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Painful doggy style...any advice to make it better?

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Question - (16 February 2012) 8 Answers - (Newest, 16 February 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Me and my boyfriend have been together around 3 months. He's been wanting to do doggy style for a while, but when we tried it was extremely painful and tugged on the bit of skin between my vagina and anus.

Furthermore, my vagina seems to get very tight in that position, so tight he can hardly penetrate me.

Is there any advice? He's much taller than me so we've tried him position a little lower but it didn't help much. Any more ideas?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2012):

Bring your butt UP more and maybe put a couple of pillows each under your knees. See if that will be better!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (16 February 2012):

Honeypie agony auntDon't do doggy style unless you are wet and ready. And make he needs to try not to "pump" til everything is well lubricated.

Lube can also help.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (16 February 2012):

person12345 agony auntSounds like you're not fully aroused. You probably need more foreplay. I also recommend you not jump right into doggy, you should start in an "easier" (I mean easier in the sense that it's less likely to tug) position like missionary to get things going, then flip over and try it then. It's much easier when there's already a bit of natural "lube" on him than starting dry. Also buy some decent lube, all couples should have some around for times like that.

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A male reader, Honest Answer United States +, writes (16 February 2012):

Honest Answer agony auntWhen doing it doggy style, you BF is reaching full penatration. Like sageoldguy said, you might wanna try a new positition of invest in some water based lube (ky jelly).

Good Luck!

Jeff

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A female reader, LovelyLemon United States +, writes (16 February 2012):

LovelyLemon agony auntDoggy is a position that many women find painful because the angle is a bit different and he may often hit your cervix if he is long enough. The positioning of your legs also does not allow for easy penetration.

If you don't enjoy this position, kindly let your guy know that it just really isn't doing it for you. If you want to try it again, I advise bending over a table or something that allows you to be at a 90 degree angle, making the vagina more accessible. Also, use lube or make sure you are well warmed-up. This should help with the skin pulling issue.

Much love and Best wishes

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (16 February 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntare you wet enough?

there should not be any skin tugging...

put your shoulders and head down on the bed and a pillow under you with your tush up in the air

be VERY well lubed... go slow...

and accept that for some it does not work..

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A male reader, JustHelpinAgain Canada +, writes (16 February 2012):

If you don't line up it wont work. Use cushions etc to get the height right or try on the edge of the bed or on the back of a sofa. be creative, its fun. Use some lube maybe, but if it hurts just try another way.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (16 February 2012):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntBest advice = Don't bother trying it again.....

Good luck...

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