I'm 19 and a virgin!
Q. i'm 19, a virgin, and deeply ashamed to be one. what's worse, is that I have absolutely no experience, not only when it comes to sex, but with anything concerning affection (kissing, ect). recently i've been talking to this guy and I think something ...
A. 16 August 2010: being 19 and a virgin is not a bad thing! a lot of people think this but really it is all about how you present it, just like with everything in life. If you're confident about it, and area virgin by choice, usually its more attractive to the guy ... (read in full...)
How can I attract a decent guy?
Q. okay so i am 18 and really frustrated with how to attract boys, i am a virgin and i feel like that is my defect, i get hit on alot but not by the guys i like :( is there anyway i can stop being single without the mind games that come along with ...
A. 16 August 2010: Hunny, this isn't because you're a virgin. I'm not a virgin and I have the same problem. Being a virgin isn't a defect, in fact its amazing, I'm actually jealous of you. I lost my virginity to one of those jerks. But ya know what, there are good ... (read in full...)
Is she wrong to give her ex a present like this?
Q. So I've been seeing this girl. I really like her a lot. Yesterday she tells me she is going to her ex-boyfriends birthday party, which I am fine with as they are still friends. Then I find out her birthday present to him is that her and a couple ...
A. 16 August 2010: If this is the first time anything like this happened, then don't break up with her, set your boundaries now...by all means you have a right to be mad, but it would be unfair to break up if she had no idea this would upset you. She might have ... (read in full...)
Does it take men longer to miss a partner?
Q. This is a love poll. I am having a break from my 3 year boyfriend. I don't know why but they say men take longer to miss their woman then the other way around. Is this true? And when do you think the amount you miss someone peaks? today is day 1...
A. 15 August 2010: I don't think it has anything to do with gender at all. I think it has to do with who was more into the relationship then the other, who did the breaking up and their individual personality.
I've missed guys more then they've missed me before a... (read in full...)
13 year old FTM Transgender how to come out?
Q. [OP original title] Hi. I am a 13 year old FTM transgender. I am not out. And I watch Degrassi, which has a FTM on it. And if I tell my mom I am then I am afraid she will tell me that its because of that show. Which its really not. So, how do I...
A. 15 August 2010: I watch that show as well, and even watching it as I type this, I haven't gotten to this episode and I know that this show deals with everything and tries to be as realistic as possible, but you must remember that its a show and that the responses ... (read in full...)
Is my teacher really flirting?
Q. [OP original title] My AP US History teacher is very friendly with everyone, but he seems to be a little extra friendly with certain girls, including me. He's extremely attractive, and I wouldn't mind going for it, but I don't want to make thin...
A. 15 August 2010: Sounds like he is into you, however this is wrong and you two could get in BIG trouble if you two get caught, said if anything happened between you two.
He could be sent to jail say if you two got sexual, lose his job if you two are even found be... (read in full...)
I want to have my first kiss but can't find a bf! Help!
Q. I haven't had my first kiss yet and i am 13 yet but every one i know has. i really want to have my first kiss but i cant find a boyfriend that i can have my first kiss with ENY HELP PLEASE ..........
A. 15 August 2010: I didn't get my first kiss until I was 15, there is nothing wrong with you, every one has different experiences. ... (read in full...)
I'm 19, he's 16, is it even a good idea to date him?
Q. Hello...I have recently fallen for a guy who is about 3 1/2 years younger than I am. I recently turned 19 years old and a college freshman. He is a high school sophomore. I never would have even considered a relationship with someone with that ...
A. 15 August 2010: He sounds like a great guy, however know that it is illegal to become sexual with him for the next couple years. It will be hard to having you in college and him still in high school, however it can work as long as you keep it PG and are very ... (read in full...)
I feel he's not attracted to me and he says as much when he is drunk!
Q. My man is 59 and ime 27. He cant get a proper erection and says its because of the drink. Ive had a c section and feel hes not attracted to me. When hes drunk his attitude changes and he once sayd 'your not that good looking and thats why I dont ...
A. 15 August 2010: uhh why are you with a guy that flat out said "you're not that good looking and thats why I don't bother with you."????
thats a sure sign that you deserve better, it would make any girl feel insecure. ... (read in full...)
Should I be brutally honest with her?
Q. So i recently got back in touch with one of my ex's, who i broke up with 2 years ago, which was the last time i talked to her as well. I only intended to be friends, and well its been 2 years, i figured she would have moved on by now.. Her friend...
A. 14 August 2010: well she did say "good friend' in her status, not "my one and only lost love" or anything creepy. I think you should go to the fair like you said you would and give her a chance to be friends with her. If she pushes towards more, then tell her ... (read in full...)
Her old Ex has worked himself into our lives
Q. My girlfriend (kelly) has an ex-boyfriend (josh) from several years ago that now dates her roomate (amber) who i am also friends with but never had anything but a platonic relationship with. She (kelly) ended it with him and remained friends with ...
A. 14 August 2010: are kelly and amber friends? How about Kelly goes and mentions causally to Amber that Josh keeps asking personal questions about your relationship. That way maybe Amber can do something about it.
I wouldn't do anything if I were you, if you trus... (read in full...)
FWB, but tired of putting myself out there and always getting hurt.
Q. I have been talking to this boy for over a year. He has asked me out in the past but now he is with someone else. He says he loves me and cares about me and I love him. I wanna be with him but I dnt think he feels the same. We're friends with ...
A. 14 August 2010: friends with benefits: two friends that have a friendship (so they obviously care for each other to some extent) that occasionally have sex.
this is more meaningful than a booty call but its a sure sign that 'he's just not that into you' too. Not... (read in full...)
Could he just be using me?
Q. I've been dating this guy for a couple of weeks now, i really like him, however he keeps on touching me where i dont want to be touched and the only time he does this when he kisses me even if its just a peck. He wont hold my hand or even act like ...
A. 14 August 2010: this situation is a 'trust your gut' situation for sure. There really isn't enough detail here to say one way or another, but trust your gut.
You can always ask him where things are going. Don't have sex with him until you're in a relation... (read in full...)
We broke up, but I'm stuck with her dogs
Q. My girlfriend and I have been on and off for the last 2 and a half years. She had two dogs when we meet.Shortly after our meeting she had to sell her house. (which I helped get ready to sell with her)After this she had no room for the dogs which I...
A. 14 August 2010: before you do any of that, warn her that you are going to do that if she doesn't take care of her dogs herself. Even so, I think you should tell her to go bring them to SPCA or to try and get them a new home another way. Put your foot down and say ... (read in full...)
First time same-sex attraction, and we're not sure what to do about our feelings
Q. I'm curious about developing a romantic relationship with another woman I know. How do we proceed? Neither of us have experienced this attraction for another female and don't know what to do with our feelings. We've known each other for awhile, and ...
A. 14 August 2010: the only thing that is standing in your way is your genders and with that you probably think things would proceed differently than in a male/female relationship. I don't see any difference, if you two talked about your feelings and all that, try ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my sister I saw her husband with a hooker?
Q. I picked up a hooker and took her to a motel. When we were done I was taking here back to where I picked her up. A door opened just a couple doors down as I passed by with her and it was my brother in law with a hooker of his own. He just ...
A. 11 August 2010: tell your sister, she deserves to know.... (read in full...)
Feeling stuck in a too good relationship
Q. I find myself questioning my relationship more and more, and I don’t know what I should do: take things slower? Call it off completely? Stay with him? I feel as though most people who write in with a “should I stay or leave my partner” question ...
A. 10 August 2010: I think that if you two are used to having long meaningful talks you should sit down with him and tell him that you think you're moving too fast and its starting to bother you. Let him know its not him, just the pace of the relationship.
Perha... (read in full...)
How do I end this without destroying him?
Q. I am in a tricky situation and would really like some advice. I'm a 26 year old lesbian but I'm married to a man and have one child. When I met my husband, I really did fall head over heels in love with him, despite having known I am gay for several ...
A. 10 August 2010: well it wouldn't be surprising if you ended it...considering you don't like men. But how did you fall for a guy if you don't like guys? are you sure you're not bisexual? just a side comment.
anyhow, if he is verbally abusing you, you need to get o... (read in full...)
What's worse? To break up or to be broken up with?
Q. Here is the senario: Two people who have been dating for about 2 years. they have in a happy relationship or so they thought. they love and care a great deal for each other. Partner #1 feels that it's a dead end relationship though. Despite there ...
A. 10 August 2010: it is always harder to be broken up with, you are being rejected and that is heartbreaking.
doing the breakup is doing something you want to do. even in this situation, it will be sad at first and hard to break the news but eventually this per... (read in full...)
Should we part ways...?
Q. Im 19 years old and my boyfriend is 38 years of age. I met him when i was 17. He used to live in london but he recently (5 months ago) moved to Berlin, Germany due to his job. Obviously my family and freinds dont know anything about him, and his ...
A. 10 August 2010: I think you should move on. Do you really want a boyfriend you can't tell anyone about? The age gap is pretty wide and both of you are at different places in your life. My advice is that you move on, he's in a different country, you can't tell ... (read in full...)
Not a game of finders keepers, I want my son back...
Q. I have been hapily married for 11 years, or at least that's what i would like to have thought. 2 years ago, my wife started a job just to up-abit our money; we have an 8 year old son, and wanted to spend a good holiday with him. her job was cleaning ...
A. 10 August 2010: well, this is a tricky situation. Its legal, I don't think you really can do anything unless your ex wife lets you. The only way to your son is to move closer to him and hope that your ex wife lets you see him.
question though, are you really a... (read in full...)
We're teenagers and we really want to have a baby!
Q. Hi :) My boyfriend and I realllyyyyy want a baby!! We've been trying for about 2 months and it doesn't seem to work. Everyone says I'm too young for a baby, but I know this is what we want. I love my boyfriend to death, and we want a baby and ...
A. 10 August 2010: you're either 13, 14 or 15...please wait... (read in full...)
I want to cheat but I'm not the type
Q. I have a boyfriend. we have been going out for just over 6 months and i like him lots and i love him too. But there is this other boy i used to hate him but then we became friends and now we have gone up a year. hes in most of my classes and we g...
A. 8 August 2010: Don't cheat. its wrong and hurtful. would you like your boyfriend to do that to you to see how he feels about some other girl? Probably not.
Doesn't sound like you are all that serious about your actual boyfriend, so break up and see what happens ... (read in full...)
Was I just a complete idiot thinking she ever loved me?
Q. I'm a 37 year old single guy, a supposedly talented creative/producer who after earning my degree in Art and Design, went on to a career starting as an east end ladies underwear seller on a market, to butcher, to retail display, to head bartender, ...
A. 8 August 2010: she might have, only she can tell you that. But let me speak from first hand experience, drugs does ruin love. It can come back, I'm not talking about a in love relationship of my own, but my father was a coke addict and my view of him changed ... (read in full...)
Is she keeping me around as Plan B?
Q. My girlfriend informed me that she wants a break. We have been dating for 5 years now. I decided to let her have her space, she said thats what she needs, she wants to go out and meet new people with her friend. We still talk every day, she says she ...
A. 8 August 2010: it sounds like it, honestly. It really sounds like she wants to keep you around while she looks for someone better in her eyes. Be careful.... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be the other woman in this circumstance?
Q. I have had an Internet friend for 3 years because he thought for a while, that he wanted a girlfriend as his wife had been having an affair. In the last year he developed, and was treated for prostate cancer and still his wife lives publicly as his ...
A. 7 August 2010: Its still wrong. But, understandable. It would make more sense if the married ones just got a divorce and be with the ones they want to be with. Do you know if he feels the same for you or just dancing with this idea right now?... (read in full...)
Not that into me or just busy?
Q. confused; Is he really busy or he's just not really that into me? I met this guy from where i'm currently working. It was his first time to be here in this country. He came here for business trip. So, basically it's just a quick trip ( 1 week). ...
A. 7 August 2010: well he told you ahead of time that he'll be busy, he's still contacting you so I think he's being honest. It'd be totally different if he said he was busy after and then stopped talking to you altogether.
However, I kind of find it a red flag... (read in full...)
It turns out I was in love with her... should I make a move?
Q. Hey y'all. Sorry I haven't been giving advice too much lately, I just haven't been online too much this summer. Anyways, I'm having a little emotional dilemma. My best friend is a woman. Our relationship is closer than any relationship I'v...
A. 27 July 2010: she probably wasnt sure if you were serious or not, if you were just mentioning it casually, but thats a great way to get the idea in her head! haha, she probably is pondering over the idea of you and her now. hopefully :)... (read in full...)
I love her but don't see it in return
Q. 2 months ago she left me http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-end-this-relationship-if-she-doesnt.html We worked it out or so I thought.I agreed she could keep her project house until we moved out of here and i said i didnt think i ...
A. 27 July 2010: why can't you move to her apartment? no offense, but that has got to be a better environment for your child then a trailer.
It really looks as if you are taking things that have nothing to do with her feelings and turning it into that. its your... (read in full...)
It turns out I was in love with her... should I make a move?
Q. Hey y'all. Sorry I haven't been giving advice too much lately, I just haven't been online too much this summer. Anyways, I'm having a little emotional dilemma. My best friend is a woman. Our relationship is closer than any relationship I'v...
A. 27 July 2010: I've been in this situation with my friend Pete before. Him and I were really close and we'd talk and connect in a way that I never have before with anyone else. My story doesn't have a happy ending, he didn't feel the same. But eventually I did ... (read in full...)
Is having sex with him going to ruin our perfect relationship?
Q. - dating for months -feel comfortable enough (i've been shirtless in front of him and felt totally comfortable) -he told me he loved me first. and he respects that i want to wait (he's not a virgin, i am) -we had the chance to have sex when ...
A. 27 July 2010: I think that sex could enhance your relationship ONCE YOU ARE READY. Its wonderful that you've waited so long and that you and him are working out so well.
Please note that even though in this world sex is viewed as a fun activity, but the cons... (read in full...)
Afraid to french kiss...! Help
Q. well my bf tried asked me if he could kiss me and i said yes, i thought that was a normal kiss, not french, or tongue, when i went to kiss him i unexpectedly got some tongue, and i backed away immediately, it was really awkward, but i dont really ...
A. 27 July 2010: just go with the flow. let him kiss you at first, and don't worry too much about being a good kisser. In time, you will get better. ... (read in full...)
How do we tell the family?
Q. i have been seeing my cousin and we are in love. how do we tell the family?...
A. 27 July 2010: Oh boy, well are you planning on telling them all at once as an announcement or just tell those family closest to you and let the word spread?
... (read in full...)
Why do I hate to have an orgasm?
Q. This is strange, can someone tell me why I don't like to have an orgasm? I enjoy sex enough, but hate to have an orgasm. It honestly does not feel good to me at all. My guy doesn't understand at all and thinks he is not satisfying me because he ...
A. 27 July 2010: I CAN RELATE.
I enjoy orgasms EXCEPT when they are SOOO extreme that I feel out of control, however I feel like to solve that I just need to be COMPLETELY comfortable with who I'm sleeping with. ... (read in full...)
I have just seen a picture of a naked girl on his email....i don't know what to do?
Q. hey guys im so angry right now with my sweetheart, my love and only one boyfriend. i just seen a naked pic of a girl on his email address (deleted) and i dont know what action to take. plz help...
A. 27 July 2010: well is it spam? or a girl he knows? is it porn?
I'd only be concerned if it is someone he actually knows.
Perhaps check if he replied to her at all. Because if he did, that's a bad sign, if he just deleted it though it could be good, it show... (read in full...)
Is it a "cop out" to cheat on someone and then not tell them what you did?
Q. Posters Own Title: I've heard so often "I can't tell them I cheated on them b/c it would really hurt them." That seems so hypocritical to me. If this person was so concerned about "hurting" their partner, they probably wouldn't have cheated in the ...
A. 27 July 2010: you're not wrong at all. People who cheat and don't fess up to it are liars. Each day they are pretending to be in an honest relationship. ... (read in full...)
Where and how should I meet up with the older man I'm falling for?
Q. Hi. I'm a 17 year old girl from the uk. I have been online dating since o was 16 because I felt like no one who actually knew me would ever want to get with me. I lost my virginity at 15 to a boy who was 19 and I haven't had sex since. About ...
A. 26 July 2010: did you already post something about this? However, I think that there isn't a problem here. Sounds like he's okay with being with you now that you're a year older...closer to 18. ... (read in full...)
Jealous boyfriend...
Q. im in a weird position right now my ex still loves me, and is telling my boyfriend to break up with me cause he is dead jealous... he said if he doesent his gonna hurt my boyfriend.. and me and my boyfriend LOVE eatch other.. i dnt know what to do.. ...
A. 26 July 2010: wow what a creep!!! You need to tell this guy to back off. Remind him that you are not with him anymore and he MUST move on.
If he comes ANYWHERE close to your current boyfriend or you to cause you physical harm, call the cops. Get a restrain... (read in full...)
My boyfriend pays a lot of attention to our roommate!
Q. My boyfriend and I live together with two other roommates. Whenever the female roommate is around, he gets excited because she is usually at her boyfriend's house. He always tries going by her room to initiate conversation with her. Also, if it is ...
A. 26 July 2010: If your friend and boyfriend care about you, they won't hurt you.
Perhaps when you are in the room with you two and you feel out of place and like you're not there, perhaps you should try to be a part of the conversation more and if they butt you... (read in full...)
21 year old virgin loser, never been kissed by a sober guy!
Q. Hi im a 21 year old female virgin (almost 22 soon) i never had a real relationship and i never been on a date... i have madeout with guys but everytime ive been kissed was by my guy friends who were drunk/horny. i imagine that since they were drunk ...
A. 26 July 2010: so you know what helped me? I joined a dating site and basically you get a lot of emails from guys and therefore your confidence goes up,and bonus, you may just find a good guy to date!
but if you don't wanna do that, because I realize that onl... (read in full...)
I suspect something happened between her and her stepfather, she denies it, what now?
Q. well i have been dating my girlfriend for about a year and 4 months. but i have an issue! i was on the phone with her yesterday and she lives with her grandparents. but she has to go up to her moms house to take care of the dog. and she was taking ...
A. 26 July 2010: uhhh wow, stop being a jealous crazy.
my dad says stuff to me like that all the time, its fatherly to be like "hey you look nice, whats the occasion" or "why the heck are you all dressed up" THATS NORMAL, not perverted.
you are getting jeal... (read in full...)
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