What should I do next? should I ask him out?
Q. Okay. So I went away to a pgl action adventure camp two weeks ago and i loved it. However something or rather someone has got me going mad. I met this guy on the second night - Monday - and I thought he was pretty cool but didnt really think much ...
A. 18 September 2010: awesome!! that's so great! I think that you should pick a day that works for the both of you and a day where you can spend a lot of time together since you live so far apart, the time spent together is more meaningful then. and HAVE FUN!!! ... (read in full...)
She blamed her actions on a panic attack?
Q. Ok.My girlfriend and I are both 50 years old.she lives 120 miles away.We have been going out for almost 3 years.We broke up at least 8 times.We just broke up again 3 weeks ago .I think its for good this time.I hope.But it dosint make sence this ...
A. 13 September 2010: miamme has a good point... (read in full...)
My girlfriend hugs other guys
Q. Ok, so basically my girlfriend hugs other guys. And quite frankly i wouldn't care as long as she didnt do it in front of me or told me about. But there's the problem, she does just that. I have told her numerous times that i don't like it,but she ...
A. 11 September 2010: yeah! a hug is a hug, my goodness. Friends hug. Family hug. no big deal at all.... (read in full...)
It's over! He told me to stop calling him
Q. its been a month in in a half and my x wont talk to me at all he says he got a girlfrenid but i still love him and i dont wont nobody but him but he told me to stop calling his phone its over what can i do....
A. 11 September 2010: you can learn to accept the fact that its over. I'm sorry sweetie, but you can't change someone's feelings. Its their feelings. All you can do is accept that the worst happened and move on.
go out and mingle, meet new guys. ... (read in full...)
Are we doing the wrong thing here?
Q. I have a married friend i have been seeing for 7yrs.i am not married myself or do i wish to be so i don't wish to marry this man or ask him to leave his wife either.or has he ever said a bad word about his wife. We have an extreamly good relation...
A. 11 September 2010: cheating is never the right thing to do. period. so ya, you're doing the wrong thing here.
Side question, if you don't want a serious future with this man then why are you sleeping with him? he's married...let him fix his broken marriage and step... (read in full...)
I'm going insane! Am I depressed?
Q. I feel so alone. I feel unloved. Sometimes I dont know why im here. I never give, I only receive. In school, and everywhere else I have NO friends what-so-ever. At lunch and in class, I dont know where to sit. Because if I sit alone people think im ...
A. 11 September 2010: you are not alone, in fact you just described myself at your age. Assuming you're 15, not 13 or 14. But when I was 15 I guess I had one friend, but behind my back people called me 'jenny's shadow'.
I remember hating lunch period, I'd find exc... (read in full...)
How can I live and make decisions based on a present situation and forget about what happened in the past?
Q. Hey there, I like this guy, I had written in asking about him not too long ago to this site. The problem is that we're friends and I have fallen for friends in the past and I haven't had too much luck with the friends first thing. (Don'...
A. 11 September 2010: thank you for responding jonnyrockets, you're right, in fact if i were giving advice to someone else on this I'd say the same thing, to let the past go and live in the present. But its sometimes hard to take your own advice. But I appreciate the ... (read in full...)
Why does he act as if we never existed?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for three years. We had a beautiful child together and overnight he broke it off. I am so confused one week we were fine he said he loved me i told him i felt him slipping away and he said he loved me and his feeling has not ...
A. 11 September 2010: he told you straight up what was going on, he fell out of love with you. do you really want to be with a guy who changes his mind every two minutes anyway? yeah, maybe for the baby's sake but it sounds like he's still in the baby's life so pretty ... (read in full...)
How do I kiss my boyfriend right?
Q. How do i kiss my boyfriend right? like if i was to french kiss is there anyway to stop a lot of saliva? cuz that sounds like a major turn off......
A. 11 September 2010: I take it you never kissed anyone before, trust me you won't be thinking about his spit. If you're uncomfortable with open mouth kissing at first, start out with soft pecks and if you do french kiss then you don't necessarily have to use a lot of ... (read in full...)
I haven't had my period for almost a year
Q. hey i'm a 14 year old virgin and it has been 2 years since i had my first period. The last time i remember having it was in october or november or 2009. i don't have any money or health insurance to go see a gyneacologist but i wonder if my symptons ...
A. 11 September 2010: Nelly, periods can be irregular when you're first getting them, especially for the first few years. Are you active? Because the more you're active the less you have your period, so if you're in a lot of sports this could be the reason. However, its ... (read in full...)
Tough being a teen mom with dreams!
Q. Anyways, I was always the type of girl to get straight A's in school. I worked really hard throughout high school and graduated with high honors of 4.0 with the thought that i would go to college and be successful. Turns out i got pregnant, i ...
A. 11 September 2010: ya know what, the family I nannied for had a 5 and a 3 year old that I watched, along with a 15 year old song I wasn't responsible for, however the 15 year old is just the mother's son. She had him when she was 16 years old and do you know what, she ... (read in full...)
I am having thoughts of having a one night stand! I'm not a cheater! why am I thinking this way?
Q. My boyfriend satisfies me very much in bed but for some stupid reason, I want a one night stand. But, I don't even have anyone in mind! I've only ever slept with my boyfriend and it makes me feel so bad that I think about this! Then, I think I want ...
A. 11 September 2010: perhaps you and your boyfriend can do something kinky, go to a party, pretend you don't know each other and pretend to have a one night stand, sounds crazy and silly but if you really role play this it might get it out of your system ... (read in full...)
Is this a mid life crisis or should I leave my wife for her?
Q. Hi, I have been married to a wonderful woman for 20 years who I still think I love. Back in January I reconnected with an old girlfriend (who is unhappily married) on Facebook. We've been emailing one another and even have met for lunch a couple o...
A. 11 September 2010: Don't cheat on your wife, I know its probably tempting after so long, but instead, get marriage counseling, try to reconnect and fall in love all over again...with your wife :)... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship and in love with a married man!
Q. i been dating this married man for about a year now.. when me and him started to mess off. we both agree to no feeling and no attachment... however time have change and now i have feeling for him.. i meet him at my old high school. hes wife have ...
A. 11 September 2010: What you are looking for isn't advice, its approval. Don't post something like this and not expect to get the responses you got.
And no, just because he said from the get go and now you tell him that and he is still doing it does not automati... (read in full...)
I want to know his feelings towards me...
Q. My teacher is 43 and well don't know too much about his private life as i don't really tend to take notice, but since i've started his class which i've been in for a year and a month or something, there was sort of something there, its hard to ...
A. 10 September 2010: you have to take into consideration that this guy is 43 years old and you are 13-15 years old. He isn't acting appropriate towards you as his teacher, not professional. He's acting like you two are more, as if you're involved. This is more serious ... (read in full...)
What did he mean by that??
Q. I've been best friends with this one guy for over a decade now; since we were 10. We planned to go to the same college together so we would know someone when we got there and we achieved said goal. Now we're both juniors at the same college and ...
A. 10 September 2010: C.grant has it right, thats probably one of the two. However, being as he said he wished he remembered, well he clearly remembered waking up next to you so I'm guessing its that he liked it but doesn't remember how it happened.
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I want to know his feelings towards me...
Q. My teacher is 43 and well don't know too much about his private life as i don't really tend to take notice, but since i've started his class which i've been in for a year and a month or something, there was sort of something there, its hard to ...
A. 10 September 2010: I agree with rcn, completely.
... (read in full...)
I want to go to university in Paris! How do I tell my parents?
Q. I'm a junior in high school and I found this really really good college in Paris, it's pretty much perfect for me. The problem is I don't know how to tell my parents, because I would be really far away from them (I live in the US) and the cost would ...
A. 10 September 2010: i know it'd be really neat to study abroad like that, but figure out why your parents are against it before you make decisions. Its helpful to have your parents on board, so just communicate why you want this and listen to their reasons for not ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is really starting to grate on me!
Q. I just moved in with my boyfriend a little over a month ago, and he's really started to grate on me. He doesn't have a job, but his parents pay for his rent and living expenses (he's in his late 20s for what it's worth). This annoys me, becau...
A. 9 September 2010: didn't you realize he was lazy before you moved in with him? Or did he suddenly change?
I don't see the rent thing as a huge problem because at least his half is getting paid...it would be a bigger issue if he was lazy and put all the rent on ... (read in full...)
His Facebook status is single, but he has messages from a girl. Should I pursue him?
Q. There's a guy that I dated in 9th grade in high school for about a month. We were kids then and not knowledgeable of what a relationship was so we went our seperate ways but I have always felt very drawn and attracted to him...like he was the one. ...
A. 9 September 2010: well you could start talking to him, I'm sure he'll let you know if he's interested, single or not.
However, personally I think if he has a baby with another girl and she's interested, maybe I'm too nice, but I wouldn't want to wreck someone'... (read in full...)
Should I let him be part of my child's life?
Q. Well a few months ago my boyfriend and I were living together, happy relationship, and we find out that we're having a baby. Everything seemed to be going good (or so I thought). Then when I was 5 months pregnant I find out he had been cheating on ...
A. 9 September 2010: Put it this way, would you want him to someday threaten and choke your baby???? keep this man away from him.
Every kid needs a daddy but it doesn't have to be the biological father, someday you might find a better guy to play that daddy role.
... (read in full...)
I'm really worried that he's gay and doesn't know it, is that possible?
Q. After going through a difficult long-term breakup I decided to join an online dating site just for fun. Surprisingly I instantly met someone really good looking and we chatted for about a month before meeting in person. He was even better in real ...
A. 9 September 2010: Sounds like he could be in the closet. Especially if he is only all over you in front of his friends, if thats the case then he might feel like he had something to prove to his friends about his sexuality.
However, it sounds pretty passive ... (read in full...)
How do you forget about someone?
Q. I like this guy a lot, but i know he doesn't like me. I need to forget about him, but i don't know how...anyone know how to forget about someone? It hurts so much to think about him, and I've literally been up crying at night. I remember just a...
A. 9 September 2010: My rule is that if I like a guy and they end up not liking me....I basically remind myself that I deserve a guy who likes me back. Why waste your emotions anymore on someone who has told you that they're not into you?... (read in full...)
His best friends girlfriend
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for 2 years and are so inlove with eachother. But we have been getting in arguments almost everyday for over 6 months now... Bad ones. His best friends girlfriend goes to his school, and wont stay off of him. they ...
A. 8 September 2010: Any chance you might be reading too much into that and trying to find something going on when there isn't?
I don't think any of that sounds suspicious. They clearly can't control what classes they take, I guess they could but its always nice to ... (read in full...)
I don't want to break up with my boyfriend, but I still like this guy!
Q. hey!! I'm in a bit of a dilemma here...so i am a freshman in highschool, and i have this huge crush on a senior who is in marching band with me. he never really payed attention to me, but after noticing how i look at him, he seems to want to talk to ...
A. 8 September 2010: If you want to keep your boyfriend...stop flirting with the senior.... (read in full...)
We broke up now I am pregnant!
Q. Well me and my boyfriend had sex. BUT we used a condom anddd i was on birth control. We broke up a week ago and i just found out i'm pregnant!!! i dont know what to do. He is already dating someone new. What should I do?! Im thinking about getting ...
A. 8 September 2010: the first thing you need to do is go to the doctor and see if you're for sure pregnant (you most likely are if the pee test said yes, but to just make sure) and from there you will see how far along you are.
They will give you the best advice f... (read in full...)
We broke up now I am pregnant!
Q. Well me and my boyfriend had sex. BUT we used a condom anddd i was on birth control. We broke up a week ago and i just found out i'm pregnant!!! i dont know what to do. He is already dating someone new. What should I do?! Im thinking about getting ...
A. 8 September 2010: the first thing you need to do is go to the doctor and see if you're for sure pregnant (you most likely are if the pee test said yes, but to just make sure) and from there you will see how far along you are.
They will give you the best advice f... (read in full...)
I said yes to a threesome now I am second guessing this!
Q. I'm almost 15 years old and i'm with an older guy. He's 16 turning 17. We've been together for a while about afew months. We fell in love, or atleast I did. And yesterday out of the blue he asked me to join in on a threesome he wants to have with ...
A. 8 September 2010: you can be honest and tell him you're uncomfortable with it. When he asks why tell him what you said here. Explain that you're not ready to get that kinky, that he shouldn't want to sleep with anyone besides you and that it would be awful to see him ... (read in full...)
What should I do next? should I ask him out?
Q. Okay. So I went away to a pgl action adventure camp two weeks ago and i loved it. However something or rather someone has got me going mad. I met this guy on the second night - Monday - and I thought he was pretty cool but didnt really think much ...
A. 8 September 2010: hmm, well you can either take the leader role and get everyone from camp to cooperate to get together or you can go for just you and him. Either way, you will get to spend time with him, the one on one would be more focused on you two though.
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I'm not sure if he cares anymore
Q. My boyfriend and I are together for 7 years now, and the first 4 of those were a fairy tale. Everything was wonderful! Then, I got a little too drunk and kissed another guy and told him about it (from start we decided to be open about stuff and tell ...
A. 8 September 2010: you're welcome, you never know, he could pop out of his grief sooner than you expect. its hard to watch someone go through that, but death is hard and its a hard thing to cope with. Espeically about someone as close to as a parent. I'd go crazy if ... (read in full...)
Since he found out that I lied the relationship is not the same. What do I do?
Q. hey,i am with my boyfriend for 2 years,a few weeks ago we break up because i did a stupid thing..i lied him when i was hanging out with a guy..but that guy was just a friend,after that we were back together but now he sayd he loves me a lot but he ...
A. 7 September 2010: instead of saying you'll do 'anything' to make him happy, how about phrasing it like so "I want to make us right again, I want both of us to be happy with each other again" don't make it all about him because he sees it as robotic, like you said.
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Help! Should I believe him when he says he loves me?
Q. hey i have a guy who i am in a long distance relationship with he says he loves me but he doesn't call me, i always call him. recently i asked him to come to Kenya because i was hornie and never wanted to cheat on him he refused not practically but ...
A. 7 September 2010: well can he afford to go to Kenya? It really depends on whatever reason he gave you and you didn't disclose that with us so its hard to tell. But if he said he loves you, he probably loves you, unless he just throws that word around normally to ... (read in full...)
The memory of this other guy and what could have been is killing me slowly, how do I move on?
Q. I dated a guy last year for a few weeks and he dumped me, saying he wasn't ready for a relationship. I thought this was a bs excuse. But I fell hard for him and still think about him even though I have a boyfriend now. I found out the other day th...
A. 7 September 2010: I've been in this guy's shoes before. I recently this past month went out with this guy who was great, perfect and was a guy who I should have dated. However, I didn't feel it. I couldn't make myself feel something for him because emotions don't ... (read in full...)
I'm having a problem getting involved with him because of his kid! I adore both of them though
Q. Hello all! I'm in a new relationship with a guy who I find just incredible! He's great, I don't think I've ever felt such a connection with someone in such a short time. My problem is that he has a son (who I also adore, he's a great little kid). I ...
A. 7 September 2010: I think you need to figure out why it is holding you back. Because if you were honest with yourself you wouldn't be feeling like this, take a moment and ponder what you think is the big deal.
its just one more person you'll get to know while yo... (read in full...)
She blamed her actions on a panic attack?
Q. Ok.My girlfriend and I are both 50 years old.she lives 120 miles away.We have been going out for almost 3 years.We broke up at least 8 times.We just broke up again 3 weeks ago .I think its for good this time.I hope.But it dosint make sence this ...
A. 6 September 2010: sounds like she doesn't really know what she wants, I'd call her on it. Ask her straight up why she keeps doing this to you.... (read in full...)
Did he like the bj?
Q. I've given my boyfriend a blowjob a couple of times before but a couple of days ago I noticed that while i was doing that he had his eyes closed and he seemed relax.could this mean that he liked it? how can i give him a good blowjob?...
A. 6 September 2010: some guys do just sit back and enjoy how good it feels, others find it turns them on to watch whats going on. It sounds like you did well. ... (read in full...)
Stomach pains after sex...???
Q. Hey everyone! I have a few enquires.. first of all i had sex with my boyfriend for the 3rd time and we were both virgins before we met, after sex i always have stomach pains for a day or 2 is this normal?? Also we had sex today and he used a c...
A. 6 September 2010: it will still work, you have up to 72 hours, but its less effective than if you'd taken it sooner.
about the stomach pains, maybe the sex was too rough perhaps? Maybe tone it down in the future to avoid the pains.
Otherwise the pain can com... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if he cares anymore
Q. My boyfriend and I are together for 7 years now, and the first 4 of those were a fairy tale. Everything was wonderful! Then, I got a little too drunk and kissed another guy and told him about it (from start we decided to be open about stuff and tell ...
A. 6 September 2010: If this happened recently, the death of his loved one, I think you should give him more time to cope. People deal with death in many different ways, I'm sure he isn't one to want to go out and pretend everything is normal, when inside he's probably ... (read in full...)
All I can think about is my ex and not my boyfriend
Q. I really really REALLY need help..I've a boyfriend of 6 months right now, (we're both 19 and in college) and i really do love him. my family loves him and im always in his house. hes great to me and treats me like a princess. then i have this ex, we ...
A. 6 September 2010: lol I don't think anyone can tell you what to do because that is based on how you feel.
it comes down to: which guy do you want to be with more.
This is a decision you're ultimately going to have to make on your own. Its about your feelings, n... (read in full...)
How is it that a guy can be enough, yet he should still improve himself?
Q. What I don't understand is when women tell you to accept yourself, that you're enough, and then they say to keep trying to improve yourself. That doesn't make sense to me. If you truly believed you were enough, then you wouldn't bother improving ...
A. 6 September 2010: I think you're turning mountains into molehills here. No person is perfect so there is always room for self-improvement. it should be considered a good thing if someone is trying to improve yourself...it shows they like themselves, that they want to ... (read in full...)
Unhappy stomach!
Q. I sometimes wake up with a random stomach ache. Not really nausia just a flip flop feeling like you were spinning or something but without the dizzyness (if that makes any sense) today I woke up with a pretty bad one and its been going off an on ...
A. 6 September 2010: if you haven't gotten your period yet, there is a chance that they were false negatives, even the blood tests from the doctor. Its definitely possible.
If you miss your period, I'd personally do all those tests again.
But crackers help, b... (read in full...)
My boyfriends sister depends on him so much its causing problems in our relationship
Q. What can I do about this problem with my boyfriend? My boyfriend's sister is 22. She doesn't drive and relies 99% on him to get her places, take her to work, out with her friends, here there and everywhere. The one night I stayed over she texted him ...
A. 6 September 2010: Have you talked to him about helping his sister get a car? Perhaps it would be worth it to help get her on her feet, I know it should be her responsibility, but it would put less strain on your relationship if she had a car. Does she have a job? ... (read in full...)
Was breaking up the biggest mistake of my life?
Q. Dear Cupid, I had been in a relationship (on and off) now for 6 yrs until 2days ago. The relationship started off well although I had just gotten out of the longest relationship of my life at the time so explained that I wouldn't be able to get t...
A. 6 September 2010: it sounds to me that you were passive and not that into her. She moved too quickly and I'm saying you were passive because then and there you should have told her you weren't ready for that.
I know what you mean with that 'cringe' feeling.... (read in full...)
She blamed her actions on a panic attack?
Q. Ok.My girlfriend and I are both 50 years old.she lives 120 miles away.We have been going out for almost 3 years.We broke up at least 8 times.We just broke up again 3 weeks ago .I think its for good this time.I hope.But it dosint make sence this ...
A. 6 September 2010: Isn't it overreacting a bit that you changed your number? You simply could have asked her why she ignored you instead of blocking her out of your life. You clearly care about his person, so why run and avoid the situation instead of confronting it ... (read in full...)
What should I do next? should I ask him out?
Q. Okay. So I went away to a pgl action adventure camp two weeks ago and i loved it. However something or rather someone has got me going mad. I met this guy on the second night - Monday - and I thought he was pretty cool but didnt really think much ...
A. 4 September 2010: well it can be that easy, when you are talking on facebook you can mention getting together and see how he responds to that.
and you're welcome :) I hope this works for you !... (read in full...)
What should I do next? should I ask him out?
Q. Okay. So I went away to a pgl action adventure camp two weeks ago and i loved it. However something or rather someone has got me going mad. I met this guy on the second night - Monday - and I thought he was pretty cool but didnt really think much ...
A. 4 September 2010: well that issue is up to you, if you want to go for him despite the distance then go for it, if you don't then I guess ya don't. ... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship and in love with a married man!
Q. i been dating this married man for about a year now.. when me and him started to mess off. we both agree to no feeling and no attachment... however time have change and now i have feeling for him.. i meet him at my old high school. hes wife have ...
A. 3 September 2010: Please do the right thing and DONT go for married men. After all...lets say things get serious with this man, could you REALLY trust him not to cheat on you?
sorry...typo... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship and in love with a married man!
Q. i been dating this married man for about a year now.. when me and him started to mess off. we both agree to no feeling and no attachment... however time have change and now i have feeling for him.. i meet him at my old high school. hes wife have ...
A. 3 September 2010: I completely disagree with anonymous, coming from a broken family, parents divorced over a lady coming into my dad's life. You have no idea how this will effect everyone else around their lives. Dating married men is a selfish act, you are hurting ... (read in full...)
What should I do next? should I ask him out?
Q. Okay. So I went away to a pgl action adventure camp two weeks ago and i loved it. However something or rather someone has got me going mad. I met this guy on the second night - Monday - and I thought he was pretty cool but didnt really think much ...
A. 2 September 2010: I love it! Congrats! I think you should ask him out next time you talk to him, you could be direct and ask him to a movie, dinner, mini golf, etc. Whatever activity you choose or you can just ask him to hang out and see if anything is there, which ... (read in full...)
What should I do next? should I ask him out?
Q. Okay. So I went away to a pgl action adventure camp two weeks ago and i loved it. However something or rather someone has got me going mad. I met this guy on the second night - Monday - and I thought he was pretty cool but didnt really think much ...
A. 1 September 2010: you could ask him flat out like that, it would show confidence. Or you could ask someone that knows him if you're too shy to do that. ... (read in full...)
What should I do next? should I ask him out?
Q. Okay. So I went away to a pgl action adventure camp two weeks ago and i loved it. However something or rather someone has got me going mad. I met this guy on the second night - Monday - and I thought he was pretty cool but didnt really think much ...
A. 31 August 2010: I think you should mention you two hanging out sometime, just be like "hey, we should get together sometime"... (read in full...)
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