He says he just doesn't care for sex!
Q. dear cupid my boyfriend is 24 years old we have been together for 7 months he wont touch or make love to me and i am a very passionate person and need sex so this really hurts me deeply i have brought up the subject and he told me its not me he ju...
A. 7 June 2010: a popular book and movie points out that 'if he's not sleeping with you...he's just not that into you" of course, that is propaganda.
there are two ways to think about this to figure out if he's being honest or if he's 'just not that into you... (read in full...)
I'm terrified this baby is not my boyfriends... but in fact the man's who raped me!
Q. I dont actually know what to say when speaking with my boyfriend about this :/ and its CONSTANTLY on my mind! im 18 and my boyfriend is 28, we've been together for 2 and a half years now and he is the most perfect, amazing thing in my life! i found ...
A. 5 June 2010: Hey there, it breaks my heart that this all happened to you. But you have a lot of silver linings, a boyfriend who loves you and this baby for instance. Your baby will have a daddy no matter what and thats terrific.
also, remember that the baby... (read in full...)
Single... or settle???
Q. I am 19 years old and me n my fiancee, who is 25, have been together for a year and a half and we just had a baby, we have been talking about marriage for over a year now and i am not sure if we should. i am doubting if he is the one for me. I'm not ...
A. 5 June 2010: thats a toughy...you have two options clearly.
first off, whats the best interest for your child? ... (read in full...)
My parents don't like that I am in a FWB relationship
Q. I'm in a casual relationship with this girl. To be blunt all we really do is meet up and have sex every few days. What I really don't get is that people dissaprove of it, especially my parents. They say it's not right and that I should be in a ...
A. 24 May 2010: well those around you probably know the usual outcomes of a casual sexual relationship. For one, it usually ends badly. For two, one person usually gets attached or wants more after awhile. What happens if she or you changes your mind and you want ... (read in full...)
My husband sister had an affair-how do I get over it?
Q. i think i need to start at the beginning, i was thirteen when my sister was born, she was like my baby. i loved her like she was mine. when she had marital problems i took care of her i made an apt. in our second home for her and her 2 children. my ...
A. 24 May 2010: ok....so you are pissed at your sister but gotten over the fact that your husband did the deed too?
Stop playing favorites with them.
It takes two to have sex. Two people. you said 'even if he was all over her she should have kicked him to th... (read in full...)
I can't control my feelings for my cousin!
Q. hey guys, i want some suggestions from you all, i don't know why? but i can't control my feelings for my cousin, I've tried allot to make her realize that how much i care for her but she never considered me, shes of 27 n em just of 20, another ...
A. 23 May 2010: this is not uncommon, i've seen questions like this before but its something you must realize isn't super common either. I know i just contradicted myself, but its how it is. I feel like you must realize that she doesn't feel the same way and for ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to bleed after fingering?
Q. well this is a little awkward but i let a guy finger me a couple days ago i started bleeding! it was gross...is this normal? what happened? and will it happen again????...
A. 23 May 2010: you may have popped your cherry if this is the first time you had sexual contact with someone, or even one of the first times. Tell him to be more gentle. Perhaps you got your period?... (read in full...)
Any way that I would get pregnant doing this with a guy??
Q. i was with a guy and he was lying on me and putting his hand between my leg and coming closer to my vigina would i get pregnant....
A. 23 May 2010: no. The only way you could be preggers is if he was laying on you and his penis was coming close to your vagina. ... (read in full...)
Found a condom in my car, boyfriend cheated, do I need to know who?
Q. My bf cheated on me in my car! I was at work and later found the condom wrapper. We split for a couple of days and I really want to know who it was. Is it better to know or not know?...
A. 23 May 2010: knowing won't make a difference unless you really think there will be a peace of mind for you in knowing. I don't think so. It will only give you someone else to blame for it, when you should be blaming your boyfriend. ... (read in full...)
Boys like my friend more than me, what can I do, don't want to hate her?
Q. when i met a boy it all goes well until they met my friend and then they fancy her. i dnt knw wat im doin rite. i knw this shouldnt be happin because she my friend and friends should always cum before boys but im startin to hate her 4 it. what ...
A. 23 May 2010: well does she flirt or do anything to attract these guys even though she knows you like them? because if that is the case then she's a bad friend.. however... if she isn't doing that then you shouldn't be upset with her, she can't help it if g... (read in full...)
My attraction to bad boys means I'm nearly 19 and have never even kissed anyone! What is wrong with me?
Q. I'm 18 and I'll be 19 later on this year. I thinnk I have a serious problem. I've never had a boyfriend or been kissed or even had sex. For some reason I'm never attracted to the guys who want me. I like older dangerous men and I can't figure out ...
A. 18 May 2010: 19 is not too young to be a virgin, keep your virginity as long as possible...I wish I did.
anyway, it sounds like you know you're type and it does sound dangerous but there is a rush in danger, but make sure you're safe. Maybe find out why you ... (read in full...)
I have a FWB relationship with my best friend, but I want more
Q. I'm in a FWB relationship. Now let me be honest, it isn't a casual acquaintance, he's my very best friend and we hang out almost daily, call to say goodnight, share a bed etc even when we are not having sex. Recently I've been thinking that un...
A. 18 May 2010: People victimize the woman too much in these situations, it takes two consenting adults to decide to sleep together and if you both didn't want relationships from the get go then that was the deal to be FWB. Of course, you said you want more. So you ... (read in full...)
How can I say "no" to my neighbors without becoming the building bitch?
Q. this isn't about a romantic relationship, but moreso a neighborly one. I just moved into a new building. I live on the first floor and these kidsare ALWAYS out by my patio. They ask for food, gum, something to drink, etc. At first I would an...
A. 15 May 2010: lol wow! some of you have hilarious answers!! But I thank you all for the helpful advice. I guess I just have to get creative hahaha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has serious ego problem, please help me out!
Q. Dear Cupid, I don't know what to do anymore. I hate myself, my life and everything. I just do not feel like living anymore, especially when it comes to "Relationship". I get into fights with my boyfriend everyday. He always starts it though. ...
A. 7 May 2010: three things:
1. dump him, no one should be in a relationship that makes them hate life
2. take responsiblity for your actions
3. spend more time away from him
... (read in full...)
Attracted to a 40 year old man..do you think he feels the same?
Q. Okay there is this guy who is in his 40's that I really like. He is not married and never has been. I am attracted to him but I don't know if he likes me back. He came to my church one time and he kept staring at me and it looked like he was staring ...
A. 7 May 2010: I think it sounds likes he is interested in you sexually. and you're a christian, even though I have renouced my faith, I do respect what others believe. and if you truly beleive in what the bible says then don't go for this guy. Not only would the ... (read in full...)
Making out makes me have blue balls
Q. Hey guys I'm a 16 and a virgin, I have a girlfriend and everytime we makeout my balls hurt like a bitch. I have herd something about something called blue balls but they don't turn blue. Can anyone help me how to I stop them from hurting after I ...
A. 7 May 2010: i agree with danielepew...masterbate before you go out with her. ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but I think I'm a lesbian!
Q. Hi everybody, I'm a senior girl in high school and i've never really had a boyfriend before. I've had some dreams about girls for 2 or 3 years and already asked dearcupid to know if it meant something or not. They said it's just hormones and my ...
A. 19 April 2010: you sound bisexual. ... (read in full...)
Was the whole relationship just a lie?
Q. I had an affair with a married man, I myself am married. The affair lasted for 10 months, it started out as friends, and built into a trusting, wanting, and deep relationship. My marriage was already in trouble and I was just co-habitating with my ...
A. 19 April 2010: no offense to you but you can't really get mad that he chose his own CHILDREN over you. He didn't chose his wife, because if things were happy with them then he wouldn't have had an affair with you. But you need to understand that his children are ... (read in full...)
Bestfriends with benefits?
Q. Ok, so I'm in a very confusing situation with my bestfriend. We have been really good friends for about three years. In the beginning of our friendship he liked me and I liked him but he had a girlfriend and we didn't tell eachother about our ...
A. 19 April 2010: okay I'm in a VERY similar situation as you. For one, I'm sleeping with my best friend. However, I'm not a virgin and neither is he and we both weren't when we started. There was some unspoken attraction between the two of us for awhile and one d... (read in full...)
How can I be desireable to him and win him over?
Q. So,here's the thing, I have been single for 1.5 years.I have had various love intrests and now I'm really into this guy from work, we get on well and flirt,I didn't want to pursue anything as he had a girlfriend but they just broke up and now I ...
A. 16 April 2010: timm is right, take him up on his offers. he mgiht assume you're not interested if you say no. don't throw yourself at him, but go out with him and see if things go anywhere... (read in full...)
Why do I keep cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. I keep cheating on my boyfriend. It's as simple as that. I feel like crap, it's happened twice and i've told him twice. The real problem is that I keep flirting and looking for more outside attention. Me and him don't spend very much time together ...
A. 16 April 2010: okay...I have the same deal. well i dont cheat but I flirt soo much more now that I'm seeing the one guy I wanted to date for so long. the only thing I feel bad for is leading the other guys on, but flirting isn't wrong (its ok to keep options open) ... (read in full...)
How do I get from lover to just a friend smoothly?
Q. How does one transition from being lovers to only friends? It started out as this guy and I meeting each other at work. We began talking everyday, calling each other, and eventually we developed feelings for one another. Although neither of us wa...
A. 3 April 2010: you can't. guys and girls cannot be 'friends'. ESPECIALLY once you've already slept with him. Three things will happen:
1. you will still want him sexually (and being as you stated you dont...this option is moot for you)
2. he will still want y... (read in full...)
Isnt she completely over the line here?
Q. My wife was snooping through some of my personal belongings and found a picture of my exgirlfriend and an old letter that she had sent me. She asked me why I had kept those two things and I told her quite honestly that I didn't even know I still ...
A. 3 April 2010: set her down. take off her pants and give her oral sex. problem solved. ... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid? Is this weird behaivor for a new relationship?
Q. I just started a relationship with my best friend. It was kind of sudden, and before we started dating him and I made plans to see Cheech and Chong stand up comedy live :). well last night he spent the night and today we decided we're dating. Well ...
A. 26 March 2010: thank you lexie!! ... (read in full...)
Husband cheated and got girl pregnant!
Q. what to do? i'm a christian, but am so confused. married 12 years and he cheated on me and got this young girl pregnant. he wants to stay with me, but how am i supposed to deal with him being involved in another child's life that isn't mine!!? we ...
A. 20 March 2010: ok, this is why I don't understand christianity. You should not have to be 'stuck' in a relationship. See past your beliefs and deal with reality. you could do marrage counceling and see how you could see past this, but it is a big deal. Don't not ... (read in full...)
He finds reasons to talk to me. Does he like me or not?
Q. I like this boy I've known for a few years but just recently become friends with. We have 2 classes together, but we really only talk in the 2nd class. In the first class, he sits with a group a people I'm not friends with and I sit on the other ...
A. 19 March 2010: it sounds promising, although I myself, am bad at telling if a guy likes me. Good luck and I suggest you keep up the talking and see if it goes anywhere... (read in full...)
How do I stop my dad changing my brother into someone who disrespects and abuses women?
Q. Our parents are divorced and my brother (14) visits our dad for twice a month. I don't see him but he is having a negative effect on my brother. He is becoming really sexist and says things like men should give women a "good slap" if they disobey ...
A. 18 March 2010: when your brother says stuff like that call him on it. let him know its not funny and that it bothers you. if he looks up to you at all, he may change. ... (read in full...)
Why is my dad doing this?? should I continue to live at home
Q. I am starting uni september next year and my brother who's away at uni says i should stay at home and attend uni.. that i would be able to buy a car and drive there because he stays on campus at uni and university life is very expensive. but my da...
A. 18 March 2010: i live at home and I wish i lived on campus. You'll have a good time, go do that. ... (read in full...)
He wants it all the time but it hurts!
Q. Advise please...... Know this guy for 3 years as distant friends, hes sweet funny and a workaholic, stood up twice by him in past due to work then after some convos on msn we met up with a bunch of his mates for a night out (was soo good) his fr...
A. 18 March 2010: just sit down and talk to him, say "dont get me wrong, i like what we do, but sometimes its a bit too rough" or while you'e having sex communicate when you don't want it to be that rough. ... (read in full...)
Is the saying true... once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater?
Q. I would like to ask the best way to handle my current situation. I just found out that my girlfriend had about 10 or more secret relationships before and while we were together (3 years). Whenever I asked her she said No or she said that guy is...
A. 18 March 2010: I'm sorry, but this girl sounds so mean. If she has to compose a list of good and bad traits about you, she's not a good girlfriend.
wouldn't you rather be with someone who loves ALL of you? even your flaws. wouldn't you rather be with someone ... (read in full...)
Negative? Could it still be Positive?
Q. I was just wondering is it possible to have a negative pregnancy test and yet infact b pregnant. I have heard it is but yet I havnt heard of anyone this actually happening to so I would to hear from people who this had happened to. I am only three ...
A. 18 March 2010: I know you wanted to hear back from people where this happened to, i'm not one of them, but its possible to hve a false negative. just take another test if you still dont get your monthly period. ... (read in full...)
Will allowing my wife to sleep with other men get her through her mid life crisis?
Q. My wife has came to me with the idea that she wants to sleep with other men. She is madly in love with me and our sex life is incredible. She has been chatting online with other men and has lined up her first "dude" for this Friday night. She is ...
A. 17 March 2010: I don't find it healthy and i can only see this making your marraige worse. I would not reccomend it... (read in full...)
Is it bad that he's 2 years younger than me lol that makes me laugh cause I dated older guys but am worried about someone younger than me lol anyway guys.. whatcha think??
Q. hey everyone! Needing some advice. i'm an almost 21 year old lol and i prefer older guys.. i've only had 2 'serious' if u like relationships - my 1st being for 4 years, and my 2nd only lasting 2 months. when i say serious i mean by having a sexu...
A. 16 March 2010: I think it sounds promising, you should flirt with him some more, be friendly and see where it goes :)... (read in full...)
I'm worried I have chlamydia again!.
Q. almost a year ago i had a boyfriend who i loved so much, but in the end things never worked out and i found out that he had passed me chlamydia, i didnt know i had it until a few months after we broke up. i went to the clinic and took anti-biotics ...
A. 16 March 2010: I think you should go get checked. Do that first. If you do have it, then be honest with your boyfriend. Eveyone deserves honesty. you must take responsibilty for your drunk mistake, its unfortunate, but its the right thing to do. It will be hard, ... (read in full...)
Remembering my ex....It's as though I'm living in my own fantasy world. It's not good, is it...?
Q. Should I remember the things I've done with my ex? I constantly flash back those moments when I am about to sleep. Sometimes I feel it's not healthy because I tend to act as though what we had is still going on. But just merely the thoughts were so ...
A. 16 March 2010: wellllll I think that I can relate to you here. Except I now know that I just couldn't let go of what I had with this one guy. He didn't make it easy tho because he kept coming in and out of my life, clearly part of that was my fault, but when you ... (read in full...)
My ex wont move on....should I stop contact for a while?
Q. My ex broke up with me nearly 4months ago and we still stayed very close afterwards but I realised 3weeks ago that it was not helping me get over him and I was only ended up upset after talking with or meeting up with him even tho we would have a ...
A. 16 March 2010: I agree COMPLETELY with Lexie88, well said! ... (read in full...)
Why did he buy the condoms?
Q. Lets call my boyfriend 'Max' My best friend 'Amber' and 'Ambers' boyfriend 'Sam' - to make things less confusing. Recently I heard from my Sam, that my current boyfriend of a week, max (Sam and max are best-friends so Sam would know) that Max r...
A. 28 January 2010: my best advice to you is to confront him about it and listen to what he has to say and be rational about it. Have you even gotten your period yet?... (read in full...)
What do I do when my best friend lied about not loosing her virginity?
Q. I cannot trust or look at my best friend of 6 years the same way again after she lied about not loosing her virginity to her boyfreind of less than 1 month and they have had an on and off relationship throughout that month. The day prior to her ...
A. 28 January 2010: I agree with the poster "not my name". You sound like a controlling friend, its her life and not yours. how does her love life effect you ??... (read in full...)
How can I deal with the frustrations of being an older virgin?
Q. I need some help here, as I am beginning to drive myself nuts with self doubt and insecurities. I am 26, and a virgin, and I feel so lonley, miserable, deprressed and frustrated, I cannot describe how horrible it feels. Everywhere I look, t...
A. 28 January 2010: well, I'm 22 and in a slightly same boat as you. I'm not a virgin, but I haven't ever had a real serious relationship. I've had a lot of regrets and never been able to share a love with someone that I considered to be real and serious. and all my ... (read in full...)
Am I obsessed, insane, confused or just stupid?
Q. four years ago, I dated a guy who I was head over heals about. In other words who I was very obssessed with but not in a crazy way. Just in a weird way that I could never understand. We broke up because of peer pressure. I was a kid and he was more ...
A. 28 January 2010: I think that you should confront your ex from four years ago, tell him how you feel and if he's getting married he'll tell you that its not going to happen again and you'd hear it straight from him and maybe that will help you get over him, if you ... (read in full...)
What do you guys think? IS he cheating on me...?
Q. Hi all, I'm currently suspecting that the man I have been seeing for several years is cheating on me. If you could read through the below list of signs and give me your opinion about whether it could be something I'm overthinking.. or a list of ...
A. 8 January 2010: Good Greif. DUMP HIM. he's clearly not into you. Not to sound too much like that book but those are very big signs that he is with someone else. He's probably too cowardly to break up with you, instead he makes you go crazy over his actions.
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