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writes:My husband doesnt talk to me. he sits in front of the TV all evening and only wants to eat.if i talk to him he says he is missing his program. but his programs go on all night. he even comes to bed and watches in the room. he cant get a erection and is not interested in sex at all. I am lonely and need some one to talk to about it
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reader, annP +, writes (16 February 2012):
annP is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all that have answers. I know he is under stress, he runs his own business and it is hard on him. I have asked him to give it up and even given him ideas about the business but he brushes me off because he enjoys doing what he wants and not working for a boss. He has the full responsabilty of his very demanding Mother as his 2 brothers dont help at all. We have a 12year old son also to care for, That leaves no time for him and I to even try and talk. as i said before when there is down time for us he would rather watch TV. and I am left out cold. Just feel very alone in this marriage. I planned a week end away for just the 2 of us and he invited his Mother to and he said we cant leave our son behind. (So i think he is scared of me attacking him)Haha.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (15 February 2012):
I am sure that there is nothing more that he would rather do than have sex with you. But when it wont work there is no limit to the excuses that a man will find to avoid the subject. You do need to talk very gently and closely. Yes, a doxtor almost certainly can prescribe something to help but also there needs to be desire to try. I know this sounds tricky but somehow you need to make him feel how much you need him without making him feel inadequate. It just like a menopause for men without the obvious physical symptoms. I think being close and talking and taking away the stress is the only way forward.
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reader, LincolnProblemo  +, writes (15 February 2012):
It sounds like he is heavily depressed.
My psychologist told me that men are at risk of depression - at late 20s, if they haven't got a family yet and when they are at the end of their working life, when they start to ask themselves about what they have achieved and if they see that their career didn't go as they wanted - they would be depressed. Also understanding that he has aged might have brought him into this state.
How long has he been like that?
My personal opinion is that he might need some professional help, try asking him about it. You don't want to fall into being depressed as well.
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reader, bardia  +, writes (15 February 2012):
 It sounds like he might be depressed. Is he under any obvious stress, like at work or an extended family issue? Sometimes when people are in a hole like that, it's difficult for them to see that they need help. Maybe try writing him a letter and express your concerns. There are medications to help with both of those problems, but he's gotta be willing to try them. In the meantime, you might also see a counselor of some sort yourself. Even if he doesn't come around or it takes a long time for him to do so, you need some more emotional support at this time, too. I'm sorry you're having to go through this. I hope he'll come around. But take care of yourself first--you can't help him if you need help yourself.
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