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| | *izz.butterflies's profile:I love knowing I can change someone's life by providing the right advice.Since I was little I was advising my friends and when I couldn't advise myself I would seek the advice of others.
The kind of advice I tend to give is practical.I put the person who asked FIRST,and morality second.I am not worried much about what society suggests,as society views are always altered by the time/area we live in. My faith in God results in Morality,but I will always consider YOUR good first,then societys.
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Have I made the right decision to cut her out of my life?
Q. This is about as complicated as it gets, so I'll try to be as clear as possible - apologies for the length and the spelling/grammar errors below. The story goes: Back when I was 15, I met a girl in my home town. We fell in love, and start...
A. 11 May 2010: Thanks for giving us the whole picture and writing such a clear message to read. Ok,first off let me say that over the years you created an "ideal" picture of that girl. You thought all your past relationships didnt last,so she must be the one.... (read in full...)
Can't enjoy sex until she's tested and I wear a condom.
Q. I love sex but nothing spoils the mood more for me than when she suggests we do it without a condom. I instantly lose my hard-on and it's not getting back up after a comment like that. I don't want to get an STI. I trust her but how can I trust ...
A. 5 May 2010: It doesnt matter whether this is romantic or not. I knew a case where a girl was dating a soccer player and he demanded she got checked for STDs before they would have unprotected sex.She came to us and yelled that this was INSULTING.it isn't. Its ... (read in full...)
He's giving VERY mixed signals!
Q. I lost my boyfriend a few weeks ago and my best friend who I thought liked me is playing me. He plays me by acting all nice and then he says that he doesn’t care about my texts or what I have to say. Then the next day he smiles and he does look at ...
A. 5 May 2010: You better stop texting him immediately. He has you in his Back up List. Dont know what that is? When a guy knows you are intrested in him but He doesnt wish to pursue you (cause guess what....You're not intresting to him) He just has you as a back ... (read in full...)
Am I gross? OR was the guy just not nice?
Q. Hi, I recently hooked up with a guy and whilst we were in bed fooling around he took off my pants, then he stopped and was like ew, so I asked what's the problem and he told me "your vagina is gross". I've had my confidence knocked by it my...
A. 5 May 2010: what? ok my mouth opened and it couldnt close for a few seconds.are you serious????? are you even asking about this???? of course he was rude and theres nothing wrong with you.even if he did think something was wrong with your vagina he should have ... (read in full...)
How do I make him mine ?
Q. It all started in high school, everyone has said he is a player but for some reason I couldn't help but like him. We like a lot of the same stuff n can sit n talk for hours. He makes me smile just to get a text or be by him. We finally ended up ...
A. 4 May 2010: the only way to attract his attention is to state you would like to date him and if he says no just ignore him.stop sleeping with him.... (read in full...)
He wants to go to Amsterdam with his mates yet we've never been on holiday!
Q. my boyfriend of three years blurted out after being asked a week ago "I've been asked to go to Amsterdam for three days" i asked why he has only just told me this and he replied he didnt know how i would act. He has not had a job for ages and can ...
A. 4 May 2010: He doesnt need a passport to go to amsterdam if he lives in england. It's European Union.
and yes i will agree he's useless. No job and now he wants a vacation without you...wheee....are you sure you're with the right guy?... (read in full...)
I'm scared of throwing away someting really good, but why can't I commit?
Q. I'm scared of throwing away the best thing that has happened to me but on the other hand I'm not sure if I'm 100 percent committed to this guy. We been together a few years now (not living together), we live a couple hours away from each other. The ...
A. 4 May 2010: Umm....i have the feeling that you will jump to a relationship with the next guy you will feel attracted to. Sounds like this relationship lacks passion.Or maybe he's so good that u've taken him for granted.ask yourself how you will feel if he ... (read in full...)
What to say to him when I see him again?
Q. Soo,I was in the club 3 days ago and met this very handsome guy. He seems the playa-playa type (very good looking,best dressed,some girls were trying to talk to him) but he clearly made it seem that he was interested in me. When the girls came to ...
A. 4 May 2010: yeah caring guy is usually on point :P
The thing is,he did look like a player but he acted very decently and i had his full attention at the club.
my question however was...IF HE DOESNT CALL,and i happen to see him at the club again (it was th... (read in full...)
Takes two to tango
Q. stuck between two guys.. #1 Lee.. Lee i dated a few years ago for a few months. we had this really intense relationship. he is beautiful and sexy and funny and sweet. #2 Cooper.. Cooper and i are currently dating. He just bought us a hous...
A. 3 May 2010: this is a hard one. It looks like u will have stability with cooper,he will treat u right,but u will always lack passion.and then ur gonna be thinking about lee and how u didnt give him that second chance. give him the chance.it might not work ... (read in full...)
19 years old and still a virgin!
Q. Im 19 year old male. I've only kissed one girl ever, and I am still a virgin. I've been alone for a long time, and I am really feeling low. I wake up feeling pointless, hopeless, and as if I will never find someone or lost me virginity... help i ...
A. 2 May 2010: relax....stop thinking about it. 19 is not that horrible after all. watch a lot of porn,practice your "cum" time,and be confident.work out in the meantime,the better body u have the better u will feel....!!! after 2-3 months start dating!! u will ... (read in full...)
I know the guy is supposed to make the 1st move but I have no confidence!
Q. im 15-19 years old ive always had a confidence problem when it comes to girls and i dont really know why.. i have loads of good friends that are girls and its fine in terms of that but when i start to like a girl it all completely cahnges..and i d...
A. 30 April 2010: suggest u take her somewhere new.....like see a movie or something...maybe at a fun park...make sure she enjoys herself....then sit down to have a drink......touch her hair...and look into her eyes....if she lets u do all this it means shes ready ... (read in full...)
She says she doesn't want to be FWB but isn't that what we are??
Q. How do I figure this girl out, before I start I have to say that I am a typical young bloke who is very open and honest. I am very attracted to a girl I work with and we have worked together for about 4 years, we flirt all the time, I was stra...
A. 29 April 2010: prepare urself for some real drama dude. she will feel like ur playing her...and yeah she cant keep her hands off you but she is reluctant to have sex because she does want a commitment.shes a nice girl but not a grown woman who can just have sex ... (read in full...)
My relationship is a real mess... I need your help!
Q. hi, well i need some advice on what i can do about my 4 year relationship, I met my partner 4 years ago, at first we were happy and it was as if i was dreaming, my bf took my then 7 month old son like he was his own, and to this day he has alays...
A. 29 April 2010: i got the feeling that u have already decided what to do but ur waiting for someone here to tell u different. yes u do want to leave him but ur thinking of ur kids and probably ur financial future. youre about to change your life and u just dont ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend won't let me have it and it hurts!
Q. Hello. I really need some help with my situation because it is upsetting me so much. I am 20-years-old and my boyfriend just turned 22. We've been together for 2 1/2 years. In the beginning of our relationship we were intimate a lot of the time and ...
A. 29 April 2010: You have been ignoring the reality for some time now but its time you see the facts for what they are and stop fantasizing. You are being the man in the relationship. U provide for him,he doesnt do anything and on top of that he's not giving u good ... (read in full...)
Having the Define The Relationship Talk
Q. Having the Define The Relationship Talk. Hugh and I have been seeing each other since last April then he went away for 6 months to fight in Afgan. We were casually seeing each other with all intention of calling it off when he went away, but then w...
A. 28 April 2010: u were wrong when u said u were going to wait. u werent officially together so waiting seemed too much.
now im sorry but this is going to hurt...
u gotta let him go. he's insecure as he wants u for emotional cover and yet he has sex with other w... (read in full...)
I get so attached to guys!
Q. I get so attached to guys. If I have a drunken kiss, or even just a nice conversation or flirt with a guy, I immediatyly start liking them. I really hate it. For example, I met a really nice on Friday night, he was obviously interested in me, ...
A. 28 April 2010: DAAAAMN.HAha sorry this caused me to laugh.
its ok girls are crazy. whenever i meet a guy i like i immediately think of how our future can work out.
its cool unless YOU DONT MAKE IT OBVIOUS TO HIM.
adding him was wrong. if a guy says he'... (read in full...)
He seems so lazy I'm thinking of leaving
Q. Hi guys, i have a bit of a problem, but doesn't everyone who writes on here! Anyway, i am with this guy, i love him very much, we have been together for almost 11 months, he's lovely, i love pretty much everything about him. There are just a few t...
A. 28 April 2010: oh come on girl...dont let this little holiday treat make u forget about the problems! this guy is smart. some days off do not delete all the other days he makes u feel like shit. have fun on ur holiday but when u get back just try the things i tell ... (read in full...)
He acts interested but then always leaves without saying goodbye!
Q. I met this guy in January through a good friend of mine on a night out clubbing. He kept eyeing me and made a pass at me but I was quite shy at the time, and even though I was attracted to him I stayed away. After that I added him on facebook but we ...
A. 26 April 2010: looks like this guy has a lot on his mind,and a lot of groupies.he's caught up between starting a serious relationship (with you)...or enjoy the fan club treatment of his groupies. Dont show him ur pissed. Just relax and try to have fun in the club. ... (read in full...)
Should I ask out my hair stylist?
Q. Hi guys. I happen to have a huge crush on my hair stylist (no, he is not gay) and I REALLY need some help. He and I talk a lot everytime I go there and have become sort of friends, or at least that's how I see it. The last time I went there we st...
A. 26 April 2010: tell him u wanna shop for ur cousins birthday and u would like him to come with you.lol hehe.... (read in full...)
He seems so lazy I'm thinking of leaving
Q. Hi guys, i have a bit of a problem, but doesn't everyone who writes on here! Anyway, i am with this guy, i love him very much, we have been together for almost 11 months, he's lovely, i love pretty much everything about him. There are just a few t...
A. 26 April 2010: You're trying to make your guy more responsible but it seems to me he wishes to remain in the "young boy" phase.Over here,in Greece,guys his age are JUST LIKE THAT,thats why I dont date guys under 22. After a while I have to put up with the problems ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't want to marry until until I get a better job
Q. My boyfriend of four years hasn't proposed yet and doesn't know when he will. We had a discussion last night about it because I'm tired of waiting. Basically he's told me that he can't marry me unless I get a different job that pays more and is m...
A. 20 April 2010: you're so young.you started this relationship when you were even younger. You grew so attached to this guy.Im guessing he was your first. HE TAKES YOU FOR GRANTED. Get out,live your life,party before you regret getting married so soon without ... (read in full...)
Was I just her comfort blanket?
Q. I hope I can get a few answers or reasoning from people who read this as it's come to the point where its on my mind too many points during the day. I have exams in a month and I just want to not think about it anymore. Not sure how to start this ...
A. 18 April 2010: She probably wanted to test waters with you,see if she's over your ex. Don't hold a grudge against her. tell her you understand and the ball is in her court. Don't make more comments. If she liked spending time with you,she'll come around.
dont ... (read in full...)
Is he gay or did he lie to me?
Q. Greetings, I am a 20 year old virgin guy... and I think I am gay. Noone knows I am gay because I don't even know if I am for sure gay or bi. I feel attracted to both sexes but since I am still a virgin I am afraid of going with either for sex b...
A. 18 April 2010: Hmmmm....he's probably weighing his options.If he was 100% straight he wouldn't be so close to you,would he?
Chances are he likes you. But he's scared as well.
I suggest you guys become friends first,so you can ask him later on if he liked girl... (read in full...)
I don't think I'm girlfriend material
Q. im 19 and want a boyfriend im fed up of feeling alone. when i go out i do get boys coming up to me and do text them for a while but it never comes to a realionship and i always feel worse when this happens. what do i do wrong? or am i not girlfiend ...
A. 18 April 2010: here's a test to see if ur gf material http://www.okcupid.com/tests/take?testid=7077410236968369190 How to Get a Guy to Know You are Girlfriend Material Member By datingdoctor, eHow Member Article Rating: (16 Ratings) ... (read in full...)
I've been rejected my whole life
Q. years had bulling and rejection.missing out on love because of rejection. people who rejected me always find love the likes of me does n,t .has left me with a lot of problems.i have being going counselling since i was 6 years old.i see other people ...
A. 18 April 2010: Hey ! you need to listen to some hip hop.This kind of music really helps ur self esteem. You need to start about your new life where you'll be balling. Therapy doesn't do wonders.It will just take one decision. STOP ANALYZING YOUR LIFE AND LIVE IT. ... (read in full...)
Will history repeat itself if I go back?
Q. My wife of 20 years and I recently separated because of problems over intimacy and mutual supportiveness. Having put up with this for a long time I finally started an affair with someone else and once my wife found out I was sent packing, six months ...
A. 18 April 2010: I think you need to be honest about it. You cant go back to a relationship where you'll know that there's something missing.and since that something is important to you,you need to do something about it.Now I know it sounds "cruel" to tell a woman " ... (read in full...)
Concerned for my daughter's future
Q. How can I help my daughter without hurting her feelings? She is making bad choices, messing up her education on a very prestigious university,what was very hard for us to support financially. And she is trying to leave it for a very unrelated art ...
A. 18 April 2010: Hey,I am 20 and I've been facing similar problems with my parents.
my advice to you is - Let her know ONCE that you cant support her financially if she chooses to study art. If she brings it up again tell her ur not discussing it. uve made ur ... (read in full...)
From Ugly Ducking to Swan but now feeling socially inept..HELP??
Q. Hey everyone, I'm a 22 year old male, 6'2, I'm averaged size but a little bigger cuz of my height...built like Steelers QB Ben Roethlisberger (haha, that probably isnt the best example at this point in time haha) and Ive gotten that way by losing ...
A. 18 April 2010: Look up articles and videos...such as " How to flirt with a girl" "How to initiate a conversation" etc. Watch movies too. As for the sex part..practice.watch a lot of porn online,read books,go on specific forums and ask girls about their experien... (read in full...)
Things were going well until I told her I was interested
Q. I recently started a college course and met a girl who had very similar interests in life. I got her email address, but it took us a while to arrange a drink. Eventually it happened, and on the second time we went out I basically told her I was ...
A. 17 April 2010: Tell her you understand how she feels,and that you also understand nothing can happen because she has a man. Tell her youre still interested at this point. Stress "at this point". She will get the hint that if she doesnt do something soon,you'll ... (read in full...)
Dos and don'ts of a long distance relationship?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship with my girl for over two months, how do we survive, what are the dos and don'ts,because i have heard that it rarely works. If u have been in one before,your help we be appreciated. ...
A. 17 April 2010: I wont talk about what *SHE* "has" to do,I will talk about what a guy needs to do. I've had a long distance relationship that didn't work,so I am talking from experience.
First of all,you gotta make her feel WANTED. Just because you're not with... (read in full...)
His friends are frustrating me!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been on and off for the past year and something that i noticed lately thats been bothering me are his friends (both girls and boys). His friends aren't the friendliest people, i am the most outgoing friendliest pers...
A. 17 April 2010: Tiger's advice is great.Dont make any explanations to your boyfriend.Make suggestions instead. Tell him you liked his particular friend and would be great if you 3 went to see a movie together.It will be a painful process but you will prove that u ... (read in full...)
She has got back in touch after almost a month, what should I do now?
Q. Alright so a month and a half ago my girlfriend of 3 and a half years dumped me for being too obsessive so to say. I posted a question here weeks ago about me wanting to get her back and applying the no contact rule. Well nearly a month has gone by ...
A. 17 April 2010: tell her its better to discuss this in person.meet in a coffee shop and tell her ur willing to take her out. Dont be extra nice to her.treat her like a long lost friend.go from there.... (read in full...)
He keeps changing his mind...
Q. I was in a relationship for a little over a year, and it was constant fighting. It was my first relationship, and I really did learn what NOT to do..I hurt him pretty bad,nothing like cheating on him,but I did lie about some things..not ...
A. 17 April 2010: you will only know if u meet him and COLLECT UR SELF. dont let him understand whats going on with u. keep him in mystery. appear fun,and easy going,treat him like a friend and ask him if he thinks he sees a chance of u being together again.i... (read in full...)
Is there a better way to go about getting my ex back?
Q. My ex tried to reconcile with me by taking t slow. I freaked and told her to stop stringing me along(believing she was just trying to be friends). I teally hurt her feelings. She told me that we broke up bc I pit other things infront of her in my ...
A. 17 April 2010: I dont get it.do u want her back as a friend or as ur girlfriend?... (read in full...)
Is he looking for love or for laughs?
Q. I have a male friend who used to be quite flirtly with me and then seemed to go off the boil. He rang up to ask a question the other day and was obviously in a very good mood and while we were talking I jokingly told him off and he said 'ooh are...
A. 17 April 2010: Observe his behavior towards other girls.Is he flirt/playful with every girl?Or just you? If he acts like this towards almost everyone,then you will have to step back a bit and consider the possiblity that he's a player,or if you guys are younger ... (read in full...)
Routine has put the Fire out, how do we get it back?
Q. hi! ok so i feel weird having to ask questions about my sex life...a part of my life that i have always been really happy with...only and this is probably important - when im with a boyfriend.... my current borfriend ill will be with for 3...
A. 17 April 2010: First of all,you need to get out of that studio. I just got myself out of a tiny apartment,and now my psychology is 100 times better! Go buy some newspapers,or search online you'll never believe there are so many opportunities out there!A 1 bedroom ... (read in full...)
He has time for his friends and revision but none for me...
Q. Lately, my boyfriend has been really confusing me. He keeps telling me that he wants to see me, but I always feel as though he doesn't. We used to see eachother a lot - his excuse is that "people change". He tells me he needs to do revision as h...
A. 17 April 2010: He complains that you are boring? Seriously?? Girl,by talking and analyzing you won't achieve anything. Let actions speak louder than words. Ignore him. Play him like he plays you. When he wants to see you,say you're busy with your girls or y... (read in full...)
Can I call him my boyfriend? Or what? Are we going out?
Q. Ok, we have been going out together since the end of Jan. He hasnt made a move on me physically until now. However we have amazing conversation and we know everything about each other. I thought I was more into him but recently he invited me to a ...
A. 30 March 2010: lol...i think u are going out,hes just the shy type.
time to heat things up :D... (read in full...)
Am I just his booty call or does he really like me?
Q. So i met this guy off facebook. He actually initiated the conversation first. We never spoke before, but one day he just decides to message me and we have a nice conversation, we exchange screen names and start talking on aim. He would always be the ...
A. 30 March 2010: Well u did appear clingy,and for a guy to want something serious with you,he needs to know ur not clingy.
now again u contradict urself. u say u dont want a real relationship but then u are worried whether he uses u for sex or not.
when 2 ... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 30 March 2010: its very good :-) and to give you more feedback,i suggest you take out the "call me anytime u want " part. Yes,you can be romantic all you want but don't sound like your way too available. The tickets are a great idea :-)... (read in full...)
Do I continue to hang out with him as a friend even although it kills me?
Q. I met a guy who goes to the same school that I do while on vacation with my friends last week. We hit it off and and by the end of the week, it felt like we'd known each other for years - we could joke freely and talk seriously with each other like ...
A. 30 March 2010: I was in the same place as you,only the guy was crazy about me and he had a girlfriend. He asked me to give him sometime to settle things with her,but instead i told him we should be friends. Then I realised he enjoyed my company as a friend,and ... (read in full...)
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