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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 February 2012):
 No. Not at all. You are doing what HE wants to do.
You just said it . " He is always pressuring me for sex but I don't want this ".
This is not about being stupid ( although yes, since YOU called yourself that,....at least in this particular situation, you make it hard for us to diagree with you ) it's more ,like, being desperate. Why are you so desperate at such a young age ? Why don't you feel you deserve something better than being a f..k toy ?
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (15 February 2012):
No. Not at all. You are doing what HE wants to do.
You just said it . " He is always pressuring me for sex but I don't want this ".
This is not about being stupid ( although yes, since YOU called yourself that,....at least in this particular situation, you make it hard for us to diagree with you ) it's more ,like, being desperate. Why are you so desperate at such a young age ? Why don't you feel you deserve something better than being a f..k toy ?
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (14 February 2012):
 Even God (Or Zeus or Odin, or whoever it is you worship) can't help you if you are determined to go down a path of self-destruction. We can only appeal to you to not make a series of mistakes that will only harm you in the long run.
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reader, Leto  +, writes (13 February 2012):
Leto is verified as being by the original poster of the question I know I'm his toy but I doing what I want to do. I want to be with him but I know I'm stupid...
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (13 February 2012):
Wait a minute wait a minute. You say that in your country it's not normal having sex before marriage, i.e. they put a high value on virginity- and while I personally think this is stupid, hey I'am not the one who has to live and get married there, you are. So perhaps you might want to be more cautious and take the consequences into account. As it is now, you are going to cave in to pressure , and give your virginity , even if you are not ready, to some guy who very probably does not care about you ( if he did care, he would not pressure you for sex to begin with !) and would have no scruples on dumping you as soon as get what he wants and gets tired to play with the new doll. Leaving you to deal with the possible complications .
I wish I had a dollar for any post I've seen here by girls from certain countries who write us " I am not a virgin anymore but I can't tell my fiance', he would dump me immediately" or " I can't tell my parents, they would disown me " or " my whole neighborhood is laughing behind my back ".
While all this is deeply unjust... nevertheless that's what happens in some places, and you may want to think hard if you want to face this kind of problems just because of some horny guy's hair and lips !
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reader, Leto +, writes (12 February 2012):
Leto is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI miss his car :D No I miss his behaviors,he is so crazy and grumbler :D I miss his body his lips his face his hair,when i see him want to touch and caress...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 February 2012):
 Ok so you know momma will say the same thing..
let's see if we can help you get past him
you miss him so much...
exactly what do you miss about him?
do you miss the fighting?
do you miss him pressuring you for sex?
do you miss him making you have to lie?
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reader, Leto +, writes (12 February 2012):
Leto is verified as being by the original poster of the questionno I don't like talking with mom and never know my problems.I know mama will tell me same...I miss he so much...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 February 2012):
so when he's pushing YOU to do things you don't want is that when he is sweet?
ask mom what she thinks...
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reader, Leto +, writes (11 February 2012):
Leto is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes he is to me T_T
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reader, Leto +, writes (11 February 2012):
Leto is verified as being by the original poster of the questionoh :( but I can't ... we always fighting because he wants me, sex with me and I don't want this. I can't leave, all girls want to have such a sweet boy that is why I need he.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 February 2012):
he is a sexual predator and he is using you.
STAY away from him!
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reader, Leto +, writes (11 February 2012):
Leto is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes it is true. he is 23 age
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 February 2012):
ok let me get this straight
you are no more than 17
you give this person hand jobs
this person is your neighbor
you are not getting any sexual pleasure from this relationship
he's demanding more sexual behavior from you
how old is this neighbor???
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reader, Leto +, writes (11 February 2012):
Leto is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe also use hand job but he wants more then this or sex.
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reader, Leto +, writes (11 February 2012):
Leto is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBecause I like he very much I can't forget because he is my neighbour and every day I see him :( he is a different from other guys that is why I want to pleasure him and stay with him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 February 2012):
If you feel nothing when you are close to him then maybe he’s not the right fella for you…. Why would you want to pleasure him if he can’t pleasure you?
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reader, Leto +, writes (9 February 2012):
Leto is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut me too...don't feel pleasure when he touch and kiss me but I always lied him and told that I am feeling good
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 February 2012):
do you WANT to please him?
if so and you are comfortable with it you could give him an hand job or a blow job.. but then he should return the favor to you if you want...
but do not do it unless YOU WANT to... do not be forced into it... there is NO reason other than selfishness that a man will give you the "but I hurt so bad" line.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (9 February 2012):
If your boyfriend understands you and cares and loves you then he shouldn't be putting you under this pressure. Tell him that.
Actually the time before actually having sex is very special and many couples miss this. It is a time to spend to get close and touch and get to know each other very intimately, you can still enjoy orgasms without losing your virginity. If you boyfriend is not a virgin then he will be impatient but you should be strong to do want feels right for you, always!!!!
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reader, SonOfMan  +, writes (9 February 2012):
 First of all you shouldn't feel pressured into doing anything you're not comfortable with or don't really want to do. The rule of having no sex before marriage is there for a reason, but unfortunately very few people have the ability to understand or abide by it.
If he's going to be your future husband then he should understand and have patience until the time is right. You should be enjoying the pleasure of each other's company and work on other aspects of your relationship until the right time comes.
I suggest you talk to him and figure out the physical aspect of what you are trying to achieve as everyone is different but remember you shouldn't be pressured into anything.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (9 February 2012):
Unless pleasing him is something you really want to do, don't. What's the point of giving a blowjob or a handjob (which are obviously the things you can do, short of actualy sex, to give a man pleasure) unless you are into it and enjoy it in your own way?
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reader, vocaltrance  +, writes (9 February 2012):
Have oral sex or blowjob is never break your virginity
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