in full...)

Confused: Does he like me? Or am I a booty call?

Q.   So this guy asked me out last Friday, and we were supposed to have a date on last Sunday. An emergency on my end happened and I tried to back out of the date as gracefully as I could under the circumstances through texting. He meant to reply, "you ...

A.   5 September 2010: are u serious? he asked u out on a date but u ended up cooking for him???? u may appear more easy and eager to guys than you think you do. many girls have the illusion that they can be respected by guys,but when you do something as stupid as to cook ... (read in full...)

I had sex with my, guardian is it wrong?

Q.   hey guys, i think i hav a bit of a problem... about 6 years ago, when i was 14, i moved to china (my parents wanted me to learn chinese). my parents hired a guardian to look after me and afterwards, both of them went to the U.S. Well, at first, t...

A.   5 September 2010: ummm she might get crazy on you. Just ask her what she thinks about that night and WHY she had sex with you.... (read in full...)

Are they too close?

Q.   My girlfriend has a brother (14) and he is totally obsessed with her. He lives in a group home as her parents are alcoholics/drug addicts but she sees him every weekend. He acts really weird around her, he follows anything she says slavishly and he ...

A.   5 September 2010: uhhhhhh. before u accuse her brother,make sure u have a laid back convo with her. try to figure out how their relaitonship is,without seeming too curious.just talk about someone else's siblings or wait till he calls her and then go from there. ... (read in full...)

I don't like kissing, and can't see ever liking it

Q.   I'm a 19 years old and have never had a boyfriend. Recently, I started talking to a boy who works across the street from me and I've gone on a few dates with him. He and I share a lot of the same interests and get along well, but I am not enjoying ...

A.   3 September 2010: maybe u like him on a friendly level but u are not attracted to him. have u ever felt attracted to anyone? like think to urself "oh wow this guy is so handsome" ?... (read in full...)

My b/f posted for men-to-men

Q.   Help! My boyfriend of 4 years posted personals Men to Men on Craigslist. I was totally shocked. In addition he semed to know all the lingo and I am totally disgusted by reading it. Appears he is not new at this. I even replied to one of his ...

A.   3 September 2010: come on.he's using you as a cover. he wants his cake and his frosting. ... (read in full...)

I met a guy online and then saw him in person. Should I be upset if he's seeing others?

Q.   Hi all. Here’s the problem please can anyone give advice? I’m talking to a guy online for maybe 8 months, not online romantic relationship because he was with someone else but we just talked as friends. Then they split, and after a wh...

A.   3 September 2010: You seem to be a very nice guy,yet you are making one mistake. You do not expand YOURSELF. SOunds weird,right? What i mean by this is that you've settled for who you are,and you dont seem to want to improve yourself on a basis of confidence or hobb... (read in full...)

Torn between my current stable relationship, and the possibilities of what could happen with this other girl if we were both single.....

Q.   Sooo this may seem like a really confusing question but i thank you in advance if you read this all and give advice Sooo me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 3 years now, we started dating in our senior year of high school and this ...

A.   2 September 2010: I met this guy when he was dating his girlfriend for 4 months. He was a perfect gentleman,no booty call thing, I NEVER in my life shared a better connection with someone than i did with him. We couldnt be together due to the fact that i ... (read in full...)

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