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What is going on? How do I confront him?

Q.   I am 23 and he is 25. We have been dating for 5 months casually. We live an hour apart and I always drive to him, he never drives to me. I know all his friends. He knows no one in my life. During the first part of us seeing each other it was agr...

A.   1 September 2011: hey! I did just that a long time ago (this post is old) and I fb messaged him and yah...turned out that he was 'ending' things but didn't want to tell me. He now has been dating someone else since then. Cheers!... (read in full...)

How do I ask my girlfriend to shave her pubic area?

Q.   Hi there, as i've become more sexually active with my partner, i've wanted to try more and more different things with her. However, she is very hairy 'down south' and I really can't think of anyway I could ask her politely, to shave her pubic ...

A.   6 March 2011: my new bf just asked me to shave my pubes, he goes "hey, don't get upset but could you shave down there?" and I wasn't offended...I knew I was a little lazy lately and its due to not having time and always being in a rush (even in the shower) and ... (read in full...)

I want kids but I'm scared to have sex

Q.   Im scared to have sex but i want kids and im scared to lose me virginity beacuse i dont want to go there the pain of getting my cherry popped. can someone give me advice???...

A.   24 November 2010: I agree with the other posters here giving you advice, you're very young. Focus on graduating highschool, your friends, family and enjoy the rest of your childhood. Yes, you are still in your childhood even when you're a teenage. I'm not trying to ... (read in full...)

How long do I wait? Or should I let him know I'd like to see him again?

Q.   Okay Dear Cupid I need your help! I went on a date with this guy who previously blew me off, I let him know it was his second chance but he wasn't getting a third. Well I didn't expect the date to go that well being as he blew me off before and I...

A.   24 November 2010: thanks for the advice, tbntuck :) I did text him and he did want to hang out again, we did hang out again and we had a great time. I'm seeing him again this sunday too! Pretty sure I'm close to a real decent relationship and with a great guy :) ... (read in full...)

I'm having an affair with my friend's husband!

Q.   i have been seeing a married man for 5 months who is separated from his wife but not divorced. he has kids with her though. he says he is in love with me but i find the situation tricky because his wife was my friend. what do i do? Do i run? I am ...

A.   15 November 2010: you stop the affair, come clean to your friend and expect to stop talking to both of them. ... (read in full...)

I'm 13 and my girlfriend wants to have sex, if we don't she'll dump me!

Q.   I'm 13 and my girlfriend really wants to have sex. My best friend did it once and said it was a great experience. I'm breaking under peer pressure and need help. We've been going out for 10 months and I really like her. She said if I don't have sex ...

A.   14 November 2010: don't do it. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's best friend is a dog!

Q.   I cant stand my bf best friend!!! i dont like my bf hanging out with him.hes okay as a person but i juss hate the things he does. he treats my bf like crap,barrows large amounts of money never gives it back.hes trys to make my bf controlling and ...

A.   11 November 2010: well I hope you don't call him a dog in front of your boyfriend, because ultimately that might make you seem controlling. However, I think you should not be around that guy if you don't like him. You can't control your boyfriend and you already ... (read in full...)

Was it right to invite him to the party?

Q.   So tomorrow I'm meeting this guy I've been talking to for a month, we text daily, talk on the phone daily, usually before bed, and we seem to get along well. I haven't met him in person yet, (tomorrow we are meeting) but so far we get along great! ...

A.   1 November 2010: thanks for the advice aunt honesty, I did end up meeting him on friday and we had a good time, but I felt like I was hanging out with a good friend instead of someone I should be interested in...unfortunately :( It is kind of a let down and now I ... (read in full...)

He said he has the benefit of knowing where I am every morning. What does that mean?

Q.   Hello, I have a question, I was talking to my friend that I really LIKE(he knows) and I was telling him that he had been ignoring me in the mornings when i text him unless he didn't have anyone to talk to, he said that he is probably asleep and that...

A.   29 October 2010: kind of sound like maybe he likes you? I don't know why any guy would want to know where a girl is in the mornings unless they were somewhat interested. I know my guy friends don't check up on me, but the guys who are interested might. ... (read in full...)

I want my married lover to take off his wedding ring when he's out with me

Q.   ok yall i have been dating this man for a least a years and some months! however our relationship is getting deeper and deeper everyday! when the two some us started dating we both agree to no feeling no attachment ! now that time change words have ...

A.   28 October 2010: don't go for married men...problem solved. ... (read in full...)

I like a 40 y/o man and I am 17...what are the chances?

Q.   I met a man in a chat room on July of this year. We didn't talk much in pm but when we did, I was mostly seeking his advice on something. I always showed a certain interest in the cat room because I liked his personality. Not once had I seen his ...

A.   25 October 2010: auntybimbim, that could be good advice but this could possibly scare the guy off even if he is a decent man himself and his intentions are honorable. I think you should do something like that, maybe ask the advice of one of those people auntybim... (read in full...)

My sister is dating my abusive ex!

Q.   My twin sister is dating my ex boyfriend. I am not really happy about it, not because he is my ex but because he was abusive and everything to me. I don't really know how to tell her this. Any advise would be great....

A.   22 October 2010: I find it odd that this guy is dating your twin sister, are you two identical? I don't think I could ever date a guy and then date his twin. However, I do like how you're concerned about your sister's safety more then anything that has to do wi... (read in full...)

My best friend is only using me till he gets a girlfriend

Q.   I have been blowing my best friend since I was 16. Now I am 25. I’m gay, but my best friend is not. He really is straight. He will mostly watch straight or lesbo porn when I blow him. he let me do it because he’s ugly and he doesn’t have a ...

A.   20 October 2010: I just want to state that as a straight woman I would never agree to having any girl, best friend or not, eat me out, because I couldn't find a boyfriend. And trust me, straight, actual straight men, are the same way. They don't want a dude dow... (read in full...)

Are my boyfriend and his sister in love???

Q.   my boyfriend has a sister in a different university who visits him after every two weeks and stays at his place for one week sharing the same bed. her university is in another city, she dresses badly and i got love letters written to my bf from the ...

A.   19 October 2010: thats creepy, I'd confront him on it.... (read in full...)

Is my mind playing tricks on me? I think my teacher is flirting with me!

Q.   I have had a little crush on one of my teachers for quite a while. He is quite young for a teacher, and i was his first ever class to teach when i was in second year of high school (im in scotland so i was 13/14 at the time) i didnt have him as a ...

A.   17 October 2010: sounds like you both are dancing on thin water here. He is risking his career on you a little bit and I hope you don't let him. Think about the age of the teacher and is it appropriate for him to be attracted to a 16 year old girl? I remem... (read in full...)

Is it wrong to love my cousin?

Q.   my name is donna i live in texas. i have been in love with my cousin for 17 years. he is in love with me also. we first made love 17 years ago,it just happened. it was the first time we ever met. we spent a month together, then he had to go home b...

A.   16 October 2010: its hard to answer a question about morals. because every one has their own way of deciding what is right and what is wrong, and things aren't usually that black and white. I think if you were single and loved your cousin it would be less wro... (read in full...)

His ex is trying to steal him back!

Q.   Okay...I'm 16 years old nd I've been dating this guy for about a year nd a few months now but his ex girlfriend I feel is jealous of us nd shes trying to steal him away from's not like he was her first they went out over 5 years ago nd is very ...

A.   12 October 2010: so they had a relationship when they were 10? That doesn't even count. If she has a boyfriend maybe she's the type of girl who understands that you can be friends with the opposite sex without wanting to be with them...who cares if they dated ov... (read in full...)

We're both attracted to each other, but we're both married. What should we do?

Q.   About 15 years ago, R and I both started work at the same company. He was married, me not. There was instant attraction on both our parts. We don't work in the same dept, so only saw each other occasionally. No real conversation, just hi, how are ...

A.   12 October 2010: Leave him alone...he's married. Go find a single guy who is not married. It doesn't matter how you two feel...he made a commitment and I highly doubt you want to be the other women, the home wrecker, etc. If he wants to be with you, he'll get a ... (read in full...)

FWB--he's gorgeous but why so insecure about his looks?

Q.   Well i'm just really wanting to clarify what this guy is maybe thinking, I am casually meeting up with this guy for mutually agreed sex. We are the same age. He first messaged me on a dating site i was attracted so i started chatting, and he asked ...

A.   11 October 2010: I have an ex boyfriend who was AMAZING looking, gorgeous, great personality, well...everything. However, he was very insecure about his looks. But remember, we are our greatest critic. I later found out during our relationship that when he was... (read in full...)

Dad said he'd ground me and never let me hang out with a friend if that friend smoked anything!

Q.   i love my best guy friend. my best guy friend smokes cigaretts and weed. my dad said he would ground me for months, and never let me hang out with that person again, if he found out any of my friends smoked anything. my dad has only ever met my...

A.   11 October 2010: I would somewhat take your dad's advice and not hang out with people who smoke weed. Drugs don't usually lead to good things and weed is a gateway drug that leads to harder stuff, usually starting with Cocaine and possibly leading to other hard ... (read in full...)

He's a dating him would be awkward. What should I do?

Q.   Hey, i hope you all can help me! Okay, so i will set the stage here. I am a sophomore in high school now, and i met this really great guy who is in a ton of my classes and is hilarious and cool. The problem? He's a transgender! He was born into a ...

A.   11 October 2010: Sometimes the labels of "straight" "gay" and "bi" get in the way, here is a good example of that. I feel like as long as you are attracted to him then awesome, go for it! Hopefully he likes you back. Don't let the confusion of genders get in t... (read in full...)

My boyfriend hate my best friend. Is it right that I pick him over her?

Q.   My boyfriend and his friends hate my bestfriend! she annoys me quite alot too. but she is still my friend and there is no way im going to just ignore her presence. i call her names and slag her off to my boyfriend and his friends but im still ...

A.   11 October 2010: I think you SHOULD pick him over her. Not because your boyfriend is right or so great or anything, but because your 'best friend' will be hell of a lot better off without a friend who calls her names and slags her off to her boyfriend. How ... (read in full...)

We had sex and he orgasmed inside me..but didn't tell me!! What should I do?

Q.   I was with my boyfriend in the car the other night and we were making out and it got to the point to where he wanted to have sex. i was resisting and he knew it and i even said no once but finally i gave in because he wasn't giving up. Then after i ...

A.   11 October 2010: it sounds like borderline rape except that you 'gave in' sounds like he pressured you into sex and that is still considered rape, (at least I think it is) and I'm assuming no condom was used. I would talk to your parents about this, honestly... (read in full...)

I'm ready for a baby but he's not! What should we do?

Q.   Hi i need your help , me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time now and for a couple of months wev been talking about having a kid, my Heart has been set on having a child for years now and im soo certain that im ready for the ...

A.   11 October 2010: You may need to wait longer, but make sure to ask him when he thinks he'll be ready and if he can see himself having children in the future... (read in full...)

don't want to be her friend when I care about her and don't get any recognition for it.

Q.   About 3 months ago the girl of my dreams told me I like you as a friend and being the nice guy I said sure lets be friends. I thought being friends could possibly mean down the road she might like me or want to hang out with me like a friend would ...

A.   11 October 2010: You are not listening to her for one thing. "About 3 months ago the girl of my dreams told me I like you as a friend and being the nice guy I said sure lets be friends." AS A FRIEND MEANS NO FARTHER THEN FRIENDS. "I thought being friends co... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has terminal cancer, I want a baby but he doesnt. Should I leave him?

Q.   My boyfriend has terminal cancer, i want a baby but he doesnt. Should i leave him? We met a year or two ago and we have fallen in love. He has a child by a previous marriage and is content with that but I am becoming desperate. I dont want to ...

A.   11 October 2010: I agree with bittersweetfinale when they said that you should save his sperm for later on. btw, if you had terminal cancer would you want the one person you're in love with to leave you? Have compassion and stay with this person, love him and supp... (read in full...)

Attraction to my cousin, is it wrong to take it to the next level?

Q.   ok so here goes... when i was a little girl i was introduced to my cousin who was a bit older than me.. i was instantly attracted to him.. as the years went by me and my first cousin wasnt particulary close but .. still when we met up at family ...

A.   9 October 2010: I agree with Cerebrus actually...there are so many people in the world, why date your cousin? I think its only okay if your family and loved ones are okay with it...after all, it will effect them. your parents ARE SIBLINGS. I would not want my child ... (read in full...)

Two girls like me, but will going out with one of them ruin their friendship?

Q.   There is girls in my class and they both like me. But I like only one of them and I am afraid if I go out with one I might screw up their friendship. How can i decide? I need help....

A.   9 October 2010: tricky...perhaps tell the girl you like that you like her but you don't want to screw up their friendship... (read in full...)

Is it normal for a girl to want to have sex on her period?

Q.   I have been with my partner for 3 years, we are happy and enjoy a fulfilling sex life. She loves having (unprotected) sex on her period and in fact we have done so regularly almost every month since we started going out. In fact this is when she is ...

A.   9 October 2010: she's just more kinkier then your past girlfriends. I like sex on my period because its more sensative down there...but I HAVE to be really comfortable with the guy in order to do that... (read in full...)

She say's she wants me to grow in my walk with God before we can have a relationship???

Q.   I met a great, pretty girl at my college late this past summer. It felt like there was chemistry from the start, we were talking every day, hanging out a few times a week, texting alot, talking about fun things we could do in the future. It seemed ...

A.   9 October 2010: The reason i mentioned that her friend could be jealous was that I had a friend who was jealous of a relationship I was in, we were both youth group leaders at our church and every time I got close to a guy, in an emotional way, we'd hang out, start ... (read in full...)

I don't have a girlfriend and that is what is on my mind most of the time

Q.   right now things are going alright my grades are pretty good I am in great shape getting pretty cut and have many friends. the only thing I don't have is a girlfriend and thats what's on my mind most of the time. My question is how can I get gi...

A.   9 October 2010: I dare you to go up to a girl and ask her out. just do it and see what happens :)... (read in full...)

She say's she wants me to grow in my walk with God before we can have a relationship???

Q.   I met a great, pretty girl at my college late this past summer. It felt like there was chemistry from the start, we were talking every day, hanging out a few times a week, texting alot, talking about fun things we could do in the future. It seemed ...

A.   9 October 2010: who is she to judge your walk with God? Sounds like her friend was jealous or judgemental about the massage and she,your girlfriend, was easily influenced by her friend's opinion of you. Its a crappy situation because nothing wrong happened... (read in full...)

My male friend is mad at me because I talked to my ex

Q.   A male friend of is mad at me because I had a conversation with my ex-boyfriend today.I quit being friends with my ex about 2 months ago..My ex has called and text,but I havent responded... So my male friend told me just to text him and say I had ...

A.   9 October 2010: maybe your guy friend has feelings for you...... (read in full...)

How can I progress to having sex?

Q.   My girlfriend takes most of the same college courses in my county local community college, we like each other and visit each other all they time. The farthest I've got is making out. How can I take it a step further and have sex with her? Please ...

A.   9 October 2010: talk to her about it, is she ready for that step? and how the hell are you in college at 13-15????... (read in full...)

How can I be happy and single?

Q.   All advice would be much appreciated! I'm 16 and have never had a boyfriend, and I think I need to work on myself for now as I keep having crushes and it's distracting me from school. So what do single people do in order to make themselves happy...

A.   9 October 2010: I'm single and I'm happy ! But I've never been one who felt like I needed a boyfriend. I basically focus on myself, my goals mostly. I am in college and very dedicated to it, I nanny on the days I don't go to school and I have the weekends... (read in full...)

Should I confess to my friend that I love her?

Q.   I am a married man of 8 years. The marriage has been OK but not great. Two years ago I started a new job. I met new people in this job and have established some wonderful friendships. One of the people I have met and built a friendship with ...

A.   9 October 2010: if you tell her then what? its not fair to tell her and still be with your wife and its not fair to your wife that you are going around telling other girls you love them. I'd keep it to yourself if you plan on staying with your wife. ... (read in full...)

If he has feelings for me, why is he with her?

Q.   Ok this will be long so please bare with me, I need insight fron strangers. Well anyway I have strong feelings for a guy friend. He is a co-worker of mine. He started at my work six months ago. Right away we hit it off and had everything in common. ...

A.   9 October 2010: Tell him you like him and see what happens. He might not want to lose his relationship to you if you are going to reject him. He might want to keep her around and not risk being rejected by you. Best to stay safe then my advice i... (read in full...)

Why do people say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder?

Q.   I am a bit confused about this people say that the beauty is the eye of the beholder but in this world we tend to look at beauty in a different way; It's been said that people who are beautiful gets the best of everything good ...

A.   9 October 2010: dirtball makes a good point. Beyond that...I think it might be your attitude that isn't getting you anywhere, if you are constantly frustrated with your life and how 'unfair' it all is. you must realize that most people feel this way. even 'be... (read in full...)

Should I be concerned about my wife's new friend?

Q.   I am a 26 year old guy who is married to a very attractive 24 year old. We have been married for almost 3 years. My wife has reciently made a couple of guy friends at her job, and one of witch she exchanged numbers with. They text back and forth ...

A.   8 October 2010: I go out to lunch with my guy friend who is engaged ALL THE TIME. Just because two people hang out of the opposite sex doesn't mean they are into each other. a guy and a girl can be just friends. I think its awesome that she isn't hiding anything... (read in full...)

When his daughter is here I'm invisible!

Q.   I hate to be 'one of those women', but I don't understand why I feel this way. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. We both have one child from previous relationships. He a daughter (4) and I a son (3). We have also been living ...

A.   8 October 2010: What does your boyfriend do when his daughter back talks you and says "leave my dad alone"? If he sits there quietly...that is weird. It sounds like he is a loving father but maybe more of a friend to his daughter than an authority figure. ... (read in full...)

Is my mind playing tricks on me? I think my teacher is flirting with me!

Q.   I have had a little crush on one of my teachers for quite a while. He is quite young for a teacher, and i was his first ever class to teach when i was in second year of high school (im in scotland so i was 13/14 at the time) i didnt have him as a ...

A.   7 October 2010: sounds like it could be in your head, but maybe not. pay attention to how he treats other students in the classroom, does he get real close when he talks to other girls? Also, do your friends notice the extra treatment he gives you? I know you... (read in full...)

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