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reader, lexilou  +, writes (4 September 2008):
 So you are never ever ever apart from each other?? What about work or college or uni??? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): My wife and I are both retired and we also spend all of our time together. We have our own phones because there are times when we are apart for some time. When we go shopping we sometimes go to different stores or to different parts of one large store. We call each other all the time when we are trying to find the other. It would be difficult to be without 2 phones now.
You worry about him cheating or something if he has his own phone. Apparently he doesn't worry about you cheating on him. Just let him get his own phone and then work on your insecurity. If he gives in then it will not help you with your insecurity. This will just be the first of other things that he does that will bother you. If you don't address it now then it will just grow. Ler hin get his own phone. Learning to deal with that will only help you.
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reader, squiggle +, writes (3 September 2008):
squiggle is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing is we do spend all of our time together - we were friends for years before we got into this relationship so we don't ever need to call each other. The only other thing I can think of is that he wants to text his ex who is now a friend and say things maybe he wouldn't want me to see. I don't know. We've just always got on well and we don't ever talk about spending too much time together it's all very natural that we just like being in each others company because we've both seen each other through hard times
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reader, Miss sunshine  +, writes (3 September 2008):
 hi. i have the same insecurity problems just like you. i am in a relationship for 7 moths out of the 4 we live together.everytime he gets an email and he delets it right away (just because its an advertisment) i get all nervous that it was something he wanted to hide. you know what i mean?sharing a phone is no problem but it seems he wants a new one to feel that he has one of his own. if until now he didnt have any weird phone calls or anything i dont think he will now. you shouldnt worry about it. but droping an eye in his texts or emails now or then doesnt harm, cause maybe this way you will feel more secure when you see that nothing is going on. anyway just try to relax when you have this "insecurity attacks" and in that moment close your eyes and picture all the good moments you live and how he loves you.hope i helped. byeee
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reader, lexilou +, writes (3 September 2008):
Its ok sharing a phone but not very practical when you cant be together 24/7!! Of course he needs his own phone. Apart from needing to be in contact with work or family and friends there may be times when he wants it to ring you and if your sharing how can he do that?? Let it go and realise that yes it is a weird insecurity and doesnt mean he is up to no good. If you have these issues try counselling to talk about your childhood, it cant hurt to try and stop these feelings and will benefit you in the long run. x
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (3 September 2008):
 From what im reading it doesnt sound very healthy....you need to have space wether your a close couple or not you both need your own independce and maybe that is what he wants and will get that from his own mobile phone. Maybe where you both spend so much time with each other if he does something without you ie the new mobile it makes you insecure and thats not right....try having some space and build your own confidence as its only a mobile and be greatful hes not out clubbing it with the single lads every night....let him have his mobile and both enjoy some space from each other with other friends etc!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2008): First off love the name! second... i would talk to him about it. its normal to be insecure and tell him that your worried. im sure he will understand
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