Not happy with my weight
Q. I am a tiny 4' 10.5". When I was in middle-high school, I weighed about 82-89 lbs. As an adult (almost 22) I've weighed around 92-95. Which wasn't bad, I didn't think. I've got very large breasts and wide hips and a good sized butt. I've always w...
A. 14 July 2010: girls that are 5'9 and are 105 pounds are extremely underweight.
if you are a foot shorter than that, you are considered in a healthy weight range.That is if you're 4'9.
However, I feel like you are taking your weight for granted, I know ... (read in full...)
How do you ask someone to leave you alone, when they have helped you out so much?
Q. I split up with my partner of four and a half years last year because she wouldn't move in with me. We stayed friends and then I had a major operation, struggled to walk afterwards and it's been a long road to recovery. Ex has been great, helping me ...
A. 14 July 2010: Why can't you still be with her if you love her? Why is her not moving in a deal breaker for you? Perhaps she wasn't ready. Sounds like she still cares about you a lot.If you just want to be friends now, in the kindest way possible explain that ... (read in full...)
What do you think about these actions of a guy I think might like me?
Q. I'm friends with this guy. We've been friends for about 1 year and only became friends because of a mutual friend. I'm really shy so I could never just come out and ask him. I don't see myself as the type of girl that a guy would like so I don't ...
A. 14 July 2010: he could be loud and blunt regularly, but probably not when it comes to someone he's interested in.
It does sound like he likes you or at least is interested! Thats awesome, so make sure you're flirting back and encouraging him of liking you so t... (read in full...)
Is he waiting for the next move or just not interested?
Q. So there is this guy and I really like him and the other day we were drinking and he kissed me we made out pretty heavily for a while but it didn't go farther than that now he doesn't act awkward or anything he just hasn't tried anything else with ...
A. 13 July 2010: well how drunk were you two when you kissed? Do you think he was drunk where he forgot? Or were you two just drinking a little and it was more sober than a drunk kiss? Or was he drunk enough to remember?
I think you should ask him to hang out... (read in full...)
How can I show affection without seeming clingy or needy?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 years. Things have been very good in our relationship up until recently. About two weeks ago we had a discussion. He said that he felt as if I didn't love him anymore and that he had felt that way for a few ...
A. 13 July 2010: With your mom situation, I think that will be difficult to fix with her boyfriend in the picture. Perhaps keep things civil with her until her attitude changes.
About being a better girlfriend, I think all you need to do is be there for him as m... (read in full...)
I dislike being the ugly one..
Q. Hey, I'm a 15 year old girl in New York. I'm 5'5 and I wiegh 110lbs! All my life, i never felt pretty and the problem is people give me compliments all the time which is i don't get! They compliement on my long hair or how "skinny" I am..I just got ...
A. 13 July 2010: I agree with the rest of the posters.
Your weight is not a fat weight. even so, I know some fat people who are gorgeous, and you know why? They're confident in who they are.
I had a friend who was anorexic, it started with her comparing hersel... (read in full...)
Does he have feelings for me or am I over reacting?
Q. guys pls tell me if u can notice any sign of him being interested in me?he is a family friend,he is single,lonely and he owns a house.his house is not far 4rom my home.he gave me his spare keys,so that i can clean his house and do the washing even ...
A. 13 July 2010: he chose you because you will do it. I hope he's paying you to clean his house. My goodness, don't become a doormat. Stop cleaning his underwear and ask him on a date. He will let you know if he's interested, but it is okay to ask for a date because ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to please my mom
Q. my mom is always yelling at me for no reason i cant do anything right.She acts like i was the worst thing to happen in her life but i try to be like my brother mr. perfect !! what should i do:)?...
A. 13 July 2010: Sounds like its one of two things.
1. you're being dramatic and its not that bad
or
2. you are being targeted for child abuse. It happens with many families.One child will be abused, the rest not.
I hope you're the former and not the la... (read in full...)
Recently discovered I'm bi and afraid of my parents' reaction
Q. I am 15. I have recently discovered I'm bi. No not bi-curious. And I don't know what to do I'm afraid of what my parents might do....
A. 13 July 2010: to mr. anonymous who posted first,
she could know. how do you know that she couldn't know? seriously, she made it clear that she is for sure bi. I have a lot of gay friends and most that ive talked to said that they knew they liked the same sex... (read in full...)
Did he just say that to make me jealous?
Q. There is this guy I have like for about 3 years, but only really realized it a while ago when we both admitted we liked each other. We flirt a lot by making fun of each other. It was going great but then he said that he had been talking to this girl ...
A. 13 July 2010: well if you want to be with him why did you agree just to be friends? that seems odd to me.... (read in full...)
I can wait for him to come back but not wait from him to leave me for someone while I'm waiting.
Q. My question is about the army. I don't really know that much about it and the guy that I'm with loves it he has been in it for a long time and recently got deployed. It has been hard enough not talkin to him for weeks but idk if I can trust him. ...
A. 13 July 2010: Don't jump to conclusions though. I'd wait it out for now, the message really could have been from anyone. I tell my guy friends I love them all the time, unless you are sure it was in a more than friends way, like an 'in love' way then there would ... (read in full...)
She's very homophobic, can she really have feelings for me or am I imagining it?
Q. I'm an openly bisexual girl and have a crush on a girl at work... and I could do with some advice. I'm not really looking for a relationship at the moment anyway as i've been going through a pretty tough time so the most I want is a bit of fun ...
A. 13 July 2010: well as they say, there is a thin line between love and hate. so that explains why you can dislike her too I guess.
and there is a chance that she's just being nice and friendly when you two 'flirted' however, maybe she is actually bisexual... (read in full...)
20 and never been in a relationship...Advice please!!!
Q. Hey, im 20 straight male, and still have never been in a relationship in my life. Girls have always been attracted to me my whole life but It seems that once things start to get serious and i go on a date or something im just not myself and it gets ...
A. 13 July 2010: maybe date one of your already friend girls. See if there are any sparks between a friend of yours or not. Look at them in a different light perhaps. You're already yourself around them, go for it. However, I'm assuming you have friends that are ... (read in full...)
Is he waiting for the next move or just not interested?
Q. So there is this guy and I really like him and the other day we were drinking and he kissed me we made out pretty heavily for a while but it didn't go farther than that now he doesn't act awkward or anything he just hasn't tried anything else with ...
A. 13 July 2010: well I think you should make the next move and by that, you will get your answer. ... (read in full...)
Am I her fall back guy?
Q. So I am confused and lost so I'll keep this short and simple. I met this girl over 7 months ago and started having phone and text conversations with her. We had a brief argument which led to 2 months of avoiding each other. We have been on...
A. 13 July 2010: Its possible. I'd simply ask her whats going on. Confront her on it. ... (read in full...)
My b/f has gone from being a fun,loving and talkative man to a coldhearted, unpassionate and noncommunicative man what do I do?
Q. I met my boyfriend at Home depot. We both worked there. He is 41 I am 24. There is an age gap but we hit it off I fell for him and he said he loved me. After a couple of months he started treating me badly...I broke up with him and dated other ...
A. 13 July 2010: his medication may have consequences like that, I'm sure it might decrease his sex drive. However, it sounds like he might be unhappy. I'd talk to him about it. sorry this isn't the greatest advice, but I think talking to him about it would be the ... (read in full...)
He only likes anal sex
Q. is it suspecious that my new boyfriend only likes anal sex? or am i trippin...
A. 13 July 2010: I know that some guys like anal sex because its tighter, but its a bit weird if that's all he ever wants. Do you two foreplay? If he never touches your lady parts there could be an issue of him being gay or not,but if he does touch your lady parts ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't anyone like me?
Q. all of my friends have been "snogged"/"been with"/"made out with" somebody. i find this kinda frustrating because i'm the only one who hasn't. all of them say that i'm pretty and sexy but i dont understand why nobody likes me. im 13,a little bit ...
A. 13 July 2010: Its frustrating when you feel that way, trust me, I have. However, its normal for teenagers to not date in their teens just as much as its normal for teenagers to date. I never dated when I was a teenager, I'm 22 now, and right after high school ... (read in full...)
I think the way I masturbate means I enjoy sex less, how can I fix this??
Q. I'm an 18 year old male in a happy and stable relationship of 7 months, with strong sexual intimacy, but I am still deeply worried about one part of me- my penis and its 'phimosis'. My penis is quite big, but it has an annoying thin strip of sk...
A. 13 July 2010: perhaps stop masterbating for awhile, try it out. see if your built up sexual tension gets you to cum with her. ... (read in full...)
Completely in love with my married boss, what should I do?
Q. it is a long story i didn't no how to make it short.. and here it is. i am in love with my boss for 7 years now, as a kid i was the fifth after 4 sisters and had one brother who got all the attention, i went to a girls school, and had no real ...
A. 13 July 2010: Hey there, while reading that I feel like I have to address the question you're asking and one more thing, your self esteem.
I'll start with the latter. I feel like you may not believe in yourself as much as you should. Here is what I want you... (read in full...)
I fell for him but wonder if he still likes me?
Q. ive fallen for someone and i dunno if i regret it or not we went out few days ago for the first time, and got on well, we kissed and that at the end of our date but i dunno if he wants a relationship, hes sucha nice guy thou, like amazing i had a...
A. 12 July 2010: Well its hard to tell if your conversation is odd because I don't know how he usually talks to you.
However, I recently found out that just because a date goes amazing in one party's eyes it doesn't mean the other feels it too, even if they say... (read in full...)
My boyfriend proposed to me, but I have feelings for someone else!
Q. I am committed since last 5 years, but just realized i was just fulfilling a commitment and am now in love with the other guy.Please help! I have always stick to the belief that i love the person in my life and i as a girl wanted to give him happ...
A. 12 July 2010: Well do not marry your BF if you have these thoughts, its not fair to say yes to such a strong commitment unless you are sure you want that too.
What will happen if you choose mr.new guy and you two date and 5 years later you meet someone else, af... (read in full...)
Who does he like, me or my best friend?
Q. I liked this boy for a long time and he knows it. He always looks at me and smiles.., My BFF likes him too. I thought I was getting on his nerves so one night I asked him if he disliked me. He said that he doesn't dislike me and see me as someone ...
A. 12 July 2010: alrighty, well I know you're either 13,14 or 15 so it may seem normal at your age for a friend to 'dibs' a guy. However, people really can't 'call' people. However, her saying that may justify her later if the guy chooses you to get mad at you.
... (read in full...)
Is 160 pounds a healthy weight for my height?
Q. Im 16 and i weigh 205 im around 5"7 ish and i want to be around 160 lbs i dont want to be super skinny so is that a good weight? Im not asking for any dieting or exercising help cause i have that part handled..... I also have a big lower back hump ...
A. 11 July 2010: I went on google and typed it 'bmi calculator" and typed in 5'7 for your height and 160 for your weight.
the results was that was borderline healthy weight and overweight.
I'd aim for 155 or 150. I know five pounds is a silly difference,but t... (read in full...)
I want to be intimate with my boyfriend, but past memories of being molested get in the way!
Q. Please help me any advice or tips! im going to try keep this short, so here goes: i was molested for a number of years in my past. i now have a wonderful bf who is caring and understands that i have issues from the abuse i went through. so my ...
A. 11 July 2010: it makes perfect sense, being molested is an awful thing to return back to in your thoughts and its understandable that you want to stop thinking about it.
I recommend going to therapy for it. It could help, either that or really talking to someo... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend always ask me to stop?
Q. when me and my girlfriend are fooling every time i can get her to the point where she wants to cry from pleasure. she tenses up very tightly and begs me to stop and makes me stop and i do. she says that she cant go any farther and when i ask why she ...
A. 11 July 2010: lol I do the same thing sometimes, an orgasm is actually sometimes too much for me. It feels so out of control and mainly I asked to stop at times just because I can't handle the extremity of it all. LOL, maybe you're just that good haha. ... (read in full...)
Why is my family being so hurtful towards my boyfriend?
Q. I just started dating this guy last Tuesday. The next day we got together and had a first date. It was nice we were holding hands and trying to get to know one another by talking. He always calls me but I’ve been having family troubles so lack of ...
A. 10 July 2010: sounds like your family is being pretty judgmental. you should ask them to get to know him for you. ... (read in full...)
Guys, why don't you just call?
Q. I need male input - why do you all of a sudden disappear? and are there certain rules to follow when texting/calling a girl? this baffles me! I did not come on too strong nor talked relationship, ex, or sexual. what's the deal?...
A. 10 July 2010: lol if you figure this out PLEASE LET ME KNOW. I'm having the same problem. ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't a newly-wed have a higher sex drive?
Q. My husband and I are newly-weds. We have been together for three years and have been married for 2 weeks. We're both 20. We've had plenty of sex in the past and I used to think i was a nympho because i always wanted to have sex with him.. But latly ...
A. 10 July 2010: Well realizing its your problem is a good start. Maybe if you realize what is causing this could solve everything. Are there any outside factors causing you to be uninterested? Extra stress? other issues in your life?
... (read in full...)
How can I show affection without seeming clingy or needy?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 years. Things have been very good in our relationship up until recently. About two weeks ago we had a discussion. He said that he felt as if I didn't love him anymore and that he had felt that way for a few ...
A. 10 July 2010: Hey, your situation is pretty hard but I think that if you just sit down with your boyfriend and simply explain all that you pretty much wrote here, be open and honest, you've been with him for five years so therefore I don't think being completely ... (read in full...)
I'm almost 19 and have never even kissed a girl!
Q. Hello. I'm 18, nearly 19 and I have never kissed a girl before, infact I've never hooked up with a girl before (or whatever all you hip kids are calling it nowadays). I feel there are several factors affecting this. 1; I'm a naturally very reclusive ...
A. 10 July 2010: Well my advice is this: (I'll go in order of your points)
"1; I'm a naturally very reclusive person, with unusual interests ranging from magic tricks to physics, so I naturally feel very out of place when out in clubs, disks, parties, whatever... (read in full...)
My friends are sexual at 14 and they keep telling me to do it to
Q. ew. two of my close friends gave a blow job when they were thirteen, but all the guys gave them more attention, so instead of regretting it they have done it again, and they have turned really sexual at 14, i am also 14 but have not done any of ...
A. 10 July 2010: its good to hear that you have a good head on your shoulders. I think that you're making a smart choice by not being sexual. All these boys like these girls because of what they're doing, not because of who they are.
Perhaps you should stick to... (read in full...)
How can I stop his sister manipulating him?
Q. I am in a relationship with a man that lives with his sister and brother in law, i feel like she is causing problems in our relationship, she has control of his money and everything else, it is like she is ok with us dating but dont want the ...
A. 8 July 2010: why is his sister in charge of his money? I find that odd. Is there a valid reason for it?... (read in full...)
Too old for me??
Q. Ok, so I just need some opinions on this. I am really interested in this guy, and he is interested in me. He is 26 and I am 17. Is this too much of an age difference?...
A. 8 July 2010: I know someone who was 17 when they started dating a 28 year old,they are still together and in love. However, realize that its illegal until you're 18... (read in full...)
I never seem to make it past the dating part of the relationship!
Q. Dear aunties, I never seem to make it past the dating part of the relationship, it never seems to become official. I know I'm not clingy, I show interest appropriately and I'm just picky enough to where I'm not settling. I recently went on a...
A. 8 July 2010: Thanks for the responses. This does happen a lot, but I didn't write down every single time it did happen, just the last two times. But all your advice was helpful, thanks! Cerberus, you helped me open up my eyes very much. I don't think I've... (read in full...)
So wrong, but could he be Mr. right?
Q. I recently broke up my boyfriend, because he never touched me, he never initiated coversation with me, and he would always be touching my best friends. I couldn't take it, so I broke up with. I went out with him for about four months, but sometime ...
A. 5 July 2010: does your ex still have feelings for you? I think that you need to make your feelings known so you're not always wondering 'what if'. ... (read in full...)
I'm lying to my parents to see my boyfriend
Q. I love my boyfriend so much but it means lying to my parents i hate lying to them. if they find out i will not be allowed to see him. At 14 they dont approve and see me as a child still. i want to see him still, but i want the respect of my loving ...
A. 5 July 2010: well if you want respect from your parents you need to give them the respect. If you want them to treat you not like a child, then you need to stop lying to them like a child would do.
I don't mean to be harsh, but this will help you with your par... (read in full...)
Could I be a couple months pregnant and not know it?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for about 7 months now, and have been sexually active. this is my first month off the pill after being on it for 3 months, and since i went on the pill, we have not been using protection. i have been really ...
A. 5 July 2010: my advice is that you wait until tomorrow, if you don't get your period, then go get a home pregnancy test. you will know if you're pregnant if its positive. if its negative then wait a week if you still don't have a period and take another one. if ... (read in full...)
My friend is the odd one out?
Q. Ok so i live in a small town where I grew up with all these girls. Iv'e known them since we were babies. We are all 17 theres about 14 of us all together. But one of my friends Naomi havent changed at all. she's still young in the mind. She doesnt ...
A. 5 July 2010: maybe its a good thing she hasn't, it seems like you all are into not so good things. not gonna lie, I drink too and have been promiscuous with guys. but more power to this girl for not liking a guy squeeze her ass. (I wouldn't like that either... (read in full...)
My friend is the odd one out?
Q. Ok so i live in a small town where I grew up with all these girls. Iv'e known them since we were babies. We are all 17 theres about 14 of us all together. But one of my friends Naomi havent changed at all. she's still young in the mind. She doesnt ...
A. 5 July 2010: maybe its a good thing she hasn't, it seems like you all are into not so good things.
not gonna lie, I drink too and have been promiscuous with guys. but more power to this girl for not liking a guy squeeze her ass. (I wouldn't like that either, ... (read in full...)
Should I just give up on him?
Q. well i met this wonderful guy,hes 2 years older than me im 24. he's cute, intelligent, and so cultured that he took me completely by surprise,it was in a dating site, truth, and we e-mail like a month, since he is in the army i usually got replies ...
A. 5 July 2010: oh my lanta!!! Thats EXACTLY what happened to me! Not the same guy of course, but I had this PHENOMENAL first date with this guy and he was adament about seeing me again and then blows me off completely. why do guys do this? this is what I'... (read in full...)
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