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| | *izz.butterflies's profile:I love knowing I can change someone's life by providing the right advice.Since I was little I was advising my friends and when I couldn't advise myself I would seek the advice of others.
The kind of advice I tend to give is practical.I put the person who asked FIRST,and morality second.I am not worried much about what society suggests,as society views are always altered by the time/area we live in. My faith in God results in Morality,but I will always consider YOUR good first,then societys.
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I'm scared shes only acting close to me because of him. I don't know what to do, but I cant get her out of my mind!
Q. I fell in love for the first time with a girl that lived down the street from me, we were together for 3 1/2 years then things fell apart. we didn't talk to each other for almost 6 years, she got a new boy friend, i got a new girl friend, but i ...
A. 5 November 2010: dont push her just cause u used to date some time ago.
be cool,positive,and dont act like two love birds. be a man about it.if shes still with the other guy,respect her relationship.
if shes not with him...dont make her feel uncomfortable. t... (read in full...)
In debt, want to buy a house, I'm 27 and living at home, and feeling like a loser.
Q. I really feel stuck in a financial rut. I want to be able to own a house, be debt free, have a great salary and afford all the things I want...But I am slowly paying off a loan (should be paid off by March 2011), I have just had a career change so ...
A. 5 November 2010: Move in with some friends of urs? U can all rent an apartment together. Talk to your friends about how it bothers you,they will probably wanna help.Or if someone you know lives on their own and you trust them a lot,suggest movin in with them.
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I want to be sexual but I'm scared of sex because I didn't really enjoy it in my last relationship
Q. Ugh! I want tu b sexual but I'm scared of sex because I didn really enjoy it in my last relationship..what should I do? What can I do to be sexy? I want to learn how to ride also...any tips?...
A. 5 November 2010: watch porn ? This is how many women learn how to do specific things in the bedroom.
Not every guy is the same.dont be scared.relax and enjoy :)... (read in full...)
I am average. I have brown hair, brown skin, average figure, average everything. I am a wallflower.
Q. I am average. I have brown hair, brown skin, average figure, average everything. I am a wallflower. I will never invoke intese passion in men- the two long term relationships that I have had were due to the guys loving my PERSONALITY. The...
A. 5 November 2010: Alright,PM me,we can fix this.
Damn,you know how to vent :p... (read in full...)
I think her behavior was very disrespectful and self-centered
Q. Yesterday, I got home from work and drove to go eat dinner with her. During the dinner, she said she had cravings for ice cream afterward. I told her we can go to our usual place and get some. We walked to the car after finishing dinner, and she ...
A. 5 November 2010: do not put up with this kind of behavior.
People get away with what YOU let them get away with.
U seem to be a very nice guy...and a goodlooking girl might assume she can run you over.
Dont call her. When she does call you,be cool. and sa... (read in full...)
Best friends to nothing? What happened!?!
Q. I can't seem to come to terms with whats happened. The story starts a long way back. me and this guy were friends, we had a rough past but all that is now forgotten. he was such a nice guy, caring, willing to help anyone, never used people etc....
A. 5 November 2010: i totally understand where ur coming from....when someone doesnt talk to you,it's sooo hard.U can't even know WHY.
and this kills you.it seems to me that ur guy is gettin into a new phase in his life,where he wanna cut contact with ya.the ques... (read in full...)
I made the mistake of hooking up with this guy that I've been dating for three weeks
Q. I made the mistake of hooking up with this guy that I've been dating for three weeks last weekend. We had been seeing each other 2-3 times per week (so it was plenty of dates) and he seemed nice, respectful and interested. I thought it would be okay ...
A. 5 November 2010: when u get along well with a guy,dont sleep with him.
drive him crazy first.
now...just give it time.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with the man that he was two months ago. Why the sudden change in his behavior?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for quite some time. He lives in South Carolina; I live in Pennsylvania. He is 36 years old. I am 30. I don't know how we even got to this point because everything has been fine. For ...
A. 5 November 2010: you're welcome sweety.... (read in full...)
How to deal with my mother's prejudice against interracial partnership?
Q. Dear Cupid, Im 18 years old and a British-born Indian and hes 20 years old and a British-born Jamaican. We've been casually dating for a little over a month and things are starting to get a little serious as time goes on. The question is, how...
A. 3 November 2010: IGNORE ALL OF THEM.
I've been in interracial relationships,and everything u described has happened to me but I put it behind me.
My mother wasnt very approving in the beggining until two things happened.
1) She understood she can trust... (read in full...)
I'm in love with the man that he was two months ago. Why the sudden change in his behavior?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for quite some time. He lives in South Carolina; I live in Pennsylvania. He is 36 years old. I am 30. I don't know how we even got to this point because everything has been fine. For ...
A. 3 November 2010: do you wanna know what happened?
its not fun for him anymore.
u made the mistake a lot of women make. U GOT WAY TOO SERIOUS,once you were sure he was going to marry you.
I have certain beliefs about relationships which are headed towards... (read in full...)
Am I nuts for worrying that she'll keep my personal information to herself?
Q. Can someone give me some advice? I've always been a person that will be honest in a relationship. I think its a good attribute to have just so there are never anything to worry about, coming back to haunt me, etc... I have been very honest with...
A. 27 October 2010: its ok to worry but if u worry u shouldnt have told her in the first place.
dont forget
honesty is good when requested.
what do i mean? if ur honest about everything and tell her everything then the mystery will be gone. she will start see... (read in full...)
Am I nuts for worrying that she'll keep my personal information to herself?
Q. Can someone give me some advice? I've always been a person that will be honest in a relationship. I think its a good attribute to have just so there are never anything to worry about, coming back to haunt me, etc... I have been very honest with...
A. 27 October 2010: its ok to worry but if u worry u shouldnt have told her in the first place.
dont forget
honesty is good when requested.
what do i mean? if ur honest about everything and tell her everything then the mystery will be gone. she will start see... (read in full...)
He's proposed, but where is the ring?
Q. My boyfriend proposed to me a few weeks ago...Kind of. Basically, the subject has come up once or twice, in passing. He knew I would say yes if he asked. We were lying in bed, drifting off to sleep, and he started to speak, being very hesitant ...
A. 27 October 2010: u know what happens these days? we forget our traditions,and just go about things differently. first it was sex out of wedlock(not that im against it,but if the society was still shaped to support this i'd go with it),now its a proposal without a ... (read in full...)
There is no room at the Inn for our best friend!
Q. I have 2 best friends, named Ashley and Mary. Ashley has a job and is going to school, and Mary doesn't have a job and is doing an internship and not getting paid for it, and I have a job and I'm going to school. We have all been talking about mo...
A. 27 October 2010: yes,how do u move out when ur so young?
and if she really was a real best friend,u wouldnt mind her staying.
after all,real friends are there when u need them
i think u just like havin her around so it can be 3 of u and not just 2.
unles... (read in full...)
Why can't I find a girlfriend? I'm tired of being so lonely.
Q. Well alright...here goes! I'm a 19 year old Asian American. Throughout my childhood, I have had my string of girls that had a crush on me but I had followed my parent's strict code of "no girlfriend before college" and just sat idly as those girls ...
A. 27 October 2010: your online approaches are wrong.i never answer a guy who says how u doing unless he's SOOOOO HOT,but even if he is,our conversations never last because he's only SOOO HOT.
When you message a girl online,comment on something she has on her prof... (read in full...)
My best friend is engaged, but I love her! what do I do?
Q. I have been best friends with this girl for 4 years. And in love with her for at least 3 of those years. She has been in a relationship since not long before I met her and has recently gotten engaged. We go out together to lunch, run errands, and ...
A. 27 October 2010: Watch "Brown Sugar" . It's a great movie and it will help you... (read in full...)
I like a 40 y/o man and I am 17...what are the chances?
Q. I met a man in a chat room on July of this year. We didn't talk much in pm but when we did, I was mostly seeking his advice on something. I always showed a certain interest in the cat room because I liked his personality. Not once had I seen his ...
A. 25 October 2010: you are infatuated with the idea of this man...u never met him. the prospect of u moving to his area makes u wanting to talk to him more and more. i suggest reducing contact with him,and if u ever do move,suggest meeting somewhere in public. don't ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my girlfriend that I was attacked? I don't want to upset her while she is away, so can it wait until she returns?
Q. My girlfriend is away on a business trip and i recently got attacked when i was in the city and sustained 27 stiches on my head, she will be back in a weeks time, i am feeling much better, should i keep this incident unknown to her until she ...
A. 25 October 2010: tell her in person so she can see ur good now. if u tell her while on her trip,it will upset her.... (read in full...)
He asked if I was going to talk to him, but he is the one who stopped talking to me!
Q. September 15th was the 3 year anniversary of my bf and I. On Monday, September 19th, he had got home from work and called me and told me his parents were arguing and his mom was packing up and "going to a tradeshow" for a week and left him $1000. My ...
A. 25 October 2010: this is aweful,honestly.and it can drive u crazy.
here's what u do:
send him a text saying that you should meet up and talk.tell him its up to him,he should just let u know 3 days beforehand so u wont make diff plans.make the text sound serio... (read in full...)
How will I overcome my trust issue of my boyfriend finally saying he's going to marry me?
Q. I've been with my BF for just over a year now. A long time ago we had the marriage talk and he said that he wasn't sure if that's what he wanted. I told him that I want marriage one day. Lately he's been talking of us living together and being ...
A. 25 October 2010: there's not a manual on how to trust your boyfriend.
you just do or you don't..based on his behavior..
you talked about his behavior and it's exceptional.
so trust him.
don't bring up the marriage talk.
relax.
don't move in wit... (read in full...)
My mom is lying about her new man staying at our house!
Q. Ok basically my mam cheated on my dad and my dad moved out and now my mam is trying to let the guy she cheated with into the house behind my back! She is such a liar and what should I do in this situation? ...
A. 25 October 2010: How old are you REALLY?... (read in full...)
I need sex asap! Sleep with a prostitute?
Q. Sorry for the long question, I need to set the background. And I really need help (I thought about going to a shrink, but I can't afford it). I'm a foreign PhD in the US. My English language is good but not great. I go along pretty well. I e...
A. 25 October 2010: I think the advice you're going to get is wait till the right girl comes along...
but I understand your position.
Where I studied,I would see students from India or Middle East.
They looked desperate,just as you describe,because they we... (read in full...)
I think I've falling in love.. but he lives so far away.
Q. So I've known this boy a year... and after a few months of talking we discovered we liked each other more than friends, but due to distance we both agreed to just stay friends (he lives in Scotland i live in Ireland) i know pretty much everything ...
A. 25 October 2010: cut him off.
... (read in full...)
Weird situation? I like her but there's a problem!!!
Q. I met a girl in summer. She really enjoyed messing with me, to the point I'd get a bit angry, like taking my stuff and pushing me. Time passed. I never thought much of her. Towards the end of the summer, we started talking on fb for long times. She ...
A. 25 October 2010: she might not know how to get there?
why are u feeling so insecure??
how far does she live from u?
maybe u should suggest meeting in the middle,and then u can pick her up and drive to a restaurant or something.
call her up to talk abo... (read in full...)
Is my husband "too close" to his male friend?
Q. My husband met a Guy while he was overseas. They Guy is in his unit. now they text each other constantly. It was bothering me so I told my husband but it didn't do much good. They still text some through the week and all day on the weekends. The Guy ...
A. 25 October 2010: don't talk about this for a while,then next time he brings his guy friend up(if he doesnt,u can ask him hows he doing) suggest you invite him and his wife over. (maybe christmas would be an appropriate time) ...u need to meet them in person to see ... (read in full...)
I want more, and I'm terrified to put everything out in the open he's going to back away.
Q. I met a man when I was still married. We were both miserable in our marriages and we formed an intense sexual relationship very quickly. He's now separated and I'm divorced. We have become good friends and sleep together on a regular basis. I...
A. 25 October 2010: the best way to make him wanna keep it...is make him miss it :-)
be distant with him.do this for 1-2 weeks,depending on how muuch u see each other during one week.
when he asks u what's up,tell him somethings up but u cant discuss it right... (read in full...)
Will I remind him of his ex?
Q. we have been bbm the whole entire time and been sending pics. i do know what he looks like with all the new skype things and stuff like that. he was married for 10 years and separated early this yr. i really do like him (by that i mean with his ...
A. 25 October 2010: maybe hes into a certain type of girls. dont mention it. however,since u dont know him personally,u gotta check if he got a fetish or somethin.look at his friends...see if more than one reminds u of urself or his ex.... (read in full...)
I'm just getting a little concerned that he's not that into me!
Q. I met this really great guy online. Initially I contacted him because he had a very thoughtful profile and it seemed like he had great values. Then we met for our first date, and I found him to be super hot! We've been on three dates so far. Th...
A. 23 October 2010: hes perfect stop freaking out and worrying...let the man take his time. be nice,friendly...touch his hand when ur in public,hold his waist...but let him do the kissing.... (read in full...)
I think I've falling in love.. but he lives so far away.
Q. So I've known this boy a year... and after a few months of talking we discovered we liked each other more than friends, but due to distance we both agreed to just stay friends (he lives in Scotland i live in Ireland) i know pretty much everything ...
A. 19 October 2010: have u met him in person?
if not u need to meet him SOON.
u reached the point where not seeing him HURTS.
You are both in the UK after all,and there should be cheap flights and such.
... (read in full...)
If he was interested in me he wouldn't be falling asleep, would he?
Q. I'm not very good at picking up on social cues and I have absolutely no sense as to whether this guy likes me or no. I went on a date on the Friday night with a guy I met through a friend. We had been out the Saturday night the weekend before b...
A. 18 October 2010: He likes you A LOT.
dont mess this up by being available all the time.
take some time off,don't see him everyday.
and hes probably used to sleeping early.if u guys stayed up till 2 AM or somethin,no wonder.
plan your next date outside y... (read in full...)
Do I have to start letting go of her?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year and a half now. I am completely in love with her and would do anything for her. Last year I went off to university while she was still in high school. Our relationship remained strong and actually got ...
A. 18 October 2010: do not try any harder.let her come to you. be less available to her. see how this works out. show her your easy going side. show her that two can play that game. if she asks why u are less available say u were busy.dont say u did it 4 revenge... (read in full...)
I have a crush on him but don't want it to go any further if we are just going to be friends!
Q. I recently got back in touch with an old friend. We live 2 hrs. apart but he's supposed to me moving closer within the next year. I've only seen him twice in the past two years, but have connected on facebook. At first I thought he was just being ...
A. 17 October 2010: do not tell him how you feel.dont rush things.
Facebook can make things very awkward.The agony of him messaging you....the feeling you get in your stomach when he types something nice to you. We've all been through that.
MEET SOON. that... (read in full...)
Why is my husband texting this woman so much?
Q. Why is my husband texting another woman? I looked at his phone and he has texed a lot to lots of people that he works for because he is in charge of training for his company. Most of the people are people that are on his same level in the company ...
A. 17 October 2010: Do you guys have interesting intercourse,or has it become a routine?
Being a good mother to your kids and an interesting person do make him respect you but not WANT you.
I have a feeling you guys aren't putting much effort in the bedroom anym... (read in full...)
Working in a prison, I've fallen in love with a prisoner
Q. I work in a prison as a librarian and seem to have fallen for a prisoner. He has told me that he likes me. I just don't know what to do. He's out in 6 weeks and seems very geniune about the possibility of us. I havent given too much away to him as ...
A. 17 October 2010: if he killed,raped or kidnapped someone...RED FLAG.
Umm, if he gets too personal tell him you want to keep things professional since you work there but u wouldnt mind catching up sometime when he gets out.
This answer will show him two thi... (read in full...)
Husband embarrasses me in public!
Q. Dear cupid, my husband and I have been having some trust issues, though not the kind you'd normally think of. With us, it's that if he embarrasses me in public, and I ask him nicely to stop, he won't. He just keeps doing what he's doing, saying "oh, ...
A. 17 October 2010: I DO NOT agree with "You Wish". Sending him an e-mail will just show him you are afraid of him,and you are not equal in this relationship.
Often I hear women complaining about a thing their men did,or said. And then they nag to him,or try to talk ... (read in full...)
Wife wasn't happy about my marriage proposal, what can I do about it now?
Q. Hi there This is a question for men and women! I'm looking forward to get answers from both, male and female! I proposed my now-wife 1 1/2 years ago. She said yes, but was very disappointed by the way I asked. So I asked her a second time beca...
A. 16 October 2010: she's not with you because she loves you,she's with you because you love her.
... (read in full...)
She never calls me, so I'm thinking I should make the 2 hour drive and go see her! Any input?
Q. Hey my question is kind of long so here goes, my girlfriend left town a month ago, she says her mom and dad made a plan to ''kidnapp'' her. She hasnt ended things or anything of the sort, i on the other hand am trying to get over her but i cant get ...
A. 15 October 2010: go and sort everything out... (read in full...)
Facebook is becoming a problem between me and my husband! Any advice?
Q. Me and my husband have been together for almost seven years we've been married for almost 2 . Here lately he's been on facebook a lot and it's really starting to bother me he adds women he claims he doesn't know and comments on their posts one woman ...
A. 14 October 2010: uhh. 30 mins ago me and my sis were discussing the damage facebook has caused to men.how men rely on facebook for everything.
your guy belongs to the mass.
not good news right?
i should tell you to break up with him but hes not just a boyfr... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend needs to stop being so clingy!
Q. hello my boyfriend and i have been dating for about a week now. we have known eachother since summer only problem is i live 8 hours away from him so were doing the whole long distance thing. he is so clingy. i talk to him everyday and when i try and ...
A. 13 October 2010: i have been in your shoes...i eventually broke up with the guy 3 weeks later. he couldnt control his jealousy and made me feel stressed. give him some time,see if he changes,dont kill yourself over this.u dont like him the way he likes u. ... (read in full...)
I'm devastated! She offered me friendship, and said that was all!
Q. Okay guys so here is MY problem, I am an extremely good looking handsome young man (mainly very cute), everyone in my life has always told me that. I also am very stylish when it comes to clothes and always maintain a good look, I am the type of guy ...
A. 11 October 2010: maybe its a trick. what i mean by that is she knows you attract many girls so she chose to act different. it worked didnt it? now ur on here seekin advice.
dont act PANICKED. when u see her in class,talk to her normally. 2 weeks later ask her ... (read in full...)
Why won't my partner use my name?
Q. Hi there, I have a very unusual problem with my partner of 7 years. He will never use my name, not my first name of even a pet name. If he wants me and I'm not in the room, he will shout 'are you there'. I mentioned this to him early on in our ...
A. 11 October 2010: maybe he doesnt like your name.
when i didnt like my exes name,i always used pet names or made up a name for him
however when i liked a guys name i kept saying it and worrying about not saying it too MUCH.
... (read in full...)
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