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writes:My boyfriend and his friends hate my bestfriend! she annoys me quite alot too. but she is still my friend and there is no way im going to just ignore her presence. i call her names and slag her off to my boyfriend and his friends but im still bestfriends with her i suppose even if i dislike her. i really love my boyfriend so much, i may be just not liking her as he dosent? is this wrong to pick him over her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): are you sure you're not annoyed with your bestie bc you feel pressured by your boyfriend and his friend's feelings towards her. at your age, realistically, this boyfriend possiibly won't be with you very long. so if you decide to pick him, and when things come to an end, don't be surprised to find that your bestie isn't forgiving of your volatile behavior. why don't you take the time to find out why your bf doesn't like her. and have you always been annoyed and had a rocky friendship with her? or is this a new development now that you are dating your bf? you need to figure out what is getting under your skin about her and either work it out or end the friendship in a civil way. you should never make friendship decisions based on your relationships though.
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reader, one girl, thousands of questions. +, writes (11 October 2010):
one girl, thousands of questions. is verified as being by the original poster of the question i dont know if any of these answers have helped me, thay have more or less offenced me but any ways thanks...
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): Wow!!! What kind of friend are you?? Your best friend is better off with out you. Why would you pick some guy over your best friend? Guys come and go, best friends, true friend will be there even when that guy who you are in love with leaves you or you lave him. And if your best friend is annoying you should talk to her about it, don't talk about her to your boy friend, that's not right what so ever!!!!
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reader, Odds  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 Why do all women secretly hate their best friends?
Typically, I'd suggest staying loyal to your friends over a romantic interest, especially at your age, but this friendship sounds pretty bad, and the guy seems to like you.
I've been in that guys shoes, too. Some friends simply seem to take pleasure from sabotaging other people's relationships. One relationship of mine ended because her best friend was upset that my girlfriend wasn't available every single thursday, friday, and saturday night anymore - so she lied about me. Has your friend done anything similar to provoke the guys?
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (11 October 2010):
 I think you SHOULD pick him over her.
Not because your boyfriend is right or so great or anything, but because your 'best friend' will be hell of a lot better off without a friend who calls her names and slags her off to her boyfriend.
How can you call yourself a friend? That is not a friendly or nice thing to do to someone, especially the person you call your BEST friend.
Learn this lesson right now: don't pick a guy over your friends, especially when you are 13-15 years old and you are more likely not going to end up with this guy and your friends will be more likely to pass the time test.
I'm 23 and I still have some of my friends from middle school and high school...the boys we've dated have come and gone. Don't be that snobby girl who is so influenced by her boyfriend or other people around you that you become wicked and cruel to those you call 'friends'. aka...don't treat people like shit.
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reader, [?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] +, writes (11 October 2010):
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png) Hmm, just think. She may annoy you, but has she stuck with you through alot of diffcult times? If not than maybe it's for the best to just choose him over her. But I mean, what does she do that's so wrong besides annoy you, if he was a true boyfriend he wouldn't care who you were friends with or anyone else for that matter.
Just remember, most friends are there when your relationships fail. Not saying it will, but you're young like me, and we eventually realize that we meet different people throughout time.
Maybe have a chat with your boyfriend about your friend, and you can talk with her and let her know she's bothering you guys. Don't keep it from her, that'd be rude.
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