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writes:i am very recently divorced. I was married for 16 years and didn't want the divorce. My husband met another woman and let me cite his unreasonable behaviour as I contested the divorce and was advised in the end to stop fighting it. He basically got up one morning and just didn't come home leaving me and the children. From the day he left he would only communicate via a solicitor even though i tried countless times to speak to him. I am now left with the children on my own. He is living a new life with the woman he left me for and is very happy. I cannot get the whole thing out of my mind because I can never seem to get any closure as as I have said he will only speak via solicitors. I so much want to ask him why he did this, why didn't he say he was unhappy etc etc but I don't get the chance. It is driving me insane. I am going for weekly psychiatric help but it isn't helping. Has anyone else been in the same situation and if so how did they cope with never getting any answers to anything.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (21 August 2008):
 It may be that you did nothing wrong which is why he cant talk to you. He made a mistake by getting involved with someone else and fell in love with her, he is the one to blame and cant talk to you as he feels so guilty. It will hurt for a long time but there is no magic cure. My sister was in a pretty similar situation, her wonderful husband whom I thought of as the brother I never had, left her without even the guts to tell her, just didnt come back and shacked up with a woman from work old enough to be his mum. All of us were in shock as they seemed so happy, my sister never saw it coming. The only explanation he gave - eventually - was that my sister didnt show him enough love yet we saw plenty from both sides.Im going to be honest and say she took a long time to come to terms with it but had to keep telling herself it wasnt her fault and that she never had a chance to put it right and accept that he really wasnt the wonderful man she thought he was. I do hope you can get through this soon, just take each day as it comes and remember that he is the one who has lost out - he has lost you and one day someone else WILL come along and you WILL be happy again x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2008): My parents split when i was twelve because my mum cheated on my dad. My dad didnt take it too well he tried kill himself by crashing his car after snorting coke. I was scared id never see my dad again so i moved in with him now he is competely over my mum he says shes just extra baggage and hes glad that weight is lifted. Just stay strong nd smile k cauz i understand in a way
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