What should I do next? should I ask him out?
Q. Okay. So I went away to a pgl action adventure camp two weeks ago and i loved it. However something or rather someone has got me going mad. I met this guy on the second night - Monday - and I thought he was pretty cool but didnt really think much ...
A. 18 September 2010: awesome!! that's so great! I think that you should pick a day that works for the both of you and a day where you can spend a lot of time together since you live so far apart, the time spent together is more meaningful then. and HAVE FUN!!! ... (read in full...)
She blamed her actions on a panic attack?
Q. Ok.My girlfriend and I are both 50 years old.she lives 120 miles away.We have been going out for almost 3 years.We broke up at least 8 times.We just broke up again 3 weeks ago .I think its for good this time.I hope.But it dosint make sence this ...
A. 13 September 2010: miamme has a good point... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship and in love with a married man!
Q. i been dating this married man for about a year now.. when me and him started to mess off. we both agree to no feeling and no attachment... however time have change and now i have feeling for him.. i meet him at my old high school. hes wife have ...
A. 11 September 2010: What you are looking for isn't advice, its approval. Don't post something like this and not expect to get the responses you got.
And no, just because he said from the get go and now you tell him that and he is still doing it does not automati... (read in full...)
What should I do next? should I ask him out?
Q. Okay. So I went away to a pgl action adventure camp two weeks ago and i loved it. However something or rather someone has got me going mad. I met this guy on the second night - Monday - and I thought he was pretty cool but didnt really think much ...
A. 8 September 2010: hmm, well you can either take the leader role and get everyone from camp to cooperate to get together or you can go for just you and him. Either way, you will get to spend time with him, the one on one would be more focused on you two though.
... (read in full...)
She blamed her actions on a panic attack?
Q. Ok.My girlfriend and I are both 50 years old.she lives 120 miles away.We have been going out for almost 3 years.We broke up at least 8 times.We just broke up again 3 weeks ago .I think its for good this time.I hope.But it dosint make sence this ...
A. 6 September 2010: sounds like she doesn't really know what she wants, I'd call her on it. Ask her straight up why she keeps doing this to you.... (read in full...)
Was breaking up the biggest mistake of my life?
Q. Dear Cupid, I had been in a relationship (on and off) now for 6 yrs until 2days ago. The relationship started off well although I had just gotten out of the longest relationship of my life at the time so explained that I wouldn't be able to get t...
A. 6 September 2010: it sounds to me that you were passive and not that into her. She moved too quickly and I'm saying you were passive because then and there you should have told her you weren't ready for that.
I know what you mean with that 'cringe' feeling.... (read in full...)
It's time he chooses... me or his family!
Q. Finding this site has helped me a lot, now i know i am not alone. i am 26 yrs got married last year february, still trying for a baby. my inlaws bad mouth me and make me do all their household chores. my brother inlaws wife has 8 children some are ...
A. 6 September 2010: I don't think you should have a baby while living with your in laws. However, are you paying rent there? If not then I see the chore thing as something you do to keep rent. If you do pay them to stay there then put your foot down. ... (read in full...)
She blamed her actions on a panic attack?
Q. Ok.My girlfriend and I are both 50 years old.she lives 120 miles away.We have been going out for almost 3 years.We broke up at least 8 times.We just broke up again 3 weeks ago .I think its for good this time.I hope.But it dosint make sence this ...
A. 6 September 2010: Isn't it overreacting a bit that you changed your number? You simply could have asked her why she ignored you instead of blocking her out of your life. You clearly care about his person, so why run and avoid the situation instead of confronting it ... (read in full...)
I like her, but I'm getting mixed messages.
Q. Hi, I'm a 15 year old boy. I like this girl who I I've known for a year but I never really connected with her before. Durring the 2009-2010 school year I had her in one of my study periods and we really connected. We both like the same music and p...
A. 6 September 2010: maybe she notices how judgmental you are. You were likable until you slammed on your friend, real friends don't call their friends losers.
She might just be a flirty type of girl anyhow, the only way you'll find out if she likes you is if you t... (read in full...)
Parents splitting up and I cant chose between them!
Q. i need to be helped my mom and dad have just split up and my dad wants me but so does my mom i love my mom and i love my dad but who should i go with please help me :(...
A. 6 September 2010: well you're 18-21...perhaps you should go with yourself. This way you don't have to choose, get your own place and that way you don't hurt either of your parents.
but if you're unable to do that, perhaps pick both. If they both want you, then hav... (read in full...)
We're not together anymore but we still do things like we are? I'm confused!
Q. Hey guys and gals, Ok I have this messy situation happening right now. The thing is, my ex girlfriend broke up with me about 8 months ago. Then I told her to never get back in my life, and I was happy for the next 5 months, before she starte...
A. 6 September 2010: Kinda sounds like she wants the best of both worlds. She wants the freedom to do what she wants (no strings attached), to flirt with whoever, to scope who else is out there all the while having you there to fall back on if no one else seems worthy ... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish after being cheated on?
Q. Hi everyone! My boyfriend cheated on me in the past, but we are trying to work things out. It happened when he took a trip to another provice to do a final presentation after his schooling there was done. I just found out through facebook that he ...
A. 6 September 2010: you're not being unreasonable, in fact I think its awesome that you're willing to meet this girl and see if you can trust her, ya know?
Does he have a legit reason for going there again? Its quite suspicious that he planned this behind your bac... (read in full...)
My married lover says he is staying only for his children
Q. My married lover is not happy in his marriage because he said that his wife isn't affectionate or loving towards him and that he is staying in the marriage because he loves his 2 children and doesn't want them to suffer from a broken marriage, but ...
A. 6 September 2010: why would you want to ruin someone's marriage? How incredibly selfish.
Did you know that a lot of the time the married person lies about how their marriage is. they use terms of "my wife is crazy" "my wife isn't affectionate" "my marriage... (read in full...)
How can I find out if my dad is cheating?
Q. I've watched my dad for some time and watched him on the computer where he goes on dating sites and chats on msn with other women and when he left his phone in the bathroom once i checked and there were dirty messages and sick pictures of other ...
A. 6 September 2010: sounds pretty obvious, I'd get some solid proof and confront your dad first about it. This way it gives him the chance to do the right thing: confess.
If he denys it, be creative (like jodieleigh's suggestion) and get some solid proof.
if he w... (read in full...)
Is this guy straight or gay?
Q. I recently turned 17 and I am almost certain that I am gay. I am not out of the closet yet. If I ever do come out soon, I would want only my future boyfriend to know. I have never been in a relationship before with another person of the same sex, ...
A. 6 September 2010: Sounds like he's into you and gay.
I don't know many straight guys who would rest their head on another guys shoulders. He is definitely touchy feely with you, thats awesome.
ASK HIM. I'M SURE YOU WON'T BE DISSAPOINTED!!... (read in full...)
We want to have a baby but he's not interested in sex
Q. my husband has ms and is not interseted in sex at all, we have only been married a couple of years, we were hoping things would change, neither of us wants to be with anyone else. he will shortly be starting chemo and we are both desperate for a ...
A. 6 September 2010: I know that if I were sick with MS I would not want sex with either, if you both want a baby perhaps you can adopt or go to a sperm bank like jodieleigh suggested.
right now I think you need to focus on your husband's illness and not about ha... (read in full...)
How do I know if he sees me as more than just a friend?
Q. my best friend has a girlfriend but alway wants me around, he ask every time we talk if i can come over hes even asked me to be his room mate or nieghbor and I have two kids whtch are his god kids. today his girlfriend was upset and he had the radio ...
A. 6 September 2010: I have the same problem, but ya know what, sometimes its nice to be in this role. You are his best friend. Give it time, it sounds like you two have a strong connection, his relationship might not last and then you should perhaps bring it up, in the ... (read in full...)
How do I start a same sex relationship???
Q. i am clear about my sexual orientation, i am bi, yes, it finally hit me; hard. I've had many boyfriends, i know how the system works, but around a year ago i found out i was attracted to girls. naturally i assumed this was just part of teenage ...
A. 6 September 2010: Well get to know the girl you're interested in and soon enough you'll figure out what team she plays for. Not a lot of girls know exactly if they're bi, gay or not at 13-15 years old so it might be hard for you to find someone who is out of the ... (read in full...)
What is it is he trying to say?
Q. I am 18 years old. I babysit and tutor arounnd the neighbourhood. There's this one family that I usually babysit. I would usually take care of their five year old daughter and tutor their 15 year old son. After some time, I got to know them better ...
A. 6 September 2010: uhh odd. I am pretty sure he wanted to hook up with you, that would have been the opportune moment to ask him what his deal was.
Sounds like he was attracted to you from the start, but pretty odd that he just pulled you into his room and started ... (read in full...)
How do you trust again after you've been used?
Q. Having come out of an LTR at the beginning of the year I felt ready to date again. I've recently moved and so everything was a new start. I went online dating and was messaged by someone very unlike my previous girlfriends and after lots of emails ...
A. 6 September 2010: You know, this girl probably didn't go into your relationship intentionally using you to scope out her feelings for this other guy. However, when he got back in her life she probably realized she needed to pick which one of you she'd rather date. ... (read in full...)
I'm in love and confused...
Q. Ok, so how can this man I love so much, hold me and at his own will profess all his love and caring and say how happy we are together and couldnt imagine life without me, suddenly just a little bit later same day insult me? Help, I am confused!...
A. 6 September 2010: Did you get into an argument? A little more info would be helpful, but in relationships it can't all be rosy, there will be fights, however don't stand for someone insulting you.
My friend's ex says he can't live without her and three text mes... (read in full...)
Low sex drive... help!
Q. I am 35 year old man my sex drive is low. I love my wife, but i don't want it every day whereas she does! she is 46. What do I do?...
A. 6 September 2010: You can simply explain this to her, or you can have sex more than you want. Its about communication, don't be like "not tonight" but explain that you love her, she's great and you enjoy the sex you have with her, however your sex drive is lower and ... (read in full...)
How do I let go of him...?
Q. How do I get over my ex boyfriend? He has made it clear that he doesn't want to be with me due to issues we've had in the past but everytime he looks at me, I know he still has strong feelings for me. And this is making it hard for me to let go. I ...
A. 6 September 2010: If he told you that he doesn't wanna be with you, then he doesn't want to be with you. Its the hard truth, but he wouldn't have put it that way if it weren't true.
Some good things to get over your ex include:
1. Keep yourself busy, when y... (read in full...)
Is a God who does not exist, more important for her than the man she claims to love?
Q. Hello everyone, I am 22 and me and my girlfriend are in a relationship for the last 3 years. There are a lot of points that I must highlight before going to the real issue. In the 1st year of our relationship, she was flirty with guys and used to ...
A. 4 September 2010: You must realize that even tho you don't believe in Islam anymore, she still does. Its clearly important to her.
She stated clearly that she wants a muslim husband someday. Unfortunately for you, thats the bottom line.
It would be like asking y... (read in full...)
She's under my skin!!!
Q. I have been dating a lass of 35 for 12 months, i am 47. Sometimes she is all over me, she sends me loads of texts and we speak on the phone for 4 or 5 hours at a time, but other times i feel as welcome as a bad smell. she becomes very angry for no r...
A. 4 September 2010: it does sound like she's a bit unstable. Perhaps Bipolar disorder, with her extreme mood swings.
However, if she genuinely doesn't remember asking you to arrange things maybe she has dissociative identity disorder? That's a new modern term for... (read in full...)
Does this mean I'm slacking in the good looks department?
Q. This may seem completely pathetic and let me put this out here now... I am not considered weird or out there in my school I have a lot of friends and I have a well known status. I'm a junior in high school and I am so nervous about this year. It ...
A. 4 September 2010: sometimes people blame the wrong things when it comes to situations like these. My friend blames her lack of luck with guys because she's overweight a bit, but in reality she becomes obsessive and scares the guys away. Is there something you might ... (read in full...)
Husband of 27 years confessed that he was bi and had oral sex with a man
Q. My husband of 27 years very recently told me he is Bi and tried oral sex with a man just a few weeks ago. He seems genuinely remorseful and wants us to make our marriage work. He says he would like to be able to forget that he he let himself do ...
A. 4 September 2010: Well with cases with cheating there are three types.
1. emotional affair-where the person feels something for someone else and perhaps gets physical as well (like having two relationships at once)
(Mind you, to me this is the worst case, #1 i... (read in full...)
What should I do next? should I ask him out?
Q. Okay. So I went away to a pgl action adventure camp two weeks ago and i loved it. However something or rather someone has got me going mad. I met this guy on the second night - Monday - and I thought he was pretty cool but didnt really think much ...
A. 4 September 2010: well it can be that easy, when you are talking on facebook you can mention getting together and see how he responds to that.
and you're welcome :) I hope this works for you !... (read in full...)
What should I do next? should I ask him out?
Q. Okay. So I went away to a pgl action adventure camp two weeks ago and i loved it. However something or rather someone has got me going mad. I met this guy on the second night - Monday - and I thought he was pretty cool but didnt really think much ...
A. 4 September 2010: well that issue is up to you, if you want to go for him despite the distance then go for it, if you don't then I guess ya don't. ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong thinking that he is mean watching me and my family struggle to make ends meet?
Q. I am an unemployed single mother living with an adult daughter who is having a part time job at minimum wages. Money is really tight. I've met this wealthy man 20 years older than me. From the start he says I bring no money into this relationship ...
A. 3 September 2010: Phoebe Halliwell, I agree with the last bit. There are a lot of guys out there who have money and yet still make the struggling person pay.
I'm a college student, no money, face paced college so its hard to find time for a job, I'm looking ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my aunt
Q. hello again everyone. i have previously posted my question, but again, i would like to hear more advice from people so i am reposting it again. please let me know how you think and thank you very very much! i am in love with my aunt. im 21 and ...
A. 3 September 2010: It doesn't matter that she isn't directly related to your family. She is still considered your aunt, for your uncles sake don't do this.
I read questions about incest so much on this site and I'm astounded by how typical it seems to be. Incest i... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship and in love with a married man!
Q. i been dating this married man for about a year now.. when me and him started to mess off. we both agree to no feeling and no attachment... however time have change and now i have feeling for him.. i meet him at my old high school. hes wife have ...
A. 3 September 2010: Please do the right thing and DONT go for married men. After all...lets say things get serious with this man, could you REALLY trust him not to cheat on you?
sorry...typo... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship and in love with a married man!
Q. i been dating this married man for about a year now.. when me and him started to mess off. we both agree to no feeling and no attachment... however time have change and now i have feeling for him.. i meet him at my old high school. hes wife have ...
A. 3 September 2010: I completely disagree with anonymous, coming from a broken family, parents divorced over a lady coming into my dad's life. You have no idea how this will effect everyone else around their lives. Dating married men is a selfish act, you are hurting ... (read in full...)
If a relationship switches to friendship, will it ever switch back to being a sexual relationship?
Q. I would like to pose this as a general question, to both male and female opinion/perspectives. If a relationship switches to "friendship" on the part of the guy, is there ever hope that it will switch back to sexual? Perhaps there is some kind of ...
A. 3 September 2010: probably in rare cases, but in general 'if he once slept with you and sleeps with you no longer' he's just not that into you (anymore).
In my experience when my FWB guy from earlier this year stopped having sex with me. However, suddenly he came ... (read in full...)
I have a mental barrier around my body image
Q. I have a skewed perception of my body. Basically, I don't look like the ideal of beauty. And when I see myself in the mirror, I don't see anything special. I always end up seeing someone else who is more perfect and that always reminds me that my ...
A. 3 September 2010: I like the car analogy. Its a good point, but with me, I'm not 'the ideal looking girl' either, and I'd rather have someone love me for me, think I'm beautiful in their eyes then be someone's trophy wife. Those are what those ferrari's are. Trophy ... (read in full...)
"Friend" spread lies about me and harrasses me
Q. Two years ago I started secondary school the most popular girl everybody loved me but later my so called bf started spreading lies about me just because the guy she liked liked me. Now two years on despite the fact she's going out with the guy and ...
A. 3 September 2010: I have two things to say.
firstly, this girl is clearly threatened by you. Pay her no attention and don't give her what she wants. If people are dumb enough to believe her lies then they aren't really seeing the real you anyway. When someone ... (read in full...)
What should I do next? should I ask him out?
Q. Okay. So I went away to a pgl action adventure camp two weeks ago and i loved it. However something or rather someone has got me going mad. I met this guy on the second night - Monday - and I thought he was pretty cool but didnt really think much ...
A. 2 September 2010: I love it! Congrats! I think you should ask him out next time you talk to him, you could be direct and ask him to a movie, dinner, mini golf, etc. Whatever activity you choose or you can just ask him to hang out and see if anything is there, which ... (read in full...)
I've been rejected by a girl for the first time in my life. how should I feel?
Q. ok before i tell me story, if your one of those sentimental femminist types, please dnt even bother responding cuz i dont wana hear it. So for the first time in my life one got away. So I had 3 girlfriends, and I was having a bit of trouble keeping ...
A. 2 September 2010: so you said you didn't want to hear feminist crap, but what you really don't want to hear is someone telling you advice that you DON'T want to hear.
you want support, you want to hear that you're not doing anything wrong. well you are.
I'm ... (read in full...)
Man hater!
Q. [MOD NOTE: OP's OWN TITLE] I am only 13, but worried about getting married. I have never had a boyfriend. I dont even have any guys that are friends, I pretty much dont have any friends. My dad left when I was 6 and I havent seen much of him sinc...
A. 2 September 2010: This has definitely been an influence from your mom's negative thoughts about men. Realize that you said that not all men are pigs, and that is the truth.
If your 13, I would toss this whole issue aside and not even think about what a man wants in... (read in full...)
I can't clear my mind of the images of her past
Q. So I am yet another person who has retroactive jealousy. It has bothered me for about 7 months now, on a daily basis. I broke the bank by going to therapy but it proved essentially useless. I do have OCD and am trying to remedy that with various ...
A. 2 September 2010: This relationship can work if you let go of her past, if you obsess about it...its going to fail.
Remember this: she loves you, not them. She's with you, not them.
Yes she had sex with them...but she didn't know you then. She had no idea she ... (read in full...)
Will his big penis always be a problem for me?
Q. Hi, I have a new boyfriend, he is 35 and i'm 42, and finally I seem to have found someone who matches me in personality, sexual appetite and pleasures, however, he has a 'girthy' penis. Monday morning I felt like i'd been kicked in the crotch, ...
A. 2 September 2010: your vagina will probably stretch out over time, it will continue to hurt until then though. Thats really a pity, to be sure I'd talk to a doctor about this, I know its an awkward subject but they would know best. ... (read in full...)
Why do they prefer her and not me?
Q. Hi! Im 15 years old and im with a little problem. My suposedly best friend is a girl with a big breast , brunnete and beautiful thats why every guys love her. The thing is that im a little bit tired of that , when i meet a guy and we are close to...
A. 2 September 2010: I had a situation like this with my friend last year, every guy we met liked her. She's skinnier than me, blond and very pretty. I know how you're feeling but guess what, I woke up one day and realized that I had to stop comparing myself to her ... (read in full...)
Is his anger the start of something more serious?
Q. Hello, I need some advice. I just moved to a brand new state and city to be with my boyfriend. We've been dating for over a year long distance. We have spent time each other through out that time period. But since I've moved to his home town we...
A. 1 September 2010: moving in with someone you get to experience all sides of them. Its kind of like the 'trial: whats it like when i marry the person' stage. There is a chance that his punching walls could eventually be punching you instead, so be weary.
... (read in full...)
What I want to know is why a man cheats but still wants to come back to you?
Q. I have been going out with a guy for almost 2 years now and I had a suspision he was cheating (we don't live together) and it was pretty much confirmed yesterday. What I want to know is why a man cheats but still wants to come back to you? I mean if ...
A. 1 September 2010: because this guy wants his cake and eat it too. He wants you and he wants her. He wants both worlds. Simple as that, this guy is greedy and a pig.
Anyone who cheats has no regard for the other's feelings, they are intentionally doing somethin... (read in full...)
What should I do next? should I ask him out?
Q. Okay. So I went away to a pgl action adventure camp two weeks ago and i loved it. However something or rather someone has got me going mad. I met this guy on the second night - Monday - and I thought he was pretty cool but didnt really think much ...
A. 1 September 2010: you could ask him flat out like that, it would show confidence. Or you could ask someone that knows him if you're too shy to do that. ... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't take me seriously
Q. I've come to a conclusion that my friend doesn't take me seriously. we've been friends since we were 6, we are both 22 now. right now in my life I'm in college at an art school, doing p90x (an extreme workout video) and haven't been sleeping...
A. 1 September 2010: thats interesting that you mention you say that about girls you can't stand because when we were arguing that night I noticed she was talking about me in the tone she talks about people she hates and called her out on it. ... (read in full...)
What should I do next? should I ask him out?
Q. Okay. So I went away to a pgl action adventure camp two weeks ago and i loved it. However something or rather someone has got me going mad. I met this guy on the second night - Monday - and I thought he was pretty cool but didnt really think much ...
A. 31 August 2010: I think you should mention you two hanging out sometime, just be like "hey, we should get together sometime"... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't take me seriously
Q. I've come to a conclusion that my friend doesn't take me seriously. we've been friends since we were 6, we are both 22 now. right now in my life I'm in college at an art school, doing p90x (an extreme workout video) and haven't been sleeping...
A. 31 August 2010: tennistarr88, thank you so much for your response, it helps out a lot.
Its been bugging me for awhile and it does suck to have a person in your life who is only friends with you for themselves.
I never really considered her to be jealous of me... (read in full...)
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