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writes:I am alone in a foreign land. My wife and family are not with me. How can I satisfy my sextual urge without cheating on my wife? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2013): it is a decision of the mind ,if u love ur wife ,u will not cheat on her.
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reader, janice201149  +, writes (20 August 2012):
 I agree with the most comments in your question, Think many times before you do such decisions, you're still married and Sexual urges or even lust is not a reason to cheat. I am pretty sure that you do not want this to do unto you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2012): my boyfriend and I got a solution for being long distance. We arrange seeing and talking together in spare time after work. Intimate conversation is very useful for this situation. Of course at first we ask about how is everything in daily, health, work, fun... then to intimacy things, with the help of webcam, voice chat. It can keep us connected.You should try to persuade your wife, explain for her to understand how important and meaningful to sext. Tell her that is also a way to express your love for her.Don't force her. Women love romance. Better starting with a caring and sweet voice, or even a bunch of flowers through post office service. It would be a nice memory of your marriage. And of course, you will get lots of benefit from that!
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reader, Weeks +, writes (20 August 2012):
Weeks is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks to all who replied. Ms Psychology, Ms. Shrodinger - I do that. Ms Scorpio, I have tried it and my wife prefers normal intimate chats and does not like not sext or erotic discussions. Sunilal, you are right but I cant bring myself to ask such a favour to my wife, she is most likley not to like it. Culturaly, open marriage and declared polyamoury is still rare where I come from.
DoubleM - you summed it up nicely. I am away on a project and my family is busy with what they do, study / work etc.
I have thought of all you have said. I have even toyed with going to a pros, but I may abhor the idea of paid sex.
So forced celebacy seems to be the only way.
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reader, sunilal +, writes (20 August 2012):
As told by older posters masturbation is the only way. you seem to wanting for more satisfaction. you may use sex toys of variety. or get consent from your wife to have sex with another partner available at foreign land. unless your wife accepts this whole heartily it will be accounted as cheating on your wife.
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX  +, writes (20 August 2012):
 could you maybe sext each other, and if possible go on webcam for each other? :)
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (20 August 2012):
 Agree that masturbation is never like the real thing, but you are married. You did not say why you are away, but life has challenges. Faithfulness to a wife, if appropriate, will be worth it. Thats assuming that you are certain of her faithfulness to you.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (20 August 2012):
 I think that what you're missing is intimacy rather than sexual gratification, since masturbation seems to not be "enough". Is there any way you can call your wife on the phone and talk to her in an intimate and romantic way, so that you can feel connected to her?
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reader, Weeks +, writes (20 August 2012):
Weeks is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks ImmortalPrincess for your answer, I do masterbate often, but that is never the real thing. :(
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (20 August 2012):
 Most men use masturbation, have you tried that? Aside from that, there isn't anything other then being involved with a real woman, and that would be cheating on your wife.
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reader, PsychologyPsycho +, writes (20 August 2012):
 you can fantasise and masturbate,and porn is also a useful tool to satisfy urges.
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