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anonymous
writes:Why do guys like the girl who is most populari? The very pretti girl even if she is a mean? They like the easy girl. Do they not care that this girls have had so many boy-friends? They follo them like dogs and i feel girls like me Are left in the shadows. Most girls like this have had sex is that why? Why dont the popular guys look at me? Im pretti eden tho my nose is almost always stick in a book. Is it that? That i like to read too much? Its not just popular guys dorky guys too. And those aslo like the popular girl best! Reply to this Question
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 So, in your post you complain about guys only looking at the popular girls.
But you ALSO complain about the POPULAR guys not looking at you.
So aren't you just as shallow?
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (9 February 2011):
 At the age which you're in right now, most young boys think with their penis. The hormones are running wild, they're discovering the attraction towards girls...and these "popular" girls are everything they would want...pretty, easy and the talk of the town. Everyone that age wants to be associated with them....it in turn ensures their popularity! Ditto with the dorks...thats their way of trying to be accepted as "cool"!!
You will yourself realize how shallow all this is, in a few years. Be the way you are, dont ever try to change just to fit in.
All the best..
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (9 February 2011):
 Sweetheart, I understand your frustration, but it's nearly inevitable, it 's age related, it will go ( a bit ) better with time. In your age range, boys are just a cauldron od raging, bubbling hormons, it's normal they are attracted first to what talks to their senses in an easy, immediate way. When they mature, they will probably still be attracted by looks first, but much more curious and willing to go beyond looks and discover what's beneath them, if there is something in your attitude, conversation, and general demeanour that makes an impact.
In the meantime, work on your self confidence, and absolutely be yourself, - do not try to change just to become " popular ".
I want to remind you though that a love for books and culture is not necessarily in opposition with a more frivolous ,social side. At least for me it was not and I don't think I was a freak. At your age I was ( and still remain ) an avid, nearly compulsive reader of classics - and also was ( and remain ) very fond of fashion, make up, girlie magazines and pop music. It does not have to be either/or.
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