Should I just give up on him?
Q. well i met this wonderful guy,hes 2 years older than me im 24. he's cute, intelligent, and so cultured that he took me completely by surprise,it was in a dating site, truth, and we e-mail like a month, since he is in the army i usually got replies ...
A. 5 July 2010: oh my lanta!!! Thats EXACTLY what happened to me! Not the same guy of course, but I had this PHENOMENAL first date with this guy and he was adament about seeing me again and then blows me off completely. why do guys do this? this is what I'... (read in full...)
Heavily pregnant with a boyfriend who is unsupportive!
Q. Hi all. im 8 months pregnant and my bf is unemployed at the moment and so stressd out and he never calls me nor text me. weve been together for atleast 10 months now. he was madly in love with me but now he is distant. i feel like dumping him n ...
A. 5 July 2010: well he might be freaking out about being a dad soon? stop calling him because it might be pushing him away. I'd give him his space and then call him in a week. If he still is ignoring you then march over and tell him thats not okay haha... (read in full...)
Should I change my decision?
Q. Well..typical I like two guys problem =[ This is just so hard man, and there's like no one to talk to because everyone says I should just forget about the other guy because I have a boyfriend.. WHOLE STORY: Boyfriend(let's call him Joe,w...
A. 5 July 2010: I think you need to make the decision, not peer pressure from anyone else at your school. Its not your fault that Joe decided to tattoo your name on himself, so don't use that as your deal breaker.
But, I do think that you should choose the one ... (read in full...)
Am I really in love?
Q. Right, im 13 and im with my girlfriend, ive been with her for going on 4 months. We've done loads together and I never stop thinking about her, im thinking of her now as i write :'), but we really love each other and she means the entire world tp ...
A. 5 July 2010: I believe its possible. I know a lot of people might say you're too young, but its possible. ... (read in full...)
How do you stay best friends with someone who you lose respect for??
Q. I know that, really, it is none of my business, but I can't help looking out for my best friend. She is 33 and been single for a few years (some dates, one short-term relationship). We both regard each other as the sibling we never had (we are ...
A. 5 July 2010: I have one question for you, are you holding your friend to higher standards than yourself? Do you hold sex as something special? I obviously don't know you but it wouldn't be fair if thats the case. Also, what she is doing with that guy is only her ... (read in full...)
How do I tell mum I don't have a boyfriend?
Q. Dear Cupid.. First thing is, how do I tell my mum that I dont have a boyfriend.. I'm turning 18 very soon and I have never had a boyfriend before (many people find that strange, and some find it hard to believe) anyway, my friend came over today ...
A. 5 July 2010: just have a talk and be like "hey mom, just to let you know I am not dating anyone, I know you might be curious." or just tell her some other way.About the race thing, sounds like your mom is racist, no offense intended...just stating what it seems ... (read in full...)
I feel so stressed and drained by my "friends"
Q. I always try to be there for my friends and no matter what I do it isn't good enough. Friend A: I thought we were close, but she started to ditch me and stopped contacting me. When she would re-surface, I would pick her up, drive to a restaurant ...
A. 5 July 2010: sounds like you're surrounded by toxic friends. Trust me, I have plenty myself and just realizing this too. Here are some qualities of toxic friends:
1. The promise breaker
These are the ones who constantly cancel on you, blow you off, etc. Do... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregnant but doesn't want to be with me!
Q. i been dating this girl for over 2 years,im 21 and she 18.we hust found out in may 2010 that she preg.at first we were thinking of aborting but some how her mom found out.i went to her house about 3 days later n we all sat down her mom,dad,her and ...
A. 5 July 2010: well I think you should talk with her in person. Just say something like "Will you give me the courtesy of explaining this to me in person? We have a lot of things to talk about, I know you want me to move on, I respect that, but we have more to ... (read in full...)
Want to be myself, but how do I figure out who I am??
Q. "Be who you are! is what they say. But the uestion is: "Who am I"...
A. 5 July 2010: only you can figure that out.
perhaps write down things you like to do.
example:
I like to travel
I like to swim
I like hanging out with friends
etc..
then write down things you don't like to do
I don't like pretzels
I don't like... (read in full...)
Found items which may mean my husband is masturbating, he denies it, what do you think??
Q. please help me, about 3 months ago i found two socks under our bed with what looks a lot like semen stains i questioned him about it he said its not semen! and the other day i found another one screwed up in the wardrobe which again looks like dried ...
A. 5 July 2010: BECAUSE MEN GET HORNY. EVEN WHEN YOU'RE NOT AT HOME. Lol, i mean that in a 'get the point across way' not in a yelling at you way :)
You should be happy that he's masturbating instead of cheating on you.
In fact, masturbation is healthy. Ther... (read in full...)
I just need a little hope... me and my amnesia.
Q. I am already an agony aunt on here and i know this isnt a relationship question but i guess all i'm looking for is someone who understands. I have a rare form of amnesia which means i can only remember the last 6 weeks of my whole life, i'm dealing ...
A. 5 July 2010: I agree with married lady too!! It will make your life very easier. ... (read in full...)
Should I ask out my best friend's brother?
Q. Ok so I have the same problem I am in love with my best friends brother and I, a I don't know if I should ask him out or not cause I don't want it to ruin my relashionship with him or his sister. B If I do ask the boy out I don't know how to and C I ...
A. 2 July 2010: start flirting with him when you're there and once you're confident he likes you back, you'll know. Usually when a guy wants a girl, they'll make it happen.... (read in full...)
I want to tell my cousin about the feelings I have for him!
Q. My cousin and I are both 16 and we always have a lot of fun together. But, 2 years ago i started getting sexual feelings for him. I would like to tell him but i am not sure how he would react. We dont see eatch other much (mabey about once a year) ...
A. 2 July 2010: just tell him how you feel. but doing so, know that he could be creeped out, I don't say that out of judgement, I say that to make you see the worst case scenerio. A lot of people do see cousin relationships as odd, but to each there own :). Perh... (read in full...)
I asked her for sex, she is shy and said no, what can I do??
Q. i m very much attracted to my cousin sister she was really close to me so i asked for sex but she refused and we both are not talking to each other now but we meet daliy eveen she is feeling shy to talk to me now so plz tell me wat should i do now ...
A. 2 July 2010: she said no. girls aren't here just for sex. my god man, have some respect!... (read in full...)
My ex is possessive and it is troubling, why is he like this??
Q. I don't know why my ex boyfriend still keeps an eye on me. It's been almost a year since he cheated on me and dumped me. But still he keeps an eye on me and finds out everything I'm upto. And whenever he gets the news that there's a new guy in my ...
A. 2 July 2010: sounds like he wants you back but too bad for him, he should have treated you better. He'll go away if you don't talk to him. Or instead of blowing him off, tell him to go away and leave you alone. The latter is the better thing to do.... (read in full...)
How can I stop my rush to connect emotionally??
Q. A few months ago my gf and I split up. I posted a question about my situation dealing with it on here already http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-want-to-forget-her-but-ive-done.html The short, short version is that she started dating one of her ...
A. 2 July 2010: it sounds like you should focus on yourself for awhile. you are hurt and not over your ex. you will get pass this. Don't become bitter, life won't become better if you throw away your emotions. You may end up leading girls on, despite you saying ... (read in full...)
I want to tell my mother that I'm going to start transitioning to being a male.
Q. for a good part of my life i have felt like i was really a guy but never told anyone. now i want to start going to therapy and maybe transitioning from "female" to male. the main problem is my mother, who i know wont understand or approve of this. ...
A. 2 July 2010: you will need to sit down with her and explain your feelings and make sure she realizes you're serious about how you feel. It all depends on your mom's personality and whatnot, just tell her the reasons you want to change and go from there... (read in full...)
Is this as a sign that he's not as nice as he seems?
Q. So, yesterday my boyfriend and I were playing around and things got rough and he ended up on top of me demading me to make out with him. I was saying no and telling him to get off and he just kept me pinned down until my friend came back in the ...
A. 2 July 2010: was he trying to be fiesty/flirty or was he scaring you?? that should tell you.... (read in full...)
Why won't he unblock me from facebook
Q. Why won't he unblock me from facebook? He started to flirt really obviously in class, so much so that people in class noticed. Initially he thought I was the party type, like he is. I dress the act, and act the role. However, I'm really a nerd...
A. 2 July 2010: what is family fb? maybe he found it weird that your family shares a facebook? I'm sure its nothing personal?... (read in full...)
How long after the first date does a guy call when you already made plans for a second date?
Q. I have a pretty simple question. I met a guy I've been talking to online two days ago and things went VERY well, I thought we connected very well and he said he thought so too and during our first date we planned on a second date, which is h...
A. 2 July 2010: umm five days after lol. I know I'm being silly. We had our first date on wednesday (june 30th) and going to have our second on monday (july 5th). He has the day off and so do I, we planned on spending the day together again lol. This is why I know ... (read in full...)
Could oral sex make a pregnancy test positive?
Q. Just a little help needed. Today my girlfriend took a home pregnancy test with pregnancy stick and it came positive. She had symbols of pregnancy such as constant precum leakage from vagina and cramps in legs and tummy from last 15 days. It all ...
A. 2 July 2010: just because you used protection doesn't mean she's automatically protected from pregnancy. Oral sex doesn't increase a positive result. ... (read in full...)
Is it a loser thing to go on vacation with your parents at 30?
Q. Hey aunts! I'll be 30 in a few months. I have bf, a house of my own and a great job. My parents asked me to go on a 10 day trip together- on them! I said hell yeah! After all, it's a free vacation, right! And I love them. Then I thought... is it a ...
A. 2 July 2010: heck no, don't be embarrassed about that, it sounds fun and a great chance to spend time with them!... (read in full...)
He said he is too busy to contact me, and I wait for days and weeks! Yet he updates his facebook daily!
Q. Hello everyone I desperately need your advice cos I am feeling terribly hurt. My Bf and I were on online relationships for 3 years and for a reason that i loved him i am willing to wait til things settled and we can get married as we planned. Two ...
A. 2 July 2010: unfortunately I think it sounds like he might have lost interest. I say this because typically when a guy is interested they will call you, text you, contact you before friends about watering their flower plants.
I hope that you get a chance t... (read in full...)
I think it's a mans duty to be the breadwinner!
Q. I don't only date men who have a good bank account, personality is what matters most to me. I don't depend on men to buy me things, I work and make my own money. BUT is it wrong for me to think that it's a mans duty to look after his women. I want ...
A. 2 July 2010: its not wrong to have an opinion and to think that at all. as long as you don't cross the line to gold digger. ... (read in full...)
Can my parents really press charges?
Q. ok so im 16 and recently lost my virginity to a 20 year old and am now pregnant! well my parents dont approve and said that they were goin to press charges for statutory rape! but in arkansas the legal age of consent is 15 so can they really press ...
A. 2 July 2010: please sit down with your parents and talk to them about it. They love you and are only trying to protect you. ... (read in full...)
Am I right to feel upset about what my girlfriend did when we were still broken up?
Q. I really need some advice here. I broke up with my ex about a year ago. We have kept in contact tho and even sometimes still had sex. We both agreed that we would stay friends and see what happened in the future. I even told her i didnt have anymore ...
A. 2 July 2010: no you still don't have a right, I mean, you didn't have a relationship you were friends with benefits. which means you aren't exclusive. I'm not disregarding that you are hurt but you must get past this and realize the reality of your situation at ... (read in full...)
I cannot forgive my boyfriend for what he did in the past, and now I have met a new man I am worried he will turn out to be a psycho too
Q. I have a live-in boyfriend whom used almost all of the first four years being verbally and emotionally abusive, drove two of my children away, lied constantly, and always carried on outside romances and crushes. He abused my credit to 100k, and ...
A. 2 July 2010: hmm.. your situation is very unique. I feel like you need to kick the other guy out of your house yourself. Be strong. Especially if you want to pursue this new guy.
This new guy probably isn't a psycho either, that's your fears talking to you. ... (read in full...)
Crap...Our first fight... How do I handle this?
Q. I don't really like having my heart on my sleeve because I don't want to be vulnerable...my guy doesn't mind expressing himself at all...we had our first fight this morning and this shocked me because we usually get along so well. Relatives came ...
A. 2 July 2010: its never bad to be the first to apologize,straighten this out and fix your relationship issues. ... (read in full...)
He got married to someone else due to pressure from his parents, will he divorce her and come back to me?
Q. My BF got married under parents pressure but ran towards me in just a month.For 1yr, we are again dating.will he divorce and come permanently? We were in serious relationship for almost 5 yrs. But, he had to get married under parents pressure...
A. 2 July 2010: There's a book called "He's just not that into you". and there are two chapters in there that would be helpful for you to look at. chapter 5: He's just not that into you if he's having sex with someone else chapter 10: He's just not that... (read in full...)
I want to be able to go through a day without thinking of him!
Q. I have a huuge crush on my guy friend....he has nooo ideaa....I can't tell him and never will He has a gf or am not sure if she really is..it sux when I see a comment that he posts on her FB page...it becomes like my worst day ever when I see that...
A. 2 July 2010: I've been in a situation like this. I was crazy for my best guy friend around last summer/fall. and it'd drive me bananas when he'd go for all these girls that I knew he could do better than, when I say that I didn't mean that these girls weren't ... (read in full...)
Am I right to feel upset about what my girlfriend did when we were still broken up?
Q. I really need some advice here. I broke up with my ex about a year ago. We have kept in contact tho and even sometimes still had sex. We both agreed that we would stay friends and see what happened in the future. I even told her i didnt have anymore ...
A. 1 July 2010: yes you are being stupid or what. You were broken up therefore during that time you gave her the right to do what she wanted and gave up your right to get upset at whatever she does with other guys.
Don't hang on to the past, focus on the here... (read in full...)
I'm straight but I think I'm gay!
Q. im straight but i think im gay. i like talking to my mates about my cock and theirs, whos seen whos and how big they are. I get a boner everytime i get naked even if im alone and i always hope for innocent gay things to happen when i'm with mates. ...
A. 30 June 2010: you're bisexual.
I have a friend who gets turned on sexually only by males and just the genital area, but physically, not attracted to them. but he is attracted to women physically but would rather have a penis than a vagina any day. its confusin... (read in full...)
Am I suffocating her by wanting to stay in touch?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts and Uncles, Im in my first ldr, and Im having some communication issues. It seems like my significant other is perfectly fine and kind of aloof to the communication we have now. She has apologized for not replying and has...
A. 19 June 2010: I disagree with both of you! a relationship is what two people make it to be and long distance relationships can work if two people make it happen. I will agree that they are hard work. But don't say that a ldr isn't a real relationship because by ... (read in full...)
What should I do for my boyfriend's birthday?
Q. Alright, so I've been dating this man for about five months, and currently it's an online relationship. We are planning to meet as soon as July rolls around, but that's besides the point. His birthday is coming up in about two weeks, he turns ...
A. 19 June 2010: hmm what exactly is wrong with sending him a gift? I like that idea. a gift, a card, mention how stoked you are to see him. ... (read in full...)
Is she trying to steal him from me?
Q. What do you make of this?...A few times when my b/f and I went to our favorite pub for a drink, there's this one gal at the pub who seems to be watching my b/f with "interest". At first I thought it was my imagination, but I noticed that if he went ...
A. 19 June 2010: I agree with 'ask oldsister". if you trust your boyfriend then this isn't an issue really. You have your boyfriend, she does not.
Actually this reminds me of my friend's issue, very similar. He has been dating this girl for about 5 months a... (read in full...)
Should I be mad?
Q. My wife of 10 years was texting with her friend last week. Her friend was going to a party at the home of my wifes ex boyfriend. My wife and I are both white and her friend and ex are African American. She told me about the party but when I read ...
A. 19 June 2010: I think you are already hurt, and you do have a right to be mad. Sounds fishy to me...I think you need to at least confront her about it.... (read in full...)
I'm having his baby! Is it possible to ever be in a relationship with him again?
Q. I've written a few posts about the similar topic but i want some advice. Im trying to recover my relationship w/ my ex, we're having a baby together in a few days, and he doesnt have any love for me left, but i want to start a friendship with him ...
A. 19 June 2010: I guess it depends on the reasons you two aren't together. There is always a chance at getting back together but there is also a chance that it won't happen. I've seen it happen before and I've also seen it not happen. Thats the reality of these ... (read in full...)
I'm sexually attracted to my girl cousin!!!
Q. I am 17 and a lesbian...I was tlking to my gf and I was joking about how she's always actn like she's flirting with her cousin and she told me that like 3 of her cousins said if she wasn't related to them shed fuk em and she was like WTF....and I'm ...
A. 15 June 2010: apparently this is quite common...because these types of 'being attracted to a cousin' questions come up all the time here. My advice to you is to leave it alone and let these feelings pass. ... (read in full...)
I'm confused! Am I a lesbian?
Q. hi. i think im a lesbian because i keep dreaming and thinking about the same sex, but im really confused can you help me....
A. 15 June 2010: ha i dream about the same sex all the time. i consider myself straight, i like men in my waking life... (read in full...)
He won't text me first!
Q. Ok so i like this guy and i'm pretty sure he likes me to but he's very shy. But the thing is he never texts me first. I always have to start the convo. Does that mean he doesnt want to talk to me or what?...
A. 7 June 2010: if a guy doesn't call you or text you...he's just not that into you.
I just read the book and the movie 'he's just not that into you' and its an AMAZING dating lifesaver. The book is better. but you aren't here to hear what I think about that... ... (read in full...)
He says he just doesn't care for sex!
Q. dear cupid my boyfriend is 24 years old we have been together for 7 months he wont touch or make love to me and i am a very passionate person and need sex so this really hurts me deeply i have brought up the subject and he told me its not me he ju...
A. 7 June 2010: a popular book and movie points out that 'if he's not sleeping with you...he's just not that into you" of course, that is propaganda.
there are two ways to think about this to figure out if he's being honest or if he's 'just not that into you... (read in full...)
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