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I love knowing I can change someone's life by providing the right advice.Since I was little I was advising my friends and when I couldn't advise myself I would seek the advice of others.

The kind of advice I tend to give is practical.I put the person who asked FIRST,and morality second.I am not worried much about what society suggests,as society views are always altered by the time/area we live in. My faith in God results in Morality,but I will always consider YOUR good first,then societys.

Thanks for reading this Have fun & God Bless

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Why am I angry with my boyfriend?

Q.   This is a tough one to explain, where do I start. My father was very abusive, controlling and walked all over my mother, and I grew up watching this. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, I am 18 and he is 15 years older than me. Things were ...

A.   25 January 2012: Thanks for your response sweety. Your appreciation caused a big smile on my face :) Stay blessed. good luck! Mucho luv!... (read in full...)

Why am I angry with my boyfriend?

Q.   This is a tough one to explain, where do I start. My father was very abusive, controlling and walked all over my mother, and I grew up watching this. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, I am 18 and he is 15 years older than me. Things were ...

A.   25 January 2012: STEP 1 get that dog OUT RIGHT NOW. no dog sleeps between a couple. let him sleep at ur feet if anything, OR BETTER in his own bed.this will take time but u can watch 'ITS ME OR THE DOG' online. look up Victoria,the dog trainer. Looks like you need... (read in full...)

Adam or Eve, am I being played?

Q.   am i jealous, stupid, controlling, or just kidding myself loving this person? what would you do? I have dated this 30 year old Micronesian for 3 months before we decided to be official. It was nice, I planned a whole day for the to of us and the...

A.   25 January 2012: you are being played. right now u dont want to admit it to urself but you my dear ARE GETTING PLAYED. shes looking for someone to maintain her current lifestyle. thats all. and while shes doing that, shes looking for more sex/cash. kick her out ... (read in full...)

Now that I'm being noticed should I go for it and have sex as much as possible?

Q.   American rapper Mike Jones has a song (censored version) where he says "Back then they didn’t want me, Now I’m hot, they all on me"...I feel like I’m living a similar situation and it’s confusing me as to how to proceed/live (if that makes any ...

A.   25 January 2012: get out there and experience life! get ur flirt on! no woman wants an inexperienced man (both relationship-wise and sex-wise) and the ones who do are just insecure or really prude. congratulations on coming such a long way! continue to be yourself, ... (read in full...)

I just got married and am not interested in sex!

Q.   hello please advise me; i am a newlywed with just about a month in marriage. i got married as a virgin but since then i have been having trouble making love to my husband; i am simply not interested. what could be the problem and how can i overco...

A.   25 January 2012: if you dont love him, how will you be able to make love to him....? does his body attract you or you find it repulsive?... (read in full...)

Sometimes cooking meals is just too much work! Is anyone else like this?

Q.   Hi over the past year I have had days where I haven't eaten purely because I can't be bothered. I'm not anorexic or anything like that, I'm extremely happy with my body, but sometimes just the thought of cooking food just makes me feel like its the ...

A.   25 January 2012: i just finished cleaning my kitchen. it took me about an hour. i feel you on this . whenever i cook,i use tons of pans,plates etc.i like to be creative in the kitchen but not everyday....what can u do about this? Well....i always have salads, ... (read in full...)

Two issues are preventing me from losing my virginity!

Q.   I'm an 18 year old closeted bisexual. I am also a virgin. I know that once I become sexually active, I will eventually come to more of a conclusion about whether I prefer men or women more but that really does not worry me as of now. What worries ...

A.   25 January 2012: holding on to your virginity can be a negative thing. = that is very true. i also wanted to lose it badly but kept prolonging it for stupid reasons and certain things didnt de velop naturally. i suggest u lose it when 1) u lose a bit weight so ull ... (read in full...)

LDR advice please?. Because I need it. He's stressed out over his exams. He's not giving me the attention I need. He thinks it's not big deal..

Q.   So my boyfriend and I have been together going on two years, we're pretty serious about each other and are planning on moving in together after I finish my Foundation degree next year. We're both 18 and we've been in a long distance relationship for ...

A.   23 January 2012: Oh...and u never ask a man to concentrate on you. He should just do so..if he doesnt, he probably has other issues on his mind.just excuse urself and tell him u will talk to him later....No hard feelings. Then he will probably think "hmm she went ... (read in full...)

LDR advice please?. Because I need it. He's stressed out over his exams. He's not giving me the attention I need. He thinks it's not big deal..

Q.   So my boyfriend and I have been together going on two years, we're pretty serious about each other and are planning on moving in together after I finish my Foundation degree next year. We're both 18 and we've been in a long distance relationship for ...

A.   23 January 2012: U need to stop acting like a woman men want to avoid.....Your boyfriend needs some time ALONE so he can study. give him that time without busting his b@lls please. Otherwise he will look at you as a RESPONSIBILITY ....when right now he has OTHER ... (read in full...)

Will I have to wait around all my life?

Q.   Hey everyone, I am 20 and I have been seeing this man (35) for two years. I know I care for him and though I realize that something like marriage cannot happen right now (I want to finish school and be settled in my career first) I wanted to at ...

A.   23 January 2012: u havent even finished school,its normal that he hasnt really thought about it. most men in the western culture put off marriage for some yrs. has he been married before? perhaps he wanted to date u at first cuz u were younger and wouldnt want to be ... (read in full...)

Should I be upset and jealous over his remarks??

Q.   I was watching TV with my boyfriend and Faith Hill came on for a moment. This is what he said.... "Mmmm Faith Hill is a scrumptious treat. I want to eat her up. She is sooooooo fucking hot!!!" I got upset and we had a huge argument about it...

A.   23 January 2012: no need to fight over this and lose ur temper. he is an A**HOLE and wont change. agree with # xlaurenx .she said it best. its about time u broke up. dont waste ANOTHER SECOND thinking ur SECOND BEST. Dont be afraid to be alone..look up tips on how ... (read in full...)

Can this relationship really work out for us??

Q.   A little over a year ago, I met a guy online. To this day we have never met. We talked a lot, and things got serious, he asked me out, and I said yes. I really really love him, he's 95% what my dream guy would be if I could make one from scratch. We ...

A.   23 January 2012: This sounds a little juvenile to be honest. The type of thing 15 year olds too. and no by no means I intend to offend you..however you arent like everybody else since your parents raised you in a very religious environment you hadnt had the chance ... (read in full...)

Am I right in wanting more time?

Q.   I have been seeing my gf for 10 months now and it has now become apparent that she wants me to decide pretty shortly if I want it to be a lifelong commitment ie marriage and kids. Or not = end of relationship. We have lived together for around 6 ...

A.   23 January 2012: she wants marriage, not you.... (read in full...)

What is this married woman REALLY saying?

Q.   What does it mean when a married woman says that she answers more to me than her husband that doesn't talk much?...

A.   23 January 2012: she wants to involve u in an EMOTIONAL AFFAIR. look this up and ull understand what it means.... (read in full...)

She wants me to have sex with someone else before we get married. What should I do?

Q.   I’ll try to keep this as short as possible. It all started with “what would you do if..” questions. A few questions in, it was my turn: Me: “What’s the first thing you’d do if we broke up?” Her: “Hmm.. More girl’s nights! What’s the first ...

A.   23 January 2012: This isnt about sex even though it seems it is. getting laid means nothing really...if you dont have feelings for the person. so what, you'll like someone physically and just have sex with them and...? Do you believe it will change somethin... (read in full...)

Should I come out? too much is at stake but I'm suffocating like this

Q.   hey dear agony aunts^^ i had made a question some days ago about how to tell all the people that wanna set me up with guys to leave me alone. well i finally got the edge to that but i think of coming out anyway. see my dad and i had a talk just now...

A.   11 January 2012: dont tell them. theres absolutely no reason. if theyre traditional enough to ARRANGE a marriage for u, if u tell them ur gay they will either a) get a heart attack b) disown you. both options aren't options. Just do what u like and go to that ... (read in full...)

I have a boyfriend, but am still ridiculously in love with a guy from my past.

Q.   hey guys, little war between my brain and my heart at the moment, so would appreciate outside opinions. I'm in a relationship right now and he's amazing to me. The thing is, I'm still in love with one of my best guy friends that I had a thing wi...

A.   5 January 2012: i understand exactly what ur going through. i am still in love with a person from my past, i even moved countries in order to be away from him...and no matter what i did or who i dated , im still in love.... (read in full...)

How long should I give him before I decide its not going to happen?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I met this guy online and after two months have passed he asked me if he could contact me on my mobile, so I gave him my number and we chatted a couple of times and texted each other. The thing is he keeps telling me that he want...

A.   6 December 2011: dont get all defensive. understanding someone's cultural upbringing can give clues about his behavior. ... (read in full...)

Am I being self-centered and uncaring by refusing to listen to my wife complain constantly?

Q.   My wife is from another (very poor) country, and her family is still in the other country (in addition to her parents, she 5 brothers and sister). Her family constantly asks her for financial support, and she's helped them out quite a bit over...

A.   1 December 2011: odds gave u excellent advice make sure u follow it... (read in full...)

How long should I give him before I decide its not going to happen?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I met this guy online and after two months have passed he asked me if he could contact me on my mobile, so I gave him my number and we chatted a couple of times and texted each other. The thing is he keeps telling me that he want...

A.   1 December 2011: may i ask where is this guy from?... (read in full...)

Unexpected feelings have hit me hard!

Q.   Ok, my neighbor girl basically pursued me, I felt no attraction of any sort for her in the beginning(except for she was hot), but her persistence, and her cute way, eventually started getting to me without me even knowing, she is 20, im 34, she is ...

A.   24 November 2011: Just get with her. She will make you feel alive. leave your inhibitions to the side and just be thankful for these feelings. ask her out.... (read in full...)

Is a 30 year old man too old for a girl of 19?

Q.   Ok so I met a guy in April met at a nightclub he was 24 we hit it off got together but within about a month weird things started uhappening he kept having serious accidents I couldn't get thru to his phone he could only call me he claimed it was a ...

A.   23 November 2011: hes married. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend of 7 yrs isnt putting effort in anymore what should I do? is she scared of committment?

Q.   My girlfriend of 7 yrs isnt putting effort in anymore what should i do? *warning this is gonna be long i apologize and appreciate any feedback*thankyou* Ok heres the situation.. Ive been with my girlfriend for 7 years and also have a beautifu...

A.   23 November 2011: you are just way too easy and shes taken you for granted. u cant beg anyone,take some time for you, pick up a new hobby,spend time with friends..let her wonder what YOU do and why you dont run after her like a puppy.oh and stop fearing for ... (read in full...)

If online dating fails to work, what other options are there?

Q.   I've tried every sensible dating site in the last 16 months. Paid and free. I have had two dates in that whole time. I've had profiles reviewed and everyone has come back saying my photos are good, my profile is interesting and they don't ...

A.   23 November 2011: you sound like a difficult person to be honest. highly demanding and expecting of others. be more relaxed and humorous. why dont u want kids? is there a medical reason or u just dont want kids? if its the latter let me tell you that you might meet a ... (read in full...)

Mini-survey for girls!

Q.   1 – How on earth am I supposed to introduce myself to a girl without it being a completely humiliating and regrettable experience, especially in a bar? What’s an opening that is likely to hold your attention – interesting without being corny? 2 – ...

A.   1 October 2011: http://www.wikihow.com/Talk-to-Girls-as-a-Teen-Boy http://www.ehow.com/how_2094811_talk-girls-street.html read those links and also buy these books http://www.amazon.com/Adv... (read in full...)

Is my first GF playing around with guys online?

Q.   Hi, I've recently become involved with a girl for about the past 11 months now - She is my first GF and I am her first BF. Things started great at first but as time went on things between us have really become somewhat troublesome...Mainly within ...

A.   1 October 2011: the more u address this subject with her,the more insecure ull look in her eyes. so ignore it. whenever she tells u about those guys say "babe ur with me now,dont talk about them please" Then change the topic. Demand respect with ur actions,not ... (read in full...)

Help needed in the bedroom zone

Q.   I have been married for 6 years and have 2 kids. Everything seems to be going on fine except in the bedroom. I have spoken to him,guided him, given him books to read and don't know what more I can do. He's simply just not up for it. Sometimes I wish...

A.   1 October 2011: if u can,send the kids away for christmas. and then leave the house. seriously,leave him on his own. when he asks why u want time away just say u dont feel like trying for something he doesnt. all the advice on the net is useless,really.(dress up ... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend having a secret sex life behind my back?

Q.   The situation is me and my boyfriend were at his best friends house. Suddenly there was a knock on the door and his friend answers it and steps outside.A minute later my boyfriend gets up and tells me "ill be back" and he goes outside with his ...

A.   1 October 2011: he's out there creeping. looks like u trusted him a bit too much. best thing to do is NOT to talk about it. keep ur distance, say nothing. dont meet him. let him come to u on his knees.... (read in full...)

I cannot ignore my former LDR any more. I took a risk. Was this the right way to reconnect with him?

Q.   Five months ago, I told a long-distance love (I live in LA; he's from San Fran) that I couldn't do it anymore. Mainly, because he would constantly tell me he missed me and wanted to see me, yet wouldn't follow through. Granted, we only dated six ...

A.   26 September 2011: you did the right thing - fronting isn't helpful. Just set some ground rules. He cant tell you he misses you then not rise to the occasion to come see you.... (read in full...)

My husband had a 2 hr long, intimate conversation with a girl and I cannot believe this is happening to me. What do I do now?

Q.   First of all, I would like to thank everybody that takes the time to answer my question. I would just like to know what people consider cheating in a marriage, or if anyone has been in the same situation. I am 24yrs old, married for t...

A.   21 September 2011: you are very very young to be married in the first place. sounds like ur guy wants it all - the pretty,young wife and the occasional chatting/flirting/who knows what else? online. Imagine that hes doing this now that U ARE ONLY 24 AND BEAUTIFU... (read in full...)

We just have plain jane sex!

Q.   hi, so, my boyfriend of a year has a wicked past of struggling between two women. His first gf was obsessive, controlling and mentally ill in some ways. His second was a normal girl, but he didn't ever love her. now, he's with me and i know he ...

A.   3 September 2011: just leave him. hes insecure and immature.... (read in full...)

LDR boyfriend is coming, there will be lots of sex but thats not what I want

Q.   Dear Cupid My bf and myself stay in separate places like 8 hrs drive from each other. He visits me like 2 months once , but lately he is very moody and not talking to me much in phone and is getting very irriated very often even for small things...

A.   31 August 2011: break up.hes coming only for sex.... (read in full...)

I'm a coward. How can I know if she has the same feelings as me?

Q.   hi! sorry for my english, they are not quite good ... here's my story : a few months ago , i was invited to a party ; i met a girl and now i think i'm in love with her ... you see, i am 16 years old and i am bit shy and coward ... how can i know if ...

A.   31 August 2011: U dont have to know if she has the same feelings u do for her. ask her out, say u wanna watch this specific movie (lets say STROUMFAKIA) and u would like her to join u. if she is interested in u she will say yes to the movie invitation. this is ... (read in full...)

Incredibly attracted to a guy and don't know if I can resist him for much longer

Q.   I am 35 and have a warm attractive intelligent man working on my house. He has a good body and is tall and athletic. He used to be a lecturer but was made redundant and now runs his own specialist business. I have a loving relationship with my ...

A.   29 July 2011: Normally I'd tell you not to cheat... but...this life is very short. Go for it.... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be this in love without meeting someone?

Q.   Help! for nearly a year i have been talking to a turkish guy online and i can honestly say that i really like him. Hes so lovely and although i have never met him in person, im sure i will like him. he is really like my dream man and he honestly ...

A.   9 June 2011: its just a white lie,get over it.good luck.... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be this in love without meeting someone?

Q.   Help! for nearly a year i have been talking to a turkish guy online and i can honestly say that i really like him. Hes so lovely and although i have never met him in person, im sure i will like him. he is really like my dream man and he honestly ...

A.   7 June 2011: Sooo? do u plan on keeping this relationship forever online? u gotta meet him sometime?... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be this in love without meeting someone?

Q.   Help! for nearly a year i have been talking to a turkish guy online and i can honestly say that i really like him. Hes so lovely and although i have never met him in person, im sure i will like him. he is really like my dream man and he honestly ...

A.   7 June 2011: ok u seem to be in a daze. please FOCUS. now once u turn 18 u should let him come visit u. if he plans ahead...he can come for little money. let him stay in a hotel and do not go there on your own. Meet him in public. Do not be naive. And hes a... (read in full...)

I want to become super outgoing!

Q.   Ever been out in public or known someone who is SUPER outgoing. You don't even know the person, and they just start a conversation like they are your BFF. People just like them right off the bat? I want to be like that. Since I have been in sal...

A.   5 June 2011: I was at this bar once chilling with my girls...and I saw a group of girls who came out of a limousine. they came and sat at the table next to us. I wanted to strike up a convo so I went to them,said "Hey ladies" and then complimented one girl on ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be this in love without meeting someone?

Q.   Help! for nearly a year i have been talking to a turkish guy online and i can honestly say that i really like him. Hes so lovely and although i have never met him in person, im sure i will like him. he is really like my dream man and he honestly ...

A.   5 June 2011: I also met a turkish guy online, at first I wasnt that interested in him,but he randomly came to my city and since then I've been head over heels ....I went to his city with my fam for the new yrs and he treated me AMAZINGLY, introduced me and my ... (read in full...)

What is it about red nail polish?

Q.   Why do guys like it when a girl paints her nails and toe nails red? what is it about the red nail polish? ...

A.   5 June 2011: funny i see this question now lol i have my toes painted red and i met this guy last night he commented on my nail polish saying he prefers "french style" hahaha i guess red was a little too hot for him :)... (read in full...)

Boyfriend talks about sex but when the opportunity arises he backs out!

Q.   me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 1 year and 4 months (whos counting :P) and i am really beginning to think that i love him. the problem im having is that we are always talking about having sex, but when an opportunity comes up, he ...

A.   29 May 2011: larissa? are u originally from Greece?... (read in full...)

Why do other people feel the need to comment on me liking this boy? How do I stop them?

Q.   ok, so , i'm ''dating'' lol this guy in my school who i talk on fb everyday and he's really cute, really really sweet, who i've got like EVERYTHING in common with. And which i can now admit i really really like , but he's 15...and i'm almost 17 , ...

A.   29 May 2011: tell them "its going very well with Y. How is it going with you and Maria?" theyre gonna be like "huh? what" then be like "Uh huh. I see" laugh and leave. this will make them feel stupid and next time they'll think twice about making a com... (read in full...)

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