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I suspect something happened between her and her stepfather, she denies it, what now?

Q.   well i have been dating my girlfriend for about a year and 4 months. but i have an issue! i was on the phone with her yesterday and she lives with her grandparents. but she has to go up to her moms house to take care of the dog. and she was taking ...

A.   26 July 2010: uhhh wow, stop being a jealous crazy. my dad says stuff to me like that all the time, its fatherly to be like "hey you look nice, whats the occasion" or "why the heck are you all dressed up" THATS NORMAL, not perverted. you are getting jeal... (read in full...)

How do I walk away from this married man?

Q.   hey all. am madly in love with a married guy and hate myself but cant walk away. how do i walk away?...

A.   26 July 2010: Danielepew is right. Its as simple as that, but the hard part is getting the courage to do so. Remind yourself that its what you want to do and that you deserve a guy who is all yours. It will hurt for awhile after you break the news, on both par... (read in full...)

All I want is to meet somebody! Will I be alone forever?

Q.   I'm 30 years old and a single father. I've been single for four years now. I'm not good looking - some might say I'm ugly and although I'm not fat I don't have a great body. My ex cheated on me then walked out on me and my kids for another man. ...

A.   26 July 2010: Thats tough, I would normally tell you to go online to find someone, but you're right...most girls on there are not genuine, along with most of the guys. Its littered with guys who want sex (80% of them) and girls who like the attention of guys ... (read in full...)

Why did she stare at my penis area for so long??

Q.   Hey guys and girls, has anybody ever seen a girl completely stare at the location of your penis buldge before?(for at least 10 seconds) What does this mean? Is the girl trying to see the size of my penis through my pants(is that possible?) Its ...

A.   26 July 2010: haha she possibly was! maybe she thought you had a boner.... (read in full...)

I'm wondering if she's going off me?

Q.   I'm really confused. I've been kind of together with this girl for a while now but we're not a proper couple. We've both liked eachother for a long time and everything seems to be going well. We meet up a lot and stuff. The past few days have been a ...

A.   26 July 2010: it seems that way, that she's changed her mind about you. I'd confront her in person and ask her about it. it could be something outside you two thats going on. talk to her :)... (read in full...)

I'm worried about being clumsy in sex, having had only one partner before her.

Q.   I'm starting to date a girl who I have been friends with for a while. I seem to click with her well and we have no problem talking to each and have good fun together. However I'm nearly 26, I have only slept with one girl when I was 20 and sex tbh ...

A.   26 July 2010: sometimes sex is better if you care about the person, were all seven men exes she cared about? because there is a difference with making love and having sex. you can also ask her what she likes. ... (read in full...)

What does this phone message mean?

Q.   i messaged my ex this 'do you like the way you and me turned out in the end?' (which basically meant me and her finishing and we hardly ever speak now) to which she said 'no do you?' I then responded 'no,i feel like a fool asking you this now i ju...

A.   26 July 2010: well you should have asked what she was saying "Y" to. By saying 'I dont know' sort of ended the convo, don't you think?... (read in full...)

Is it because she's younger than me she has such a high libido?

Q.   ok I started dating a much younger girl 6 months ago, the sex is unbelieveable. Its wild, fun, kinky and man its daily. Is it her age (she is 22 I am 40), my age, just because our relationship or is the chemistry just that good between us. I cant ...

A.   25 July 2010: lol funny that you post a question when you have no problem, congratulations! Sounds like you're falling for her. :) happy day!... (read in full...)

I finally get to ask her out... and she says no!

Q.   Hey I'm 13-14 years old and there is this really cute girl in my class and she has broken up with her boyfriend a month or two back and I've already asked her to go out but she said no and she just wants to be friends I've liked her since mid ye...

A.   25 July 2010: sorry dude, but a no is a no. and you must learn to take no with dignity. Its part of growing up. I'm sure there are other cute girls in your class. However, you can continue to be nice and friendly with this girl and maybe someday she'll c... (read in full...)

Did I mess up here???

Q.   hi last night i was in town and i was very drunk, i recently moved back into my mums, and ive been seeing a girl i really like, i went town with her and like i say i was very drunk and invited her back to mine, we ended up having sex but to my horro...

A.   25 July 2010: Its possible...this is why its a bad idea to have sex while the parents are in the house. But if she likes you enough, it shouldn't be a problem. It probably will be awkward at first if the girl ever meets your mom again though... (read in full...)

Why do I keep having these feelings that I'm not smart enough or capable enough to have a career?

Q.   If someone can help me, I'd be really grateful. For the past several months I've been preparing to start a new career and it's something I have my heart set on doing, but I feel overwhelmed by fears of failure. I have long desired to teach...

A.   25 July 2010: perseverance. Did you know that abraham lincoln failed many times before he became president? All that is wrong with what you're doing is not having confidence in yourself. If you can dream you can achieve. You must remember that EVERY... (read in full...)

If your not in love with somebody you're pregnant by, should you keep the baby?

Q.   If your not in love with somebody you're pregnant by, should you keep the baby? ...

A.   25 July 2010: well I think you should, after all you had sex knowing the potential consequences, its not the baby's fault you weren't in love with the man. But if you can't handle it, I think adoption is a better choice than abortion, I'm sorry, I am not ... (read in full...)

Is it possible not to like sex?

Q.   Is it possible not to like sex? I lost my virginity to my boyfriend a few months ago and we've done it somewhere between 10-20 times but I still don't like it. Sometimes it hurts a little but at other times it's just uncomfortable or I can't feel ...

A.   25 July 2010: You're new to sex so this is normal. However, some people don't like sex. Very few, but its possible. I didn't like sex at first either, it took a few years, and I first had sex when I was 17, I'm 22 now and it was this year I had my first org... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's dad died a while ago... how can I get him to talk?

Q.   My boyfriend's father committed suicide two years ago. I know the story of how and why.. but I want to know more about him. Like what he was like when he was around and their relationship. But I don't know how to get him to open up and talk about ...

A.   25 July 2010: Perhaps you should just let it go. Its a touchy subject and painful for him, I'm sure. I think that you should just wait until he wants to talk about it, to open up that part of his life to you in his own time. You never want to force him to t... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's dad died a while ago... how can I get him to talk?

Q.   My boyfriend's father committed suicide two years ago. I know the story of how and why.. but I want to know more about him. Like what he was like when he was around and their relationship. But I don't know how to get him to open up and talk about ...

A.   25 July 2010: Perhaps you should just let it go. Its a touchy subject and painful for him, I'm sure. I think that you should just wait until he wants to talk about it, to open up that part of his life to you in his own time. You never want to force him to t... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's dad died a while ago... how can I get him to talk?

Q.   My boyfriend's father committed suicide two years ago. I know the story of how and why.. but I want to know more about him. Like what he was like when he was around and their relationship. But I don't know how to get him to open up and talk about ...

A.   25 July 2010: Perhaps you should just let it go. Its a touchy subject and painful for him, I'm sure. I think that you should just wait until he wants to talk about it, to open up that part of his life to you in his own time. You never want to force him to t... (read in full...)

How can I make him see that I am not the one for him?

Q.   Sooo, "Charles" and I went on one single date and after that, he was convinced that I was the one. But, I wasn't ready for a relationship and told him so. The more I tried to put distance, the more he clung and he got jealous over guy friends ...

A.   25 July 2010: completely be up front like you have been and keep it up. As long as you don't lead him on what so ever, like hanging out with him one on one would be a bad idea. When he gets upset at messages from your friends, which is somewhat controlling ... (read in full...)

My cousin dated the guy I liked once I had moved away, but now we want to give things a try but I am worried about hurting my cousin!

Q.   Hello guys I really need some good advice,i am in a very complicated situation! So 4 years ago I was 16 I dated this guy but only for a one month(we were very close friends before anything) he was my first love and I really loved him,but for some...

A.   25 July 2010: perhaps you should talk to your cousin about it. Tell her how you have feelings for him again, let her know that you understand that she does too. Or You can decide to let her have him, sacrificing your own happiness and feelings. or you... (read in full...)

Ok with your boyfriend living with a girl?

Q.   Hey, would you be ok with your boyfriend liveing alone with a girl?...

A.   25 July 2010: I'd be okay with that as long as I knew that the two of them are strictly platonic and have no feelings for each other at all. Also, if you trust your boyfriend, then it should not be a problem. ... (read in full...)

I said I wanted to be friends only but now I want him back!

Q.   Please can anyone help me to win back my man? 3 months ago I was delighted when a very good friend of mine declared that he had feelings for me and had done for some time. I shared his feelings and we began a long distance relationship. This was ...

A.   25 July 2010: Perhaps you should call him and tell him that you think you made a huge mistake. I'm sure you did that because you wanted more time with him, to try and make him talk to you more then he was doing. Its completely understandable, but all I think ... (read in full...)

Everyone is rude to me!

Q.   I live in the Greensboro/High Point area of North Carolina, and I've gotten to the point where I can't stand it. People here are obscenely rude to me on a regular basis, and I don't tolerate it. It happens to me several times a day! For exampl...

A.   25 July 2010: perhaps its just the culture in that state, I wouldn't know because I've never been there, but it sounds that way. I really don't think its your appearance. At all. Perhaps you can pay attention to see if other people around are rude to othe... (read in full...)

I hate my ex-boyfriend's new girlfriend

Q.   i hate my ex boyfriends new girlfriend cause she started trouble between us so we dnt talk no more what do i do...

A.   25 July 2010: move on. I'm sorry, but sounds like he broke up with you so you need to realize that you can do better!... (read in full...)

I need Edward...for now

Q.   Hello, My mother posted a message on this site about me, here is the link: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-serious-concerns-about-my-daughters-mental.html She asked me to come online and explain my case to you all, seeing as she co...

A.   25 July 2010: I'm very curious, is does Edward appear to you? Is he an ghost, spirit, your conscience? I just want to know to understand your situation better. Granted, I'm an athiest and I'm very skeptic about these things, however...I find them extremely ... (read in full...)

Can you have a healthy, committed relationship without sex?

Q.   Is it possible to have a healthy, loving, committed relationship without sex? I am 25, and I have had two serious boyfriends -- the longest relationship lasting for a year and a half -- and several shorter relationships. I do not date anyone ...

A.   25 July 2010: I don't want to offend you by asking this, but how do you feel when you see a woman naked? By chance, could you possibly be attracted to your gender? I just ask that because my friend realized that after HE had these same feelings, He said tha... (read in full...)

I want to find my soulmate.

Q.   Ok so I'm a 21 year old, tall, decent looking guy. And I want to find my soulmate (girl). Recently I've been having sex with girls I really don't feel anything for. The sex is ok but I feel like i'm missing something here. This might sound weird ...

A.   24 July 2010: personally, I don't think there is just one person out there for you. There are probably a lot of miss rights, because people are compatible with many different people. However, look for girls you could see having a long lasting relation... (read in full...)

Is it just how I look???

Q.   well basically i used to be like really emo/goth in how i look and i liked this guy that wasnt and after telling him i liked him and him saying he didnt feel the same way back i kinda stopped talking to him for about a year, duing this time i ...

A.   24 July 2010: its possible that he is shallow and only likes you for what you look like. OR maybe what you wear now compliments your features more then wearing goth/emo attire had. Which too is somewhat shallow, but guys are visual creatures. Pe... (read in full...)

What to do when a friend doesn't want to meet to talk?

Q.   I have a woman in my life, we're not bf/gf but definitely more than just friends. It's also a long distance relationship. On rare occasions when things sometimes get to much for her, too much pressure, too many problems, she sometimes retreats ...

A.   24 July 2010: be patient. However, that behavior isn't normal. Either she is a really private person who keeps to herself and she's being honest. OR being as you two live far from each other, is there a possibility that she uses that as an excuse while she's ... (read in full...)

I feel as if she's just taking me for granted now... help!

Q.   Hey guys, i'm in a bit of a pickle. I've been dating this girl for nearly 8 months now, and she has been starting to not care. I ask her questions, simple, mediocre questions and she replies with "meh" or "i don't fucking care" and frankly has ...

A.   24 July 2010: well talking to her won't work because it seems like she has issues communicating. Do you think maybe she could be bipolar? Having extreme mood swings like that and all? My dad and best friend are bipolar, so I know how it goes however, mayb... (read in full...)

Did I blow it? Will I hear from him again?

Q.   I have been dating this really nice guy for 3 months- its hard because he's in the RAF and is often working, but we really enjoy our time together. 2 weeks ago he came back from Germany, and wanted me to take some time off to be with him, and for ...

A.   24 July 2010: that could be a possibility, but give it more time before you jump to that conclusion.... (read in full...)

How do I tell my mom I'm gay, not doing drugs as she thinks?

Q.   hey, right, i'm a girl and i'm gay. i have a gf who i've been with about 6 months. ive only recently come to terms with being gay myself really, and this is my first serious gay relationship. i really love my gf and have come to a stage where i ...

A.   23 July 2010: maybe make small talk before hand about gay culture, like say you have a friend who is gay and see how she responds. That way you'll get an idea of her opinion of that lifestyle choice a bit. By that, you'll be able to tell if she'd take it well, ... (read in full...)

I love my cousin but am unsure what to do about it

Q.   ... Okay... I don't really know how to say this but... I love my cousin. Whenever he's not around I miss him, when he's there I'm still thinking about him and wondering if he's thinking about me. We see each other quite alot and so we're rather ...

A.   23 July 2010: Think about this though, if you don't want to marry or have sex with him what is the point of pursuing him? I'm thinking about this as if he's not your cousin. The literal point of dating is to eventually find someone to marry and that comes wi... (read in full...)

Will he laugh at me if I tell him my secret?

Q.   i have a secret, well i went to camp in 3 grade summer, and well we were forced to get a shower with another girl, and well i mean it was a long time ago, but my boyfriend is childish so im scared if i tell him he will laugh at me, but if i dont he ...

A.   22 July 2010: I agree with anonymous who thinks this is a joke. It seems like you found this odd when you were little so you are making it worse then it was. you were a little kid, you were just taking a shower. No big deal. ... (read in full...)

Will he laugh at me if I tell him my secret?

Q.   i have a secret, well i went to camp in 3 grade summer, and well we were forced to get a shower with another girl, and well i mean it was a long time ago, but my boyfriend is childish so im scared if i tell him he will laugh at me, but if i dont he ...

A.   22 July 2010: I agree with anonymous who thinks this is a joke. It seems like you found this odd when you were little so you are making it worse then it was. you were a little kid, you were just taking a shower. No big deal. ... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend a spy or something?! Lol.

Q.   I don't understand my boyfriend of one year. What's going on?! My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half, it's been great...until recently. We've been living together for six months, we have a great sex life, do a lot of acti...

A.   22 July 2010: It really does sound like he's cheating on you. Sorry hunny. That might be the sad truth. Its more likely then him being on some spy mission. however, he could be telling the truth and has some really bad luck, with his car crapping out, death in... (read in full...)

She's in a "casual" relationship, but I liked her first. Can I ask her out?

Q.   Hi there! I have a question about a girl at work. She's been working here for 2 years or so I believe. Well, to start it out - I grew attracted to her when she started working here. However I never took the initiative to ask her out! We flirted ...

A.   21 July 2010: It seems like you were very passive in this situation. When they were just chatting, you backed off and didn't try for her. Too nice. Even now, let her know how you feel. Then its up to her, maybe she has liked you for awhile too and she too may ... (read in full...)

Is it an affair if it's an LDR with a married man?

Q.   Is it called an illicit affair if you are involved in a long distance relationship with a married man? I never met him but our relationship of 3 yrs are through online chats only. ...

A.   21 July 2010: It's an emotional affair. Whatever emotions he's feeling to you is less he is feeling to his wife, its good news for you, but not so much for his wife. May I ask what the point is of talking to this man for three years online? Do you ever plan to ... (read in full...)

He sometimes hints that he loves me, but then shies away

Q.   ok so i'm really stupid when it comes to love....i've been talking to this guy off and on for about 7 months now and I think that i am falling in love with him. Problem is that sometimes he will hint around that he is falling for me and then after ...

A.   20 July 2010: that depends, do you say it first?... (read in full...)

He told me he wanted to see me again but now he's distant?

Q.   Hello, I have a few questions.... Here goes...A man that I have a business type of relationshi recently invited me to his home for the weekend. I was a little intrigued and agreed to go. We had a wonderful time (nothing sexual)and on the way home ...

A.   20 July 2010: this happened to me. guys are confusing, move on and don't fret about it. there are more fish in the sea. anything could have happened,any outside event that made him change his mind. but i guess it depends on how long he has stopped talkingto you ... (read in full...)

Am I crazy for getting upset about him adding my cousin on facebook?

Q.   So there is this boy and we've had an off and on relationship but i really care about him. We just got back together like a couple days ago, well we agreed on it because we don't see eachother much, so the next time we see other we'll make it ...

A.   20 July 2010: maybe I don't have enough info here, but it sounds like you're making a mountain out of a molehill. If your cousin lives in a different country, why do you view her as a threat to this guy and yours potential relationship? Do you think maybe she has ... (read in full...)

Dating site guy coming on too strong?

Q.   i signed up on a dating site... this guy emailed me.. we've talked and he seems nice so far.. he thinks am gorgeous and hes smitten.. he emailed me this: him: can i be straight to the point i would love to have a long term relation...

A.   15 July 2010: yep thats coming on way too strong. let him know that, it will help him and you'd be honest.... (read in full...)

Not happy with my weight

Q.   I am a tiny 4' 10.5". When I was in middle-high school, I weighed about 82-89 lbs. As an adult (almost 22) I've weighed around 92-95. Which wasn't bad, I didn't think. I've got very large breasts and wide hips and a good sized butt. I've always w...

A.   14 July 2010: girls that are 5'9 and are 105 pounds are extremely underweight. if you are a foot shorter than that, you are considered in a healthy weight range.That is if you're 4'9. However, I feel like you are taking your weight for granted, I know ... (read in full...)

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